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writes: My wife attended her work Christmas party and her boss said he wanted to have an affair with her and other comments, such as her body it so hot he want to Fuc* her etc. I was furious and confronted her boss. He said it was all in kidding. From talking to her friends at work (all women) this is not the first time he has said things about her. He reffered to her as a slut at one other work party when he was drinking. He also yells at her and other workers if he is mad. My wife does not think its that big of a deal, she said she was creeped out by the comments. But said he is a jerk and not to worry about it. I can't not worry, I don't want anyone treating my wife in this way. Do you think I am over reacting or is she under reacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): Has this potential manstress put you down? Because that happens sometimes when your wife is cheating on you. The other man puts you down because he is jealous and wants your wife all to himself. Even married women can experience being sexually harassed on the job and other men badmouthing their husbands for things they don't do wrong.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Honeypie, remember, guys like this start off with comments, and if they have nothing to fear, then they make it physical. He's got to be stopped, before he grabs your wife and assaults her for real. At the moment he has nothing to fear, so he continues to do what he likes.
Your wife can bring a sexual harassment case against him, and she WILL NOT loose her job, it is illegal for him to fire her. She can also walk out of the job, because she finds it "dangerous to work there", under health and safety laws this would be classed as "unfair dismissal", and again, (because she has witnesses) he would have to pay her shame, embarrassment and loss of earnings.
She'd be a fool to leave it like this. It won't get better, it will only get worse. Guys like this usually end up groping and threatening her to have sex eventually. She needs to take this more seriously, having your boss tell you that your a "slut" and saying he'd like to "fuck you" is total disrespectful, unprofessional and illegal within the UK. It's not kidding around, he can't talk to his lawyer, his accountant, or his bank manager like this. 1976 Sexual Equality laws put a stop to this. It's not funny, it's not creepy, it's downright WRONG and ILLEGAL. She's a professional working woman, not a sex toy for him to lust after.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (23 January 2010):
Wow, what an ass he is! Regardless if he was "joking" or not, that major sexual harassment as others have stated. He definitely needs to lose his job. If he's doing this to other women too, then at least hopefully your wife should have some backup. At least in the U.S. I know that it's illegal to be "punished" for filing a valid sexual harassment claim, as in you can't lose your job or be demoted for filing such a claim. Your wife needs to go to her Human Resources department asap! Or however you would go about conducting that sort of claim in the UK.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 You are not over reacting. Your wife is afraid you are going to punch him in the face so she told you no worries. Before you want to get physical with him, report him to the Labor Board or something like that. What he said constituted harrassment, verbal abuse or disorderly behavior while inebriated.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 January 2010):
Under reacting..
This is serious sexual harrassment, and she has witnesses. Take her to the Citizen's Advice Bureau and get advice about making plans to sue him. Her boss is rude with a big mouth, he should pay for his bad manners with money. In the 21st Century, no woman needs to be subjected to such talk when she's at work. If she dosen't do anything, she's giving him permission to treat her and other women with total disrespect.
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (23 January 2010):
 You definitely are not over reacting, at least i don't think so. His behavior is really inappropriate, especially in the work place. That's not even considering the fact that she's married. Try having a serious conversation with her about it at a time when you're calm and can think rationally. If you yell she'll most likely go on the defensive and not take your worries seriously. Tell her how concerned you are and how you don't want to see her being treated this way. If her boss continues his ways she should talk to him and tell him how uncomfortable it makes her. If he doesn't stop after that I would encourage her to press charges on sexual harassment. However, I wouldn't go yelling at the guy yourself unless things get really out of hand. Your jealousy and anger might only encourage him seeing as the kind of person he seems to be.
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