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writes:I've met this new guy 2 weeks ago, he's an amazing guy, everything about him is great, we have so many things in common. He said "I love you" about 5 days ago, and i didn't respond to that, i just told him that we should take things slow and that i really like him. At the beginning of our relationship he would call me like 5 times a day, and text me all day long. it's been 2 days now and he haven't even called me or text me, i texted him saying "is everything ok?" and he was like "yeah baby." I feel like i got really attached to this guy, i cant stop thinking about him, im checking my phone like a crazy person waiting for him to call or text. Am i in love? or is it just a phase!P.S: I've been in a relationship before it lasted for 3 years, the breakup was just so horrible, i don't want to go through that all over again. Im just scared that this new guy would break my heart. I would be really devastated and crushed. :(
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 June 2012):
 Sounds a lot more like lust then love, which isn't so strange. But I would be weary of a guy who tosses out " I love You's" so freely.
And I think you got a HUGE dose of attention, which you were sorely wanting.
I think he is playing games with you though. He did a 160 mph mock courtship and when you said to slow it down he hit the breaks, trying to make YOU the one to chase HIM.
Play his game or back off.. Either way.. I'd be weary.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 June 2012):
 You're NOT in love... just lust and limerence... which is so much FUN!
part of living is taking the risks.
give him some time... let it progress... but don't say no to things just to protect yourself..
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 Clinger. Get rid of him. Who cares what he says.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 You can tell him you miss his calls and you can still talk every day, but not get too intense yet. He is waiting for you to feel more comfortable. Since you are the one asking for some time, you should be the one who initiates contact. Sometimes space allows us to cool off and to think clearly. No one is really ready for relationships. We go into them based on feelings and attractions and then justify why we are in them. You could say you are over an ex until you get into another relationship and those old feelings resurface. You just need to get to know him better. As you see that this is a new person, a new relationship, you may be able to trust him and relax.
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