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writes:I am going on 2 years with my guy and we have been engaged for 7 months. I love him very much, but I am beginning to doubt if I want to be with him. He can be a really sweet guy, but he can also be a jerk. He has money problems, but he is really getting himself out of debt. I am afraid for our financial future, and if I really want to be with him. I want to be with him, but I also dont know if I want to be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): Since you keep saying you aren't sure if you really want to be with this guy, it would be best if you postpone your wedding plans for now. You have some serious issues to clear up in your head and only you can decide for sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with this man. It doesn't sound like you do. Which is okay. If you have this many doubts about his character, or his ability to be a good provider/husband, you should definately wait. Maybe your intuitions are telling you this for a reason. Stop. Listen. Wait. Maybe he's not the one. And that's okay. Better to figure it out now, than after you've walked down the isle together. Best of luck.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 If you are THIS unsure, break of the engagement. You owe it to both of you NOT to keep the illusion up forever.
It should not be this hard to figure out. I think you still have some growing up and learning to do about who you are. TO be THIS unsure after two years...RED FLAG.
-FBK
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I think fear about your financial future is only part of your problem, you're just using THAT as your excuse. Is there any other reasons you don't want to be with him? If he's really sorting all his debt out then WHY can he still be a jerk?
I suggest you take some time out, away from him for a week or two to see how you really feel about him. If you feel this way about him after only 2 years together, how will you feel when you get married knowing it should be for LIFE?
Eve
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