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writes:About 6 months ago (June, 2009) I started getting to know G. better, we really matched... the only unfortunate thing was that he was going to marry someone else next year. 6 months ago I was dating a boy myself, but as I got closer to G. (let's call him like that), my feelings were fading for my boyfriend. G. flirted with me, kissed me, and we even slept together... I broke up with my boyfriend but G. never broke up with her... The girl he was going to marry left her country for him and all of her friends, so he was full of guilt, but he couldn't stop seeing me. We saw each other in secret many many times... as he was struggling with his own feelings, he decided to "break" up with her. She moved to another place and he kept seeing me. October she found out about us, but he never told her the truth. He kept spending a lot of time with me, told me he loved me with everything he had, that I was his soulmate and so on... totally in love you would think. I thought we really had a chance up till now. On 1 January he tells me that she gave him a call about giving him another chance. You cannot believe it, but he wants to give her a second chance as he feels very guilty, it would take three months at maximum. We are at day 1 (89 to go..) and I don't know what to think, I don't know anything... People tell me to leave him, that I shouldn't wait for him, but as I said earlier, it feels like he is my soulmate, I love him with all my heart but I cannot stand the thought of him being together with her. What should I do? Imagine that he returns to me after three months, should I wait? Should I continue my own life? Should I fight for him? Please, I don't know anymore, this phase that I'm going through is killing me, and we are only at day 1!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2010):
Yes, continue with your own life. He was willing to cheat on his fiancé with you. That means he will be willing to cheat on you as well. You can do better than this man. He will only hurt you, and you'll only ever be second best.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 January 2010):
 One answer babes.. if a guy is in love with you, and your soulmate.. he chooses to be with you and only you, no other woman will do.
In this situation, you are second best, he hasn't put you first, he's put you second. She's number one, she's the one who can't wait. Harsh to say, your the fool, waiting by the phone, waiting to see if he will choose you or her. Is this what a soulmate doses, is this how prince charming acts. I read the fairy tales, guys that love you, put you first, dump their family, leave their job, beg you on bended knee never to leave them. Guys that love you ache and suffer when they have to spend a day without you.
Guys in love, guys who are your soulmate don't ask you to wait while they check out another girl to see if they prefer her instead.
Have some pride, your worth more than this, live your life and find a man who wants you with all his heart and puts you first.
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