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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 13 October 2010: I'm here... sorry guys had a problem with a little irritating net nanny, give me some time to catch up and read what you've all been talking about.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: Disagree with your statistics Person12345, but here is where we totally meet.... the pornography we currently have is too painful for so many people. We need better and less degrading pornography. We need more women making pornography rather than ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 9 September 2010: PS: I don't like watching male strippers, I find it embarrassing. And if your embarrassed, the male strippers target you to embarrass you even more. If I ever get married, I'm hopping my girlfriends take me to Amsterdam to see a live sex show ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 9 September 2010: I'm from the UK, we have male strippers over here,and it's common for women to hire them or arrange a girls night out for some sexy fun. The most famous are the Chippendales, and we've a movie called "The Full Monty". Watch that, it is a very good ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 September 2010: I worked in health before, and we fast tracked clients needing contraception as part of their work. The term was always "working women or man", and even at the lower end, the choice seemed to be prostitution and pornography gave them higher wages, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 September 2010: No I don't think your anti-sex at all, and yes, it might sound like I accuse you of that. I read your posts and you don't portray someone who is anti-sex...
However, as I said, the evidence you bring up here, lacks intellectually rigour and vali... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: opps.. sorry, I talk lots.. gonna go and hit the books now, and take your ideas about further research.. thanks person12345... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: PS: Maybe them teen's you mentioned, don't like porn so much but see so many marriages which end in divorce...
Just because you record a phenomena, doesn't mean that porn is the cause... maybe they have more options than older folks to date and... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: Sorry, but because some people get addicted to pornography, dosen't make it a danger to everyone. Because some people have a difficult time in the industry, dosen't mean that everyone does. Because you think that pain and sex is wrong, dosen't ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: I went to the most popular porn site, and I didn't have to dig long.. what you say about the MAJORITY of porn, of what porn users like is wrong... I wasn't lucky and just happened to find less degrading things... What is viewed, and what is enjoyed ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: "As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became widespread) anal sex rates among teens doubled."
Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 4 September 2010: !Both portrayals are harmful, but in the sense that men get their ideas about how to treat women and sex and sexuality and general can be distorted." (Person)
Yep, this is the issue that concerns me.. not with adult men and women (I've no experien... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: We had a whole pile of Chinese shipped illegal to Britain to work at catching sea fish... They were not in the sex trade, but they were under the same slavery conditions. They were more than mistreated, a ton of them got washed away and died. We ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Sex trafficking is illegal... that is more to do with the "war on drugs" than anything else... It is a technique to frighten people when you try to tie sex trafficking and pornography together like this. If you know of somebody being forced into ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Commando Dude, remember we are all trying to play nicely on this thread although we all have different views. Please don't make things personal, we are just talking and sharing ideas.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also checked for the top viewed porn film on the same website. Woman has sex with boss. Has a story, a little bit of acting. Man and women are smiling. Women and man kiss. Woman get's oral sex. Movements are gentle. No talking, just "mmmmmm". ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Women in porn aren't human, they are bitches, whores, cumbuckets, sluts, etc... They are also almost always covered in semen at the end. They are three holes two hands, things to be penetrated"
Again, I must ask, what type of pornography are you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Katy Did and Miss Golightly (original poster) wonderful, wonderful posts... you both bring to the table so many issues, it's hard to tackle them all... wonderful discussion, I am very much enjoying this post.
Katy Did, you seem to take a feminist... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 2 September 2010: You get more than just a free jail pass.. you get thanks and admiration for coming back and showing your face and being willing to stand by your views. I know this subject is hard, and it's more easy to stay anonymous. But I'm so happy that you've ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: But reader anon, now you want to police people's thoughts, and that is very difficult and it's also dangerous. People think all kinds of things, not only men, but women too. It's a good thing we can't read minds, otherwise we'd find out the your ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: Nope, that's still wrong isn't it.. it's 85% of people who use porn.. sigh.. ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: Mmmm.. anon, this was set up to be a positive post where people can express themselves. I'm really sorry you feel that way about somebody else.
Person 12345, I can see where I went wrong. No good at sums you see. From what you are saying, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 August 2010: Hey, original poster, miss Golightly. I got a question for you. You've tried very hard to change your attitude and solve the problem of porn in your relationship.
But still sometimes it makes you feel bad. Can I ask why?... (read in full...)
It took me a while to orgasm? what can I do to make it faster?
Q. My boyfriend just gave me an orgasm last night! Initially i had given up that maybe its only me who can give myself an orgasm but he did it last night.It was through oral sex.We've been having sex for 6months now and he's been going down on me since ...
A. 29 August 2010: Sigh, was I wrong, listen to Q, men are so easy to please...... (read in full...)
It took me a while to orgasm? what can I do to make it faster?
Q. My boyfriend just gave me an orgasm last night! Initially i had given up that maybe its only me who can give myself an orgasm but he did it last night.It was through oral sex.We've been having sex for 6months now and he's been going down on me since ...
A. 29 August 2010: In sex, woman is the queen.. your pleasure is the most important thing.. Do not worry, if it takes you 10 hours to find pleasure he will be please.. Any man that loves you and respects you will be able to wait. If it takes you a long time, he will ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 29 August 2010: Brain wave.. your a sexy man.. play that up... put on sexy clothes, tee-shirt, jeans half buttoned, or shirt and tie, undone and looking cool.. Since she is free and easy about sex, you should be the same. Stroke balls and penis when doing the d... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: One last question? Apart from no discussion about masturbation addiction.. what prevents women from getting addicted to porn... a low number of women look at pornography, but by your statistics, one in four of them must have problems with ad... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: From what I can see, your one in four people who are so called "addicted" have a very simple solution.. they find a woman who doesn't have porn issues and then the problem is solved... Not much of an addiction if it can be solved so easily.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: I'll put it this way, a higher percentage of porn users are addicted to porn than the percentage of alcohol users who are addicted to alcohol, but we still warn people that they could develop a dependence on alcohol and warn people about it's ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my husband without hurting the kids? Help!
Q. basically, i have problems with my husband, they are: 1) he is emotionally abousive to our children and sometimes slaps them. (he whines at them, impersonates them when they whine, calls them stupid etc) 2)he is very defensive with me for example i...
A. 28 August 2010: Your kids hate this man, they are not stupid... start feeling guilty for staying with him and making them suffer this way. Divorce him, you will get the house and he will also have to pay you money. Your kids will celebrate and kiss your feet and ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 28 August 2010: Very few men talk about pornography addiction. The fact that James does says you got big problems.
Again, big hugs, and sorry, so sorry for the loneliness you feel. If I had a wand, I'd make it all better, but I'm racking my brain and I'm comi... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: "15-20 of addicts do get addictive!!!!!!!".. that seems very high to me... but your probably going by the questionnaires that are on the web... addicted includes people continuing pornography even though their partner dislikes it.... I did one of ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex drag out our breakup and hurt me so much in the process?
Q. Dear Cupids, Please bear in mind this is going to be a long email but I will be very grateful for constructed advice. 4 months ago my partner broke up with me, had been together almost two years but had been good friends for four years prior...
A. 28 August 2010: "Even though i keep myself as busy as i can I still find myself wondering now and again why things turned out this way, How could a relationship that I thought was so full of happiness turn bad so quickly, and how could this person turn out to be ... (read in full...)
Why does the male get mad when you won't let him ejaculate in your mouth?
Q. Why does the male get mad when u wont let him ejaculate in your mouth??...
A. 28 August 2010: 1. Selfishness
2. Men are "penis proud", anything that has to do with their penis is "wonderful".. they feel that you are rejecting them if you spit out that "wonderful thick sticky gift" because it tastes awful and makes you sick.
There is ... (read in full...)
I want to do PORN!!
Q. I want to do porn, but i come from a religious family and i dont want to disgrace them but its something that ive really tooken an interest to, i have the confidence and body to do it, and i have this really bad sex addiction which seems quite ...
A. 28 August 2010: Gamine is totally right, please listen carefully to her advice. I'd be a hypocrite if I told you that no woman should enter the sex industry, especially since I like pornography myself. I have also pondered if I could do some sex work, the money ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 28 August 2010: Sigh... I should never pull tiger by the tail...
Is it too late to say sorry and apologise for accusing you wrongly... you got enough stress without me trying to put the blame on you...
Sorry!!!!!
It's just that your problem is hard... ... (read in full...)
Why do all the men in my life turn to porn?
Q. LONG story short: My boyfriend is great and I love him dearly. But (there's always a but, right?) I found porn on my computer and now I'm having trust issues. I confronted him and he has stopped (for 8 months now). I just can't quit thinking ab...
A. 28 August 2010: You can go with the explanation that you have some type of sickness, because you keep attracting people with mental health problems.. (addiction)
Or, you can accept that a large percentage of men, the majority look at pornography, so your lucky if... (read in full...)
In love with my 24 year old English teacher
Q. Hey everyone, im very confused and depressed, i have fallen in love with my 24 year old english teacher who also teaches math coaches football and baseball this happened when i was in grade 10 i just cant get over him, ive never been in love before ...
A. 27 August 2010: Oh, so you want someone to agree with you and tell you that your teacher is in love with you... sigh... search for "I love my teacher", we get probably over 10 stories a day, just like yours. But of course, your story is probably different, your ... (read in full...)
I need some opinions about doctor prescribed anti-anxiety medication
Q. Hello, I have a question regarding anti-anxiety medication. I suffer from Agoraphobia, and can barely leave my home without having panic attacks. I've tried to push myself to go a little bit further out of my comfort zone and try to go furth...
A. 27 August 2010: Crossing my fingers and wishing you luck... Got anxiety, depression and now slight agoraphobia... For me, the tablets (SSI's) have saved my life. Like you, I didn't want to take the tablets, so I just kept going into work, until I got to sick to... (read in full...)
Porn is controlling my life! How do I stop?
Q. i don't know where should i start, anyway it happened about 5 months ago, before that i didn't care about porn or pornographic. by the way I'm still virgin, and right now I'm Wasting about 10 hours each day on this shit and I'm deadly need ever...
A. 26 August 2010: You can pop into the doctor and tell them you have bad exam anxiety, they might be able to prescribe something.
Otherwise, lavender oil, sprinkle some on a tissue or put two drops in a cup of boiling water and smell it for a couple of seconds.... (read in full...)
Porn is controlling my life! How do I stop?
Q. i don't know where should i start, anyway it happened about 5 months ago, before that i didn't care about porn or pornographic. by the way I'm still virgin, and right now I'm Wasting about 10 hours each day on this shit and I'm deadly need ever...
A. 26 August 2010: Your using avoidance techniques because your frightened to tackle your studies. This is a form of procrastination. Go and get a book on study techniques, break down what you need to study into manageable chunks. Make yourself a promise to do a ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 26 August 2010: "We need to make sure when people are young, they learn that porn is a) addictive"
But this is where me and you disagree.... it sounds like you think that everyone who looks at porn must have an addiction problem... but surely before you stated s... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 24 August 2010: Wait a second.. 1. You look at pornography too... sounds hypocritical to me... her porn is wrong, but yours is fine. 2. She's still pregnant and in pain, and your bitching about your sexual needs... I asked you several questions, does ... (read in full...)
I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
Q. It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit...
A. 24 August 2010: And the belt.. wow.. or hosepipe (my aunt was small and mean).. them things left a big fat red line for hours, stung like hell... ah, the good old days, brings back the memories..... (read in full...)
I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
Q. It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit...
A. 24 August 2010: Hahaha, Tennisstar, me too... you really had to duck when the frying pan went flying, now I know them things could kill you. These kids nowadays have it so easy. They get enough time to escape and no flying objects.. lol... (read in full...)
Older woman w/ a younger man
Q. is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...
A. 24 August 2010: Legal age of consent is 16, but he's not properly grown at 17.. it's a bit too cradle robbing for me..
If he was 19, 20 or even 18, I would feel a little bit more comfortable. But he's just left school and is barely legal. There's such a gap in... (read in full...)
I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
Q. It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit...
A. 24 August 2010: She's a very good mother and she's showing her kids that she cares for them. They get told what bad behaviour is (fighting and pulling hair) they get told what the consequences are (a paddle on the backside) Then they get to choose. Behave and ... (read in full...)
Mid-Life crisis?
Q. I'm basically a mummy's boy. Never had a functional relationship; find sex confusing; lots of emotional relationships with women; just broke someone's heart, knowingly, and probably put her on track for a relapse in her recovery from abuse; have ...
A. 24 August 2010: It's a pleasure to read your posts, you seem to be doing so well in life and meeting your challenges and overcoming them one by one...
You must be very proud of yourself.. :)... (read in full...)
Kissing Cousins!
Q. Kissing Cousins. I have read many questions on this site about cousins that are "in love". For some of these couples I really do believe that they love each other. But cousins are still your family. And cousins that are couples who are 1st cousins ...
A. 24 August 2010: In Britain and Europe it is legal to marry your first cousin. In some Asian countries it's actually encouraged. Sure, there is a risk that your child will be disabled, about the same risk that a woman who is older and has a child will have.
... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my boss!
Q. i fancy my manager at work, hes 10 years older than me, hes married though, we flirt alot and when we go out for drinks we get quite touchy feeling, i know he wont leave his wife, and i wouldnt want him to but i really want to have sex with hi...
A. 24 August 2010: Do you have to have sex with every man that flirts with you. Just tell him to stop, it's not appropriate at work. Besides he's also in a dangerous situation, you could make a complaint and accuse him of sexual harassment.
Remind him he is marri... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 24 August 2010: If you want to debate the issue of pornography, control, responsibilities and rights, we have a lively debate going on and your welcome to join in.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
I won't put across m... (read in full...)
Advice on going into a new church
Q. Ok I come from like a Baptist family. I just recently found out I have Catholic roots, and I have never been to a Catholic church before. And I just wonder what ladies will think of me if I goto a Catholic church? Will they be turned off or ...
A. 23 August 2010: You go to church at the right time and do the religious thing... it's open to all and it's free, people don't get mad or angry.... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my boss!
Q. i fancy my manager at work, hes 10 years older than me, hes married though, we flirt alot and when we go out for drinks we get quite touchy feeling, i know he wont leave his wife, and i wouldnt want him to but i really want to have sex with hi...
A. 23 August 2010: And when the sex thing goes wrong, and he's embarrassed and frightened about you telling... your the employee, it's the easiest thing in the world to get rid of you...
Your gonna do a lot of harm just for a little bit of sex. People at work wil... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: Great advice Lovegirl and the other aunts.
As I said before, it's because of the bad behaviour that Nisa has ended up in this position. Marriages, whether arranged or not needs hard work, loyalty, and commitment. Thank you all for remindin... (read in full...)
I want to do PORN!!
Q. I want to do porn, but i come from a religious family and i dont want to disgrace them but its something that ive really tooken an interest to, i have the confidence and body to do it, and i have this really bad sex addiction which seems quite ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hold on Person12345, there are different types of pornography, and I'm sure the women are allowed to say what acts they will and will not do. Not every porn actress does anal. Some porn actresses don't swallow, and the semen ends up on their skin ... (read in full...)
14, he's 17, what can we do that isn't against the law?
Q. just a question i am 14 and i like this 17 year old and he like me and if we did get together what am i acctually allowed to do with him without it being against the law ??? ( i know not sex ) thanx :)...
A. 23 August 2010: Sigh.. we just changed our laws, so it gets totally confusing that I don't even know what's allowed now.. we are all in a state of confusion.
Safe to say, you can hold hands. Always have a chaperone and that will keep you and him safe. (stuff n... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: How has she been hurt... here read this post, there are 125 answers from women who feel just like her, they will tell you clearly about how she feels.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-do-men-need-porn.html... (read in full...)
Do guys go to clubs with the intention of pulling girls?
Q. ok thanks to everyone who responds, i really appreciate it. I know this will probably seem so obvious to people and also possibly stupid but I would love some input. ok well i went out last night and was with my flatmates at a student bar/club...
A. 23 August 2010: Remember what we said, be careful and find out if he wants sex or is willing to build a relationship..
Yippie.. hahaha.. have fun.. ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact about my boyfriend's drinking?
Q. I'm very staunchly against drinking and doing drugs. To make a long story short, I am the only sober person in my family. I'm proud of that. Alcoholism runs in my family, and I hate how people change when they get drunk. I hate how people make ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your looking at some peoples behaviour and then demanding the whole world change for you. Your right, you don't have to be with anyone who ever touches a drop of drink, and since your willing to be alone you will have no difficulties.
You c... (read in full...)
I want to do PORN!!
Q. I want to do porn, but i come from a religious family and i dont want to disgrace them but its something that ive really tooken an interest to, i have the confidence and body to do it, and i have this really bad sex addiction which seems quite ...
A. 23 August 2010: Sort out your sex addiction.. pornography is a job it's not about pleasure. If you have a sex addiction you will be badly used and will not think with a proper business brain about your well being and your career. Working in the sex industry isn't ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "Actually my boyfriend hated that "eye crap" I'd wear (for different reasons) so I wore it a lot less." (personwithnumbers)
I think we are moving towards compromise.. I'm trying for no total ban, but to indulge in pornography less and to keep it ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: It's a deal breaker for many women, they think looking at naked women is cheating.
It's not a cultural difference, many women feel like this. If you decide to marry her, you can't look at naked girls again ever. You can't just hide the porn, yo... (read in full...)
Is porn just mental cheating?
Q. I understand that porn isn't technically cheating. But I feel like my boyfriend may have a slight obsession with it. He looks at it every day of the week, maybe only 5 or 6 days some weeks, but for the most part, he does it every day. We are in a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Normal porn usage..
1. Doesn't matter if he has a million video's, this is more about choice than anything else. You don't just own one book, you have a few and different types, because you like things at different times.
2. There is no guid... (read in full...)
Is porn just mental cheating?
Q. I understand that porn isn't technically cheating. But I feel like my boyfriend may have a slight obsession with it. He looks at it every day of the week, maybe only 5 or 6 days some weeks, but for the most part, he does it every day. We are in a ...
A. 23 August 2010: "I guess my question is, is he hypocritical and is porn really something I should be okay with being a "modern" woman? Or is it just mental cheating?" (anon)
First, you must feel how you want. If you think it's cheating then that's your choice, ... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: There is a big difference between a FORCED marriage (which is illegal) and an ARRANGED marriage. There is nothing wrong with arranged marriages and many millions of people remain happy and build love. ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 23 August 2010: There is so much going on in your post it's very difficult to answer (needs me coffee.. will be right back)
Right lets get things clear...
1. You have no problem with pornography neither does your parter, you watch it alone and together. You a... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "But I think a lot of the problem is that men don't just want the visual, there's some kind of feeling of entitlement to ogle lots of other naked women."
Be careful when you say such things, especially if the pig is around. He tends to get very... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Yes "aunt out of hiding and now moving" it's that middle group that is the problem... and yes their needs should be met as well..
Fair compromise for me is, he's allowed to look at porn outside the house and he tries to reduce his usage, she does... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: Nisa, I have heard this story before, many Asian girls behave like you and then suffer when their parents take over and force them into marriage.
FORCED MARRIAGES ARE ILLEGAL IN THE UK, they are also illegal in the Asian countries. Pity you didn... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "I just think it's different with the porn thing from make-up, from going out with the guys, from whatever because it hurts her deep down at her core and while in a relationship, it seems like you should just want to do everything you possibly can ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your missing the point... Asking a man to never look at pornography even in private is controlling..
Asking a woman to stop wearing make-up and dress like her grandmother is controlling.
Both are based on the other persons insecurities. I... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Where is everybody... bohoooo.... I'm all alone now...
Anyway, I got a question.. I lifted it from an anonymous lady who answered a question on porn.. I thought it was interesting, so I'll post it here...
"What if he turned around saying th... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: OK.. I understand now, thanks to wikipedia..GGW indeed..... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: What's GGW.. please translate for British readers...
And I should have guessed it was you... lol.. I could see your beliefs through your opinions, but you have been totally respectful towards us people with different points of view... Now that's t... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: No dear, your aunt in hiding, and yes your arguments are very good indeed.. thank you very much for sharing.... (read in full...)
Do guys go to clubs with the intention of pulling girls?
Q. ok thanks to everyone who responds, i really appreciate it. I know this will probably seem so obvious to people and also possibly stupid but I would love some input. ok well i went out last night and was with my flatmates at a student bar/club...
A. 21 August 2010: Always meet my partners at clubs, but that's because dancing is important in my culture.. not sure about the kissing thing, to me that's a bit too fast.. I save my kisses untill I know someone better..
Yea, sure guys call you when they meet you... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: I did promise to answer you questions, and no I didn't forget, but the research from Miss anon aunt who is hiding, has been compelling and interesting..
Now I see you thought I was making fun off you.. no, pure misunderstanding on your part. W... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "Thanks Miamine for your sarcasm "but this brings us back to real life and Miss Golightly's original post." Perhaps if you had a relationship on the rocks after 14 years due to porn, you might be a bit less nasty and a bit more empathic. On the ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Couldn't agree more. There's been a rise in unplanned teen pregnancy recently and this has been cited as a possible reason (obviously no one really knows).
In the UK (and I think across Europe) there has been a drop in unplanned teenage pregnanc... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: We are all totally agreed that pornography is not for children, and our efforts should be (anti-porn and pro-porn) to put in controls to make it harder for them to access it.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "In terms of sex versus porn addiction, porn is much riskier than sex in terms of addiction I can't say why for sure it is so much riskier, but some think it's because in some users it's actually a much more intense experience than sex alone."
... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Yippie.. a true scholar.. thank you for the references and links...
Miamine goes off to read interesting research... :)... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Yea.. the lack of condoms bothered me.. until I researched more.. the industry are very, very big on STD tests.. if your not clean you don't work...I think they are tested every 6months and often in the middle of shoots.
One sex worker with an ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: From Wikipedia..
Robert Jensen.. As a strong pro-feminist, Jensen has focused much of his work on the radical feminist critique of pornography and of masculinity. He also has written about white privilege and institutionalized racism. Jensen i... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Miamine hides whips and chains so not to offend Askoldersis... Miamine takes dictionary out, to look up long words like dopperme... (cheap way of getting education)
Will be back to answer Lucyloo's as soon as I process this intelligent stuff...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry, I don't mean to minimise the true pain that sex addiction causes.. but I'm also very weary of the "fear mongering"... making people afraid of sex will have very destructive effects..
As to what the woman who hates porn but loves the man ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: One more thing.. if more and more porn users are using degrading pornography, then where does the whole amateur scene come from.. From what I can see, the amateur scene is fairly new and has gone from few users (and producers) to millions ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: It's because of this that the new DSM manual is removing the word addiction, because it has been so generalised it can no longer be used to explain clinical malfunctioning that needs treatment and help.
If we can all be addicted to anything... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: From what you say, if we remove the pornography, we are all still in danger from addiction to orgasm.... makes one want to stop sex altogether..
And then there's the danger of getting addicted to anything on earth... yes there is also sports a... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry, sorry, sorry.. last question I promise...
"If most men look at degrading porn, and it affects their brain. What happens to the women who watch pornography, do they begin to hate themselves?"... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry one more questions anon...
1. You believe that watching porn affects the brain in some way. If your watching degrading pornography for study, how is it effecting your sexuality?
2. Is your study of degrading pornography not ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "Just because of the existence of other kinds of non-degrading porn does not mean most porn that most men watch isn't degrading."
1. How do you know MOST men watch degrading porn?
2. What type of porn do you classify as degrading?... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 20 August 2010: "So let me ask you, if as a woman she finds it degrading to women, but you find it arousing, is that a good thing to be aroused by degrading women? You think it's healthy?" (anon)
I'll bite, and this is a difficult one.. Healthy is the same as ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Non-compromise is also good.. you have standards, you set them and you keep to them.. But I'm an atheist.. I declare this on my first date.. I don't think it's the job of the religious to tell me that they like God.. If I don't like something, it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Exactly Cerbus.... I'm not a porn lover, actually I watch it very rarely.. my problem is that I LOVE ROMANCE AND EROTIC NOVELS... I love the millionaire prince that dates the secretary and then they have sex on the floor.. like many women, words are ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi, I just want to add this answer given by one of our aunts.. (Kaede) I hope she doesn't mind.. but this is very close to how I think, and is one of the best answers to a pornography problem that I have ever read. Because I have used pornography, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi Sis...lol.. and I know your not too keen on the whole porn thing, so I'm surprised we find ourselves in agreement.
Thanks anon, we got to give you a name.. lets call you miss Golightly, and I thank you for starting this thread. I think I'... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Totally agree honeypie, it's best if people can compromise over difficulties with pornography, that really is the best way. I also agree that it is not helpful when us aunts and uncles get into big discussions on people's threads, totally ... (read in full...)
I need some opinions about doctor prescribed anti-anxiety medication
Q. Hello, I have a question regarding anti-anxiety medication. I suffer from Agoraphobia, and can barely leave my home without having panic attacks. I've tried to push myself to go a little bit further out of my comfort zone and try to go furth...
A. 15 August 2010: The new SSI's are not addictive at all, they leave the body as soon as you stop taking them. Have you tried hypnotherapy, practitioners like Paul Mckenna swear that it's very effective with phobia. Search for Paul Mckenna on google and pick up his ... (read in full...)
Mid-Life crisis?
Q. I'm basically a mummy's boy. Never had a functional relationship; find sex confusing; lots of emotional relationships with women; just broke someone's heart, knowingly, and probably put her on track for a relapse in her recovery from abuse; have ...
A. 9 August 2010: Removing the word "should" from your language is a brilliant idea... glad to see your feeling better and more positive...
You seem like you meeting your goals and moving forward in life. Thank you for updating your post, it's lovely to see some... (read in full...)
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