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writes:I broke up with my ex boyfriend because he was a cheater and my family did not approve of him because of what he was doing. So I jumped into a relationship to get over him but I was never over him. I have been with my current boyfriend going on 5years and we have two beautiful boys together. I never cut off the friendship with my ex who has had one other kid since I moved on. I have lived a double life since I have been in my relationship. When I was first with my current BF he was in jobcorps and during the week and home on the weekends. I would stay with my ex at our old home together during the week and stay with my BF during the weekend, this went on for three months. I finally let time pass without cheating because I was pregnant and my BF was able to do things for me that my ex could never do financially but finding out the my BF was an alcoholic was not fun and I found myself back in the arms of my cheating ex. Now it's out of control I can't stop sleeping with him. I know that he has tried to make some changes to better himself but now he wants to move back together and make a baby. He has 3 kids one of whom I used to raise, and I have the 2. I still love him and would be a fool to be in a faithful relationship with him but, what should I do to make it stop, the feelings wont really die. Confused.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 Five kids involved, and your thinking about making another one. Put your love life at the bottom of the pile, and start to think about what is best for your kids, who would be the best father to them. Actually, neither guy sounds that great, they both make you unhappy, and when mummy is unhappy the kis lives are unstable. Think about yourself as a single mother and start putting your kids first.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (5 December 2009):
The feelings won't die because you won't let them. I can't say it enough times, you don't get over someone if you still see them or talk to them. Quit thinking with your emotions and feelings and think rationally! If he's not good for you, then seriously end it, and end it for good. One day you won't have feelings for him any longer, but that won't be until you take the steps toward doing that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): It's not that you can't stop sleeping with him, it's that you choose not to. You need to cut this guy out of your life. Cold turkey, he's gone. If you aren't happy with your current boyfriend, then leave him. You should probably leave him anyway because it's not fair to him for you to keep cheating, plus your whole relationship seems to be based on a lie, anyway. And yes, you would be a fool to get back with the ex.
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