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writes:hey everyone i am new to this so i hope someone can help me... i been in a 6yr relationship and i have some insecurities...so recently my bf found out i messaged this girl on his friends list on myspeace...it was a simple thing and i wasvery polite but now he feels embaressed and is upset...i really dont like th girls he has as friends he thinks its no big deal..What can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 January 2010):
So he has female friends... that's your problem?
Well unfortunately you just have to get over that and not cause drama. He's with you! Not them.
The only thing that will make you lose him is if you get all dramatic and jealous and send strange messages to his friends.
He wants an adult girlfriend who will talk to him about her insecurities. So do that and ask him to give you a little reassurance.
How would you feel if you had a male friend and he sent them a message rather than talked to you?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Miamine +, writes (13 January 2010):
 "i been in a 6yr relationship and i have some insecurities"...Your the one with insecurities, your the one who spends her time watching other people, rather than working on herself and learning to be happy and confident.You don't like his friends.. too bad.. go find your own freinds that please you better and leave the guy alone. You have only one life to live, no one likes to live with a jailer who decides who they can talk to and what they can do.. Your life aint perfect, you have too much time on your hands and have some personal issues that makes you too controlling for me. Sort out yourself, get a hobby, loose weight, go study, find some friends, join a church.. do anything to make yourself more interesting and less critical, and leave the guy alone. I suggest you start with extra classes in English, you could shine if you went and got help in this area. Fix yourself, and stop demanding other people change to please you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 January 2010):
He's been going out with you for 6 years, and I'm assuming hasn't hurt you or cheated on you or anything. I don't think there's a problem. I think you just need to tell him you need reassurance that he loves you. But if he hasn't done anything wrong at all, this is something you need to accept.
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