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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: Well this is really a problem then is it. It is only a potential problem and as such a load of bullfeathers........ (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: I am sure there is a name for people like you who get off on making stuff up because their lives are so boring. Are you 16 or 18? Do you want to murder your ex's partner and kids or don't you? Do you even exsist or are you a silly little girl ... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: Thank you anon, it would appear that this person is a bit of a fantasist and takes offence when caught out.... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 3 February 2006: Maybe the individual concerned doesn't want to use there other half as the *woman of their dreams and maybe, just maybe they want to get off on porn. And just MAYBE the poster of the question WAS over-reacting. And maybe taking what another person ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 3 February 2006: No instead of just GIVING your opinion on the readers problem, you took somebody elses opinion and BELITTLED it. Give your opinion by all means but do not take somebody elses advice and deliberately trash it. I ahve noticed that that is a common ... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: Yes you do need help but not of the type you will get on here.
You have sick fantasies about murders and dismemberment and you have busted up a family and you ask for help....go see a psychoanalyst and get some medication.... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend distance himself from his ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. They split up 2 years ago, and he and I have been dating for 2 years (and living together). The problem is that it really bothers me that she is still in the picture (after she dumped h...
A. 2 February 2006: You have said it yourself *it would make me seem childish*
Well there you have it. Grow up and get over it you will do what you dread and drive your man away if you acrry on with this dreadful paranoia.
OH MY GOD!... (read in full...)
Oral sex with my college professor. It wasn't planned, it just happened. Should we quit it?
Q. Is this wrong? I'm 18 and ready to graduate high school, but I also have been taking college courses at a local community college. Well my one professor at the college started taking an interst in me. He never said so but I could tell. We were tal...
A. 2 February 2006: jeez, go and get a life.
How old are you really?
zzzzz... (read in full...)
Is this a good present for my boyfriend..?
Q. Hey guys, this is Sweetie Pie and as you all know I am 12 and in the sixth grade, and I was wondering if u guys could give me ur opinion on something. You see my boyfriend's birthday was the Sunday that just past and I got...
A. 2 February 2006: ????????!... (read in full...)
How would I know if he's actually still looking at porn?
Q. If a guy says that he's not going to go behind your back to look at porn, will he keep his promise? What are some signs of them looking at it behind your back? ...
A. 2 February 2006: how long is a piece of string? who can ever predict another person's behaviour. He might he might not!... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 2 February 2006: fool, think you need to try harder than that... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 2 February 2006: Hang on, you are the individual who ahd wild fantasies about *murdering and dismembering* your new partners ex and their kids. MMMMMMM......so which one is it?... (read in full...)
My school friend sucks up to all the teachers and thinks she's better than me. I'm so annoyed with her!
Q. hi, its just my friend is really annoying me. In school she sucks up to all the teachers i think she loves them or something and she always has to do better than me in everything. im really starting to hate her shall i say something to her? please ...
A. 2 February 2006: I think the pair of you may be in a slightly competative relationship. You don't sound as tho you particularly like this friend, have you thought about maybe easing up on your relationship with her and spending a little more time with people you do ... (read in full...)
Running out of interesting conversation with my girlfriend and afraid I'm a bore! Help!
Q. I have a girlfriend. we have been going out for only two weeks and I feel that I am beginning to bore her. Could you tell some tips on chatting girls up and what do girls like lads to talk about to them? Please reply asap....
A. 2 February 2006: Bev, you sound like a top girl, not a nerd, wish now I could get my hubby to have decent conversation, not just *how liverpool got on on sat* ;-)
SOVS I think you worry to much and maybe are trying a mite to hard. When you worry your mind goes blan... (read in full...)
Should I see a doctor about this spot..?
Q. There is one problem, so I need some help from you all.. I'm male, 20. I got a problem. I've got a round black spot on the tip of my dick's hole (hole from where we urinate). It's been like this for 4 years, and it doesn't hurt and I'm not faci...
A. 2 February 2006: If it worries you see a GP. If you are in the UK you can go to your nearest GUM clinic (phone the local hospital and they will give you the number or put you thru) and you won't have to give your name. They give you a number and they will tell you ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: You are absolutely right. Irony just doesn't work unless you acn here the tone of voice behind it. You are very anti porn and seem to hate all porn, but I have no real feeling either way to tell you the truth.
I made a comment about changing when... (read in full...)
How do we stop arguing??
Q. how can I STOP ARGUING WITH MY WIFE AND GET RELATIONSHIP ON TRACK...
A. 2 February 2006: Listen to what she is not saying. Try to read beteewn the lines....
We women are never as direct as we should be...x... (read in full...)
My friend's online dating guy is a cheating rat! How do I tell her this?
Q. Hi all, I really need some advice about this. I joined an online dating site about a month ago. I joined this particular site because a couple of friends of mine have had some successes. One of these friends, met a guy last summer and has been...
A. 2 February 2006: If she is a close friend tell her and have proof. She may be angry at first but she will thank you later.
Good luck.x... (read in full...)
Him looking at porn affected me so badly...
Q. my bf and i have been together for almost two years and we click very well and make eachother laugh. we have sex about two times per week and it's passionate and good. problem is that he looked at porn once and i have a severe body image problem and ...
A. 2 February 2006: I don't hink your issues with porn would be so serious if you didn't have such low self esteem and body image problems. I am not saying that you need to change yourself just how you percieve yourself. If you tell you bf how his looking at porn ... (read in full...)
Unhappily married and having an affair. Should I stay married just for my kids?
Q. I have been unhappily married since my daughter was born seven years ago. I was rejected and ruined. I tried and tried to make things work. I threatened to leave. I found someone that cared. We had an affair for four years. He is also married ...
A. 2 February 2006: This sorry crew are judging you *but there for the grace of God* and all that.
You are deeply unhappy, probably because you know you are doing something which society judges people (especially women) very harshly for. Your child desrves pare... (read in full...)
He got another girl pregnant and he's begging to come back to me.
Q. My long-term boyfriend got a girl pregnant.He is begging to win me back.Does he deserve a second chance?...
A. 2 February 2006: Do you want a serious answer?
NO... (read in full...)
Why do I hate my boyfriend's ex and kids? He doesn't even see them any more!
Q. My long-term boyfriend was married with 3 kids before he met me. When he met me, he left his wife and kids for me, because he was unhappy with her, and knew straight away that I was his soulmate. This was 19 months ago... The thing is, I feel...
A. 2 February 2006: You have some serious problems, why would you be so vitriolic towards people who have never hurt you but you have actually hurt in the past? What is going on in your head? I feel for the man you are with who left a stable family life for an ... (read in full...)
He isn't so fit with his clothes off!
Q. I met a guy online, and he actually turned out to be amazing...he's cute, he's smart, secure, funny, etc. etc.; pretty much perfect for me. We've been dating for a while now, and have even gotten to the point of saying that we love each other. ...
A. 2 February 2006: If you don't fancy this guy then that is it. There has to be a little bit of a spark for it to work. But I must say I think if you are judging him on a roll of fat you are being a little shallow. Sorry but you did ask.
:-)... (read in full...)
I really like him-do I risk it and ask him out or leave it?
Q. Hey im really confused. i was txtin a boy last nite an we were talkin about who we both fancied I really like him but I don't know how he feels bakhe says i don't know the girl but she's in my school do I take a risk and ask im out or leave it??? ...
A. 2 February 2006: Maybe I am a risk taker but I think you should just ask him outright. Nothing ventured nothing gained. After all what do you have to lose?
Good luckx... (read in full...)
Hubby's not attracted to me, and he's not shy about telling me what I lack!
Q. My husband doesn't find me phyically attractive but says hes attracted to me because of the person I am and that he loves me. Should I not worry about this? I have done evrything I can think of to be attractive to him but he prefers a woman in her ...
A. 2 February 2006: sack this guy fast before he destroys your self esteem and self belief.
I wish you luck x... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: whatever was directed at you mystify.....
I didnt attack you personally, go back and read my very first letter to the person asking the question. Yes I asked several questions, but quite frankly you DO have issues that you need to sort out. I DIDN... (read in full...)
Am I being overly jealous when I saw him out with his female boss?
Q. Hi... i met a guy last week, we hit it off straight away, been exchaging a few txt messages and he phoned me at the weekend to see if i was out but unfortunately I wasnt, but said i was out during the week and he said great he'd see me out. Anyway ...
A. 2 February 2006: Are you sure she was his boss and he wasn't stringing you along? Sack this guy off, he should have introduced you as a friend at least. I think he has something to hide and he isn't being excatly truthful with you. I mean you barely know him and ... (read in full...)
I'm very pregnant and he doesn't want sex for fear of hurting the baby. Is this normal?
Q. i am 6 months pregnant with my first child. 5 weeks ago i had some abnormal spotting and my husband panicked and rushed me to the hospital. everything was fine - our doctor found it all quite funny really (me and my husband running in at 2am my ...
A. 2 February 2006: Oh God yes this is completely normal. It didnt matter waht I said to my hubby he felt *odd* about having sex with *baby* around (as it were). Can't really offer you any advice except get him to speak to one of your health care professionals and ... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my married ex bf? Help me understand-why we see each other?
Q. I have seen my ex boyfriend after 20 years hes still the same and we have had fun togther hes married though I dont know whats going to happen between us both.He has a small child also and hes doing well for himself too so why do we see each other ...
A. 2 February 2006: You say nothing about your situation. Do you have a relationship or kids that may be put in jeopardy by this *fling*. Is this a hankering after your youth/past/a time when things seemed less complicated? More info would be helpful please.x... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my married ex bf? Help me understand-why we see each other?
Q. I have seen my ex boyfriend after 20 years hes still the same and we have had fun togther hes married though I dont know whats going to happen between us both.He has a small child also and hes doing well for himself too so why do we see each other ...
A. 2 February 2006: You say nothing about your situation. Do you have a relationship or kids that may be put in jeopardy by this *fling*. Is this a hankering after your youth/past/a time when things seemed less complicated? More info would be helpful please.x... (read in full...)
Happy with my engagement and my relationship, I still find myself attracted to another woman!
Q. I'm engaged and I am happy in my relationship, but I recently felt a strong connection with another woman. I think about her and email her a lot but I am not sure how to deal with it. I haven’t told the other woman that I am engaged, and I don’t ...
A. 2 February 2006: I thnk maybe your engagement has caused a big case of *cold feet* for you. The grass isn't always greener hun, and you need to seriously look at what you could be throwing away if you go for this other woman.
Getting engaged, married whatever is a... (read in full...)
I turned her down a couple years ago..but now I really like her. What should I do?
Q. I am 16 years old and a couple of years ago I was asked out by this girl. At the time I didn't think she was anything special so I said no. Ironically now its me that fancies her and I don't know if she still likes me. The problem is that I ...
A. 2 February 2006: Tell her.
nothing ventured nothing gained, and believe me if this guy goes for it you will regret it.
Good luck.x... (read in full...)
Had a weird dream that I had an affair with a friend's bf..now I can't face them. How do I deal with this?
Q. Ok this is probly the most unusul question asked. I would like somebody's opion. I had the most wierdist dream last night. I had a dream that i was having an affair with one of my classmates bf.I have a bf too, but it was really...
A. 2 February 2006: Those dreams that stay with you for days after are the pits aren't they (although the ones about Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise acn linger a little longer ;-) )!
The only advice I can give you is to remember that these thoughts are in your head and unle... (read in full...)
Had a weird dream that I had an affair with a friend's bf..now I can't face them. How do I deal with this?
Q. Ok this is probly the most unusul question asked. I would like somebody's opion. I had the most wierdist dream last night. I had a dream that i was having an affair with one of my classmates bf.I have a bf too, but it was really...
A. 2 February 2006: Those dreams that stay with you for days after are the pits aren't they (although the ones about Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise acn linger a little longer ;-) )!
The only advice I can give you is to remember that these thoughts are in your head and unle... (read in full...)
How do I get a break from a longtime relationship without feeling bad or regretting my choice?
Q. OK, I need advice.... I want to take a break from my one year relationship from my bf... But I don't know how without feeling bad about it or worse regretting. Any advice?...
A. 2 February 2006: Both mommy and kelly have said it all.
i think if you need a break then you need a break, go for it, but be tactful and explain your true feelings, don't expect him to be happy about it tho if he has no idea it is coming.
I wish you luck x... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: whatever... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: And I am a crap typist x... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: You have your right to your opinion mystify. I have my right to mine. Not that you know what my opinion is anyway - you just presume you do from what I have replied. Anyhow, since you ahve got prsonal FYI I do not have any opinions on porn at all ... (read in full...)
Druges help me feel a little better...help
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 5 mths. ago. He cheated and i do not want him back. i can't seem to get happy without him. I do drugs to numb thee pain. I am a mess. help. ...
A. 2 February 2006: Sweetheart, what type of drugs are you taking and how old are you? I ask because there are different ways of approaching this problem depending on the starting point. Please reply soon. xxx... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: This is about helping the individual with their problems, not about having a go at tohers who may have a different point of you to yourself. If we all thought the same way then there would be no need for these sorts of problem pages would there now ... (read in full...)
One of my Dad's friend's sexually molested me while I was sleeping-not sure if my parents will believe me. What should I do?
Q. please help.i dont know who to ask about this...my parents often have big parties with many of their friends. its always very "uppity" and full of people i cant stand. everyones always drinking, and quite often since there are many spare rooms in my ...
A. 31 January 2006: tell your parents or tell a trusted adult and sort this situation out. Next time it could be worse.x... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to stand up for me after his cousin and I argued. I am heartbroken!
Q. I love my husband dearly we have been married for only 3 months, but recently his cousin and I got into an argument. I had asked my husband not to bring him to my home until he apologizes to me for going too far. I will not do it and he told me ...
A. 31 January 2006: This is terrible of your husband. You are his family and as such you should come first. I think regardless of the argument he should respect you wishes about who comes into your house. Sit him down and make him listen to why you are so upset.
A... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 31 January 2006: I think you know when you have had enough. I also think that you are at that point now, from what you have been saying. If you have been looking at apts and stuff then in your heart of hearts you know it is over. The fact that people on here are ... (read in full...)
Should I meet the boy I like for Valentine's?
Q. To agony aunt, I have sent this boy I liked a valentines card, he keeps texting me, I said I would meet him where I go dancing, then we was going to go to the park, but I'm not allowed out on my own, my family just think I am going dancing....
A. 30 January 2006: Sweetheart don't lie about were you are going. What if something happens and nobody knows were you are? How old are you hun?... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for me (aged 18) to go out with a 15-year-old girl?
Q. I am an 18 year old male and I have been friends with a 15 year old girl. We now have relationship feelings for each other. Is this illegal if we did go out? Or would it be illegal only if we had sexual contact?...
A. 30 January 2006: No it's not ilegal for you to go out with her. But keep it as a friendship. You have all the time in the world to let this relationship develop as you get older.
Good luck.x... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy outside my race, even though my family would be opposed?
Q. Dear Reader, I have meet this guy, (very nice) and he has asked me out and taken my number. There is only one slight problem that I am not so sure of, he is black. It's not that I have anything against black people but my family does not agree w...
A. 30 January 2006: I don't know how old you are. I suggest if you are young and living under your parents roof this is going to be very difficult for you.
Your family sound racist. The colour of this guy's skin should mean nothing. If he treats you right and you ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 30 January 2006: No you are not overreacting if this offends you. But can I ask did you know about his use of porn before you married? If he did use it then what made you think he would give it up afterwards? I am not trying to be deliberately contraversial but I ... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 30 January 2006: Hey there agian.
The more I read about your life situation the more I think you are wasted on this woman I am sorry if I sound a little harsh but I feel you need to dump this relationship and move on. You are obviously miserable and you sound li... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 29 January 2006: Oh you poor thing, she really isn't responding is she? Is there any reason you can think of that she would be so negative all the time? To tell the truth I think she sounds clinically depressed, has she lost all joy in life or is it just with you ... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 28 January 2006: It can be hard for a woman to have sex if she feels that she isn't loved or respected by her partner. Maybe your wife has unresolved issues that she feels unable to discuss with you? Have you tried to talk with her about the reasons for the lack ... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 28 January 2006: It can be hard for a woman to have sex if she feels that she isn't loved or respected by her partner. Maybe your wife has unresolved issues that she feels unable to discuss with you? Have you tried to talk with her about the reasons for the lack ... (read in full...)
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