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writes: Me and my girlfriend have been together now over 10 and a half months and while we do trust each other I not sure whether sometimes she tends too make me jelous.She started a part-time job over a week ago and since then she has just talked endlessly about it, not even asking how my job is going and whether or not I have had a good day after the days I work.She mentions the lads there and tells me what this one particular lad does when hes there. And describes him as being tall and stuff and she was talking too him. She spent at least 10 minutes talking about him. While she is a very talkative person i just think this is very strange and rude towards me.In my situation if i've told her i spoke too a girl during my day which is rare as i work with lads mostly, she would just go 'yeah' and change the subject or sometimes say somthing like 'I think i'm gunna have too come down and watch them' obviously in a jokey way but truthful at the same time as if too say 'Don't get speaking too girls' and she tells me too 'Not look at any girls' sometimes.Also she is very big up top and with a quite slim body and in my opinion she tends too purposley put her shoulders back and stick them out. And she mentioned that her manager said somthing like 'What size are you?' As in uniform wize and she sed 'Ohh small' and he looked at her chest apparantly and said 'Ohh i thought you would have needed a large' kinda joking around hinting she has a big chest. I do feel uncomftable with this and i have told her about her sticking them out, and i know her long enough now too know she does sort of but she says she doesn't.It just feels one sided as she thinks 'Im her only boyfriend for life i can speak too lads and say if they're good looking and comment on their hair' and from my point of view 'I can't speak or look at girls, or if I do i get 'told off' lol...Sorry about such a long post and for babbling on just wanted too clear things up...Thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replys.
I was just curious about it thats all because I have never seen her like this. Im not jelous I don't get jelous and I know she wouldn't cheat I was just trying too explain the 'one-sided' fact and maybe I should joke around in the way she does too...
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Eddie has a point, but if I may just add she should accept that you talk to girls also, and she has to address her own insecurities about that if she wants you to accept the fact that she is behaving in this manner.
It may be just because she has a new job, and is excited about the novelty of that. Just give it time, and she will probably ease up and let you get a word in edgeways, lol!!
As for her bust, I believe that a lot of back problems are caused by large breasts, and this could explain why she looks as though she is 'sticking them out'! She may just be putting her shoulders back to compensate.
I hope I have helped.
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reader, eddie +, writes (9 October 2006):
 It sounds like you're the jealous one here. She's talking openly and freely. You're not. It sounds as if you're keeping score of what whe is saying and responding in ways that you hope will entice her to give you more amunition.
If she is babbling off about her day and sharing information with you, it's not likley she's trying to keep secrets. She might find the guy from work to be really nice and good looking too. She might also have a big chest. Is that one of the things you were attracted to. You see, it doesn't matter. Her chest is what it is. What do you propose she do about it? The guy at work is what he is. If she hasn't done anything wrong with him and has no intentions to do so, what do you propose in that situation. Should she ignore him and be rude because YOU feel thrreatened.
Listen, it's a big world and at this time you're suffering from a little bit of insecurity. There will always be somebody better looking coming around the corner. Get used to that. I mean you said she descibed the guy as "tall". I's assuming that bothered you becasue you think she must have spent too much time sizing him up or in other words noticing dtails about him. Well, maybe she did. A person can't control what they notice or what occasioal thought might pop up. What we control is behaviour and actions.
It's naive to think you're the only one for her. That sounds romantic but it's not true. Half the population gets divorced from somebody who was " the only one" in the past and hooks up with somebody who becomes the new " only one". The important things is at this time and hopefully forever, you are the "only one". So, don't give her reasons to want somebody else. You can't control people for long. After a while, they get tired of the domination.
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