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writes: i moved to a diferent country to be with my partner. We knew eachother for 6months before we decided to move in together. In the beginning everything was great and we were really happy. We have been together just over a year now, but I am very homesick and want to go back. He knows how i feel,but he would not come back with me...what to do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (10 June 2006):
 I left my country once too. Unless you come from some deperate country, you'll always have fond memories and be a little homesick. Like anything it diminishes with time. MAny people run from their homelands because necessity. They're happy to be somewhere else. Others move because of marriage etc. so outside of your mate, you really had no desire to relocate. This could harm your willingness to be openminded about the new country. You have to throw yourself into the new place and make connections. If you go home to visit too soon after the move, it makes you more homesick. If your in a different culture,language etc. that also takes time.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (10 June 2006):
 Before you make a decision to move back home for good, go home for a visit and see your family and friends. If your homesickness is no better having done that maybe you should call it a day with your b/f and go home, you will only make him miserable in the long run if he sees you are not happy living where you are.
You have a big decision to make, but it's only you who can decide where your heart lies!
Good luck!
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (10 June 2006):
 Dear Reader,
maybe you should have waited to move away with your partner? Knowing him for 1/2 a year was ok, but waiting probably would have been best. Still, if your partner knows you're not happy then ask yourself this - why isn't he trying to make you happy?
You may miss all of the good things of home, but think of the good things you have where you are? Maybe your family could visit for Christmas or another yearly holiday or come and stay for a couple of weeks? Keep regular contact with your family. It helps.
All The Best,
Phoebe
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