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Husband addicted to prostitutes!
Q. Can I regain trust in my husband, married for 28 years found out 3 weeks ago he has been seeing prostitutes for 11 years but stopped 14 months ago because he found one 55 miles away that he has seen twice a week, bought lots of presents for etc. ...
A. 21 December 2012: Sorry, can't leave only, you touch my heart If your strong enough.. I would like you to ask him where you come in. Forget about the children, the church, other people... but ask him.... how does a woman lie down with a man who will sleep with any ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to prostitutes!
Q. Can I regain trust in my husband, married for 28 years found out 3 weeks ago he has been seeing prostitutes for 11 years but stopped 14 months ago because he found one 55 miles away that he has seen twice a week, bought lots of presents for etc. ...
A. 21 December 2012: No, not rambling, but actually very mature and understanding. This type of addiction isn't the normal thing and it's devastating for anybody to try to cope with.
How can you change you heart. You can't, that's what the church is for, they sho... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to prostitutes!
Q. Can I regain trust in my husband, married for 28 years found out 3 weeks ago he has been seeing prostitutes for 11 years but stopped 14 months ago because he found one 55 miles away that he has seen twice a week, bought lots of presents for etc. ...
A. 4 December 2012: Big hugs annon,
I can imagine how raw and devastated you feel. Sigh.
He's a sex addict and he is still in denial. Two and a half years already, he probably done as well as he can.
It's an addiction, not normal, it's compulsive behaviour... (read in full...)
How on earth can I get over him watching porn?
Q. Ok, so I have insecurity problems and feel embarassed and angry at myself because I feel I'm not "normal". I am one of those girls that feels really jealous, insecure, threatened, etc., about porn. I know it's my problem. But I just haven't been ...
A. 28 January 2010: Had some further ideas, as an attempt to explain why some people enjoy pornography.
Sex with the partner you love is very different to an orgasm by yourself using pornography. One is a true expression of love, it involves care and an ability ... (read in full...)
My Wife's Boss wants an affair with her
Q. My wife attended her work Christmas party and her boss said he wanted to have an affair with her and other comments, such as her body it so hot he want to Fuc* her etc. I was furious and confronted her boss. He said it was all in kidding....
A. 28 January 2010: Honeypie, remember, guys like this start off with comments, and if they have nothing to fear, then they make it physical. He's got to be stopped, before he grabs your wife and assaults her for real. At the moment he has nothing to fear, so he ... (read in full...)
Shes back to stripping, she says she will keep her knickers and ring on,all week I saw her for a few hours on wednesday and thats it! am I being unreasonable...?
Q. Hi, I want some other peoples on opinion on this as I don't know whether its me being unreasonable or whether I am justified in being upset. I have been going out with a girl a while and we are engaged and we are very much in love. In the pas...
A. 28 January 2010: Exactly Lazyguy,
Let's knock the "stripping" thing on the head, it's a distraction. The basic problem is this, "why doesn't she call you, why doesn't she want to see you and spend time with you? Why dose she prefer to go out with her friends. Is ... (read in full...)
We are cousins and madly in love, should we tell?
Q. ok, well a few years ago my cousin came to stay with us for a while and we imediately became really close, then one night he kissed me (although i had been wanting too for ages i didnt, because i wasnt sure how he would react.) anyway we ended up ...
A. 24 January 2010: You can legally marry, have sex and be in a relationship with your cousin. In some parts of the UK and cultures within the UK this is totally encouraged and seen as a source of joy in making the family stronger. In some parts and cultures of the ... (read in full...)
Shes back to stripping, she says she will keep her knickers and ring on,all week I saw her for a few hours on wednesday and thats it! am I being unreasonable...?
Q. Hi, I want some other peoples on opinion on this as I don't know whether its me being unreasonable or whether I am justified in being upset. I have been going out with a girl a while and we are engaged and we are very much in love. In the pas...
A. 24 January 2010: The girl wants to go to college, she's already tried to change her line of work and do some hairdressing. It's hard to leave a well paying job like stripping and start again in a career that is not only badly paid, but is hell on the feet. It's ... (read in full...)
How on earth can I get over him watching porn?
Q. Ok, so I have insecurity problems and feel embarassed and angry at myself because I feel I'm not "normal". I am one of those girls that feels really jealous, insecure, threatened, etc., about porn. I know it's my problem. But I just haven't been ...
A. 24 January 2010: Original poster.. as I said, "don't ask, don't tell" may be a good way for you to get over this. Tell your guy how much it disgust you, and then ask him to find away of following his porn "hobby", in a way that doesn't expose you to it. He can ... (read in full...)
My Wife's Boss wants an affair with her
Q. My wife attended her work Christmas party and her boss said he wanted to have an affair with her and other comments, such as her body it so hot he want to Fuc* her etc. I was furious and confronted her boss. He said it was all in kidding....
A. 23 January 2010: Under reacting..
This is serious sexual harrassment, and she has witnesses. Take her to the Citizen's Advice Bureau and get advice about making plans to sue him. Her boss is rude with a big mouth, he should pay for his bad manners with money. ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to prostitutes!
Q. Can I regain trust in my husband, married for 28 years found out 3 weeks ago he has been seeing prostitutes for 11 years but stopped 14 months ago because he found one 55 miles away that he has seen twice a week, bought lots of presents for etc. ...
A. 22 January 2010: Ok.. more replies needed... to tell the truth, everything has already been said. But thank you very much for your update, it looks like you've decided to stay and are willing to work this through with him.
It won't be easy, the biggest thing is... (read in full...)
Has anyone else been in my situation and can you offer any support?
Q. hey is anyone out there who was a victim of a sexually assault.. as for the past 2weeks i ahve had nightmares about the attacks and wonderd if some1 on here could surport me but private mail on this website?? im strugglein gettin thro eachday ...
A. 22 January 2010: Hi Katie Kate, I see your from the UK like me.... sorry none of the aunts with experience of this have come through to you, but here's a couple of numbers with people that can help you.
Samaritans... http://www.samaritans.org/
UK: 08457 90 90 ... (read in full...)
Wife hints at a threesome, should I surprise her one day or keep it as a fantasy?
Q. I have always been turned on with the idea of a MMF threesome with my wife. Not Bisexual in anyway, just for her. The other day we had a couple drinks and we started fooling around, the topic came up and she told me the type of guy she would wa...
A. 22 January 2010: Here's the post that Angzw is talking about.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-had-a-group-sex-thing-and-now.html
Before you can even consider threesomes, you have to do a pile of research, and have a strong committed relationship that is ... (read in full...)
How on earth can I get over him watching porn?
Q. Ok, so I have insecurity problems and feel embarassed and angry at myself because I feel I'm not "normal". I am one of those girls that feels really jealous, insecure, threatened, etc., about porn. I know it's my problem. But I just haven't been ...
A. 22 January 2010: Bharat Mehta can you please write a longer article about sexual pleasure done in a more spiritual way. It would be a great help to many couples in developing sexual intimacy in a more satisfying way. I study tantric, and the emphasis in society on ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to him about my issues? WITHOUT yelling, screaming, or becoming hostile.
Q. I am becoming one of those girls that yell at their boyfriend about everything. I feel automatically horrible and a lot of the time it's just because I want him to understand something that is bothering me. I feel I may have an anger issue. Whenever ...
A. 22 January 2010: Read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by Dr John Grey. It's a classic textbook explaining differences in communication styles within relationships. It will help you to put yourself in his shoes, and find a way to talk to him in a more ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to date me, not physically cheat, but also date others
Q. I have been dating a girl exclusively since the end of October 2009, she's 25, and was previously married to her first ever boyfriend, whom she has a daughter with. They divorced nearly a year ago, and I am her second relationship since. When we ...
A. 22 January 2010: What was the lies you told her and she told to you?
Lies in a relationship are a deal breaker, this thing dosen't look like it's going anywhere.... (read in full...)
My husband watches gay porn but denies he's gay?
Q. I am very confused... My husband and I have never really had much of a sex life and he hates french kissing, oral sex (given or received), as he says it's degrading. I ALWAYS have to initiate sex and even then it's such a chore to him. I always ...
A. 22 January 2010: Sorry you only got one answer.. but there is nothing that anyone can add, thethingsthatyoutellyourself has said it all. Your husband is a Christian, and for many Christians, homosexuality is a sin. He admits to struggling with "homosexuality on an ... (read in full...)
How on earth can I get over him watching porn?
Q. Ok, so I have insecurity problems and feel embarassed and angry at myself because I feel I'm not "normal". I am one of those girls that feels really jealous, insecure, threatened, etc., about porn. I know it's my problem. But I just haven't been ...
A. 22 January 2010: Damn.. so sorry babes, I'm one of them women who has no problems with pornography. I've found it very useful in helping women develop their sexuality, open their minds and get over past issues of abuse. I am thankful to many of the people working ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being childish by hanging up on me?
Q. why is it that when my boyfriend of 3 years hangs up on me when he does not like hearing what I have to say he doesnt talk to me for a couple of days. Is this childish or isnt it. Hes had a bad very bad marriage. thank you. ...
A. 22 January 2010: No it's not childish. People deal with things in different ways, some people like to walk away instead of getting into arguments, some people like to talk things out, some people like to break things, some people like to cry.
A lot of men deal... (read in full...)
I am in a LDR and pregnant and jealous of my b/f's female friends
Q. Hey everyone, I'm 37 years old, I've been married once before for almost 10 years but am now divorced. In June of last year, I met someone on-line who lives in the States (I live in Canada) and we've been dating ever since. In July, I got preg...
A. 22 January 2010: Many millions of men all around the world have friendships with women and still manage to stay married and faithful. Not everyone who spends time together wants to automatically have sex. What do bisexual people do, sleep with all their men and ... (read in full...)
Do I "hang on" or "move on"?
Q. I met an awesome guy online last September and thought we were going to be freinds, but he had other ideas, as he wanted to meet and I was over the moon. However, the day before we were supposed to meet, I guess I got a weird vibe, as he still ...
A. 22 January 2010: "However, the day before we were supposed to meet, I guess I got a weird vibe, as he still wouldn't tell me where we were supposed to meet and asked him bluntly- to which he cancelled." (Quote)
Your guts tell you that there is something strange ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is a girl
Q. My boyfriend has a bestfriend and she's a girl.. I knew about her before me and him became afficial.. the talk every now and then.. and once before my boyfriend gave her my number and she called me saying "you don't ever have to worry about me and ...
A. 22 January 2010: Can a man and woman be friends.. why not.. gay guys can have straight men as friends and don't want to screw them.. people are not animals.. you don't want to have sex with everyone of the opposite sex. Of course men and women can be friends, lot's ... (read in full...)
We had a group sex thing and now my g/f isnt talking to me
Q. my gf and I are both 22, we decided together we wanted to try a group swinging thing with an older couple. we met a cool older couple on line (54 female and 58 male) and met last night. During the thing my gf seemed to really enjoy herself, but once ...
A. 22 January 2010: Sex is not simple, it can involve emotions that may not be present at intercourse, but bring strange thoughts to mind afterwards. Group sex sounds exciting and fun during fantasy, and at the time it may be a wonderfully passionate experience, but ... (read in full...)
Advice on doing a good striptease???
Q. My and my boyfriend have planned to have a sexy night soon. One thing that I would really like to do is a strip tease for him as I've never done one properly before for him. I was just wondering what actually makes a good strip tease? Do I start wi...
A. 13 January 2010: Damn... AskOldersis... now that is a real turn on... (run's off to find tribal mask and rainstick) boom, boom!!!!... (read in full...)
Is your first time really special?
Q. When people say your first time is special is that..really..true or are they saying its fun have fun..is it bad to think that i want to get my first time through so i can get the pain over with..idk i KNOW im 15 but it seems like its time to be ...
A. 13 January 2010: First time is special when your with someone you love and someone who loves you back. Otherwise it's embarrassing and shamefull, and painfull, espcially when your in a hurry and do it with someone who dosen't like you and only see's you as cheap ... (read in full...)
One day he talks to me and the next he ignores me. Why?
Q. One day he smiles and talks to me, the next day he ignores me. What could it be? About a year ago I noticed this guy in the street, he noticed me too and we smiled at each other. This went on for a while. Then I bumped into him in a coffee shop...
A. 13 January 2010: Ok.. sorry.. if he's not single, he dosen't fancy you and dosen't want to lead you on.. but I don't think he's single... Other than that.. maybe somebody has been gossiping and he's found out stuff about you that he dosen't like.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of six years has female friends I don't like
Q. hey everyone i am new to this so i hope someone can help me... i been in a 6yr relationship and i have some insecurities...so recently my bf found out i messaged this girl on his friends list on myspeace...it was a simple thing and i wasvery polite ...
A. 13 January 2010: "i been in a 6yr relationship and i have some insecurities"... Your the one with insecurities, your the one who spends her time watching other people, rather than working on herself and learning to be happy and confident. You don't like his f... (read in full...)
I recently had an abortion and now I feel I'm spiraling out of control...
Q. I recently had a surgical abortion at 9 1/2 weeks. That is, i was put under general anesthetic and the pregnancy was sucked out :( My boyfriend has been really suppotive and so have all my friends so I've been trying to put on a brave face but it's ...
A. 13 January 2010: sigh... sorry babes.. sorry your feeling like this... You could try reading some books on other women who have suffered this way. Abortions are always hard for everyone, but it will get better eventually. Contact your local family planning ... (read in full...)
Advice on doing a good striptease???
Q. My and my boyfriend have planned to have a sexy night soon. One thing that I would really like to do is a strip tease for him as I've never done one properly before for him. I was just wondering what actually makes a good strip tease? Do I start wi...
A. 13 January 2010: Great question... mmmmm... find a nice sexy song, and practise hard turning the words and music into dance moves before you actually perform for him... then you make sure to take off your clothes slowly. Always make sure that you are touching a p... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to date me, not physically cheat, but also date others
Q. I have been dating a girl exclusively since the end of October 2009, she's 25, and was previously married to her first ever boyfriend, whom she has a daughter with. They divorced nearly a year ago, and I am her second relationship since. When we ...
A. 12 January 2010: And it's only been 3 months, much too soon for anyone to committ to anything. It's still so early in your relationship, see how things go, and if you can't wait, or can't stand it, then maybe she's not the right girl for you. I think you should ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to date me, not physically cheat, but also date others
Q. I have been dating a girl exclusively since the end of October 2009, she's 25, and was previously married to her first ever boyfriend, whom she has a daughter with. They divorced nearly a year ago, and I am her second relationship since. When we ...
A. 12 January 2010: From where I'm looking, she's doing what she said she will do. She's dating, and she's meeting new guys, but none of them match up to you. She's starting to realise that your the right guy. Give her some time, and I have a feeling that she'll ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents to let him visit for a few days?
Q. So I've been talking with this guy on the computer for a few weeks now. But I already feel like I've known him for so long already. I talk to him through IM, texting, and the website that I first met him on. I know that it's not maybe the smartest ...
A. 7 January 2010: OK... lying and telling stories, not a good idea. I'm not to keen on the webcam/skype thing either, I don't think that will set their minds at rest, unless he's parents agree to appear on it.
I do like the idea of causually mentioning him more... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents to let him visit for a few days?
Q. So I've been talking with this guy on the computer for a few weeks now. But I already feel like I've known him for so long already. I talk to him through IM, texting, and the website that I first met him on. I know that it's not maybe the smartest ...
A. 7 January 2010: It's your age.. you is young....
Best thing.. don't tell them you met him on the internet.. they will think he's a serial killer or a rapist.. Sit down with him and make up a good story. He's a cousin of a school friend.. you met him at the libr... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to date me, not physically cheat, but also date others
Q. I have been dating a girl exclusively since the end of October 2009, she's 25, and was previously married to her first ever boyfriend, whom she has a daughter with. They divorced nearly a year ago, and I am her second relationship since. When we ...
A. 4 January 2010: Yep!!! Heard this before, and I know it hurts, but is her way of making sure she dosen't make the same mistake again.
Look at it from her position.. She met a guy, fell in love, got married and it didn't work. Now she meets you, your the firs... (read in full...)
He went back to his ex, going to try things out for 3 months, what am I supposed to do?
Q. About 6 months ago (June, 2009) I started getting to know G. better, we really matched... the only unfortunate thing was that he was going to marry someone else next year. 6 months ago I was dating a boy myself, but as I got closer to G. (let's call ...
A. 4 January 2010: One answer babes.. if a guy is in love with you, and your soulmate.. he chooses to be with you and only you, no other woman will do.
In this situation, you are second best, he hasn't put you first, he's put you second. She's number one, she's th... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend is a wanna-be-replica of me!
Q. Is it just me or is it creepy? My ex-boyfriend and i broke up about a year ago. It was my choice and a good choice, however after casually running into him a few times I met his new girlfriend...who really reminds me of...me. Not in a good sense at ...
A. 4 January 2010: Who cares... my ex's girlfriend looks like me.. (I've seen the pictures) but she's not me.. there is only one me, I'm unique.. and sorry to say he realised that and they have now broken up....
I liked her, cause, well, she looked like me, but ... (read in full...)
2 years together but very little contact
Q. I have been with my current for almost 2 years after several years of friendship. My issue is that we have very little to no contact..i mean kisses and hugs are it we enter the relationship knowing of each others desires and limitation. I am very ...
A. 4 January 2010: Your question is hard... trauma and abuse from childhood has to be dealt with, otherwise it keeps you scared, frightened and trapped inside. You have grown and learnt to overcome some of your experiences, she has not, and inside she is still a ... (read in full...)
There are too many things getting in the way of us being together, what should I do?
Q. im 15, i like a guy older than me, in general being around him makes me happy. but things keep getting in the way like his age, which is 19, family and other people. these people are constantly around him and his family, aka his brother hates me ...
A. 4 January 2010: Your 15.. the guy is 19... that is a big problem. You may like him, but in your country, he is a young adult and you are a little child. Unfortunately, we can't always be with the people we like. I suggest that you try to forget about romance ... (read in full...)
Husband impotent, doctors no idea why
Q. Is it possible that man, can go impotent for years with one partner ,but get it back later with an other one? I'm just in a turmoil,because my husband went suddenly limp,a few years ago, and the doctors has no clue,why. They run tests,and he is no...
A. 4 January 2010: Real difficult one... mmmmm.. see if you can get a referal to see a sexual therapist... you need an expert on this... If he can gain an errection but can't sustain it, then it's something his thoughts are doing in his head. He needs to talk to ... (read in full...)
Sooooo unhappy in my marriage...
Q. Hello, I'm 20 years old, got married at 18 and feel that I made a huge mistake. Yea I know.. most are gonna think "umm yea of course you did". I knew my husband for a year before I got married and now I feel like I should have gotten to know him ...
A. 7 December 2009: It won't get better.. He already drinks, and shouts at you and embarrasses you in front of strangers. He's angry and accusing you of things you don't do.. your frightened to walk in the world with your head held high, your scared and frightened by ... (read in full...)
He lied, I wasn't his first. Should that matter?
Q. Well me and my fiance have been together for 10 years, I was 14 when we started him 18. Well when we first started he had told me he wasn't a virgin and had sex with his girlfriend before me, but then after we had sex he said he was lying. Off an on ...
A. 5 December 2009: Your right.. I am missing the point... He has lied, and continues to lie, and you don't know where you stand with him... yep, that hurts, and it makes it hard to trust. Back off on the whole subject for a while.. Just don't bring it up, let it die. ... (read in full...)
One day he talks to me and the next he ignores me. Why?
Q. One day he smiles and talks to me, the next day he ignores me. What could it be? About a year ago I noticed this guy in the street, he noticed me too and we smiled at each other. This went on for a while. Then I bumped into him in a coffee shop...
A. 5 December 2009: I don't think he's single.... (read in full...)
He spends 2-3 night a week with his friends instead of me. Is that normal?
Q. Hi I have a question: is it normal for your guy to spend 2 or 3 times a week with his friends after work and not with you? My guy see's me 2 times a week on his days off and sometimes 3 times a week if he has time during a break at one of his jobs. ...
A. 5 December 2009: Four months is a very short time. He would be a bad friend if he just changed his life and dropped them. Don't know what's too much time to spend away from you, it really depends on the couple and the situation. I don't think he should stop ... (read in full...)
How do I stop seeing my ex when my feelings for him won't die?
Q. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because he was a cheater and my family did not approve of him because of what he was doing. So I jumped into a relationship to get over him but I was never over him. I have been with my current boyfriend going on ...
A. 5 December 2009: Five kids involved, and your thinking about making another one. Put your love life at the bottom of the pile, and start to think about what is best for your kids, who would be the best father to them. Actually, neither guy sounds that great, they ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated and left me twice, and I have a GF who is hurt because I'm still married... what should I do??
Q. Please I need help (tears). I'm shaking and crying writing this letter. Reader....Please take time to read this if you can. I have been married for 16 years. My wife is very controlling and is very jealous of me. A few years ago I was into modeling. ...
A. 5 December 2009: You don't want your wife, but you went out and got a girlfriend. You didn't love your girlfriend enough to leave your wife and be with her. You don't wear your wedding ring because you don't want to. And you say that women are abusive and unkind ... (read in full...)
He lied, I wasn't his first. Should that matter?
Q. Well me and my fiance have been together for 10 years, I was 14 when we started him 18. Well when we first started he had told me he wasn't a virgin and had sex with his girlfriend before me, but then after we had sex he said he was lying. Off an on ...
A. 5 December 2009: Another thing... what are you going to do if he wasn't a virgin? Are you gonna leave him and try to find a virgin guy even though your no longer a virgin. Are you gonna stay with him and keep nagging him and crying and feeling bad and upset? What ... (read in full...)
He lied, I wasn't his first. Should that matter?
Q. Well me and my fiance have been together for 10 years, I was 14 when we started him 18. Well when we first started he had told me he wasn't a virgin and had sex with his girlfriend before me, but then after we had sex he said he was lying. Off an on ...
A. 5 December 2009: Your overeacting... what matters more, the 10years you've spent together, or having a man that is pure. Virginity is totally overated in my opinion. Your not a virgin, neither is he, that's what is happening NOW, the past is gone, and dwelling on ... (read in full...)
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