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writes: My Girlfriend and i have a rather healthy sex drive, we usually have sex 2-3 times a week. But just the other day on the way home from a trip to her moms house she admitted to me that she was not satisfied by that days love making and had masturbated, this didn't upset me as much as the fact that she also admitted that she was thinking of another man.I got very upset at this and did not talk to her for the rest of the night. My question is did i overreact and was what she did so bad? is it normal to think of other men when you masturbate?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): i admire your girls honesty, guess it is natural to think of someone else sometimes,i do but have never told the wife nor discussed it with anyone,if i'm taking a long time to reach climax thinking of a 'fantasy' type situation certainly gets me there quicker, remember she is only fantasizing....have you never done that ?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 What she did is normal. Telling you as she did was perhaps naive but probably inocent. At least, she was honest. If you don't handle this in the appropriate manner, she might not be so honest in the future about important stuff. Have you never though sexually about someone else other than your significant other. If we were judged by every thought we have, we 'd all be doing life sentences.
Remember...your thoughts are yours to have and enjoy. Your actions determine what you're made of. In other words, there could be a really hot guy that rides the subway every morning. Your girlfriend might be on the same car. She might think he's stunning. She may be attracted to what she, and here'sthe important word, SEES. If she doesn't know him, or get friendly with him, she is entitled to her thoughts and attractions. If she chooses to be with you and LOVE you, she can masturbate as she sees fit. If you ever think you should ba able to have control over who somebody masturbates too, you're asking for too much power in that relationship.
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