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writes:I have been in this relationship with Grace (not real name) for almost 6 years now I have been staying with her for 3 years out of the six. She tells me she intentionally got pregnant and gave birth to our beautiful 2 year old baby girl because she feared I would leave her. How we met I cant say it was that mind blowing love that we see in movies though the spark was there. I am a soft spoken guy so normally she like commands me to do things though I some times refuse and when I do she starts whining and calls me "Mr. Perfect" when i note where she has gone wrong. We can't make love without me first begging and if she agrees she makes me feel as if I have raped her. These days we actually sleep and wake up as if we are 2 complete strangers but when I drop her to work she wants me to behave as if nothing has happened and I hear she praises me as if am the best guy that has ever been in her life. By the way she is my first love though I cant say the same for her she had a boyfriend before we met. Sometimes she tells me that may be it was a mistake for her to give birth if she hadn't she would have left me. I am actually thinking of going abroad so that I can start a new life all together I cant live knowing that someone is unhappy because of me. There are some things you just cant live with.My problem however is, I have been paying for her sisters and we stay with them over the holidays because her parents cant afford and I sometimes think that's why she has 'stuck' with me. I normally chat with one of her sisters(I will call Ann) and she also agrees that the sister (Grace) has changed so much. In the process we have become so close and she is like my confidant.Problem is I landed for Ann and we have made love a couple of times am really crazy in love with her call is lust or infatuation but I am really crazy about her. May be her sisters runts have some how pushed me to her. She says she doesn't love me back and recently chucked her boyfriend though she got another immediately I really can't stand her going out with another guy. She has never resisted my advances though she normally says it is wrong and I my self knows it is. A few people think am making out with her though there is nothing to prove it.I have never told anyone about my problems so this is kind of a confession and I feel relieved.Any comment or advice is welcome
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Worried about this sister Anne.. she screws her sister man, the father of her baby niece.. she doesn't love you, she just likes screwing family... What the hell is that all about?
The whole family seems a little strange to me.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 It sounds like your relationship with Grace has run its course. Unfortunately she sounds very manipulative and unscrupulous. Not a good combination. She sounds a bit like a sociopath as well. She's turned you into her puppet and if you start to do things on your own, she won't like it one bit. This isn't healthy. I would suggest leaving the relationship and fighting for custody of your child.
Don't pursue Ann. No good can come of it, especially if Grace finds out. Grace will use this affair to her advantage the same way she's used your love and your child.
Please stop letting her use you.
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