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writes: Hi..! I got married around one year ago. We had an arranged marraige. I met my wife just once and she looked very impressive and gud looking to me. Good looks were always a priority for me over anything else. We met around 3 times before formally getting engaged. Ours is a little conservative family and that too into a big social circle. After getting engaged, i realised that she didnot have the personality or looks that i have always expected my wife to have. But it was too late and i persisted with that decision and went ahead with the marraige thinking her looks and personality can be worked on. But soon after marraige things became worst and a feeling has started to come that i have done blunder.Though i kept silent because of my family and her reputation, but it becomes very difficult for me to cope up with situation when i see some beautiful /gud looking girls around me and my heart starts crying.My wife is a very gud person and i feel sorry for her.But it is becoming very difficult for me to keep myself motivated. I have lost interest in life and carry a sad personality now.I know after some years this feeling might go off but this is a very tough time for me.Please suggest..how important is looks of spouse in marraige.Also suggest me a way to deal with this problem and take my mind off from looks part. Life looks tough ahead..Awaiting ur reply guys... Thanks..
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reader, lillyntally +, writes (1 February 2006):
If you find her unattractive now and regret marrying her, I think you will only resent her more later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2006): Stop going on about her looks. You have mentioned that she is a very good person. Start on that and build It up not down. She gives you respect and is not abusive to you. What is your problem. Having a beautiful face does not mean the same on the inside. You cannot be in a marriage based on looks only there has to be some other positive factor i.e. personality, humor etc...
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reader, Amber  +, writes (27 January 2006):
 A'blunder'??!!! How can you be so heartless? Don't tell me no one's ever told you that beauty comes from within. A person could look like a supermodel but have the personality of a turnip! You need to get your priorities straight, get to know your wife, you might just discover that she is beautiful in her own way. Unlike you. You are ugly, personality-wise.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 January 2006):
 I would love to be able to help you but I do not fully understand your culture or what it means to be in an arranged marriage. I thought I would leave this message tho because I wanted to wish you luck in your quest for answers.
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