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writes:do most booty calls turn into relationships?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): I will add one more relevant comment that was said on another Dearcupid question.
"If you don't know whether you are his girlfriend or not, then you are not."
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reader, kennalove6 +, writes (10 September 2010):
kennalove6 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell im really not in the situation of a booty call.. i was just curious because some of my girl friends and i were have a conversation about that and i wanted to get more opinions on the topic :) thank you to all who responded
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 September 2010):
 If the man calls nearly every weekend after 9pm then he's looking for some action not a relationship. Booty calls are just a no strings attached, he calls you, you drive over to his house, do the deed, grab your purse because you're not spending the night he's done with you for now, until he calls you again.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (9 September 2010):
 No, they don't. More often than not one person starts caring too much and gets hurt because the other person really only wants sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): No they rarely do. Cindycares is right.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Nope, most booty calls are booty calls and are all about sex. Many women who have sex expecting a relationship, often fall in love and get disappointed when the man drops her.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 September 2010):
Hi there. I'm not convinced that booty calls ever turn into a relationship of any kind.
They are mainly a time filler when one of the friends feels like sex. They then have sex and then go away and on with their own lives - until the next time.
There's really nothing more to it than sex. If it was more than sex, you would get to actually know each other properly, and go out together and have good times together. A whole lot more than just the physical side of things.
If you are doing the booty call thing (if the guy calls you), and you go along with it and meet up and have sex, I guess if you don't want any more than that from this friend, well that's fine for now.
However, as times goes by you are going to want more for yourself, than empty sex - no matter how great that sex might be. After a while, it won't be enough on it's own. You will feel like it's rather hollow, and has no substance.
Also while you are involved with this friend of yours in the booty call situation, you are missing out on a more sincere relationship with other young men, who will want much more than sex. Men who would like you for just being you and want to get to know you and take you out to nice places, and want something meaningful in the future such as love, marriage, children, a house etc. You'll never even get to meet these nice young men if you are just with this "booty call" guy.
That would be so much more of a fulfilling experience than having sex with a casual friend of yours who only calls you when he wants sex. But doesn't bother otherwise. It's just using each other.
The booty call thing, is like killing time until something else comes along. It's so shallow and meaningless.
Surely you deserve better than that. Think about it very carefully.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Short answer: no. Slightly longer answer: When a guy just calls/texts you when he feels like sex then he doesn't see you as anything more than a piece of meat. Why would he want a relationship with a girl who will jump into bed with him whenever he wants. By doing this you are showing him you don't respect yourself or your body. He more than likely, although wrongly, sees you as an easy lay and probably thinks you sleep around if all it takes for you to have sex is a phone call or maybe a drink or two. By you sleeping with him and doing it a the drop of a hat, he doesn't need to persue you, there's no effort there it's just: one call/text and bang you sleep with him. Why would he need a relationship with you as he's getting all the benefits of one without having to be committed to you. If you want a proper relationship with a guy, don't sleep with him straight away, WAIT until you have been dating for at least a month, if he's still around and still seems interested then you probably have more of a chance. But even then be aware that most guys will say alomst anything for an easy lay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010):
Yes, booty calls hardly ever do.
It's a simple lesson but most girls have to learn it the hard way. If he wouldn't give you a relationship before you were fucking him, then he is even LESS likely to ever do it after you've been fucking him for nothing.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 I still have to see ONE case of something started as a booty call and turned into a committed relationship.
Some booty call arrangements may drag on and on for years...but that's still not the same as a regular relationship.
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