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I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 19 March 2010: Whatever Mr... your advice is no help at all, as I said before the poster has moved past all of this, and wasn't looking for your defence.
Now do you have any advice or suggestions that will actually help, or are you just here to look down upo... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 18 March 2010: Lonely Two, this is a long conversation that we aunts have had with Jason. He accepts that we were offended by his words about his wife, and we felt the need to defend her. He has apologised, and we have all moved on.
Please read the conversa... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 3 March 2010: Wonderful Jason, thanks for the update, got to admit, I was a little worried about you. Glad your looking into what this means and how you'll rebuild your future in a better way...
As you say, everything happens for a reason.. :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant!
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. A few months ago, I found out that he got his officemate pregnant.She was on her 5th month that time. I know that this is mainly my guys fault, but I found out that the girl knew all along ...
A. 25 February 2010: Stop asking him to take pictures to prove where he is. That's a bit too controlling and will do nothing except push him into the other woman's arms.... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 22 February 2010: Ah.. found your claim..
"“In 2003, a meeting of the American Academy of marriage advocates, two-thirds of the 350 divorce lawyers who attended said the Internet played a significant role in divorces in the past year, with excessive interest in onli... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 22 February 2010: calico58,
You've stated that pornography is the number one cause of divorce in the UK. That is a very intresting claim to make. So like you, I've turned to the internet and am doing research on statistics relevant to the UK.
Firstly, ... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 22 February 2010: "when using unresonable behaviour as a reason for divorce you have to give 5 reasons no more no less"
Divorces are granted for "unreasonable behaviour", not pornography use. As you said yourself, you have to give five reasons not just one. As... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 17 February 2010: LAWYER!!!!!! You got to get one of those right away.... no more booze, you got to protect yourself.... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 17 February 2010: Yea.. please stay off the alcohol and booze... I don't want her to see you crushed and needy, as you said, there's already enough talk. You got to keep your head clear and held high. What's wrong with a man wanting to have a normal married life.
... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 17 February 2010: Jason, has she had any sexual abuse in her childhood, or abusive relationships in the past?... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 17 February 2010: I don't like her so much no more....no thank you, no talk... nothing... at the moment, I got a lot of nasty words to say about that lady.... sorry.... she dosen't bloody deserve you. I so wanted things to go well. :(... (read in full...)
Are we heading back to rekindling our affair? I want it back but I don't want to look foolish if he is no longer interested
Q. I think he started flirting with me again. I am married and developed a flirtation/friendship with a single guy who happened to be my daughter's teacher last year. We moved to the next level and had sex a few times throughout the summer. He broke ...
A. 15 February 2010: Actually, we've probably been a little hard on you, harder than we usually are. But it seems like you are drifting into an affair, and them things usually end up nasty and sticky. Far more better to look at your situation first, check your options ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 15 February 2010: Hi Jason.. thinking of you today on 14th February, hope things are going a little better for you.... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 14 February 2010: yea ... I know your not Chinese race, but I thought you might be a Chinese citizen... sorry, I'll get it right next time... :)... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 13 February 2010: sorry.. OFF TOPIC, but it's nice to see you back Laura.. with your spirtality moving the world, there is never no judgement, people are people, and you always have that guiding light to solve every problem or leave us with wisdom instead. In your ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 13 February 2010: To true Mal, you always got to look at the man (woman) in the mirror.. there are compromises you can make, you can talk.. but if you can't look yourself in the mirror, then it's the wrong decision and it's the wrong way.. :(... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 13 February 2010: Exactly Q.. live and let live, have fun, one life to live..
But Jason's not happy, and you know how kids change things.. Jason's story is different, but it would be good for people with minor stories to hear what he has to say.... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 13 February 2010: Damn Q .... I was already feeling sad over Jason and his wife's story... so much love, different interests make it difficult to work...
And now you go and hit me with this....
"She will be the one that go's down as the person that turned her ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 13 February 2010: Jason, she hasn't just gone like that babes.. you two are married, walking out isn't the end of the story. We had to push you to make a decision, you were so angry with her, you were starting to loose respect.... Wait, she'll be calling soon, but ... (read in full...)
Are we heading back to rekindling our affair? I want it back but I don't want to look foolish if he is no longer interested
Q. I think he started flirting with me again. I am married and developed a flirtation/friendship with a single guy who happened to be my daughter's teacher last year. We moved to the next level and had sex a few times throughout the summer. He broke ...
A. 12 February 2010: The idea that staying together because of the kids is always the best way is very foolish. Children get damaged in bad marriages, they pick up things easily. An unhappy mother who sleeps around, a father who doles out emotional abuse, children ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 11 February 2010: lol... interesting theory Q.. do you have any supporting evidence to back this up? hahahahaha... ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 10 February 2010: Jason, Jason, Jason.. thank you very much. Sorry we are asking you to stir up a hornets nest by being truthful and putting things on the line. But this is necessary, things can't go on like this, the truth needs to be told. I am hoping with all ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 10 February 2010: lol... should have made it clearer that I was talking about all men, and wasn't actually picking on one race.. :)... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 9 February 2010: Fatherly advice... yep you hit the target with that one. Your right, it's not a question of attractiveness or black and white. (as I explained about the situation in the UK) The problem is, for whatever reason we are turning out inadequate men. ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 9 February 2010: see.. Q is white in the deep south.. he don't understand racism and see's tits and ass.. :P... (read in full...)
Are we heading back to rekindling our affair? I want it back but I don't want to look foolish if he is no longer interested
Q. I think he started flirting with me again. I am married and developed a flirtation/friendship with a single guy who happened to be my daughter's teacher last year. We moved to the next level and had sex a few times throughout the summer. He broke ...
A. 9 February 2010: "If you want him, divorce your husband."
I think we missed a bit. Why are still with your husband?... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my bf has a 16 year old daughter who is doing everything in her power to split us up.
Q. my boyfriend has a 16 year old daughter. i'm 19 and he's 50 - she's had a problem with us being together for the whole year and a half we've been together. at first i tried to get on with her but she started being devious and trying to get him back...
A. 9 February 2010: Get back with the ex... pppfff.. she's not a witch she can't make things happen. He's with you and he's bloody happy, whenever they are not around
Again I say... Your 19, but you choose to date a much older man. Because of this your actions ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 9 February 2010: mmm.. Q is a man, and he's white.. he only sees ass and tits, he can't understand racisms... ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 9 February 2010: sltaylor, don't get all sensitive on me and take this personally and get aggressive.. we don't want to match up to the stereotypes... as you can see, the aunts and uncles are trying hard to understand your question and find a solution.. but many ... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: Totally understood Katyani, if you look down, you'll see an apology from me as well.. :)
Mr husband, as you can see, we want you and your wife to be a happy.... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: hahaha.. sorry original poster, for some reason, it seems like all the aunts and uncles have fallen in love with your wife, and keep thinking about what's best for her and are ignoring your valid complaints.. she must be one hell of a woman.... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: Harsh and unfair Katyayni, he said he just wants the sex games to stop, so they can settle down to have a normal family. Yes he played, but now he wants to stop and she won't. He loves her, but he can't get her to leave other people alone.... (read in full...)
Many times I get the distinct feeling that he's avoiding sex. What's the problem?
Q. Please help. I am desperate for advice. I am in a very loving, mutually satisfying relationship with my boyfriend of one year now. We both agree that each is the best thing that has ever happened to the other and have even talked of marriage ...
A. 9 February 2010: ah stuff, so you won't let the porn issue go, it is a problem for you... mmmmmm
Have you brought that underwear yet, have you decided to stop hiding and start celebrating the body you got? ]
Stuff, hate when people are so honest with thei... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 9 February 2010: hahaha... I'm loving it girl.. thanks for me evening reading and the video stuff.. :)... (read in full...)
Is it safe for a woman to take viagra?
Q. My boyfriends got some viagra from his dad and wants us to take it together. Iv read the packet and health risks but it stil says its for male erectile disfunction. Is it safe for women to take viagra (pfizer 25mg)? And if so what are the known ...
A. 9 February 2010: mmm.. Go ask a doctor.. as far as I know Viagra is recommend for men with a medical condition only.... (read in full...)
Are we heading back to rekindling our affair? I want it back but I don't want to look foolish if he is no longer interested
Q. I think he started flirting with me again. I am married and developed a flirtation/friendship with a single guy who happened to be my daughter's teacher last year. We moved to the next level and had sex a few times throughout the summer. He broke ...
A. 9 February 2010: Reader anonymous, every situation is different. I hear you pain, and can feel the depth of your confusion and love. This situation seems different. Sex is the main thing that is mentioned, there doesn't seem much love on this ladies part. She's ... (read in full...)
Do you think Viagra will help my 18 year old BF's erection problems?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now, we're both 18 and we havnt had sex yet (also still virgins). we have been trying to do it recently but every time we try he loses his erection. it's happened 10 times now so we still havent had ...
A. 9 February 2010: Hey! I forgot, bloody Johnny is so needy, he loves compliments, so don't forget to tell him how pretty he is, how strong he is and how wonderful he's gonna feel.... (read in full...)
Do you think Viagra will help my 18 year old BF's erection problems?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now, we're both 18 and we havnt had sex yet (also still virgins). we have been trying to do it recently but every time we try he loses his erection. it's happened 10 times now so we still havent had ...
A. 9 February 2010: hahaha... tea takes long in Britain... :)
Glad I took a break, gave me a chance to look at your post again. Didn't see the part where it says that you are both virgins, so no sex is happening anyway.. hahahaha...
I want you to forget about ... (read in full...)
Are we heading back to rekindling our affair? I want it back but I don't want to look foolish if he is no longer interested
Q. I think he started flirting with me again. I am married and developed a flirtation/friendship with a single guy who happened to be my daughter's teacher last year. We moved to the next level and had sex a few times throughout the summer. He broke ...
A. 9 February 2010: mmmm... your assessment is fair Q, I kinda pictured it that way meself.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another woman pregnant!
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. A few months ago, I found out that he got his officemate pregnant.She was on her 5th month that time. I know that this is mainly my guys fault, but I found out that the girl knew all along ...
A. 9 February 2010: mmmmm.... Don't ask for them not to have pictures together, it will make you look jealous and small.
Also, women can't steal men, men decide to be unfaithful and stray. If he loves you, she won't be able to catch him again, he made a mistake,... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to mention threesomes to girls that I might be risking not having 1-on-1 sex with?
Q. So I just got out of a 6 year marriage and for the last two years or so I've been obsessing about threesomes. I'm a very people-oriented guy and make friends fast and keep them for a long time. I always love being in groups and I've always thought ...
A. 9 February 2010: What type of relationship do you prefer. If you want 1-1 sex, then tell the girl that's all your interested in. If you want a threesome, then again, be truthfulness and explain that you get turned on by this and will be planning it as soon as you ... (read in full...)
Are we heading back to rekindling our affair? I want it back but I don't want to look foolish if he is no longer interested
Q. I think he started flirting with me again. I am married and developed a flirtation/friendship with a single guy who happened to be my daughter's teacher last year. We moved to the next level and had sex a few times throughout the summer. He broke ...
A. 9 February 2010: Sounds like he's interested... Dive right in, go on, break this man's heart, and use him for your sexual pleasure. Doesn't matter that he may love you with all his heart, and he may be suffering. Your a big woman, your desires come first. Your ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my bf has a 16 year old daughter who is doing everything in her power to split us up.
Q. my boyfriend has a 16 year old daughter. i'm 19 and he's 50 - she's had a problem with us being together for the whole year and a half we've been together. at first i tried to get on with her but she started being devious and trying to get him back...
A. 9 February 2010: "What should paul do now?"
Paul seems like a very sensible man. When he noticed there was trouble he split you and his daughter up. He's not a fool, and he's not a child, he knows exactly what she is doing. He knows she's behaving like a bitch,... (read in full...)
Is it safe for a woman to take viagra?
Q. My boyfriends got some viagra from his dad and wants us to take it together. Iv read the packet and health risks but it stil says its for male erectile disfunction. Is it safe for women to take viagra (pfizer 25mg)? And if so what are the known ...
A. 9 February 2010: Why do you want to take Viagra? What's wrong with your sex drive? Viagra is made specifically for men with a medical sexual problem, why do you want to take a tablet that hasn't been prescribed for you? What's wrong with just having sex together, ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 9 February 2010: Thanks Fatherly Advice for sharing your story...
mmmm.. I think I'll go out and look angry and aggressive with a "don't bother me" face. I like smiling, and it gives the most creepy men the wrong ideas. Hope your smiles and confidence don't wo... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: mmmm.. time for some old fashioned man behaviour..
Do what you said, grab your wife and shake her and tell her.. "NO BLOODY MORE! I WANT YOU, I DON'T WANT OTHER PEOPLE HERE NO MORE..." maybe it's time to stand up to her and stop letting her call... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: Slezzy!!!! NO! There are far too many judgemental people here for what is supposed to be an advice site for people with sexual or relationship problems. From what I can understand our aunts and uncles mostly were only defending your wife from ... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 9 February 2010: "Why impose one's self when one is not wanted?" (Original Poster)
Original poster, to have good friends and make strong contacts you have to reach out and risk something. You seem to think people won't like you, but then again, your very picky ab... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: "My point is that no matter how unpopular this O.P. is, he is fundamentally still just a man who has changed his mind about being married to his wife"
Hold your horses anonymous, I don't remember this guy saying he didn't want his wife. You seem... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: Actually I was flippant with my answer, because I'm angry the way you talk about your wife. But the more I think about it, the more it makes sense. She really needs to know that the "swinging" scene has made you loose respect for her.
As fa... (read in full...)
I have no respect for my wife and don't plan on having kids together. How do I tell her?
Q. Please don't judge me for what I write .... My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I love her deeply but I look at her as a whore. We have had a very interesting sex life since meeting, engaging in group sex, 3 sums, public sex and often sw...
A. 9 February 2010: You know what.. show her your post, show her exactly what you wrote to us. Then she will understand exactly what you think of her. I don't think she'll mention anything more about children, and all your problems will be solved.
I am so glad tha... (read in full...)
Many times I get the distinct feeling that he's avoiding sex. What's the problem?
Q. Please help. I am desperate for advice. I am in a very loving, mutually satisfying relationship with my boyfriend of one year now. We both agree that each is the best thing that has ever happened to the other and have even talked of marriage ...
A. 9 February 2010: Ahahahaha.. changing in another room is the last thing you should do, how we supposed to get him interested?
Right we are agreed, it's the pot, the smoking, the general bad life style which is making him lazy and allowing him to take you for gran... (read in full...)
Many times I get the distinct feeling that he's avoiding sex. What's the problem?
Q. Please help. I am desperate for advice. I am in a very loving, mutually satisfying relationship with my boyfriend of one year now. We both agree that each is the best thing that has ever happened to the other and have even talked of marriage ...
A. 8 February 2010: It's not the porn, your right, but the other stuff (He smokes, drinks daily and smokes pot) might be affecting his sex life. They cause desire to go down, and might be a sign of stress. Is he under stress at work or financially, that can also stop ... (read in full...)
Do you think Viagra will help my 18 year old BF's erection problems?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now, we're both 18 and we havnt had sex yet (also still virgins). we have been trying to do it recently but every time we try he loses his erection. it's happened 10 times now so we still havent had ...
A. 8 February 2010: At 18 years old, he's much to young to take Viagra. If he really has a problem, he can't just cover it up, he needs to see a doctor if it's a medical problem.
Usually erection problems, are caused by anxiety and fear, and no tablets are needed a... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 8 February 2010: lol.. yep, lots of DC aunts find facebook and other sites a way of keeping in contact. I will admit that I talk to some of them every day, and we are always considering actual ways that we can meet up. Depends on how social you are, Mal definitely ... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 8 February 2010: Hmmm.. a different view of facebook and social working sites....
My family and friends are on there, I've managed to contact tons of school friends from when I was small. I've also got some Dear Cupid aunts and uncles that I talk too.
On t... (read in full...)
When it comes to nudity and porn my boyfriend has double standards
Q. I think my boyfriend has double stanards. He likes watching porn and even though he's not addicted, he'll defend his porn use until he dies! Well, I don't like him looking at other women. I don't like thinking he gets pleasure from others. I know ...
A. 8 February 2010: Say this to him, just as you said it to us.. "It's unfair. How can I make him realize that if I don't look at other naked men, then he can't look at other naked women?"... (read in full...)
Is it ever too late to give space?
Q. Ok, I lied to my girlfreind and it hurt her. She asked me to give her space, but because I was hurtng bad and missing her, stupid me sent her lots of texts to her too much trying to explain things to her and apoligising. This lasted for two weeks, I ...
A. 8 February 2010: Don't contact her for a couple of months. Then email or text to say hi, and take it from there.... (read in full...)
He wants me to go through with this 3-some even although I'm not really that keen!
Q. A few weeks ago my fiance started texting me asking what I thought about threeseomes. I told him right away that I wanted to do one, thinking that he was talking about a FFM threeseome. I love to pleasure him and turn him on and he has told me ...
A. 8 February 2010: "So now he's mad at me because he claims that he's not enough for me and that I don't really love him, even after I told him that I don't want it. And now he's going to make me do this because he doesn't want me to ever wonder what it's like again, ... (read in full...)
I missed him and want to check if he's okay...
Q. I have offered my man a break as to be honest he was in a bad place with work and housing problems. The problems... met him on a dating 5 months ago and we were getting on fine. Used to text him to check he is alright but it is doing my head in as ...
A. 8 February 2010: 5 months, and already he needs a break, and has requested that you don't call him or text him. Dosen't sound very good. If the relationship was longer, then yes, the request would be reasonable, but at this rate, you'll spend more time apart than ... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 8 February 2010: "in fact it is still one of the biggest causes for divorce worldwide and im pretty sure that the divotrce states porn use rather than insecurity"
Actually I would love to see statistics to prove this, if you have any. Pornography use is not a re... (read in full...)
3 months married and I feel I've made a BIG mistake!!!
Q. Reposted with an update: We've been married for 3 months, been together for 3 and half years in total. We lived together for a year but I moved back in with my parents cos I hated his housemates. We got our own place and moved in a week before th...
A. 8 February 2010: Hi Mrs, yep, I can you that you are open minded to pornography and masturbation.. so we can dump that, because it's not really the problem in your marriage
You know what, I think he's taking you for granted, he doesn't expect you to go anywhere... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: hahahaha... yippie.. we get to choose... but I think we should also think about looking sexy people from different races.. :) mmmm.. thinking about handsome Chinese people now.. ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 8 February 2010: Agreed Baddogdj, I shouldn't put words in your mouth that you did not say.
Sorry sltayor that your post may have become a little hot. No harm meant, we are really trying to think about the question and answer it. Race always brings out differen... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: He sounds like he's jealous of your friends and family, as well as scared that he'll loose you.
Interesting, now he's in therapy, so much more to the story than we first thought. Do you love him?... (read in full...)
Am I alone in feeing this way? I hate sex!!!
Q. I hate sex! I am in my fifties... I have a wonderful husband and three adult children. I love them all. I find men attractive, but I hate sex, I always have, I am not a lesbian. It is not all it is crancked up to be. No. My husband does not...
A. 8 February 2010: You are not alone, but you have experienced a lifetime of bad sex. Sex is as fun, wonderful and earth moving as everybody says, when you with a loving partner and somebody who knows exactly what they are doing.
Please take a look at this website,... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: Nope beingblack.. it's my fault.. me and some Chinese guy started a little race war and her original question got lost... sorry, my fault, I must apologise for that., But as you know Mr. British guy with black sisters, this often happens when the ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: yep.. fatherly advice.. it's not the physical beauty that attracts me, or the colour of the skin or even the race or physical build... I like the way men move.. so I don't really like will smith or brad pit.. but I love lawrence fishbourne, paul ... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: Danny DeVito... hahaha.. he's as ugly as sin, very funny, very vulnerable, and everytime I see him I just want to cuddle him and take him away.
Perfect husband material, and that fact that he's short and ugly, turns itself around and makes hi... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: I miss Paulie.. :(... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: I miss Paulie.. :(... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: PS: Now he is looking like the bad one.. so I have to ask the question... why are you still with him? What attracts you to him? What makes you put up with this bad behaviour even though your feeling lonely and ignored?... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: Thanks for getting back to me jamie90, now we can talk honestly my respect for you grows so much. Can't think now, I need thinking time. But please don't worry, I know you are a smart girl with good friends. A man is not everything, your more ... (read in full...)
I know how much I put her through and I want her back!
Q. Dear Cupid. I my ex of 2 and a bit years broke up with me 3 months ago, we had known each other from our last years teaching teaching college. I have done so much wrong in our relationship and I do not know how to make it up to her. I love her ...
A. 8 February 2010: You took her love for granted, you asked her to wait to long with no hope in sight. You pleased yourself and expected her life to freeze and stop moving. One day she woke up and realised life was passing her by. Other people around her found love ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: Not true babes, longer posts give us more information, and bad assumptions help to get the real story out.
Let's put aside the child, she's not the real issue. Your over 18, your 20 (still young) he is older (24)
Now we are left with a prop... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: I miss Paulie.. sigh.. :(... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: sltaylor, you are an absolute star.. yep, that black woman post got a bit heated, and I totally love this new having fun thing.. lol... now how do I play.. :)
I only know Brad Pitt and Will Smith. Both of them are physically attractive, and both... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: Sigh.... "shes crying because she is sad.." NOT shes crying cos shes being a child"
He's talking to a child... we say sad to children, because this is what they understand.. He couldn't say more, because she wouldn't understand it.
The oth... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: By the way.. how old is your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 8 February 2010: Nope... read your own post...
"i was a bit annoyed he couldnt organise someone else to drop her off but said ok didn't complain and organised the night anyway."
Body language speaks louder than words
"he gave me my gift and didnt even look... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 7 February 2010: Glad you brought this one back to the board Troubletoomuch... so many questions around jealousy for friends, past partners, pornography and anything else we can blame for reasons why we aren't getting the relationship that we want.... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 7 February 2010: And yes, I meant for you to feel the little digs.. "small weakling Chinese" stereotypes, bring up raw nerves, just like "black aggressive fat female" dose.. :) No harm meant, this is just discussion.... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 7 February 2010: Damn.. sorry, I wrote an essay.. hahahahaha.. :)... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 7 February 2010: Baddogbj, I accept that you are speaking from your cultural perspective, and understand that you were trying to answer the question that was stated. Yep, you touched a raw nerve, but that's because the UK situation is different, and I felt that you ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: Not my name.. sorry for your pain, sorry your mum wasn't mature enough to make sure you felt comfortable. My story is opposite. As an only child I always came first after my parents divorce. So many times they walked away from relationships, when ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: "I was a bit annoyed he couldnt organise someone else to drop her off......" Jamie90
She's not a toy, she's not a present to be dropped off, she's not a dog that you can dump on someone else. She's a little human being, who is growing and need... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 6 February 2010: And since you brought it up...did you make allowances for race, muscle and bone density... you quote figures that you have no understanding about.... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 6 February 2010: Baddogdj, you said West African women, you never said anything about African American women originally.... I've got Jamaican parents and live in the UK, where do I fit on your statistics... and while your there, can you look up Ethiopian women, they ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 5 February 2010: Hey troubletoomuch, you forgot about me..
And not all black women are fighters, look at me, I'm a little pussy cat.. :)
Caller, yep, notice the dating problem meself... mmmmm... no answer for you, I'm still pondering the issue.... (read in full...)
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