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writes: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 9 months, and recently we both started different universities. I am having a really hard time dealing with the distance and separation, and on top of eveything he has made this really good friend at school who is a girl who is a huge flirt, constantly calling and text messaging him, and always with him. He has told me numerous times that she's just s friend, and he is very trustworthy; however, I feel sick to my stomach on a constant basis. How can I deal with the distance, and his 'new' friend better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): Knowing guys he is without doubt cheating on you my friend... Sorry, but the way it sounds the chances are slim hes being completely faithful to you especially with the kind of attention hes getting from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): your luv for each other will be tested and remember you'll be apart for years. There is no reason to panic or react to this particular situation because there is no proof, but there is the possibility that this girl has other intensions ,the best you can do is to tell him how you feal about this particular friend. Talk about your distance situation and how you going to make it work things like temptation,lonliness will take toll and you'd have to plan for this to make that bond stronger and withstand the distance. If both of you stick to the knitting it will work and luv conquers all.
good luck!!
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reader, dodobird +, writes (19 October 2006):
That is a horrible situation to be in, especially when you're living so far apart. All I can say is men are often oblivious to a female when she is flirting if they don't feel that way bout them. To him he probably does think it's completely innocent. So instead of arguing with him about it, act as if it means as little to you as it does to him then you are the cool, understanding girlfriend and when you go and visit him just be really laid back and even chat with the girl. try not to create a situation where he has to make a choice not that I think he wouldn't chose you but in the future he may resent you for it. all the best I'm sure it will be fine
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 This is a tough one that soley depends on trust and a roll of the dice. There is nothing you can do about it. You are going to meet guys too. You can't control this. How can you forbid him to be friends with someone. This will only create anger on his part.
The truth is, either your relationship will continue to blossom or it won't. People cheat or they don't. It's understandable how the distance and separation create more stress too. Again, you can't change that.
It doesn't make you foolish to trust somebody. That's is what you're supposed to do until they give you reason not to.
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