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writes:About 6 months ago my wife moved out of our suburban home, stating that she was confused about her feelings for me after 12 years of marriage and said she wasn't sure she was atracted to me anymore. She comes home for brief visits, usually to collect clothes or other things. She won't tell me where she's living at, but I suspect it's a run-down efficiency apartment that she's embarrassed to let anyone see. The process of her "finding herself" seems to be a slow one and I'm at my wits end. I thought we had a wonderful life together. We both had great jobs, a great house, and we spent 4 weeks out of every year traveling to exotic places. My wife now says she's been "going through the motions" for years and feeling bored. She says I lack growth and I am too much of the "strong silent type". Also we don't share many hobbies together and she now says that she's never enjoyed our sex life. Is this just a mid-life crisis, or has my wife met someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006): Dude, she's cheating on you, no doubt about it. I'm currently in an relationship with a married woman and she tells her husband the same stuff.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 It sounds as if she might be a little down on herself and has not worked on these problems over the years. Sometimes a person finally throws their arms up n the air and makes a drastic move. Did you two never talk about these issues? It sounds like she's putting the blame on you when she needs to realize that she too, holds some of the responsibility. It's unfare she just dumped this on you, listed all your bad points and left. That'y childish. Again, this is all from your perspective, maybe she did try to reach you over the years.
She could have met somebody. The fact she won't tell you where she lives is odd. IT sounds like she threw the baby out with the bathwater. If you can get through to her, maybe she would agree to therapy.
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