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writes: I need help. My girlfriend recently left for study abroad. We have been dating for 6 months and she is continuously partying and going out with other people in groups. I really miss her and don't really want her to get drunk and do anything with anyone else. Am I wrong for being upset at her? Or am I justified in being concerned here?
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (24 January 2006):
 Hey, It must be very hard for you to not to be concerned, it is clear that there is some trust issues and maybe you should tell your gf that her constant partying is upseting you and you think that it is hard for you to have that, maybe even tell her that you are partying and see how she feels maybe she needs to walk a mile in your shoes. You are right to be a bit upset but it seems to me that you are quite young and dont let it take over your life. Good Luck.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (24 January 2006):
 This is hard for you I am sure, but this does not mean she has forgotten you. She is only away for 6 months. Whilst she is away is there anything you can do to help you not obsess about what she is doing quite so much? Have you been in touch with your friends and start to renuild a social life again.
It is understandable that she wants to go out with all the interesting and exciting new friends she is in the process of making. She is probably having the time of her life! But if she picks up the phone and you nag her and write letters telling her of your fears she might well feel smothered or stifled and do eactly what you dread.
You need to tell her how much you love her, how much you miss her and then tell her to have a good time. Would you really want your GF moping around for 6 months, not going out and having a really dreadful time?
Your letter doesn't say how old you are but I have a feeling you are only in your teens. If this is your first love the feelings can be quite intense and frightening, but before you know it she will be back and things will be (hopefully) back to were you want them to be,
Good Luck x
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