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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 13 October 2010: I'm here... sorry guys had a problem with a little irritating net nanny, give me some time to catch up and read what you've all been talking about.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: Disagree with your statistics Person12345, but here is where we totally meet.... the pornography we currently have is too painful for so many people. We need better and less degrading pornography. We need more women making pornography rather than ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 9 September 2010: PS: I don't like watching male strippers, I find it embarrassing. And if your embarrassed, the male strippers target you to embarrass you even more. If I ever get married, I'm hopping my girlfriends take me to Amsterdam to see a live sex show ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 9 September 2010: I'm from the UK, we have male strippers over here,and it's common for women to hire them or arrange a girls night out for some sexy fun. The most famous are the Chippendales, and we've a movie called "The Full Monty". Watch that, it is a very good ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 September 2010: I worked in health before, and we fast tracked clients needing contraception as part of their work. The term was always "working women or man", and even at the lower end, the choice seemed to be prostitution and pornography gave them higher wages, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 September 2010: No I don't think your anti-sex at all, and yes, it might sound like I accuse you of that. I read your posts and you don't portray someone who is anti-sex...
However, as I said, the evidence you bring up here, lacks intellectually rigour and vali... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: opps.. sorry, I talk lots.. gonna go and hit the books now, and take your ideas about further research.. thanks person12345... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: PS: Maybe them teen's you mentioned, don't like porn so much but see so many marriages which end in divorce...
Just because you record a phenomena, doesn't mean that porn is the cause... maybe they have more options than older folks to date and... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: Sorry, but because some people get addicted to pornography, dosen't make it a danger to everyone. Because some people have a difficult time in the industry, dosen't mean that everyone does. Because you think that pain and sex is wrong, dosen't ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: I went to the most popular porn site, and I didn't have to dig long.. what you say about the MAJORITY of porn, of what porn users like is wrong... I wasn't lucky and just happened to find less degrading things... What is viewed, and what is enjoyed ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: "As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became widespread) anal sex rates among teens doubled."
Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 4 September 2010: !Both portrayals are harmful, but in the sense that men get their ideas about how to treat women and sex and sexuality and general can be distorted." (Person)
Yep, this is the issue that concerns me.. not with adult men and women (I've no experien... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: We had a whole pile of Chinese shipped illegal to Britain to work at catching sea fish... They were not in the sex trade, but they were under the same slavery conditions. They were more than mistreated, a ton of them got washed away and died. We ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Sex trafficking is illegal... that is more to do with the "war on drugs" than anything else... It is a technique to frighten people when you try to tie sex trafficking and pornography together like this. If you know of somebody being forced into ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Commando Dude, remember we are all trying to play nicely on this thread although we all have different views. Please don't make things personal, we are just talking and sharing ideas.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also checked for the top viewed porn film on the same website. Woman has sex with boss. Has a story, a little bit of acting. Man and women are smiling. Women and man kiss. Woman get's oral sex. Movements are gentle. No talking, just "mmmmmm". ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Women in porn aren't human, they are bitches, whores, cumbuckets, sluts, etc... They are also almost always covered in semen at the end. They are three holes two hands, things to be penetrated"
Again, I must ask, what type of pornography are you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Katy Did and Miss Golightly (original poster) wonderful, wonderful posts... you both bring to the table so many issues, it's hard to tackle them all... wonderful discussion, I am very much enjoying this post.
Katy Did, you seem to take a feminist... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 2 September 2010: You get more than just a free jail pass.. you get thanks and admiration for coming back and showing your face and being willing to stand by your views. I know this subject is hard, and it's more easy to stay anonymous. But I'm so happy that you've ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: But reader anon, now you want to police people's thoughts, and that is very difficult and it's also dangerous. People think all kinds of things, not only men, but women too. It's a good thing we can't read minds, otherwise we'd find out the your ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: Nope, that's still wrong isn't it.. it's 85% of people who use porn.. sigh.. ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: Mmmm.. anon, this was set up to be a positive post where people can express themselves. I'm really sorry you feel that way about somebody else.
Person 12345, I can see where I went wrong. No good at sums you see. From what you are saying, ... (read in full...)
She wants to lose her virginity to me but I'm not sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with her because of her past!
Q. hello im with this girl i know through internet..we been together for 2 years but we still havent met since we live far away. anyway i know everything about her and her past is actually haunting me..she didnt do much but just the idea that some oth...
A. 30 August 2010: Go and tell her about your feelings. Tell her everything you have said to us. I think this will solve your problems very quickly, especially if she a British girl.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 August 2010: Hey, original poster, miss Golightly. I got a question for you. You've tried very hard to change your attitude and solve the problem of porn in your relationship.
But still sometimes it makes you feel bad. Can I ask why?... (read in full...)
I didnt fight back when he had sex with me because my daughter was watching, and I had sent nude pics to him before. Was this still rape?
Q. I was raped by my boyfriend's best friend in front of my three year old daughter. And another friend in the car. Ive been to the police. Im having a hard time dealing with it he claims i wanted. And it wasnt forced, i went to the store to buy them a ...
A. 30 August 2010: So sorry babes, but please feel proud of yourself for ignoring their threats and trying to stand up for yourself.
So very, very sorry, and sorry for the next woman they will hurt. Please protect yourself very carefully from now on.... (read in full...)
My daughter does PORN!!
Q. i have found out in the last year that my daughter is a pornstar and before that worked as a escort, i am finding this hard to deal with as she does not care whom it affects in her life, i have just lost my relationship over what she does, my ...
A. 29 August 2010: Ah, there you are, I couldn't find your post again... so sorry about the guy, but I am more concerned about you.
We make it sound so easy.. "so what your daughter does porn, that her choice, it's a job". But of course it's not that easy. It's no... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 29 August 2010: Brain wave.. your a sexy man.. play that up... put on sexy clothes, tee-shirt, jeans half buttoned, or shirt and tie, undone and looking cool.. Since she is free and easy about sex, you should be the same. Stroke balls and penis when doing the d... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: One last question? Apart from no discussion about masturbation addiction.. what prevents women from getting addicted to porn... a low number of women look at pornography, but by your statistics, one in four of them must have problems with ad... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: From what I can see, your one in four people who are so called "addicted" have a very simple solution.. they find a woman who doesn't have porn issues and then the problem is solved... Not much of an addiction if it can be solved so easily.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: I'll put it this way, a higher percentage of porn users are addicted to porn than the percentage of alcohol users who are addicted to alcohol, but we still warn people that they could develop a dependence on alcohol and warn people about it's ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 28 August 2010: Very few men talk about pornography addiction. The fact that James does says you got big problems.
Again, big hugs, and sorry, so sorry for the loneliness you feel. If I had a wand, I'd make it all better, but I'm racking my brain and I'm comi... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: "15-20 of addicts do get addictive!!!!!!!".. that seems very high to me... but your probably going by the questionnaires that are on the web... addicted includes people continuing pornography even though their partner dislikes it.... I did one of ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 28 August 2010: Sigh... I should never pull tiger by the tail...
Is it too late to say sorry and apologise for accusing you wrongly... you got enough stress without me trying to put the blame on you...
Sorry!!!!!
It's just that your problem is hard... ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 26 August 2010: "We need to make sure when people are young, they learn that porn is a) addictive"
But this is where me and you disagree.... it sounds like you think that everyone who looks at porn must have an addiction problem... but surely before you stated s... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 24 August 2010: Wait a second.. 1. You look at pornography too... sounds hypocritical to me... her porn is wrong, but yours is fine. 2. She's still pregnant and in pain, and your bitching about your sexual needs... I asked you several questions, does ... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: Great advice Lovegirl and the other aunts.
As I said before, it's because of the bad behaviour that Nisa has ended up in this position. Marriages, whether arranged or not needs hard work, loyalty, and commitment. Thank you all for remindin... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "Actually my boyfriend hated that "eye crap" I'd wear (for different reasons) so I wore it a lot less." (personwithnumbers)
I think we are moving towards compromise.. I'm trying for no total ban, but to indulge in pornography less and to keep it ... (read in full...)
Is porn just mental cheating?
Q. I understand that porn isn't technically cheating. But I feel like my boyfriend may have a slight obsession with it. He looks at it every day of the week, maybe only 5 or 6 days some weeks, but for the most part, he does it every day. We are in a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Normal porn usage..
1. Doesn't matter if he has a million video's, this is more about choice than anything else. You don't just own one book, you have a few and different types, because you like things at different times.
2. There is no guid... (read in full...)
Is porn just mental cheating?
Q. I understand that porn isn't technically cheating. But I feel like my boyfriend may have a slight obsession with it. He looks at it every day of the week, maybe only 5 or 6 days some weeks, but for the most part, he does it every day. We are in a ...
A. 23 August 2010: "I guess my question is, is he hypocritical and is porn really something I should be okay with being a "modern" woman? Or is it just mental cheating?" (anon)
First, you must feel how you want. If you think it's cheating then that's your choice, ... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: There is a big difference between a FORCED marriage (which is illegal) and an ARRANGED marriage. There is nothing wrong with arranged marriages and many millions of people remain happy and build love. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have a teenage son not a husband! What should I do?
Q. I am at a loss of what to do Ive been with my husband for almost 11 years and married for 6. He has been smoking cannabis about 3 joints a day everyday for the last about 4 months.I have found porn on the computer related to anal sex and latex. ...
A. 23 August 2010: Together babes.. you love the man and he loves you. Tell him you need him to be with you not drifting on a cloud of rainbow coloured air. Don't make it all or nothing, small changes will bring bigger ones. If he can cut down on the weed or ... (read in full...)
Cowgirls first rodeo....any tips?
Q. hi new b/f really likes me to go on top but i always feel awkward in this position as i don't know what movements will turn him on,does it have to be hard and fast,how can i feel more comfortable on top,really want to get it right...any tips?...
A. 23 August 2010: "Rolling, rolling, rolling, keep them wagons rolling, keep them wheels a turning.. RAWHIDE!!!..... Giddy up, saddle up, hit the horse, toss the hay, RAWHIDE, RAWHIDE, RAWHIDE!!!!!" Miamine sings)
http:... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 23 August 2010: There is so much going on in your post it's very difficult to answer (needs me coffee.. will be right back)
Right lets get things clear...
1. You have no problem with pornography neither does your parter, you watch it alone and together. You a... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "But I think a lot of the problem is that men don't just want the visual, there's some kind of feeling of entitlement to ogle lots of other naked women."
Be careful when you say such things, especially if the pig is around. He tends to get very... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Yes "aunt out of hiding and now moving" it's that middle group that is the problem... and yes their needs should be met as well..
Fair compromise for me is, he's allowed to look at porn outside the house and he tries to reduce his usage, she does... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is still part of the family, how do I deal with this?
Q. I am recently reunited with my high school sweetheart from 30 years ago and he says that things are headed toward marriage for us. He and I both say that we've never been happier. We have a long-distance relationship at this point. I am divorced ...
A. 23 August 2010: And whilst I love Miamine (I really do :-) ), the advice there is putting the ex-girlfriend's motives to question, and not your boyfriends. This ex is not a problem at all. (Caring guy)
Understood, I missed that one, thank you.. :)... (read in full...)
We're both shy and it's creating a problem! Help!
Q. Hey... ok i have a slight problem, me and my boyfriend are both really shy.. before we started dating we could talk to each other really easily but after he asked me out we dont have much 2 talk about because we are both shy around the people we ...
A. 23 August 2010: Ah that's sweet.. two young shy people in love... hahaha.. brings back memories.
Ask questions, that's the easiest way.. I'll start you off and thing you can think of others.
1. What's your favourite year
2. What's your favourite film
3. I... (read in full...)
I am suffocating in my arranged marriage!
Q. Hi Its funny i didnt even think i will be ever coming to these site. i am asian i just turned 24 i have been married for 7 years now. i never approved with me marriage because it was forced by my parents. i just turned 17 when i got ...
A. 23 August 2010: Nisa, I have heard this story before, many Asian girls behave like you and then suffer when their parents take over and force them into marriage.
FORCED MARRIAGES ARE ILLEGAL IN THE UK, they are also illegal in the Asian countries. Pity you didn... (read in full...)
Teen boys, are they all shallow?
Q. Hey, Everyone always says that teenagers make a really big deal of romance and that they have a really immature view of love. I think this is true of some teenagers but not of everyone. Sometimes I do feel though that teenage boys are really s...
A. 23 August 2010: My young baby cousin is one of the most important people in my life.. He's now 17 but even before then he took time to come and visit me and provide me with the support that I badly needed... He's more mature than most of the men that I've met in my ... (read in full...)
She wants to lose her virginity to me but I'm not sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with her because of her past!
Q. hello im with this girl i know through internet..we been together for 2 years but we still havent met since we live far away. anyway i know everything about her and her past is actually haunting me..she didnt do much but just the idea that some oth...
A. 23 August 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-possible-to-get-over-retroactive-jealousy.html... (read in full...)
My daughter does PORN!!
Q. i have found out in the last year that my daughter is a pornstar and before that worked as a escort, i am finding this hard to deal with as she does not care whom it affects in her life, i have just lost my relationship over what she does, my ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your partner decides to leave you and you blame your daughter... you want your daughter to change her life to make your partner happy... That's going too far... how can you let a man have that much control. Your daughter's life is her's to live, i... (read in full...)
She wants to lose her virginity to me but I'm not sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with her because of her past!
Q. hello im with this girl i know through internet..we been together for 2 years but we still havent met since we live far away. anyway i know everything about her and her past is actually haunting me..she didnt do much but just the idea that some oth...
A. 23 August 2010: She's a virgin but you are still worried about her "past"... Are you a virgin too?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is still part of the family, how do I deal with this?
Q. I am recently reunited with my high school sweetheart from 30 years ago and he says that things are headed toward marriage for us. He and I both say that we've never been happier. We have a long-distance relationship at this point. I am divorced ...
A. 23 August 2010: His family know her and expect her to be at these family functions.. What do you expect him to do.. Stop going and dump his family, or tell her to stay away. If she stops coming to see the family I'm sure they got her number and will call her to ... (read in full...)
13 and may have missed a period......I'm so scared of being pregnant!
Q. Ok so im 13 and me and my boyfriend had sex,we used the take out method and now theres only 1 week of august left and i still havent had my period.I dont want to tell my mom that me and my boyfriend did anything but i did tell her i think i missed a ...
A. 23 August 2010: If you used the pull out method there's more than an 8% chance... Stop wasting time and go and tell your mother what happened.. They'll find out anyway if your pregnant and if you leave it too late you will have less choices about what you want to ... (read in full...)
My partner is having "family" outings with his ex wife and child...
Q. my partner and i have been together 4 years now. we dont live together as its been a very tough relationship and i have insecurity issues etc. he says he wants to and will when i become more secure etc. anyway ive just found out via his 16 yr...
A. 23 August 2010: Sorry it's a son and not a daughter... yep, she will hate you if you try to break up her family, but if you reach out she will probably love to find space for you to join them. You make her dad happy and he loves you, that's probably reason enough ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have a teenage son not a husband! What should I do?
Q. I am at a loss of what to do Ive been with my husband for almost 11 years and married for 6. He has been smoking cannabis about 3 joints a day everyday for the last about 4 months.I have found porn on the computer related to anal sex and latex. ...
A. 23 August 2010: You don't like anal sex, but he does... it's hard to expect people to control their desires and pretend they don't like something. That's why he turns to porn, porn allows him to fantasise about having anal sex, probably with you. That's the point ... (read in full...)
My partner is having "family" outings with his ex wife and child...
Q. my partner and i have been together 4 years now. we dont live together as its been a very tough relationship and i have insecurity issues etc. he says he wants to and will when i become more secure etc. anyway ive just found out via his 16 yr...
A. 23 August 2010: I'm 40, my parents divorced when I was 12.. it was a very bad divorce, very bad indeed. But they put my happiness first, I like having 2 parents that can talk to each other and be friends. My parents are my family and I'm glad that they didn't ... (read in full...)
How do I stop masturbating so much?
Q. When I was 12 I began masturbating to prove to one of my friends that I actually could do it without any shame. I would do it every night. Now I am almost 15 and I am having an extremely difficult time dealing with it. I masturbate all the time and ...
A. 23 August 2010: Here please read this post... it mostly deals with pornography, so I don't want you to get any ideas.. I think you watching pornography is a very bad idea.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
You do so... (read in full...)
How do I stop masturbating so much?
Q. When I was 12 I began masturbating to prove to one of my friends that I actually could do it without any shame. I would do it every night. Now I am almost 15 and I am having an extremely difficult time dealing with it. I masturbate all the time and ...
A. 23 August 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-want-lust-controlling-my-life-how.html
Cutting down is the best thing... first promise not to masturbate at school.... then promise not to masturbate before 6pm... then promise not to masturbate on Sundays.... (read in full...)
I don't want lust controlling my life, How can I stop masterbating
Q. MODS NOTE: Apologies to the OP, but your chosen title has already been used, So I had to tweak it a little to make it accepted. I'm addicted to masturbation but it feels wrong and I don't want my lust to continue to control my life. How can I st...
A. 23 August 2010: Addicted? How many times a day do you masturbate? Do you have hobbies and interests? How often do you go out with your friends. Is masturbation stopping you from getting on with stuff that's important? Why does masturbation feel wrong to you? ... (read in full...)
Porn makes me physically sick, how can I tell my b/f?
Q. Hey well iv never watched porn before but my boyfriend wanted me to try it cause he thinks i would like it. When i watched it it made me throw up i was grossed out by it. Should i tell him i watched and it made me throw up? Is that normal to have ...
A. 23 August 2010: Tell him you tried, but you found it so disgusting that it made you feel sick. Ask him not to show you pornography again, not to mention it, and not to use it while your around.
No your not strange, some people do find pornography disgusti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend raped me!
Q. MODS NOTE: OP's own title. I am 20 years old. I have always been committed to abstaining from sex til marriage - not "everything but", I mean really abstaining from sexual activity. The furthest I went with my first boyfriend was us both taking o...
A. 23 August 2010: Guy raped you, and then you continued to have sex with him. It will be hard to prove that you did not consent at first, because now your having sex with him.
If I was you I would dump this rapist, who doesn't mind using force, doesn't care abo... (read in full...)
I didnt fight back when he had sex with me because my daughter was watching, and I had sent nude pics to him before. Was this still rape?
Q. I was raped by my boyfriend's best friend in front of my three year old daughter. And another friend in the car. Ive been to the police. Im having a hard time dealing with it he claims i wanted. And it wasnt forced, i went to the store to buy them a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Coercion is rape, if you were frightened for your daughter and didn't want to scare her, then the police will consider this as force.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 16 year old to go out with a 11 year old?
Q. does a 5 year age gap matter between a boy and girl? i am 16 and this girls 11 years old really like each other and she said that she loves me and wants me to be her boyfriend i love her enough to be her boyfriend but is it wrong for a 16 year old ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your 16, legally able to have sex... you will be an adult in 2years time... She's 11, she's still a child, she hasn't even gone to secondary school yet...
Sorry, but this sounds very perverted.. What kind of person are you that you can't see that... (read in full...)
How can I make my penis larger?
Q. hi i am 23......my penis is small...how can i make it big....pls help me!!!!!...
A. 23 August 2010: The Catholic church used to stretch out parts of the human body years ago.. They had techniques to turn a short man into a tall man... maybe that's your only hope, or to be satisfied with what you got.
And no, do not try and plant it in the grou... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my Godfather
Q. I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Good woman. We often fall in love with unsuitable people, or people who don't love us back.. That's life unfortunately, it's worse for you because you still have to see him. I have to see my ex too, 18years and he walks out, that hurts, but you do ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "I just think it's different with the porn thing from make-up, from going out with the guys, from whatever because it hurts her deep down at her core and while in a relationship, it seems like you should just want to do everything you possibly can ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your missing the point... Asking a man to never look at pornography even in private is controlling..
Asking a woman to stop wearing make-up and dress like her grandmother is controlling.
Both are based on the other persons insecurities. I... (read in full...)
The "exclusive" discussion caused a big rift. Should I wait it out?
Q. I went on holiday and then got into an argument by text with a guy I have been seeing for a month. He doesnt want to be exclusive and I was jealous of a girl he has been seeing ~(they are friends too, but occasionally get intimate). He texted m...
A. 23 August 2010: Wait for what... damn it girl, your sexy as you feel.. go and get dressed up and strut your stuff.. waiting around on a guy makes you feel sad and ugly....
21st century honeypie, we can do what the boys can.. go out there and mingle and find a b... (read in full...)
The "exclusive" discussion caused a big rift. Should I wait it out?
Q. I went on holiday and then got into an argument by text with a guy I have been seeing for a month. He doesnt want to be exclusive and I was jealous of a girl he has been seeing ~(they are friends too, but occasionally get intimate). He texted m...
A. 22 August 2010: Wait for what? Wait to be just another girl he is screwing.. Beg him for what? Sex, that he can get from you and he can get from anyone...
Girl don't you have any self respect? Why are you apologising and begging a man to use you? Doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Where is everybody... bohoooo.... I'm all alone now...
Anyway, I got a question.. I lifted it from an anonymous lady who answered a question on porn.. I thought it was interesting, so I'll post it here...
"What if he turned around saying th... (read in full...)
Lying about watching porn...
Q. I've been lying to my girlfriend for years about my porn use. She caught me lying to her a few times in the beginning of our relationship (about other things as well as porn use) and has never really trusted me again properly since then. However I ...
A. 22 August 2010: Your post is very strange.. there is something funny about the words you use and it's tone..
You got no problem. Porn makes you feel guilty and sick, so just stop watching it and go and watch sports instead or go and kiss your girlfrie... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of coming out because of the conservative society
Q. Dear readers I’m a 26 years old male professional and successful and I’m virgin. I want to live my life as many people do, find a girl, get married and have kids. I love girls and they are sexy and attractive but when I think about sex I feel th...
A. 22 August 2010: Your over 26... you can do whatever you want, your a big boy now, you don't have to tell your parents everything. Get on a train, get on a bus, go on dates where they can't come. Parents don't come on dates and they won't be in your bedroom.. ... (read in full...)
When I masturbate I have the urge to pee
Q. Okay so I got a problem, every single time I masturbate, I have the urge to pee. It starts when I rub my clit and when I finally enter a finger in I have to stop to run to the toilet and pee. It's not just a feeling, I really do need to pee. So i ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yep.. pee before and after... very good habit that will help to protect you from infection.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: OK.. I understand now, thanks to wikipedia..GGW indeed..... (read in full...)
Hubby is turned off by me
Q. Mod Note: Titled by Original Poster I have been married for 24 yrs. We have always been able to laugh at the same things but we don't see eye to eye on a lot of the important things. I'm a saver, he's a spender. I like to plan and make list...
A. 22 August 2010: Your husband is a selfish pig, my dear wife... He has only ever cared about his own needs and has always ignored yours. There is nothing wrong with your looks or your personality, it's not these things that are driving him away.. He treats you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: What's GGW.. please translate for British readers...
And I should have guessed it was you... lol.. I could see your beliefs through your opinions, but you have been totally respectful towards us people with different points of view... Now that's t... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: No dear, your aunt in hiding, and yes your arguments are very good indeed.. thank you very much for sharing.... (read in full...)
Had sex for the first time I need advice to make it better!
Q. Hey ! Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and we're both virgins. He really enjoyed it and i did aswell but it was kinda painful! is this normal? i didnt bleed and i heard thats what usually happens? , also i want to know ideas how...
A. 22 August 2010: For you, bubble baths and lots of kisses.. For him, lots of kisses and lots of compliments... the movies lie, yes it hurts at first sometimes and it's not a lot of fun. Practice makes perfect but please make sure you use protection.
Next time.. m... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: I did promise to answer you questions, and no I didn't forget, but the research from Miss anon aunt who is hiding, has been compelling and interesting..
Now I see you thought I was making fun off you.. no, pure misunderstanding on your part. W... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "Thanks Miamine for your sarcasm "but this brings us back to real life and Miss Golightly's original post." Perhaps if you had a relationship on the rocks after 14 years due to porn, you might be a bit less nasty and a bit more empathic. On the ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of coming out because of the conservative society
Q. Dear readers I’m a 26 years old male professional and successful and I’m virgin. I want to live my life as many people do, find a girl, get married and have kids. I love girls and they are sexy and attractive but when I think about sex I feel th...
A. 21 August 2010: Brilliant advice from Hugo95.. in Britian we have no problem with homosexuality, even in conservative societies they understand. They may take it badly at first, but they will get used to it, and since gay people can get married and adopt, they ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Couldn't agree more. There's been a rise in unplanned teen pregnancy recently and this has been cited as a possible reason (obviously no one really knows).
In the UK (and I think across Europe) there has been a drop in unplanned teenage pregnanc... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: We are all totally agreed that pornography is not for children, and our efforts should be (anti-porn and pro-porn) to put in controls to make it harder for them to access it.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "In terms of sex versus porn addiction, porn is much riskier than sex in terms of addiction I can't say why for sure it is so much riskier, but some think it's because in some users it's actually a much more intense experience than sex alone."
... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Yippie.. a true scholar.. thank you for the references and links...
Miamine goes off to read interesting research... :)... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Yea.. the lack of condoms bothered me.. until I researched more.. the industry are very, very big on STD tests.. if your not clean you don't work...I think they are tested every 6months and often in the middle of shoots.
One sex worker with an ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: From Wikipedia..
Robert Jensen.. As a strong pro-feminist, Jensen has focused much of his work on the radical feminist critique of pornography and of masculinity. He also has written about white privilege and institutionalized racism. Jensen i... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Miamine hides whips and chains so not to offend Askoldersis... Miamine takes dictionary out, to look up long words like dopperme... (cheap way of getting education)
Will be back to answer Lucyloo's as soon as I process this intelligent stuff...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry, I don't mean to minimise the true pain that sex addiction causes.. but I'm also very weary of the "fear mongering"... making people afraid of sex will have very destructive effects..
As to what the woman who hates porn but loves the man ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: One more thing.. if more and more porn users are using degrading pornography, then where does the whole amateur scene come from.. From what I can see, the amateur scene is fairly new and has gone from few users (and producers) to millions ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: It's because of this that the new DSM manual is removing the word addiction, because it has been so generalised it can no longer be used to explain clinical malfunctioning that needs treatment and help.
If we can all be addicted to anything... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: From what you say, if we remove the pornography, we are all still in danger from addiction to orgasm.... makes one want to stop sex altogether..
And then there's the danger of getting addicted to anything on earth... yes there is also sports a... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry, sorry, sorry.. last question I promise...
"If most men look at degrading porn, and it affects their brain. What happens to the women who watch pornography, do they begin to hate themselves?"... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry one more questions anon...
1. You believe that watching porn affects the brain in some way. If your watching degrading pornography for study, how is it effecting your sexuality?
2. Is your study of degrading pornography not ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "Just because of the existence of other kinds of non-degrading porn does not mean most porn that most men watch isn't degrading."
1. How do you know MOST men watch degrading porn?
2. What type of porn do you classify as degrading?... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 20 August 2010: "So let me ask you, if as a woman she finds it degrading to women, but you find it arousing, is that a good thing to be aroused by degrading women? You think it's healthy?" (anon)
I'll bite, and this is a difficult one.. Healthy is the same as ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Non-compromise is also good.. you have standards, you set them and you keep to them.. But I'm an atheist.. I declare this on my first date.. I don't think it's the job of the religious to tell me that they like God.. If I don't like something, it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Exactly Cerbus.... I'm not a porn lover, actually I watch it very rarely.. my problem is that I LOVE ROMANCE AND EROTIC NOVELS... I love the millionaire prince that dates the secretary and then they have sex on the floor.. like many women, words are ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi, I just want to add this answer given by one of our aunts.. (Kaede) I hope she doesn't mind.. but this is very close to how I think, and is one of the best answers to a pornography problem that I have ever read. Because I have used pornography, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi Sis...lol.. and I know your not too keen on the whole porn thing, so I'm surprised we find ourselves in agreement.
Thanks anon, we got to give you a name.. lets call you miss Golightly, and I thank you for starting this thread. I think I'... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Totally agree honeypie, it's best if people can compromise over difficulties with pornography, that really is the best way. I also agree that it is not helpful when us aunts and uncles get into big discussions on people's threads, totally ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my Godfather
Q. I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...
A. 16 August 2010: We are hoping your alright babes...... (read in full...)
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