Can't orgasm with my current partner
Q. I am 25 yrs old,and spent the first 3 years of my sex life with a man of "Well Above Average Size". the sex was great - I orgasmed most of the time. Over the last year, I have been living with a man who is "average" and have not been able to ...
A. 8 January 2015: Well I have been with my wife for 10 years and she does not enjoy sex. Its very difficult for her to meet my sexual needs because she doesn't enjoy it with me. Frankly, this is not a good thing for any relationship. If you just can't reach orgasms ... (read in full...)
I really like him but he never went to university.
Q. I really like this guy I've been chatting with. He's caring, kind and hardworking but, I just found out that he didn't go to university. I know this shouldn't matter, but I cant seem to get over the prejudice that because he didn't get a higher ...
A. 8 January 2015: Prejudice or not, the point is that the fact that he does not have a higher education does bother you. Therefore, lets address that fact. It's never a good thing to be in a relationship where you look down on your partner. This is much worse when ... (read in full...)
I'm so jealous of my boyfriend's ex that I don't enjoy sex
Q. I am so jealous about his ex. He was in a long distance relationship with her when we first met. Then he met me and we just clicked. He decided that we are a better match and finally he broke up with her. Before we started dating before he broke up ...
A. 8 January 2015: I can totally relate to the way you feel. Learning so much about your partner's past is never a good thing. However, the only difference between him and your next boyfriend (should you move on) is simply the details that you will know about their ... (read in full...)
Am I doing it wrong?
Q. I ve been dateing this guy for a few weeks I gave him oral sex today he is the first guy I have ever given a b j to anyway while I was doing it he started pushing the back of my head down on it further and makeing me suck iyt faster do all men do ...
A. 4 August 2010: No, this was simply his way of guiding you to giving him oral sex the way he likes it better. For as long as your teeth aren't bighting or scratching him you really can't mess up. Most men prefer for you to suck deeper. I'm sure he loved it. Don't ... (read in full...)
Really paranoid boyfriend
Q. Okay, so before i even met my 3 month boyfriend of today, i met my seriously best friend ever, but he is a boy. I tell him every little thing, and i honestly dont know what i would do without him. So i started dating my boyfriend and whenever i ...
A. 10 June 2009: Hello there and thank you for posting an interesting question.
Here is the deal with your situation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you having a guy best friend. However, the only problem you will face is that you will most likely n... (read in full...)
I'm a serial cheater and can't help it
Q. I cheat but I don't feel like one. I am in a steady relationship with my boyfriend of 8 months, and we are great together, the connection is intense. The level of sex is, however, nowhere near enough to satisfy me. We have sex maybe once a wee...
A. 6 May 2009: By the way, just in case it wasn't clear, before you can develop the relations with multiple partners, you must first break up with your current boyfriend.
Good luck again,
Happylife
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I'm a serial cheater and can't help it
Q. I cheat but I don't feel like one. I am in a steady relationship with my boyfriend of 8 months, and we are great together, the connection is intense. The level of sex is, however, nowhere near enough to satisfy me. We have sex maybe once a wee...
A. 6 May 2009: I would recommend that you focus on developing relations with multiple sexual partners that you can rely on for constant sex. However, you should not get into an exclusive relationship with anyone. Tell your partners that you are looking for a ... (read in full...)
Why does he walk ahead of me as if I don't exist?
Q. Hi - wonder if anyone can help with this one! My husband who is nearly 40 (married for 10 years) often (not always but more often than not) walks ahead of me. It doesn't matter if we are simply going from the car to the supermarket, walking along ...
A. 11 April 2009: WOW did we hit a very sore thumb????
OK, lets start by realizing that the poster of this article asked a question. She wanted to understand why her husband leaves her behind when he walks with her.
Well, I gave you the answer. When men... (read in full...)
Why does he walk ahead of me as if I don't exist?
Q. Hi - wonder if anyone can help with this one! My husband who is nearly 40 (married for 10 years) often (not always but more often than not) walks ahead of me. It doesn't matter if we are simply going from the car to the supermarket, walking along ...
A. 4 April 2009: Hello there,
I am a male and I know exactly what is going on here. Your husband dos not find you attractive. He is not proud to hold you in his arms and show the world that you are his trophy. Instead, he is ashamed of the way you look in publi... (read in full...)
What is with men and older women?
Q. Guys:- Are men really attracted to older woman? (For example women in their 30s or 40s?) Why do some men date older women - is it because they get bored with younger girls or does age really not matter? Also what age gap between younger men and...
A. 12 November 2008: Older women understand younger men very well. They know exactly how to make men happy and they usually never have the emotional confusion that younger women may sometimes have. This means that for most men, older women provide a more peaceful, ... (read in full...)
He will not be with me if I keep this child!
Q. We broke up with my bf about a month ago after a year and a half. It was a great relationship, but he saiz, that he wasn't all that happy and so he needed time to be alone and focuse on himself. I gave him that time, even tho it was very hard. We ...
A. 16 September 2008: Absolutely no abortion. You are an adult and you should face the fact that you are now carrying a human being in you who will grow up to be a beautiful child. Please don't murder your child. As for your boyfriend, he is 100% not worth keeping. Don't ... (read in full...)
My Husband doesn't want me anymore - what do I do?
Q. My husband and I were best friends in high school and about a year through it, we started dating. He adored me and everything about me. I broke up with him sometime before our senior year. It crushed him. After school, I got married and after 4 ...
A. 15 September 2008: Hello there, this is Happylife again. Looks like to me that you already do everything I suggested. What I don't understand about your response is why you would be offended by me suggesting that you do something that even you agree is important; ... (read in full...)
My Husband doesn't want me anymore - what do I do?
Q. My husband and I were best friends in high school and about a year through it, we started dating. He adored me and everything about me. I broke up with him sometime before our senior year. It crushed him. After school, I got married and after 4 ...
A. 11 September 2008: Hey there, sorry to hear about your challenge.
I am a husband and I'm going to feel you in on how to earn respect from a man. This is a concept that most women don't understand, however, you may have already done it. However, if not then try this... (read in full...)
Getting married was a mistake. I am not in love?
Q. I think I`ve fallen out of love with my husband, we`ve been together for 5 years and married for 1. I know I don`t feel the same way about him that he does about me, my feelings aren`t as strong, and I don`t know if they ever were. But recently I ...
A. 10 September 2008: Love is not a feeling. Love is a decision. The feeling that you are describing is attraction on the physical and the emotional level.
Attraction is like the satisfaction you get from buying your dream car; you love it the most at the beginnin... (read in full...)
She had a one night stand and I'm struggling to accept that. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Hello, I am flattened by emotions right now and need a little advice. Today I learned that my girlfriend of 6 1/2 years had a one-night stand about 3 months ago. She tells she was wasted and doesn't even remember how it happened. I am very confus...
A. 11 October 2007: Well, I probably don't have good advice, however, this is what I would do if I were in your situation and really didn't want to start all over with a new person. I would sit my girlfriend down and say, "You cheated on me and had your fun. Now, it’s ... (read in full...)
We are engaged, but after our last row I feel I deserve better. I don't want to regret this decision!
Q. I have been with my fiancé 5 year and engaged for 2 and due to get married this summer. We have alway got on really well, never lived together but started building a house which is nearly complete. We don't row much but when we do I alway's se...
A. 11 January 2007: After dating this guy for five years I'm sure you have observed the reality of all relationships: They usually don't get better as time goes on. On the contrary, most relationships deteriorate with time. That is why, divorce is high.
What ... (read in full...)
We are buying a house together but he wants to go back to Uni and leave me paying for everything!
Q. My boyfriend and I are planning to co-own a house together. We're both in our early 20s and we've saved up quite a bit after 2 years of working very hard. My boyfriend told me he wanted to go back to university so he can have a better career in the ...
A. 10 January 2007: The anonymous female reader here below offered really good advice. It is a bad deal!! What you have to realize is that if you fail to pay for this house both your credits will be hurt and this will compromise your future more than his lack of a ... (read in full...)
I need an answer to a question about penis's but I can't go to the doctor as my dad always follows me.
Q. dear cupid i am a 15 year old boy and i would like to know is a penis bent and the head a bit twisted normal without erection. if its not normal, what solution is their for me to do, as i can not go to the doctor as my dad always follows me?? ...
A. 10 January 2007: Hey Buddy,
Your dad is actually a good candidate to discuss this subject with. Don't be embarrassed at all. He will give you good advice. However, just like rammsteinfan said, the penis can take different twists here and there and I bet that you ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped that I cannot go out with anyone else. What should I do?
Q. I have a girlfriend i been with for 3 years. we have split up for six month but have been back together for a yr. I love her but i met this girl recently who i have been really fond with. I am only 19 yrs old and i feel trapped that i cant go out ...
A. 10 January 2007: Don't worry about marriage at all at age 19. This is the time when it is OK for you to make mistakes. marilyn512 gave you good advice. However, if you decide that you want to chase the greener grass then go for it. If you regret in the future than ... (read in full...)
Married with kid, but need to leave? Help me!!
Q. Hi there I am an agony aunt on here with some strong opinions and I could do without being judged - which is unfortunate as I know this is going to happen anyway! I am in a marriage/relationship of 8 years and throughout I have had to literally beg...
A. 18 November 2006: Amen,
Happylife... (read in full...)
I love this guy but his looks and his style is really embarrassing me! What should I do?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year. I really thot he was the right one for me. His personality is xactly as i want, bt my issue is just his attractiveness. Hes grown his hair long n wont wear anything but black, his clothes sense is terrible and ...
A. 18 November 2006: When it comes to relationships no one gets it all. You can either have the guy with all the looks or the guy with all the personality or a mixture of both. However, to find someone with all the looks and all the personality and the income and the ... (read in full...)
I love this guy but his looks and his style is really embarrassing me! What should I do?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year. I really thot he was the right one for me. His personality is xactly as i want, bt my issue is just his attractiveness. Hes grown his hair long n wont wear anything but black, his clothes sense is terrible and ...
A. 18 November 2006: When it comes to relationships no one gets it all. You can either have the guy with all the looks or the guy with all the personality or a mixture of both. However, to find someone with all the looks and all the personality and the income and the ... (read in full...)
I think she's having an affair! Was I right to question her?
Q. I have been seeing my girlfriend for just under a year. She changed jobs a few months ago, and now works long late hours in a golfclub bar, mostly at weekends when I am off work. She is very outgoing attractive and enjoys men's attention, but tells ...
A. 6 November 2006: There is absolutely no reason for your girlfriend to delete all her messages infront of you unless she had something to hide. She also insists on spending time with this other dude and lies about it.
In my opinion, she is definitely not being ho... (read in full...)
I'm really lazy and I need to tone up super fast! Any tips?
Q. im so lazy, but i need to tone up fast!! i want to be at my best so i can win the guy i want with complete confidence.. any tip on how to firm myself up? im a size 12, but im not fat, just want a firmer body... i love my curves though.. could ...
A. 6 November 2006: Getting fit requires a lifestyle change. I don't believe that you should try the boot camp style of getting fit. Instead make a gradual lifestyle change that you'll be able to maintain for the rest of your life. Let me give you a few pointers.
... (read in full...)
All he does is look at my flaws!! Advice please!
Q. Hi I have been going out with a lovely guy for a year now and in many ways he is my idal man and we love each other very much . The problem is that six months ago he came to me one day all upset and said he was thinking all sorts of strange ...
A. 3 November 2006: This is quite normal. God made Men to be visual. We tend to want to have a perfect looking woman. We have to learn to grow over such feelings and only time can fix that. When we are young, all we look for in a woman is looks. As we mature, we begin ... (read in full...)
Does boob size really matter in attractiveness to guys?
Q. This sounds really silly, but...I'm 18 and I think my boobs are too small. All my friends a D's and big C's and I'm barely a C, probly closer to a B 1/2. I'm not a very big girl about 117lbs 5'6". So maybe it's normal for my size. Still my fr...
A. 3 November 2006: I’m sure there are some men who prefer smaller breasts. However, haven’t met anyone who said so.
As for me, size makes all the difference as far as physical attraction goes. I only date women with a good size chest. As for your second question... (read in full...)
Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 31 August 2006: Dear anonymous, writes (28 August 2006):
Buddy, you need to swallow the pill and move on. You have been with FIFTY women and she has only been with six. What in the planet earth are you complaining about?????? She has a much bigger pill to swall... (read in full...)
Worried about his sexual past and think I should end the relationship.....
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now but I think the time may have come to end it. He is a wonderful boyfriend and would do anything for me, only problem is his past. He's slept with so many women, all one night stands, and I often have to see ...
A. 31 August 2006: Hey girl,
I totally share your pain. My girlfriend is 27 and has been with 16 men before me. One of them was a one night stand and it just kills me to think about it. However, here are a few facts that are important to consider before you leav... (read in full...)
How to get on with my life after a marriage breakup
Q. I am getting a divorce from my husband. We have 2 sons aged 27 and 34. I left 3 years ago, but have kept in (kind of) friendly contact with my ex, even to the point of inviting him around for Xmas dinner for the past 2 yrs, as he would have bee...
A. 9 August 2006: I understand your dilemma. You are in a situation where you want to move on but your past is tying you down. Anytime you try to manage two relationships, the old and the new you are bound to deal with extreme headache. The best solution I can see is ... (read in full...)
Married with kid, but need to leave? Help me!!
Q. Hi there I am an agony aunt on here with some strong opinions and I could do without being judged - which is unfortunate as I know this is going to happen anyway! I am in a marriage/relationship of 8 years and throughout I have had to literally beg...
A. 8 August 2006: Thanks for the update. You've made the best decision, given the circumstances.
I will always be in your corner,
Happylife... (read in full...)
He is looking at porn and imaybe pregant!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for eight years.We have lived together for most of that time.Just recently we have started trying for a baby. This morning I went on the internet and checked the history. Up came loads and loads of porn site...
A. 3 July 2006: All the answers here were great. Indeed, I would say that you should not be alarmed by your boyfriend’s addiction to porn. I once had a whole computer full of porn while I was single and I never even slept with or dated anyone during that time. This ... (read in full...)
Should I carry on going through this or get rid and move on... ?
Q. I need as many people's advice on this as possible, I'm driving myself mad!!! I started seeing my boyfriend, "Andy" before I split with my last boyfriend, "Danny". We didn't have sex, we just kissed and once, did some more stuff. I was so crazy a...
A. 3 July 2006: This is a very tough one. You will be able to forgive and move on someday however, he is going to have to do something so outstanding to earn your total love and trust again.
Let me put it this way: At this point, he has deposited more negative... (read in full...)
How do I make up for a drunken nightmare?
Q. i got very drunk one night and ended up trying to kiss my boyfriends friend. however i don't remember this becuase i was drunk. i love my boyfriend and desperately want to get back with him. please give me advice on how....
A. 3 July 2006: I think you really blew it! Just to share a man's prospective, if my girlfriend ever did the same (as you did), I would never give her another chance. The reason that I would not consider getting back with her is that I would never be able to trust ... (read in full...)
Married with kid, but need to leave? Help me!!
Q. Hi there I am an agony aunt on here with some strong opinions and I could do without being judged - which is unfortunate as I know this is going to happen anyway! I am in a marriage/relationship of 8 years and throughout I have had to literally beg...
A. 28 June 2006: If I were in your shoes I would enjoy the best of both worlds. I would stay married and continue to provide my child with a structured home and would continue to date my lover. This is not morally acceptable by most standards however, being morally ... (read in full...)
My ex made me tell him EVERYTHING and now I feel like I need to tell me current BF everything too! Help!
Q. Ok my ex was VERY controlling. He made me tell him everything i had done in the past with people sexually and what i thought or talked about with people. This was when I didn't even know him so why he wanted to know, i don't know! Now that i have a...
A. 27 June 2006: Be very careful not to ruin your relationship by telling your boyfriend things that he doesn’t want to know. It is by all means not helpful to know about your partner’s ugly past. In my relationship, I enjoyed being with my girlfriend but once I ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 1 June 2006: Hey Dr. Pete,
It takes a man of great character to recognize another. It’s always nice to hear good news from the Doctor!
Thanks Dr.,
Happylife,
... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 31 May 2006: Hey Willywombat,
I think in all fairness it is only right that I answer your question. After all, you took the time to reply to all my questions too. So here we go!
You asked me “how *less* pretty people have relationships and sexual ones at t... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 30 May 2006: Dear Ladyluck, I hope that I’ve been helpful to you. Please do not hesitate to e-mail me should you ever have any questions. Martini, you are very funny!
Willywombat, Wendyg and Dr. Pete, thanks for all your responses. I’m sure that just like mys... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 30 May 2006: On May 28th 2006 I asked willywombat to ask her eight brothers and her husband the following question:
If your wife could only meet one of the following emotional needs for the rest of your marriage, which would you prefer she met??? PICK ONLY ONE... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 30 May 2006: OK willywombat you win! I had no idea that there are some husbands out there who would prefer to give up lovemaking with their wives forever in exchange for physical attraction. Whats even more amazing is that you said that looks shouldn't matter in ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 29 May 2006: Hey martini, that was a nice letter you wrote. The story about your parents definitely addresses most marriages today and your own experience with women again reflects the differences we have with women. Thanks for posting it, I enjoyed reading it. ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 29 May 2006: Hey martini, that was a nice letter you wrote. The story about your parents definitely
addresses most marriages today and your own experience with women again reflects the
differences we have with women. Thanks for posting it, I enjoyed re... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 28 May 2006: Hey Dr. Pete,
I believe that you are comparing the emotional needs of young couples dating verses those of married couples. Your examples of women being glad to pay for a date is quite typical during the dating phase. Also, it is quite common t... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 28 May 2006: Hey Dr. Pete,
Both men and women may have the same emotional needs however, their order of priority is definitely not going to be ranked
the same way. Remember, I am not just listing men and women's emotional needs, but instead, I am li... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 28 May 2006: Hey Dr. Pete, You asked me if I am trolling? What makes you ask me this? I'm assuming that you are using the word trolling to say that I'm kind of making an argument in circles. Can you be more specific? Give me an example of something I said... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 28 May 2006:
Willywombat,
I really have nothing against you. In fact, people like you who take the time to participate in this debate help educate others on the various types of personalities that men and women share. Therefore, before proceeding, ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 27 May 2006: Ok ladyluck,
You’ve gotten a lot of interesting answers here. I totally recommend you read this book because I’ve read it and I know that it so addresses your situation. Don’t worry about the fact that Wendyg doesn’t think this book is worth re... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 27 May 2006: Dear Wendyg,
Ok, here is exactly what Wendyg, is saying when she tells us that the book “His Needs Her Needs” is a load of tosh.
She is saying that it is not true that women need a man that is affectionate, communicative, attentive, famil... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 26 May 2006: Dear ladyluck,
First of all, lets address the question. “Lose weight or my boyfriend”. Lets be sure to understand that all my advise is pertaining to the question above. I am not discussing anything about the fact that your boyfriend cheated ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 25 May 2006: Ok ladies, this is happylife again. You all had very interesting articles on this site. Now lets talk a little about emotional needs and their importance. Again, I recommend that you all read the book "His Needs Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley, Jr. ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 19 May 2006: Well your question has two sides to it. First, the fact that you have gained wheight causes you to be less attractive in his eyes, thus unfulfilling one of his emotional needs (attraction). Secondly, the fact that he is less attracted to you causes ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 4 May 2006: Hey Guys,
I totally share your pain. My girlfriend is 27 and has been with 16 men before me. One of them was a one night stand and it just kills me to think about it. However, here are a few facts that are important to consider before you leav... (read in full...)
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