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| | *oodbutnotgifted's profile:Hi I am James husband and father, and supporter of probably too many pets and animal rights. I feel I can help people because of the indian beleife that that life tends to bring people together so we can learn from each other. people I never ever met walk up and ask me about their love life or about their son in law. My wife has seen it first hand, it's happened for so long I dismiss it anymore as my duty to help best I can. I hope I can help you, some day I may need your help. Who knows. Life teaches through experience and we have been through alot but no one has been through it all, however if we share what we have learned we can be a singular body of unsurpassed wisdom and then world peace would be such a big deal...mostly becasue we would have it. I hope your life is full of happiness, and when your down, well you know where to turn. as far as ticking I enjoy writing (captain obvious here) anything from peotry and limricks to a couple of novels that are probably never going to get finished. the feeling I get from helping people leaves me searching endlessly for someone to save, I know obsesion, but no clinic will lock me up they sick me on you, so whats eating at you? I am mostly bent on being a better father, if I have a cryptonite, thats it. the little ones are hard on an ex army tanker with matrial arts experience and the idea there is no problem that cant be thought out or destoryed entirely. luckily the wife is a tree hugger and budding biology major with a big heart and bad memory :D see you in the posts. be good to one another. |
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I'm a male virgin and I need to know...how to stop masturbating to porn!
Q. How can i stop masterbating, im a male virgin, i watch porn all the time because it makes me feel relaxed. but i really want to stop, its controlling my life, i keep gatting hard ons everywhere. how can i stop????? ...
A. 15 March 2007: Porn is a ficticious world, which has its own rules, you are used to living that life style where at x oclock you get home log on and hunt pictures. Change your habbits, I took up video games, not a ton of social involvement but requires my computer ... (read in full...)
We live together and only have sex once a week now, he won't let me touch him otherwise. How can I change things with him?
Q. I am gay and have been in a relationship with my bf for over two years and we've been living together for one year. Things have been going well except for in the bedroom. Sex is strictly once a week very late at night on a weekend (and with no exc...
A. 15 March 2007: Yea, Middle ground, I am just like you man, if the wife bends over she gets it, but there has to be the sexless intamcy as well. They want to know you love em not just lie in wait for the next good romp. It happens more frequently when its their ... (read in full...)
I am planning to break up with him because of his porn habits. What is the best way to do this?
Q. hi, im 21 my bf is 27, we have been together 3 years and we live together, the situation is that over the 3 years we have been together he keeps looking at porn, in one month I found evidence of him getting off to porn over 20 times while i was at ...
A. 15 March 2007: I dont know why but it seems more and more guys are choosing the porn over their woman. Visual stimulous, or physical...Eve is right, lay down the law, and walk at any sign of noncompliance, if he would rather google porn than just look to you he ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but my ex wants me back and to make babies with me!
Q. My husband and I have been together for a little over a year. We just got married a couple of months ago. When we first got together I was 7 1/2 months pregnant from my previous fiance, who left me because of his stupid friend. Right before our son ...
A. 15 March 2007: One reason you shouldnt be together is the friend is all it took for him to get cold feet the first time. The kid you had together will keep him in and out of your life, he needs to respect your current marriage and his own arranged or not, his ... (read in full...)
My husband of 2 months doesn't seem to have time for me any more, what can I do about it?
Q. My husband and I have been married for a couple of months now and already our relationship is in the pits. I feel so neglected. We have a child together but I don't know if I can stay with him anymore. He is always on the phone with his friends, he ...
A. 15 March 2007: First off were all 30+ and offering advice because we have seen this sort of thing or have seen what works from others in the situation but not at 18-21, so here's to making it work. Its obvious you guys need to talk AskEve is a genious. I think you ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I've missed out on my younger days and am filled with regret. How can I stop feeling this way?
Q. hey, just wanted to know im 20 years old and have just got my 1st gf, my girfriends has 2 other guys 1 for 2months n one for 2wks both cheated on her,the 2wk realationship wos more of a physical relationship which bothered me slightly, shes also had ...
A. 15 March 2007: Your head is messing this thing up for you man, Her previous relationships went down in flames, your here now, if you roll all that negative stuff around in your head youll drive her off, just try to be cool she's with YOU now. even if she does ... (read in full...)
I am 16, my fiancee is 15, we've been together since we were 6 and want to get married as soon as possible!
Q. i am 16 years old. my fiancee is 15 and we have been together since we were 6. i want to get around the parental thing so that we can get married asap!! is there any possible way i can get around that??...
A. 15 March 2007: Take your time, mariage is supposed to be a comitment for the preservation of love and you have love so enjoy it. Label it marriage when there will be less objection, and you'll be happier longer. Thats just a sugetstion naturaly, you have to decide ... (read in full...)
What is it that turns some guys on by coming or ejaculating on a girls face, breast, stomach etc?
Q. What is it that turns some guys on by coming or ejaculating on a girls face, breast, stomach etc? ...
A. 15 March 2007: Men are visual creatures, but its also about dominance, ya know. Like degrading and marking her at the same time, I respect women and have never done this to anyone, but it sounds hot as all get out just from the masculine dominate everything that ... (read in full...)
I think my wife is suffering from some sort of imbalance of late? Can anyone relate to this and give me some advice?
Q. Ok folks heres a doozy, I am looking for women preferably who may have suffered an imbalance after pregnancy. but the story is; My wife is acting very erraticly of late, she throws things at me and the kids and she has started hitting, we are ...
A. 21 February 2007: Thanks, we did have a heart to heart and things are going to be better, I am a bit to controling and she is having concerns about the post natal too. We will set up an apointment in the morning. Thanks for the help... (read in full...)
We had so much trust invested in one another... or so I thought?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up on Valentines Day after 15 months of dating because he told me he needed some time. After 3 days, we started dating again after having long discussions about what we would change in the relationship. Number one was ...
A. 20 February 2007: no easy answer, he lied once and chances are he is lieing about the guilt. In fact I have guilt from cheating 15 years ago and when I decided to mary my wife of the past 5 years that was the first thing we discussed, I have never forgiven myself. he ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and insecure about myself. How can I stop feeling this way?
Q. Lately, I have been thinking about this guy who I had a fling with a few months ago. I can't seem to get over him. I thought I could get over him by finding someone else...but I can't find anyone else. This makes me feel ugly and insecure about my...
A. 20 February 2007: Sounds like you need to figure out who you are to make better dating choices, your lack of confidence is someone elses point of view. Your fine, in the words of doctor Suess, say what you feel and be who you are because those who matter dont care ... (read in full...)
An electrician and a welder both proposed to me. I don't love either, so I think I may choose based on school and job qualifications.
Q. Hello i have a question I have got 2 marriage proposals from 2 guys one is electrician and he has a techical certificate. The other guy doesnt have any qualifications but he owns his own welding shop .They are all good men since i dont l...
A. 20 February 2007: youve got a full plate and sounds like you have the financial angle figured out but your not in love so I wouldnt be making any promises anywhere. but all around me folks are getting into selfish or unsatisfying relationships based on stupid things, ... (read in full...)
Do teenagers in love lose their appetite and get unhappy when their partner isn't around?
Q. hi how do teenagers act when they are in love? just wondering. do they lose their appitite and things? when they are not with the person they are in love with do they act happy or unhappy because they are not with their love? thanx for ur an...
A. 20 February 2007: Being a teenager is the epitomy of chaos. I remember being in lust and in lust and in lust again, but it was love at the time until I fell in love. What your describing sounds like love, I am happy for you to experience something so powerfull. Your ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife, but if we get divorced she can't stay in the country! This is all my fault. What can I do??
Q. First of all, let it be clear that I know I am the only one to blame for my situation and that most women will probably despise me. Nonetheless I want some advice on what I should do. Ok, well im married and live in the UK. My wife is foreign ...
A. 20 February 2007: CONSEQUENCES!!! The new girl will need to understand the situation and you can stay married to get the old girl covered, you owe her that. Thank you for admiting guilt and please think things out. spur of the moment is moments that take a lot of ... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't speak to his family, but I'd like our son to meet them. What should I do?
Q. My ex husband has not spoken to his father for over 20 years because of bitterness at his parent's divorce. His Dad has tried to get in touch but my ex still feels too much hatred. His father had a new family in Canada and I would like my son to ...
A. 20 February 2007: you can drag him into it but be ready for all hell to break loose, you could also explain to your husband the matters of age and death and try to reason with him. The biggest plague to humanity is our judgment of one another, we all fear what others ... (read in full...)
Should I take the safe option or follow my heart??
Q. I have been with my bf for over 4 years and although it hasn't been easy, i love him dearly. My best friend, who introduced us, has recently told me that my bf is going to propose soon. The thing is, I think my best friend, my soulmate, and I have ...
A. 20 February 2007: Why are you even with your bf? if his buddy and you are in love? I wonder what it must be like for him to find out your secret, he is going to porpose, sais he loves you, but you dont even care about him, your after the friend. sounds like your bf ... (read in full...)
My fiance posted a home video of me on a hard core porn site and when i found it it had 18554
Q. I dont know what to do, just after xmas my fiance posted a home video of me on a hard core porn site and when i found it it had 18554 hits i felt totally disgusted he showed no real remorse !just said he was proud of me !! I also found out that he ...
A. 20 February 2007: I agree RUN, and if he follows arrest him for violating your trust and demeaning your value as a woman. Porn takes enough away from women anyway. and his unfeeling cooth is terrifying, I am questioning his stability and humanity. why are you asking ... (read in full...)
We argue alot and we both hate admiting when we're wrong. Days go by without us speaking and we can't go on like this, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have had a few fall outs over the past few months - nearly once a month. Thing is we both think we're right and i won't apologise to him for something i believe he has done wrong and vice versa. So we spend days not speaking and ...
A. 20 February 2007: every body gets that cycle, especialy if your living together. Erica and I are no different, what wroked was realizing I needed her more than I needed to be right, and sometime she gets cranky and goes back to being grouchy but we follow through ... (read in full...)
He hit me and threatened to do it again! But I love him so much and I can't live without him. Help!
Q. hi, im 17 and my boyfriend is 20, i love him so much. Yesterday he hit me and threatened to do alot more for no big reason. It wasn't hard but he still did it. He hurt me so much but i still have the power to forgive him. I sent him a message to ...
A. 20 February 2007: he's 20 your 17, and he's violent, get out and get help. no one deserves to hurt you. Men are raised to believe women are fragile things, My father threw my pregnant mother across the room for getting pergnant again, with the thought in mind that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I have split up and I have a daughter to her, how can I get over it?
Q. i was with my ex for 1 month and then found out she was pregnant. i was ok with it until i found out that she had been sleeping with her ex while she was with me. i left her then and she got back with her ex. all the 9 months she was ringing me ...
A. 20 February 2007: dont know what to say, save take more care in choosing mates. this one cant rais a kid she cant handle her own life. Good luck I dont know what to tell you for resolving this mess though, I just hope the daughter is going to be ok in the end... (read in full...)
My fiancee was caught kissing and cuddling another women!!
Q. Hi Dear, My fiancee was caught with another woman cuddling and kissing each other by my friend and her husband in a night club,she alerted me immediately and when i confronted him he denied and decided to stop communicating with me.He only called m...
A. 20 February 2007: he is ten years your senior, and obviously cheating and lying about it...uh. No nice way to say this but there are men that respect women out there, there just harder to find because they are working or going to school not partying or trying to ... (read in full...)
Together 32 years, he cheated I left...He doesnt want to be on his own so has'nt left her, but wants me back!!!!
Q. Please can you help me ! My husband is having an affair. We have been together for 32 years. We have had a very good marraige until the last 12 months when we drifted apart. I left him and he felt that i would not come back so he says that he ...
A. 20 February 2007: Its not easy to hear, but the time has come, he belongs in your past. I am sorry to hear you having such trouble but this sort of thing happens all the time and to any one. If it helps you feel better there are more and more people seeing the ... (read in full...)
It went so well and now nothing!!
Q. Hello My names Dan and i have been seeing this girl recently, shes 17 and im 18, she goes to college and i work for a courier company in the offices. I met the girl called Sarah at christmas time, we both met at a mates party, we was both complet...
A. 20 February 2007: if she has a bf your not going to get anywhere with any woman that is worth your time, and being the third wheel doesnt bother you? throughout your question your stating that she is bored, she may be trouble man. I would take my time, cause your ... (read in full...)
My fiance told me he had sex with a prostitute just before he met me. It really bothers me that he did this. Should I forget about it?
Q. My fiance told me he had sex twice with a prostitute just before he met me. This makes me sick to my stomach - but it was before we met. I believe he would not ever cheat on me but it still bothers me that he did this. Should I let it ruin our ...
A. 20 February 2007: I agree with AskEve, in these times a guy can be with a woman twice as bad as a prostitute and, he did the mature thing not deceiving anyone. if it bothers you that much though the choice is easy. Goodluck... (read in full...)
I have the feeling my husband is watching porn behind my back. He very rarely wants to have sex with me and it hurts. Should I confront him about his porn habits?
Q. Can anyone answer me this question please, do all or most men masturbate even though they are married and do it behind their wife's back, and why do they do this. Does it stops them from having sex with their wife because I think that's what's ...
A. 20 February 2007: Well this one goes two ways. I too watch Porn for the visual stimulation, and it has nothing to do with you falling short, it takes a long time and a lot of effort to meet steep pre-sex requirements with a familiy home. My wife wants me to run for ... (read in full...)
I'm bullied at school and everyone hates me! What can I do?
Q. Everyone In my Year Hates Me. I only have one friend and everyone else picks on me in lessons and Kicks me and hits me and says its an accident. I told my teachers but they dont Do anything. I dont want to move schools because I dont want to leave ...
A. 20 February 2007: Well I am a Dork and if I made it you can too. just knukle down and dont be affraid to tell them when they have gone too far, You'll be fine. And don't forget the teachures at school are there for you too. :D... (read in full...)
Always been a faithful wife but another man is interested and I'm tempted! What should I do?
Q. i need help! i am a married woman who has been faithful to her husband, but the problem is, hes away working for long periods sometimes 2-3 months. its not possible for me to go with him, but i miss him and i get so lonely sometimes, another married ...
A. 20 February 2007: It's not worth it to go along with the other guy (especialy because he's married too), you can do this. just ask your husband to explain to his boss and ask for local work, cause it is threatning your marriage, sounds like you just go too long ... (read in full...)
I have love and companionship and a cosy home.. but no sex. Is it worth risking everything for a sexual relationship?
Q. I've been married 8 years, no kids. I'm in my late 40s, my wife just over 50. We knew each other for a few years before we got together romantically. It was sexy and exiting at first and I remember thinking at last here was the girl who had ...
A. 27 January 2007: I am concerned that your wife may have a medical issue. Not to get too personal but has she gone thru the change? If not she may need to see her doctor. If she has then she should still see her doctor there are lots of ways he or she can help. ... (read in full...)
I'm attached to my guy on the side even though I think he may be using me. Should I walk away?
Q. Hi I am 32yrs female, married, but have been having an affair with a 48yr old single guy. I am confused as I really like this guy alot, may be falling inlove with him, we have been seing one another for 4 months now, and had sex in the last 2 ...
A. 27 January 2007: Sex isnt everything, your husband deserves to know the truth, maybe for your sake he'll have a surprise and been messing around on you. this is a sign of imaturity and most people have enough self respect to end the relationship their in before ... (read in full...)
I'm attached to my guy on the side even though I think he may be using me. Should I walk away?
Q. Hi I am 32yrs female, married, but have been having an affair with a 48yr old single guy. I am confused as I really like this guy alot, may be falling inlove with him, we have been seing one another for 4 months now, and had sex in the last 2 ...
A. 27 January 2007: Sex isnt everything, your husband deserves to know the truth, maybe for your sake he'll have a surprise and been messing around on you. this is a sign of imaturity and most people have enough self respect to end the relationship their in before ... (read in full...)
Do I try to make it work with my alcoholic husband?
Q. O.K. here it goes......My husband is an alcoholic. When I fell in love with him it wasn't a problem. We met in our early 20's so we partied together, nothing uncommon. We have since had 2 boys (5 and 3) and I have matured and calmed down. He has ...
A. 27 January 2007: willywombat raises a good question, In this situation its dificult for me to put myself in your shoes but my inlaws story is alot like yours, its sad so strap in. before they got married "Bob" had a problem but he managed to hide it from "Sue" until ... (read in full...)
Does this guys just want to friends or does he want more? Any advice?
Q. This guy , seems to make a big effort to chat with me, like he'll talk to me on msn when he's offline , and look for ages in the play ground to find me . Does he just wanna be mates ? ... or ? ?...
A. 27 January 2007: ok, with playground I am betting your pretty young, You might ask him. If he is bothering you that much just ask, and watch how he reacts. If your in say so if not you can say that too. but if you keep giving him the run around it could get drawn ... (read in full...)
I address my boyfriend as "sir" he seems to like this but everyone thinks he's controlling me. What do you think?
Q. Everyone thinks he over-powers me and tells me what to do, but that's not true! I call him 'sir', but that's of my own will. He'll call my name from the next room and I'll obnoxiously and jokingly answer 'Yessuh' or 'Sir.' and they look at me like ...
A. 27 January 2007: yea the us thing is an in thing, everyone else is trying to protect you. we are so guarded these days that life is freaking boring, Even I am laying in wait for someone to rob the local gas station while I'm in it, for the rise. they are all puffed ... (read in full...)
She is having doubts about us. What can I do to reassure her?
Q. I have been out with my girlfriend for 2 years now. However the last few days she has been doubting us and thinking about finishing us. It is both of our first serious relationships and she says she is confused and is doubting everything. I think ...
A. 27 January 2007: Date, go outside a comedy show is great, but your watching someon else do all your work. if she enjoys Van Halen buy tickets or a cd ya know, mix it up something out of the blue that you know she would enjoy, just sounds like its getting old or too ... (read in full...)
Can I reach my girlfriends G-Spot without breaking her hymen?
Q. My girlfriend is a virgin (no sexual intercourse yet) and I was wondering if it's possible to reach her Gspot with my fingers without breaking her hymen....
A. 27 January 2007: Its amazing how you just up and asked, brave. here's the answer, she'll be lying onher back go palm up and SLOWLY search for a small clump, it should swell when you find it. oh and she'll have a way of pointing it out to you too, Its awesome that ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for people to fall in love with each other?
Q. hello im 16 and just started going out with my boyfriend. he is crazy about me. its just obvious. i really like him aswell. im just wonering how long does it take people to fall inlove with eachother?...
A. 27 January 2007: Now THAT is the question isnt it. If you ask around the answers will very and then they will change and then change again. When I fell in love the first time it was gradual, I noticed little things about this wonderfull person untill finaly I was ... (read in full...)
I'm so in love with my boyfriend. The only thing I want is a baby with him...Why?
Q. I love babies...Oh my Gosh, do I LOVE babies! I want one so bad, but I know I'm way too young to have one. I don't have a job, but my boyfriend does. It's not a very well-paying job, though. For this reason, I know having a baby wouldn't be the ...
A. 27 January 2007: I second the pets, I thought I was into having kids. Being a guy I can tell you that you should be prepared, were you to have a baby now, to see a side of your man too dark to enjoy. I like the wee little tikes long enough to forget their names, ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but would I look desperate if I make the first move?
Q. Hello, hope you can help. Everytime I go down town I see this man I really fancy. He is the same age as me and goes to the same indie gigs as me and he always comes up to where we are standing up next to me at the bar but never says anything. My ...
A. 27 January 2007: Yea, I am with gofer it! I have had women ask me on more than one ocasion from your exact situation. RED HOT. and its valentines season. Dig in and hey if YOU pop the q, you pick the place to eat. double win!!... (read in full...)
When he went for my penis I pushed him away! I now regret it..does this mean I am gay?
Q. hi im confused. about 2 yrs ago i went on holiday with my cousin and 1 nite he started acting gay and wanted 2 do stuff with me. anyway i secretly wanted it but when he started 2 go 4 my penis i pushed him away pretending i didnt want it. we have ...
A. 27 January 2007: Hey confused, relax. The whole gay is wrong thing is as wrong as the race issue, shouldnt be an issue. I was curious once, I had a male partner and we tried having sex, yes more than once, but I couldnt do certain things and that left me out of ... (read in full...)
I want to go back to my old job, but unsure of BF's reaction
Q. I had a great job and I started liking a coworker ...a lot. My relationship was almost destoryed because of my behavior. I quit my job, not really because I wanted to, but because it would help get my relationship back in order and relieve my BF of ...
A. 15 January 2007: Who do you love? sounds like when the day is out its just you. Why not break up with your bf and get the job, then try dating the guy you like? I have been in relationships where the girl was into someone else but wouldnt tell me. Would have saved ... (read in full...)
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