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anonymous
writes:hello everyone. i really need an advice. im in a long distance relationship were been almost 9 months but we knew each other about 2 years. his 13 years older than me, and he lives in australia and i lived in singapore. recenly past few days hes been so lonely and i get calls from him that he always tell me hes sad and lonliness kills him. and it makes me so scared and makes me think thats what going on in him.i really dont have an idea how to make him feel happy again and not get lonely. and he always tells me that, but i dont know how will i start to think to be us to be together. he didnt even ask me that, i want you us to be closer and start living with me, he just always telling me what he feel, but he didnt even tells how to closed the distanced to be together, im so confused about him. sometimes im scared too of what he feels because im thinking that hes not happy with me anymore or he wants to ended the relationship because im not there with him. i am sad too in our situation. but i dont have any idea what going on on him. does he dont want to continue our realtionship? is he not happy anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Long distance relationships are really hard. I think a good relationship involves seeing one another, communicating, touching, etc. In other words, sharing every aspect of life together. If you're having a long-distance relationship it is hard to do that. You have to accept the relationship for what it is...someone you can talk to and email on occassion. I would ask him point-blank if he wants a committed relationship with you. If he doesn't, you need to let him go...or...continue with the long-distance only realizing that that is all it is going to be. You have to realize that when you can't see, touch, and share with one another daily...there is a good chance you are both going to be unhappy and will look for happiness elsewhere. Not out of spite...just because we humans need to feel close to others to have a relationship.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 You don't have to wait for him to determine the next move. Tell him, this LDR is getting frustrating and if neither of you are moving to get closer to each other you would rather end it than to live in a dreamland. He could be hiding something.
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