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writes:I have this best friend, And we often made out. When my gf broke up with me 2 years ago I was making out with my best friend. I got back with my ex.(I know this sounds harsh but the same things happen the other way around) However we were both harshly dumped in December. We've been heading out and making out sometimes. However, she was starting to make out with a friend of mine which I find ok as we were not serious or anything. But last Friday we started making out again and we were really drunk and wer talking about getting together as a couple. However when we both sobered up we agreed to just stay friends. However she is giving me really mixed signals lately. I mean one message saying she can't wait to see me and it never felt like this between us before. She sending me cute pictures and sexy pictures of herself. And then the next saying she can't wait for tomo so she can see the guy she is seeing. Then back to meeting up with me for a cuddle date and stuff. I really don't know what to think any more? She keeps telling me when we are drinking that it's "Always been me" and that she always was in love with me but I kept going back to my ex and will keep putting other girls in front of her (The exact thing she does do me but does it first and more frequently). Would you know what is going through is her head? Or what you think she wants? Or why she tells me that she can't get with me for doing the same things she is doing to me? I really have no idea.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Whenever a person is giving you mixed messages, that's because she does not mean what she says and is only saying them to get a reaction from you or to get you to love her. When she went back to her ex that totally negated what she said and you can never trust her words again. You are both playing games with each other. It doesn't matter who started them first. If you don't like the confusion, the uncertainty then you are both not right for each other. You are certainly getting something out of the game though. The excitement, the unpredictable, and always having each other to fall back on when things don't work out with other dates. I think what this girl wants is not too different from what I want, a guy who loves me and is committed to me only. Her approach is all wrong though. She is using her sex appeal to lure guys. She is manipulating and stirring up jealousy. Your response to this is to do the same thing. No matter why you don't really want to get with each other. To attract the right person you have to be the right person. She is not getting with you because you did not fall into her trap and you realize she is not a girl you can commit to. But what are you doing here continuing these games?
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