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I came to dearcupid for advice and was instantly intrigued, ever since I've enjoyed passing advice stemmed from my own experience, to help other people through tricky situations. You come across a wide variety of situations on this site and I beleive the more I read, the more i learn about other people and how the world goes round...... |
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Would you keep cheating if you could get away with it?
Q. Here is one for the girls and the lads.... If you cheated (whether you were drunk or sober, intentional or unitentional) and you got away with it. I mean either your partner didn't find out, or your partner did find out and either forgave you or d...
A. 28 February 2017: Hiya Shania... No idea if you are still on this website or not... I stumbled back on here after nearly 10 years as on of my friends was having some trouble so I directed here and got curious.. I just wanted to post to say... it did not happen ... (read in full...)
What are some ways to boost my sex drive?
Q. What are some ways to boost my sex drive? I've heard certain foods or herbal supplements can help. I'm on birth control; i've heard this can lower the sex drive? Has anyone else had the same experience? Also due to work and school I'm always ...
A. 6 December 2008: Yes I have had the experince of birth control literally killing my sex drive and taking away all the interest I ever had for it!
I read somewhere if you simply think about sex and imagine that you're doing it it can help to turn you on!
I w... (read in full...)
Can she get pregnant if I ejaculate on her vulva?
Q. I've been having sex with my girlfriend just recently. 98% of the time i have wore a condom. but me and my girlfriend prefer to not use them. is there a chance she can get pregnant if i ejaculate on the outside of her virgina. (on her virgina, not ...
A. 6 December 2008: Yes she can get pregnant. If you guys want to stop using condoms when your having sex (and your confident about each others sexual health) then there are other types of contraception that you should look into and get up and running on before you ... (read in full...)
Are my expectations of my boyfriend too high?
Q. me and my boyfriend of 15 months have been on a rocky relationship at times. but throughout our relationship he rarely calls me, i always cave in and call him the next day. rarely meets me on time, i always am waiting for 5-10mins for him. he rarely ...
A. 6 December 2008: Well it sounds like you two just aren't the perfect match that you think you are. YOu say that you love him so much yet everything else in you post says that he irritates the hell out of you and that he's completely the opposite to what you want ... (read in full...)
Went on a break with my girlfriend, now there's another girl involved.
Q. a few of months ago my ex girlfriends mum past away and she told she needs a break from this relationship so i said it was ok but after 2 months i thought we weren't gonna get back together so i got another girlfriend and ive started to love her but ...
A. 16 June 2007: what a difficult situation to be in!
This is very difficult for you to decide.. so you are starting to fall in love with the new girl, and your 'ex' says she wants you back.
To be honest hun I think that you should carry on with the new gir... (read in full...)
How do I delete my dearcupid page?
Q. How do I delete my page?...
A. 1 June 2007: Why do you want to delete it?... (read in full...)
I feel used! Had sex with me but wants to date other females! what's wrong with me?
Q. i have slept with one of my mates from uni four times and have fallen for him. i thought he liked me because all the signs were there but he kissed someone infront of me the other night and keeps saying things like "i could shag her" (about other ...
A. 27 May 2007: I don't think he 'used' you for sex... he seems to have made it clear all along that he's up for a bit of fun and tumble with you but not interested in the realtionship / commitment part with you........
I don't think he's actually interest... (read in full...)
Tip needed..on how to cope with razor burn!
Q. I like to maintain my pubic hairs, but when I shave I always get razor burn. Any suggestions?...
A. 27 May 2007: I agree with all that is said below, disposable razors and gel instead of foam = great.
When you are shaving your bikini line always start by shaving with the grain (in the direction that you hair naturally grows).... when you have shaved the desi... (read in full...)
Should girls ask guys out on a date?
Q. Is it all right for a girl to ask a guy out, or is it only supposed to be the guys who do the asking?...
A. 27 May 2007: It's ok for a girl to ask a guy out... Girls are much more independant nowadays so I guess the tables have turned a lass needs to make it really clear to a guy that she likes him before he can consider making a move... and some girls are so utterly ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend that our mutual friend doesn't like her?
Q. A mutual friend of my girlfriend and I recently told me that she doesn't like my girlfriend at all. My girlfriend always talks about how much she likes this friend and invites her out all the time. Should I tell my girlfriend? I feel like I'm lying ...
A. 21 May 2007: I agree I wouldn't tell her, for many reasons... You're girlfriend is making the effort and I just don't understand the logic in your friend saying she doesn't like her....
I dis-like a few of my bf's friends but I see that as personal opinion.... (read in full...)
Is a condom enough or should it be combined with pills?
Q. Is using a condom enough whilst having sex or should I go on the pill too? ...
A. 17 May 2007: I would advise that you do use some extra contreception for yourself as well as a condom... need to use a condom to protect against sexual diseases... need to use extra contreception just to be that little bit more in control for every possible ... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else just to get back at me. Am I correct to have doubts about getting back together with her?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up (mutually agreed upon) for irreconcilable differences. No cheating on either part. However, after I moved out (having lived together for two and a half years), I tried to get through the split-up as best I could, after ...
A. 17 May 2007: I think this issue will always be here. and she's pretty screwed up to go and do that isn't she!? I personally wouldn't be able to sleep with anyone else if I had feeling for someone, so I would start to question what her feelings for you ... (read in full...)
How do I keep her interested until I can be with her again?
Q. me and my girlfriend had been going out for 4 months, but ever since the start of our relationship it was kind of hard because i wasn't able to drive to see her as often as i wanted to because my license was suspended. and lately it has been really ...
A. 17 May 2007: Can't you or she take the train to see each other? I just think that if she loves you as much as you love her she wouldn't want to split up just cause you can't drive!
If you want to see someone you make it happens. You don't just split up with ... (read in full...)
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Q. Message from Andrew, site founder: (let me know your comments!)...
A. 17 May 2007: really good
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Erm... I hoovered up my sister's hamster by mistake!!!! Do I get her another one without saying or do I come clean?
Q. ok now this may sound funny to some people (my friends have found it hilarious!!) but i feel so guilty! My sister turned 11 the other day and for her birthday my parents bought her a little hamster which she called Splodge (dont ask me why). ...
A. 4 March 2007: yeah get another one it's for the best.... you will just have to live with your guilt for your
lil' sisters sake ;-) ... (read in full...)
How can I make it clearer to him that I want him to kiss me!?
Q. hey! me and my bf are both 16 and have been togther for 2 months yesterday :) all we have done so far is hug ALL THE TIME! and about a month ago we kissed but we havent kissed since :( but i really want to! he is too tall for me to reach up and ...
A. 4 March 2007: Sorry I didn't finish my answer before it clicked as complete! I think that if one you doesn't make a move soon than your relationship will burn out through simple frustartion.
So what have you got to loose!?... (read in full...)
How can I make it clearer to him that I want him to kiss me!?
Q. hey! me and my bf are both 16 and have been togther for 2 months yesterday :) all we have done so far is hug ALL THE TIME! and about a month ago we kissed but we havent kissed since :( but i really want to! he is too tall for me to reach up and ...
A. 4 March 2007: I think that you should just make the move... I know you want the romance of him sweeping you away... but I think he is too nervous for that... maybe he is thinking exactly the same thing but feels pressured to get it all right.... Maybe he is ... (read in full...)
Im 40 he is 21, is it selfish of me to stay with him ?
Q. I am a fourty year old lady dating a twenty two year old guy we have been together for thirteen months we live together and have done since day one almost. Do you think its selfish or not of me staying with him? There are so many reasons for staying ...
A. 4 March 2007: Well he sounds quite mature and obviously wants a mature women rather then a younger lady who doesn't know what she wants out of life.... People will be surprised how mature soem young people are.... I am only 20 but get on best with people 30+ I ... (read in full...)
I really want to know what this boy was saying about me!
Q. I am 13 and in some love troubles. I like this boy in my class and people say he likes me (in that way) i saw him talking to a friend about me but i could not hear what they were saying i realy want to know. What can I do? Is it ok for a girl to ...
A. 4 March 2007: Well I know how nervous it can make you to think about asking a boy out... I can't remember if I've ever doen that or not! But the real trick to the trade is to hang around with them lots and just flirt loads until they definatly get the picture... ... (read in full...)
Can precum make someone pregnant?
Q. me and my boyfriend had sex twice, one with a condom one without... and it was my first time, he didnt cum inside of me, i guess im asking if PRECUM is enough sperm to get someone pregnant? and we had sex January 1st and my period was over Decembe...
A. 5 January 2007: yes
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He ended their relationship! . Is he just running scared or is he really over her?
Q. my friend and her boyfriend broke up. she still loves him. she called him and when he said he was over her he didnt sound convincing. i know he loved her by the way he talked about her when they went out. he said they were just going too fast so he ...
A. 30 December 2006: When you come out of a relationship you don't 'get over' it straight away. There is always a period where you sit and think about your ex... or wonder if you have made the right decision or not.
There comes a point when you stop being angry an... (read in full...)
Doesn't bother me when other women chat up my man...is this a sign it's over for us?
Q. ok, here goes, with partner 6 years, engaged to be married, men suddenly taking interest in me, but since im getting the attention, it doesnt bother me anymore when girls chat up my man... is this a sign its over?...
A. 28 December 2006: Well ask yourself how would you feel if you saw him kissing another girl. There is a difference to becoming comfortable with other women trying it on with your man and then feeling comfortable with him actually being owth somebody else.
I agr... (read in full...)
I had sex and now feel uncmfortable that I may have been too young to do it. Is this normal?
Q. i am a teenager and i have had sex and am not regreting it but now i just feel uncomfortable a little and as though i may be too young to have done it. i now cant stop thinking about him either. is this normal?...
A. 27 December 2006: Hiya yes this is normal.....
Did you use contraception when you done it? It's fine that you felt uncomfortable I would suggest that you don't do it again for a while...... you can do that you can wait until you feel more comfortable with it.
N... (read in full...)
Does he genuinely like me, or is he just being a nice guy?
Q. Hey there, I met this guy Nov. 17th. He's a bit older than me. Normally, I'm a very shallow person but when I saw him, looks were the last thing that I thought of. I'm starting to really like him, but I don't know if he likes me in return. Like he ...
A. 27 December 2006: Hiya
After reading your question I'm not really sure what to say... None of us on this site can tell you if he likes you or not because none of us know him.... Yes it is possible that he likes you..... but in my OPINION he is just playing a game..... (read in full...)
We have been separated for one year and now he wants a reconciliation!
Q. hello. my husband and i have been separated for almost 1 year now with little or no contact.hes not interested in reconciliation but sent me a anniversary card. what do i make of this?...
A. 27 December 2006: Hiya
I would assume that he's just letting you know that he is thinking of you. He may not want to get back together with you but it doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you. After all the two of you were married.
If you are uncomfortable wi... (read in full...)
My boyfriends EX is really hassling me, what do I do?
Q. im not sure how much i can take this but my bf ex is sending me mental she keeps adding me on myspace at school she asking why did i block her on msn and coz the only way to town is pass her house she tell my bf who im going town with and wat time ...
A. 27 December 2006: Well it sounds like she wants her ex back. That's probably why she is trying to 'make friends' with you... Then can judge how close or serious you two really are.
If I were you I would go talk to her. You know not everything in life has to be de... (read in full...)
I can't adjust to my new job..and I am snappy with my bf for no reason. How can I deal with this?
Q. iam in a ld for a year and a half everything's fine i just moved out coz i get a better job, my bf is still hunting for a good job.the problem is i cant adjust to the new workplace no friends no relatives. i am in a alien world to top it all i have ...
A. 27 December 2006: Hiya
Relationships always go under strain when there is one half of the couple looking for work. It always causes more pressure for the couple and you can only stand this pressure for so long before it all starts to comes out. With you all the ... (read in full...)
How can I get the passion back?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year. It used to be great. We experimented a little bit, and we broke up for a little while. We got back together and we have been for about two months. We only broke up for a few weeks. Now she seems to ...
A. 26 December 2006: Heya
It all really depends on the reason why you two split up in the first place and also how you got back together. If it's not passionate anymore than maybe she's moved on from that or it could be that she doesn't feel the spark right now.
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SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 21 December 2006: willy wombat have you started the celebrations early!!!
Can you beleive I have doen my full xmas pressie shopping list in 1 day!! And the food.....
hehehe eyes wide open you made me giggle... Well merry xmas everyone.. I look forward to the n... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 19 December 2006: NB:
If there does happen to be any young mothers in Crawley from here then I do not mean to cause any offence to you.... I am just trying to explain how 'deep' a situation can get... I'm not suggesting that everyone is this stereotype... I am exp... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 19 December 2006: Hiya
Yeah I agree some people make the decision too lightly and some people really do need to responsibility for they're actions, but can a 12 year old really bring up a child... I would prefer if I had a daughter at 12 get pregnant for her to h... (read in full...)
Is abortion right or wrong?
Q. abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...
A. 19 December 2006: I agree with Dr Pete, this isn't the place to discuss this... but seeing a syour are discussing it I would liek to add something.
For those of you who say abortion is wrong and if you get pregnant you should have the child and bring it up or give ... (read in full...)
Are condoms as effective if used when in a pool?
Q. This is a stupid question, I know, but are condoms as effective if used when in a pool? (The kind we're using has spermicide; I'm not sure if chlorine will have any effect of it's effectiveness.) See, I've just gone off the pill because it was ...
A. 19 December 2006: There are man pills coming out!!!! Where did you find this out!?!?
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I was going to date her but my feelings have changed. How do I tell her this?
Q. I just want a girl to know that i was gonna ask her for relationship although the feelings are no more now..!!! Anybody could suggest something?...
A. 19 December 2006: Hiya
Well thanks for the feedback.. It always help you to give someone good advice. This situation is how I thought it was.... You liked her and she knew you liked her.... Now she's done soemthing that seems inconsiderate to you. And your feelings... (read in full...)
Are condoms as effective if used when in a pool?
Q. This is a stupid question, I know, but are condoms as effective if used when in a pool? (The kind we're using has spermicide; I'm not sure if chlorine will have any effect of it's effectiveness.) See, I've just gone off the pill because it was ...
A. 19 December 2006: Hiya
The quick answer to this question is no. Condoms are not as effective in a pool the chlorine could damage the condom and tear it so taht the protectiveness breaks!
It is not advisable for you to use a condom as sufficient protection in a ... (read in full...)
He's asking me to have an abortion!
Q. just found out i am pregnant but my partner dsnt want it he said hv abortion or he will walk i was on the pill but missed sum when i was poorly i no irisponsable of me. he came round to talk bout it he said he just dsnt want anymore kids as hes got ...
A. 19 December 2006: Hi
Don't do it.
You want to have your baby so you CANNOT do this! I have been there honey I'm a lot younger than you and I guess that helped contribute to my decision. I was pregnant when I was 18 and me and my partner just weren't ready. I... (read in full...)
I was going to date her but my feelings have changed. How do I tell her this?
Q. I just want a girl to know that i was gonna ask her for relationship although the feelings are no more now..!!! Anybody could suggest something?...
A. 17 December 2006: Well if you didn't ask her already and now you don't want to I wonder if there is any point in telling her! She might wonder why you don't like her anymore and it could upset her.
What did make you change your mind? and if you changed your min... (read in full...)
Had sex with no protection! Should I take a morning after pill?
Q. I had unportected sex with my long term boyfriend and don't know what to do! should i take the morning after pill?...
A. 17 December 2006: Hiya thanks for giving us a follow up it's always nice when people respond to your advice.
So... you're not sure how to tell your mum. You don't need to tell her that you had to take the morning after pill. I think that's your business really. ... (read in full...)
Had sex with no protection! Should I take a morning after pill?
Q. I had unportected sex with my long term boyfriend and don't know what to do! should i take the morning after pill?...
A. 16 December 2006: If you don't want to risk getting pregant then you have to take the morning after pill.... You can get it from your local sexual health clinic for free (they will also give you free condoms!) You need to take it straight away, it won't work after 72 ... (read in full...)
For xmas..what do you give a bf who is financially stable and can anything he wants?
Q. what is a best gift for my boyfriend, he can have everything what he want because he is stable in his money., but i still wanted to give him something on x'mas any suggest?...
A. 16 December 2006: Hiya I think the phrase used in the below answer hits the nail on the head! Give him something that money just can't buy. Something with some sentimental value for the both of you.
I'd handmake his pressie if I were you. You could make him a vi... (read in full...)
Would you keep cheating if you could get away with it?
Q. Here is one for the girls and the lads.... If you cheated (whether you were drunk or sober, intentional or unitentional) and you got away with it. I mean either your partner didn't find out, or your partner did find out and either forgave you or d...
A. 22 March 2006: P.S he is an ex boyfriend now, I'm just wanna figure where I went wrong. I think I gave him my trust and he abused it, any feedback is appreciated........... (read in full...)
Would you keep cheating if you could get away with it?
Q. Here is one for the girls and the lads.... If you cheated (whether you were drunk or sober, intentional or unitentional) and you got away with it. I mean either your partner didn't find out, or your partner did find out and either forgave you or d...
A. 21 March 2006: Hey Shania thanks for your insight, but I'm posting this question because this is what he has done to me. I have never cheated on him, like you said my consience wouldn't let me, plus I have respect! However I think he knew he could get away with ... (read in full...)
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