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writes: Hey guys this is Sweetie Pie here wondering if you could help me with this situation I have. You see me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now. Everything was going great until BOOM I get my period for the first time{I'm really 12}. After that i start liking my boyfriend in a whole different way!i start thinking about things i have never thought about before!Like i have this really bad craving to have sex with my boyfriend.I know thats really not good to do now especially because of my age. So can someone explain my sudden craving and how to put in end to it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): ...don't have sex. That'll be your biggest regret. I know how relationships work, and you are most likely not going to stay with your current boyfriend for very long - especially if you rush into having sex at such a young age. It's not that we're not taking you seriously, in fact, we are taking you VERY seriously by warning you about the dangers you will put yourself through if you pursue it. Later in life you will look back - and most likely regret loosing your virginity so quick. It is something precious, and you want to keep it until someone extremely special comes into your life - someone who you know you love and want to be with for a very very long time (or even marry). Not to mention, having sex at 12 can put you through some emotional factors as well. You could end up having a horrible experience because your body is physically not ready, and later begin to fear intimacy. It sounds crazy, but our minds are very powerful. Another extreme is you could end up becoming a sex-addict, which is extremely risky because you are putting yourself at a higher risk of pregnancy.
Trust me, I'm 17 and still a virgin, and I had to hold myself back at times because of stories my friends told me as I grew up. It is just not worth it in my opinion to give it up so quickly. Try other things, like oral, masterbation, dry-humping, etc (dry-humping is kind of like sex, except you are rubbing your body parts together with your clothes on - it can feel really good if you do it right) - just make sure you aren't both just wearing underwear and he cums through his underwear through/on yours - that is almost worse than using a condom because you are at a risk of getting pregnant since his cum can pass through your undies. It's a scary experience. It is also said to be true in a Seventeen Magazine. lol.
I'd just search for your likes and dislikes for now, how do you like to be touched? what turns you on or off? I know I was very curious at your age, and I think you shouldn't go farther than that.
I hope I helped you out. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): my ex girlfriend had sex when she was 12 (she's now 25) and its been a huge source of shame and embarassment for her throughout her life.
It was also very difficult to hear as her boyfriend that she'd been sexually active at such a young age because quite frankly sex for individuals that young is hard to think of as being okay for anyone.
I understand that you feel the way you feel, but I would urge you to wait and to wait for someone you are totally sure about. You could be messing up a whole lot for yourself right now and while you may not understand or be able to fully understand the long term pain you might have to deal with over doing what you want to do its twice as tragic having to live with it.
theres nothing glamourous being a 20 year old girl exchanging stories with other girls about what their first times were like and having to lie because you are ashamed of how people might perceive you.
I know it might be hard cause at the end of the day you're young and probably impulsive and if you want to do something you'll probably end up doing it, but wait. I can guarantee you its the right thing to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): 12 is a bit young generally, but the main thing is to not fall pregnant and not do anything that doesn't feel natural.At 12 years old, you haven't finished growing, and you have about five or six years until you are actually a fully a woman rather than a girl at an optimum capacity physically for having children. in the next few years you will continue becoming hairier, your breasts will grow to a more developed shape with a woman nipples rather than baby nipples the shape of your face will change considerably as well your voice and so on. at about 17 this process will be almost complete. So you can see, you are still young! You'll only be mentally old enough to have children when you are in your mid-20s. it's alright caring for them when you are 16, but nowadays you really have to no how to cope with employment, to manage a decent income and legal papers, to not be adolescent any more.When adults are physically very close, they don't usually jump into sex because it is much nicer to fool around and slowly gets closer, it gives you time to know what you want more and to look forward to what you're getting.In any case, only ever do things in very comfortable surroundings like rolling around under a duvet when it is not at a party or anywhere where there is a pressure.both play with each other but never have penetrative sex without a condom. Get to know each other and enjoy each other but watch out because if he does let himself go inside you, you either have an abortion or a child which will both be very regretful experiences for you.If I was your dad I would say-" Essentially you are advised to wait one or two years but you are at liberty to play only with someone who is not much older than you and in secret, and you are definitely not really supposed to have penetration while you are 12 but just to play around reasonable amounts without being a 12-year-old sex crazy freak, try and wait if you possibly can like a civilised girl and never risk falling pregnant."
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (26 January 2006):
 I wouldn't sweetie pie, really. But whatever advice we give you, you will go ahead and make up your own mind anyhow!
I hope you will use the advice given and not do it. I believe you are too young PHYSICALLY if not mentally. Please consider the health risks as well as the risk of pregnancy or STD's.
Good luck with your choices.
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (26 January 2006):
Sweetie Pie is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thanks for ur help dude,but i found out that my boyfriend wants to have sex and i really want to have sex with him what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): Guys usually becomes sexually mature when they are about 15 and girls when they are about 13. The legal age for sex is 12 in some countries, but anything under 16 is qualified as a rape. Anyway, it's great to be in love at 12, although perhaps at that age the relationship should mostly be talking and kissing and being really close friends than the kind of stuff adults do which is basically fairly physical every day or every week.
I would say take time off and don't listen to your body too much, if this is your first period then give it a couple of months or even six months or a year and to look at how your feelings and emotions evolve over time. Don't jump into anything before you know what you were doing.
While you might be very curious at 12, it is really best to wait until you are 15 or 16 if you can possibly help it, or even 18 of 20 depending on whether you can find someone suitable. like that you get to learn a lot about life before doing heavy physical things which most adults are still trying to figure out into their 50s.
Make sure you are in touch with your own body and what it does, and if your boyfriend is very keen on that kind of thing I guess you can't stop him unless you want to.
On the whole, I don't really know what I'm talking about but perhaps it helps, it's not really my area.
make sure you don't fall pregnant before you are 22 or 25/29 , that is the normal age in the West for a independent female who wants a decent amount of relationships and to find a suitable/rich husband .
Whatever you do before then, don't try and be more mature than you feel like, just be happy being your own age.
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (25 January 2006):
Sweetie Pie is verified as being by the original poster of the question THANK U FOR FINALLY TAKING ME SERIOUSLY! SWEETIE PIE :-
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reader, willywombat +, writes (25 January 2006):
Ok
I asked because you sounded a little too like a pervert who might get his kicks imitating a 12 year old girl. They exsist and I didn't want to give them fodder tfor their sordid scenarios.
Anyway, it is normal to feel like this at this time in your menstrual cycle. Hormones can effect individuals in many different ways. You think you want to have sex with your bf but at your age it would not be such a good idea (this is not meant to patronise it is just a fact). But you still have these feelings to deal with. The best bet would be masturbation. But if you are going to indulge in this with your bf be safe.
I hope this helps a little x
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (25 January 2006):
Sweetie Pie is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Yes i am really twelve is that so hard to believe?Why do you older folks think your always better than us?and by the way i'm serious about the question i asked. ineed some"real"advice other than your comments!
Sweetie Pie{i'm SERIOUS}
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reader, willywombat +, writes (25 January 2006):
SORRY, BUT ARE YOU REALLY TWELVE? yOU SOUND SLIGHTLY LIKE SOMEONE HAVING A LAUGH......
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2006): Sweetie Pie, put an end to having sex NOW. At 12 EDUCATION is most important not lying on your back. Do you want to have a baby at 12 when you are only a baby yourself. Where are you from? Are you for real?
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