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writes:Im 20yrs old. I have been going out with this girl for 6 months now and the number of guys she's bin with really bothers me (around 14). She went to a festival and had unprotected anal sex with some random guy in some forest last year...she has had many of these random one night things. She loves me to bits and i truely know it and we're so good together its just this past. I think about it almost everyday and its making me doubt this relationship. Just thinking about it makes my stomach turn. I really dont know what to do. Its complicated because now for some reason i'm doubting if i can trust her, i know thats stupid but thats just how i feel. On the other side even if i dont see her for a couple of days i really miss her, so i dont know how i would cope without her. If i dump her i mite regret it forever...if stay with her i will always have this 'thing' hanging over me! I REALLY need some advice, PLEASE help any advice? Thanks
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reader, myp  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 If your really into her youll find a way to make it work. But how many previous partners have you had? do they bother her? is it the number or just the fact that your not the first one shes slept with? All you can do is ask her to be completely honest with you about her life with you now. If shes cheating on you drop her. If shes not try to see that shes with YOU now. If she wanted to be with anybody else my guess is she would be.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 I want to ask...what is it that bothers you so much? The fact she had more opportunity than you (if you had the same chances, would you do it?). Is it the shear number of lovers? Or is it that her values are different from yours (unprotected sex, one night stands, etc...).
If the issue is different values, then love will not be enough to save this relationship.
If it is the other two, you might be able to work it out, if you can get over the hang ups.
-FBK
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reader, love-him +, writes (24 May 2007):
 chick most peoples stomach turns thinking about the partners ex's, but if you TRUELY TURST AND LOVE!! this girl then i realy dont see a reason you should doubt her. she has done things in the past which she regrets and is now in a 6-month relationship, unless you have a reason to doubt her then try put it to the back of your mind. i know you cant FORGET it but just think, they had her, youve got her, for the future!! look forward bbz. mail me if u want any advice n i hope i helpd x x x
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