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I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 4 December 2009: Yippie... communication and getting closer, working on solutions together.. thank you, thank you john, we are all wishing you and your wife all the best in your years together.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't listen to me and I think there is more to his 'friendship' with an older woman
Q. HI i just got married this year in may and me and my husband are having a difficult time. i am currently pregnant this is the second baby our first i miscarried and i have a hard time believing that he still loves me. i accuse him of cheating...
A. 29 November 2009: No money to buy books, no money for yourself. Not allowed to have a cell phone, not allowed to go out without your friends. Not allowed to do your laundry the way you want, not allowed to shop as you wish?????? What the hell is this? Was your ... (read in full...)
How do I act when my girlfriend gives me a blow job?
Q. My girlfriend wants to give me head or bj (i think there the same thing but whatever) because she wants to make me "happy" and she is persitant about it so when she does how am i suppose to react?...
A. 28 November 2009: If you don't like it.. same thing applies..
Thank her, kiss he and compliment her, and tell her you don't think you should try that again... maybe you will prefer doing her next time instead.. no problems though, we like what we like, and unti... (read in full...)
Can people of different social class date?
Q. So for the past few weeks I have been talking to this extremely good looking guy in my sociology class. The other day I missed class to study for my criminal justice test and the following class he asked me why I was away. I told him the reason, he ...
A. 28 November 2009: ah.. I missed something.. appologies coming.. you think your not good enough for them.. lol.. your good enough to marry the king of England.. it's your approval they need right now, your good enough for anyone in the world.. lol... missed that one.... (read in full...)
Can people of different social class date?
Q. So for the past few weeks I have been talking to this extremely good looking guy in my sociology class. The other day I missed class to study for my criminal justice test and the following class he asked me why I was away. I told him the reason, he ...
A. 28 November 2009: Sorry.. I tell it like I see.. I'm not here to make you feel nice.. I'm here to sort your problem out.. You have an idea of two worlds.. one where the rich live, and one where the poor live.. what happened to treating people like human beings, and ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this self-biting?
Q. I have a problem with self biting. Like I overly bite my lip and the inside of my cheek. I also contastly need to pull at the skin around my nails and my finger's are litterly raw from the fact that i pulled off all the skin. IDK what to do, idk why ...
A. 28 November 2009: Yes babes, we know that's why we would like you to talk to someone. Bad habits get replaced by bad habits, unless you know why, know what triggers it and know how to deal with it in a way that makes you safe and happy. You've been given lots of ... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 28 November 2009: I agree RCN.. this guy needs to realise, that marriage can be as exciting as any date with a stranger who dosen't know you... John, get out your aftershave, looks like your going on a date.... (read in full...)
Sex with husband is just getting bad and he won't change his technique!
Q. [Mod note: I'm guessing this person is not actually 14.] I'm not enjoying sex with my husband and this is getting worse over the past 5 years. It is not that I don't enjoy sex (I have had some other 'engagements') or that I don't love my husband....
A. 28 November 2009: Me again......
There's also what I call the "hot and cold" method.. loving kissing and caressing first, for both of you.. that always feels nice, but can sometimes be too gentle and put everyone to sleep..
So the "cold" is.. little, very lit... (read in full...)
Sex with husband is just getting bad and he won't change his technique!
Q. [Mod note: I'm guessing this person is not actually 14.] I'm not enjoying sex with my husband and this is getting worse over the past 5 years. It is not that I don't enjoy sex (I have had some other 'engagements') or that I don't love my husband....
A. 28 November 2009: Talk, talk equal's sleep, sleep.. stop talking and only use non-verbal communication to communicate your desires. Playfull slaps, pushing and turning away always work for me. Talking about a man's technique makes him feel bad, but showing him in ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my girlfriend now she wants to video us having sex...
Q. My Girlfriend has been insisting on to video tape us having sex....I refused. She is kind of mad now. Yeah I asked her why....she said just for memory. I didnt buy that idea. After a couple of months or years I might be on porn sites. pls if u have ...
A. 28 November 2009: Don't trust her.. and she is too insistent on a video that you feel uncomfortable about.. Don't do it.. She will have to learn to respect that you like your privacy, or you will have to leave because she dosen't sound like she respects your feelings ... (read in full...)
I only found out his secret fetish after we were married and I can't handle it!
Q. I've been with my husband for ten years, married for 2, just after the I do's I found out his secret fetish and now I don't feel the same way about him. I was so in love but I started finding porn mag's and toys but what's strange about this is ...
A. 28 November 2009: Ton's of friends here honeypie.. we all want the best for you, we want you to be happy.
It was not kind of your husband to save his "kink" untill after the marriage, these things should be discussed upfront. After the marriage it is much, mu... (read in full...)
Used for sex - what do I do?
Q. hi, im 19yrs old and i met this guy on campus. at first i jus liked him as a friend untill we started going out often,then kissing and touching alot. i developed feelings for him. he gave me signs that he liked me back and told me that i could be is ...
A. 28 November 2009: Bog hug's baby.. these things happen.. you wasn't sure about your feelings, he wasn't sure about his.. You had sex and it made everything more clear to both of you.. He's sure it's only about sex and you want more.
To get out of this with your sel... (read in full...)
Sex in the car didn't feel right to him...what's going on?
Q. ok, so heres alittle backround..i have been with him for two years, and we had sex for the first time a year and a half ago. We have never had problems with it, and it has never interfered with our relationship. However, we have done it in ...
A. 28 November 2009: "i wanted to have sex. He kept mentioning how he just wanted to chill out and relax for a while, then he revealed that it was because it didn't feel right in the car." Quote
He told you how he felt, for whatever reason, probably because it was e... (read in full...)
How do I act when my girlfriend gives me a blow job?
Q. My girlfriend wants to give me head or bj (i think there the same thing but whatever) because she wants to make me "happy" and she is persitant about it so when she does how am i suppose to react?...
A. 28 November 2009: lol.. same advice here.. there is no way to act.. your girlfriend is very kind, loving and adventurous.. lay back and let her do her thing.. No acting involved, she'll take control, and your head will hit the ceiling.. She sounds like a very nice ... (read in full...)
My virgin girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. What do I do now?
Q. I have a girlfriend and she is a virgin and i want 2 hav sex with her but she refused.so i don't know what 2 do....
A. 28 November 2009: Virgin girlfriend, refuses sex.. well you respect her and wait.. she's waiting for marriage, if you love her, then propose and get married and have sex.
Otherwise, enjoy her company, personality and beauty, and leave sex alone. When it get's to... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 28 November 2009: If you don't both fall in love after a year and get married again.. then it's counselling to find out what the hell is wrong in your marriage, apart from boredom.. It seems to me, your well matched, and you picked the best woman for you. Don't give ... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 28 November 2009: Dear John, Let me first say sorry, I know it's not easy for you to be in this situation and come here to ask for help. Please know that your story is important, and we will try to help you as much as we can. John, John, John.. your thinki... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't listen to me and I think there is more to his 'friendship' with an older woman
Q. HI i just got married this year in may and me and my husband are having a difficult time. i am currently pregnant this is the second baby our first i miscarried and i have a hard time believing that he still loves me. i accuse him of cheating...
A. 28 November 2009: About his controlling nature when it comes to household business.. you don't work because your pregnant.. that's your job, so you do contribute... if you choose to be a stay at home mum, you are working, you are a housewife and mother, the best job ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't listen to me and I think there is more to his 'friendship' with an older woman
Q. HI i just got married this year in may and me and my husband are having a difficult time. i am currently pregnant this is the second baby our first i miscarried and i have a hard time believing that he still loves me. i accuse him of cheating...
A. 28 November 2009: Sounds like your husband has found a good friend to talk to.. she's 50, not as young and pretty as you, probably she's more like a mother figure. Would you be this upset if he was talking to a man friend? Is your husband allowed friends, or is it ... (read in full...)
Where can I get a sex toy without my parents' knowledge?
Q. Hey, I am 15, male, and i am straight, but i recently have been using my moms vibrator for anal pleasure. i like girls, but i also enjoy anal pleasure. is there any way i can get a butt plug, anal beads, or vibrator without telling my parents?...
A. 28 November 2009: sorry babes, but I don't give sexual advice to teenagers... best is to explore your body and find out what feels nice and turns you on. And be safe, don't hurt yourself.... (read in full...)
Can people of different social class date?
Q. So for the past few weeks I have been talking to this extremely good looking guy in my sociology class. The other day I missed class to study for my criminal justice test and the following class he asked me why I was away. I told him the reason, he ...
A. 28 November 2009: Sorry babes, but your being a snob, (rich people aint for me) and judging him harshly.. why shouldn't he be nice, kind and normal. Having rich parents and going to private school dosen't mean he's not nice to know.. If he asks, and you like him, ... (read in full...)
The ex girlfriend that says she's a friend.
Q. I don't even know where to begin but here i go i have a wonderful amazing boyfriend that i have been with for seven months now. He loves and tells me he loves me, we have a big age difference i am eighteen and he's thirty three yeah i know right. S...
A. 28 November 2009: My ex's new girlfriend didn't want me in his life, she felt like you do, even though there was no chance of him ever getting back with me. Out of respect for her, I did what she wanted and cut contact with him and walked away from our long ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I could be falling for the man I am having an affair with!
Q. i had an affair with a guy i met at work. i work at a hotel which he stays there from time to time cause he travels on his job. hes married and so am i but i was instantly attracted to him and we ended up having sex. it was a really good night for ...
A. 28 November 2009: It's been done.. you (a married woman) had sex with a married man. That's the problem with sex, it's very intimate, you usually have to like the person, and like is very close to love. Unfortunately, sex can lead to all types of emotions.
Solut... (read in full...)
What is the average age to lose your virginity?
Q. what is the average age to lose your virginity? it's just that i'm a 20 year old male and i haven't had sex ever. yet when someone asked when i lost my virginity and i said i hadn't they called me a weirdo. am i quite old not to have had sex?...
A. 28 November 2009: UK average as of 2009 is 17years old.. not that it matters, some are older and some are younger..... (read in full...)
Why do I keep thinking about this man when I have been with my husband for 25 years???
Q. Hello, please can someone help me. I'm a forty year old mother of three lovely children aged 3,5 and 10. I've been married for almost 15 years and met my husband at university and we've been together for 20 years. Prior to meeting my husband I had ...
A. 28 November 2009: First love.. when everything is perfect, everything is possible, nothing gets destroyed by the passage of time, boredom, or everyday reality.... same as loving a famous actor, or a rock singer... unattainable perfection... if you ever got to know ... (read in full...)
Will a married man ever leave his wife if he doesn't have any children?
Q. Back in June I met a man at a convention while on a business trip, although it was just friendly. We exchanged email addresses to be in contact about work-related questions. At the time I was engaged to be married (I have been with him for 3 ...
A. 28 November 2009: Unconsumated marriage... get an annulment as soon as possible.. you are not properly married at all. You don't have to leave your husband, but it will make things easier if you get that sorted out. That is not a marriage, your just room mates. ... (read in full...)
He gave me a back hander across the face when I mouthed off as he was yelling at me!
Q. Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. ...
A. 28 November 2009: I noticed you said "you both are arguing" and that "you mouthed off" ..... this relationship is destructive... how come your arguing after 6 short months? What happened to the honeymoon, the laughs and the loving? Why are you two even together?... (read in full...)
How dare he try to dictate her life!
Q. My girlfriend and I met 4 months ago and are totally in love. Her husband left her for another woman 1 year ago and their divorce is in progress. Unusually, my gf is on very good terms with her in-laws (she's known them 26 years). The in-laws don'...
A. 28 November 2009: He's an idiot... sigh.. but it's difficult for you.. Just try not to loose your temper, be supportative and loving, but try to keep your anger to yourself. The lady is going through a lot already and she sounds really nice. A Knight in shinny ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this self-biting?
Q. I have a problem with self biting. Like I overly bite my lip and the inside of my cheek. I also contastly need to pull at the skin around my nails and my finger's are litterly raw from the fact that i pulled off all the skin. IDK what to do, idk why ...
A. 28 November 2009: Serious issue babes.... you badly need to go and speak to a counsellor about what is troubling you.. this is a form of self abuse. Your keeping things inside, and haven't learnt how to deal with things properly. No problem, ask your doctor (or ... (read in full...)
My teacher told me he loves me too much to have a relationship with me.
Q. Hi. My teacher told me that he loves me too much to do anything about it. I'm 14 and he is 30. He has taught me for the past 2 years. It started just basic flirting really, he stares and smiles at me, touches my shoulders, hands etc. He asks my ...
A. 28 November 2009: sorry.. sounds like a fantasy rather than something that is actually happening... Your teacher fell in love with you when he was 28 and you were 12years old.. before you had puberty, breasts or anything.. whilst you were still a child doing childish ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have sex with your first cousin?
Q. Is it Wrong to want to have sex with your first cousin? I have liked him since i was very young, around 14 or so, first it was wishing i could kiss him(which ive never done) but since i turned 17 its been to actually have sex with him...(ive had m...
A. 23 November 2009: In many countries marrying your first cousin is perfectly normal. The kings and Queens of Europe have always married within the family. It depends on the laws where you live. You can love whoever you like, nobody can stop you from loving. ... (read in full...)
Where can I get a sex toy without my parents' knowledge?
Q. Hey, I am 15, male, and i am straight, but i recently have been using my moms vibrator for anal pleasure. i like girls, but i also enjoy anal pleasure. is there any way i can get a butt plug, anal beads, or vibrator without telling my parents?...
A. 23 November 2009: Thanks for your response babes, I had to ask, and it seems that you are very clear in your sexuality. I would suggest you take a trip to a sex shop, if they have things like that near you. Pay by cash, and hide it in your room where no one can ... (read in full...)
I'm very worried that I can't tell if I like girls or guys, or both
Q. [Moderator note: You are not bothering us with 'stupid teen' questions. We're here to help as much as we can.] hi i have a big problem and i need help figuring this out in my life. im only 17 but i am having trubble telling if i like girls or guys ...
A. 23 November 2009: [Moderator note: You are not bothering us with 'stupid teen' questions. We're here to help as much as we can.]
Sorry, I had to repeat the moderators note.. you are young, we are old, we made mistakes, and if we can help you live a happy, healthy ... (read in full...)
Where can I get a sex toy without my parents' knowledge?
Q. Hey, I am 15, male, and i am straight, but i recently have been using my moms vibrator for anal pleasure. i like girls, but i also enjoy anal pleasure. is there any way i can get a butt plug, anal beads, or vibrator without telling my parents?...
A. 23 November 2009: lol.. satindesire, once you get to know me, you'll see that I'm not conservative.. I just say it like I see... and for me at the moment, this guys sexuality is not straight, it's still exploring and that is wonderfull to me.... (read in full...)
Where can I get a sex toy without my parents' knowledge?
Q. Hey, I am 15, male, and i am straight, but i recently have been using my moms vibrator for anal pleasure. i like girls, but i also enjoy anal pleasure. is there any way i can get a butt plug, anal beads, or vibrator without telling my parents?...
A. 23 November 2009: Satindesire, you are right of course.. there is no ALL when it comes to sex.. But you must admit, it is difficult for a lot of women to handle, because their thoughts instantly turn to thinking their man would prefer a male.
I think I've been gen... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm having sex right! Please help!
Q. Okay my name is jake. im 14 years old and i had sex i think! i dont no if i did it right or not. i mean she didnt make a sound it felt good 4 me but she didnt even move... i kinda thought she was dead or asleep. what am i doing. i was wondering if ...
A. 23 November 2009: Jake... we know you don't understand, you don't even sound like your having fun.. You are young, and of course you think of sex and want to do want your friends do.. Jake.. MOST PEOPLE LIE ABOUT SEX.. most of your friends probably haven't... (read in full...)
Where can I get a sex toy without my parents' knowledge?
Q. Hey, I am 15, male, and i am straight, but i recently have been using my moms vibrator for anal pleasure. i like girls, but i also enjoy anal pleasure. is there any way i can get a butt plug, anal beads, or vibrator without telling my parents?...
A. 23 November 2009: oh dear.. your post brings up a lot of issues..
You say your straight, but the amount of happiness you find in anal play makes me wonder. Hetrosexual guys at your age who are sexual focus on their penis.. No judgement, but your enjoyment of anal ... (read in full...)
Where can I get a sex toy without my parents' knowledge?
Q. Hey, I am 15, male, and i am straight, but i recently have been using my moms vibrator for anal pleasure. i like girls, but i also enjoy anal pleasure. is there any way i can get a butt plug, anal beads, or vibrator without telling my parents?...
A. 23 November 2009: 13 to 15 and the USA.. baby, I'm giving you relevant sex advice to suit your situation.. At your age, you have ton's of hormone's, you are hungry for sex, love and babies, and that is beautifull.. but, we want you to be safe, be happy, so I will ... (read in full...)
My wife suddenly won't allow me to have sex with my girlfriend!
Q. [Moderator note: question edited for clarity] Me, my wife, and my girlfriend have been involved for a while. My wife has allowed this because 1) she was my ex fiance and 2)I have an over active sex drive that would make a porn star blush. My wife ...
A. 23 November 2009: Respect quiet echo.. but an ex-girlfriend hurts.. there are so many other alternatives.. but thank you for asking the questions that might help shed light on the problem.... (read in full...)
Have any other men divorced their wives to be with their sister in law?
Q. have men divoced their wives to marry their wife's sister? does this happen or am i the only one that is conteplating this?...
A. 23 November 2009: Not many sweetheart.. leaving your wife for a new woman is one thing.. Leaving your wife for a family memember spreads a lot of pain. Mother, father, cousins, uncles... so many people will be hurt, disapprove, and be sorry for the partner you left. ... (read in full...)
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