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| Latest articles: Being Happy In a Relationship
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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Is she planning on taking a vacation without me?
Q. i saw on my gf's computer last night that she was looking at vacationing in st. thomas. the date she was looking at is sept 22-27. now, she hasn't mentioned it to me, so am i to assume she's thinking of taking someone else, or could it be a su...
A. 29 September 2010: Hello again. Sometimes it is best to trust a person and take their word for being true.
Yes, you could say - "well is what she told me true?"
But the thing is, you could go on forever doubting and doubting everything that she says, and what i... (read in full...)
Is she planning on taking a vacation without me?
Q. i saw on my gf's computer last night that she was looking at vacationing in st. thomas. the date she was looking at is sept 22-27. now, she hasn't mentioned it to me, so am i to assume she's thinking of taking someone else, or could it be a su...
A. 24 September 2010: Hello again. Perhaps she is going with her cousin to the beach house. It is hard to know for sure.
Sometimes when a person is vague about answering questions about something, it could mean they have something to hide.
Do you live together? ... (read in full...)
Want to become a new, improved version of myself
Q. I want to be the kind of girl that guys chase after but they cant have. Supposedly im pretty enough for it but when a cute guy likes me i chase them then they lose the attraction. How do/can i not do that? I also want my boobsand butt to be bigger. ...
A. 2 September 2010: Hello again. Wow! These other people have given some fantastic advice. Another thing I just thought of is, you talk about wanting to be better than you already are, believing that outside beauty is all that there is. Not so. Physical beauty... (read in full...)
I need to drop a friend
Q. I work with this person and we have been friends since we were 16. She has always been a bit mean but accepted my hospitality on many occasions including us taking her for holidays. She has a real problem. She leaves her purse at home by mistake, ...
A. 2 September 2010: Hi there. It is a bit awkward after knowing her for so long. However, she is using people a bit, isn't she?
If I were you, I wouldn't be accepting her invitations and just saying - "I'm sorry, but I can't I have something on", and don't give any... (read in full...)
Dating--all the girls hate me!
Q. hey im having trouble i want a date but every hates me how do i get a least one (please aprove this)...
A. 1 September 2010: Hi there. When you first meet people, are you being yourself and totally honest with them?
It is always better being honest and not pretending to be something you are not, just for the sake of pleasing people.
Perhaps you have been trying too ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend just want me to be pudgy? Why doesn't he support my weight loss and work?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my fiancee for 3 years. Since we've been together I lost 40lbs. I was on a mission to lose weight even before I met him so I lost a total of 123lbs. In fact, when we met I was jogging with dumbbells. In any case, he...
A. 1 September 2010: Hi there. Is it possible that you are getting too thin? I mean below what is considered your normal healthy weight range.
The other problem with losing weight, is sometimes women keep on wanting to lose more and more weight and somehow always s... (read in full...)
What do I need to understand about how girls choose a guy?
Q. What do I need to understand about how girls choose a guy? When I'm talking with a girl I like in a sexual way, I'm wondering whether I'm good enough compared to my competition, other guys. Or when I see another guy talking with the same girl an...
A. 1 September 2010: Hi there. My advice is to just be yourself, and don't feel that you are in competition with all other men. Everyone is completely different, no two men are alike in their personalities. Don't ever compare yourself to others - everyone is equal. ... (read in full...)
Want to become a new, improved version of myself
Q. I want to be the kind of girl that guys chase after but they cant have. Supposedly im pretty enough for it but when a cute guy likes me i chase them then they lose the attraction. How do/can i not do that? I also want my boobsand butt to be bigger. ...
A. 27 August 2010: Hi there. You will be much more attractive to guys if you are a confident, independent woman with your own life and interests of your own. If you have a full life, you won't appear needy which really can turn men off. Learn to make yourself ha... (read in full...)
We seem to be having real communication issues....
Q. Im feeling a bit down today about things with my boyfriend.We have been dating for 6 months and at the moment i cant say things seem very serious between us, there quite casual, we are exclusive but id like things to get more serious as I really ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi there. It sounds a bit like you might be making him your whole life.
It can get a bit like that at times. Once the relationship begins, women can often be working really hard at trying to make their men happy, doing lots of things for them... (read in full...)
It hurts to feel I'm good enough for sex and nothing else
Q. I've been friends with a guy since school but we lost contact. We recently got back in contact over a year ago, decided to meet up and it was really nice. After that we started talking quite frequently, we met up again one evening for a drink and ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi there. It sounds like sex is all this association with him is. It might have been better to simply be friends first and really get to know each other before jumping into bed with him. Because now he has very little or no respect for you ... (read in full...)
It hurts to feel I'm good enough for sex and nothing else
Q. I've been friends with a guy since school but we lost contact. We recently got back in contact over a year ago, decided to meet up and it was really nice. After that we started talking quite frequently, we met up again one evening for a drink and ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hi there. It sounds like sex is all this association with him is. It might have been better to simply be friends first and really get to know each other before jumping into bed with him. Because now he has very little or no respect for you ... (read in full...)
I can make him orgasm every time but I've never had one!
Q. Ive been with my Fiancee for 16 months. We have been sexually active for a year now and he was my 1st. I can make him orgasm every time, but Ive never had one. He is amazing and when he touches me it feels amazing and my legs jump. I get the ...
A. 26 August 2010: Hello again. The leg jumping (as you say), is maybe part of a little orgasm but you are not allowing it to go further. The whole body is involved in an orgasm, although the main tingly feelings are felt around the genital area up to about the ... (read in full...)
Why cant I get past the pain of my first relationship?
Q. I am 22 years old and I have been single for 3 and a half years now after a 6 year, very intense, and emotionally unstable relationship. Since then i have been in only one other brief relationship, and then a "friends w/ benefits" situation where i ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. Maybe you don't have a lot of confidence in yourself at the moment.
You might think you are ready for a relationship but in fact might not be.
Get to know yourself first before getting serious with anyone. Take up some interests a... (read in full...)
I can make him orgasm every time but I've never had one!
Q. Ive been with my Fiancee for 16 months. We have been sexually active for a year now and he was my 1st. I can make him orgasm every time, but Ive never had one. He is amazing and when he touches me it feels amazing and my legs jump. I get the ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. The feeling of wanting to urinate, is probably the onset of an orgasm, but then maybe the stimulation by him stops before you reach full orgasm.
My guess is that is what has happened. Once he has had his orgasm, he might forget t... (read in full...)
I've started thinking of my partner more as a relative than a mate
Q. I have been with my partner for over 19 years. At the moment I am very confused. Our dog passed away unexpectedly a month ago which has had a massive impact on me. I truly belive he represented a child to us and help the relationship ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. Perhaps what has stopped happening is good communication. Maybe the only times you talk you argue or criticise.
Even if you don't argue with or criticise each other, it might be that you have stopped doing nice things for each other an... (read in full...)
I trusted him and he cheated on me
Q. well my boyfriend and i have now been going out for two months and the other night i trusted him to go to a party while i was at a dance class, he tells me two days later that he cheated on me and now i don't know what to do, so i guess my question ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. You need to sit down and talk about it and be honest with each other.
Also, you both need to be on the same page about what you both expect and want from this relationship. Make sure sure you both want the same thing. Don't hold any... (read in full...)
Why did this happen to me? Why did my husband cheat on me?
Q. why me???? when i was young and great looking i meet the boy of my dreams. my husband. we dated for 5 year got married, no first had a baby then got married.he wroked i work we had a pretty good life. in tell his family came out. i had a great br...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. You say your husband's family lives overseas or at least they have family history there. Do you feel that they would have liked him to marry his own nationality?
That can be hard I'm sure.
It also sounds like they might have a lot... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks she doesn't deserve me, when its supposed to be vice-versa
Q. (I'm sorry this is a really long story, please just bear with me; I felt like I was writing an essay) First time using an advice column, please help. Still young, starting junior year (yeah a lot of school stress) Well...beginning...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. First of all, I think you are worrying without reason. The fact you seem to like each other equally, is enough to be together in the first place. You are both still way too young to even be considering getting serious and marriage the... (read in full...)
How do I see through all his mixed signals?
Q. theres this guy i really like but theres too many mixed signals and i cant read him please help i like this guy in one of my classes i dont know what attracted me to him his cute and nice and confident. at the first two days of school i noticed...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. It seems like he's interested. But like most very young men, it's probably a confidence thing.
He probably would like to come up to you and say hi, but is not sure how you might react. He is probably afraid of rejection. Believe ... (read in full...)
What could these strange dreams mean?
Q. Hi. I'm a bit confused.. I dont normal dream nor remember then, but for the last 3 days I have been having strange dreams.. The first night I dreamt my work place, people and building where located in a space ship.. We landed at this place where one ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. Your're right, it does seem like a lot is going on there. I can't define it's meaning accurately, without knowing you.
However, over the years I personally, have found it really helpful to write all my dreams down in an exercise... (read in full...)
Love my ex but we decided to end it to pursue a new relationship. Think I did the right thing - what do you think?
Q. I know on this site we're suppose to seek help,and complain about our problems but today I felt like I just lifted a big weight off my shoulders. The thing is I just feel like things are just too good to be true for now. I have a boyfriend now, and...
A. 25 August 2010: Hi there. As your age is 18-21, you don't say it, but it's possible that your ex was your first love. And if that is the case, well then it would naturally be a special thing for you. Most people never really forget their first romance.
It's ... (read in full...)
I don't have a job! what should I tell people at my brothers wedding?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I have been invited for a night out in a group for my friend's birthday, and i am also going to my brother's wedding soon, but i feel embarrassed because i dont have a job and i know that people usually ask what you do for a ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hello again. Perhaps you could start some hobbies and doing things that you enjoy. As you say that you are unsure which way to begin, this is probably a good starting point.
If there is no urgent financial need for you to be working right no... (read in full...)
I don't have a job! what should I tell people at my brothers wedding?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I have been invited for a night out in a group for my friend's birthday, and i am also going to my brother's wedding soon, but i feel embarrassed because i dont have a job and i know that people usually ask what you do for a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. There's nothing to be ashamed of in not having a job at the moment.
Have you had a job in the past? If so, whatever it was, simply say to people that at the moment you are in between jobs. And tell them the type of work you did in t... (read in full...)
I messed up with my friend this weekend! What should I say to him?
Q. i can't beleive this weekend and how badly i messed up. i'm 16, male, and wondered in the past if i might be bi or gay although i've dated girls. my parents were out of town so i asked a friend if he wanted to stay over and party with me. he's my ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. You need to have a private talk with him with no-one else around, and talk about what happened.
It doesn't mean that you are gay. It was probably just experimentation.
You need to ask youself how you feel about girls, and how y... (read in full...)
How can I be sure if I have had an orgasm?
Q. when your masturbating how do you know you've had an orgasm? and how can you have an orgasm? what do you do to get a really good one. i need help. ive had sex heaps and ive never had an orgasm and ive masterbated but im not sure if at the end i ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. You would know if you had an orgasm almost certainly.
It's a tingling beginning starting at about your tailbone through the core of your being but centres around the genital area and lower abdomen mainly.
At first the genitals wil... (read in full...)
I have had my period twice this month and both have been light, why is this?
Q. Hi :) Ive had my periods twice this month, and the 2 times ive had them, its been REALLY light and i dont know why :S can you please help me ? Thanks ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. Have you only just started getting your period?
If so, they might not be quite ready to start fully yet.
If you've been getting them for a year or more, you might have a hormone imbalance. To be sure, check it out with your GP. H... (read in full...)
I feel like I have a teenage son not a husband! What should I do?
Q. I am at a loss of what to do Ive been with my husband for almost 11 years and married for 6. He has been smoking cannabis about 3 joints a day everyday for the last about 4 months.I have found porn on the computer related to anal sex and latex. ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. He probably smokes cannibis because of boredom, that's usually the reason.
You don't mention whether he works.
If he's driving under the influence, you could always anonymously (from a public phone box), report him to the police fo... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to deal with this?
Q. Whenever I try and say something honestly to my partner, they get upset immediately and get in a mood with me. How am I supposed to deal with this?...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. I guess it depends on what you are being honest about, and not so much what you talk about but how you say it.
I can only assume that perhaps you have said to your partner, something they did that you didn't like and criticised them abo... (read in full...)
He cried when he ejaculated! Is this normal?
Q. i have just started a new relationship and slept together for the first time although we didnt have sex just foreplay . i just wondered if it was normal for a man to cry whilst ejeculating never had this happen before ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. I haven't heard of that happening either, ever.
Perhaps he is an emotional type, and experienced ejaculation as deeply spiritual in some way.
Perhaps he was having some sad thoughts right then at that moment, for some reason.
... (read in full...)
How can I break my unhealthy addiction to a bad relationship, but good sex?
Q. Hi all, I wonder if you could give me some advice please!! I have just finished with my BF of three months, who was treating me in a horrible way, and was very controlling for the last six weeks. I finally broke it off about a week or so again ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. It seems to be a cycle. He treats you badly. Although you don't actually specify, do you mean that he takes you for granted?
You might want more from the relationship than he does.
It also sounds like you have made him your whole l... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel pleasure when I have sex?
Q. ive had sex more then 10 times but i dont feel pleasure in it. ive never orgasmed and im always soooo relaxed. his penis is big and im always in the mood but i just for some reason dont feel pleasure when i have sex with a guy. someone helppp? ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hi there. The fact you don't seem to feel much pleasure during sex just indicates not enough stimulation.
Probably due to poor technique and inexperience combined.
Also, the type of relationship you have with the guy will affect how you f... (read in full...)
I feel her love but sometimes when she shuts down, I take it personally and it pushes me away.
Q. OK this is going to be a bit of a long question as I have a few issues to discuss. Firstly, a bit of background on my relationship. I met my tour guide Chinese gf last year and we stayed in regular contact by long distance (skype, msn and email). ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hi there. She is probably tired a lot of the time, plus being isolated by having to jump on a plane and go to work as a tour guide. She might be fed up with it all.
Being tired will certainly make people less patient, so at those times you need... (read in full...)
B/f was in a car accident and now he hardly ever contacts me
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years, he has always been quite a distant guy, and i dont get to see him much coz of his work schedule. However recently he was in a car accident and has been incredibly distant ever since, he hasnt ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hi there. When you say you go to see him, it sounds like you are the only one doing the chasing. He doesn't come to you, it's always you going to him.
Perhaps you are a little too available to him and he's taking it all for granted. You need... (read in full...)
How can I get over the nervousness and embarresment?
Q. Recently i've watched friends and just general people my age start relationships, to be totally honest this hasn't bothered me until recently. I've thought about it and i'm geniunly upset about the fact I don't feel I have the ability to get a ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hi there. How you are feeling is fairly normal for your age. Why don't you just relax and talk to this girl just like a friend and see how you get along. See if you have things in common - likes and dislikes, music, sports etc.
You don't ha... (read in full...)
How do I get him to tell me how he feels?
Q. My "friend" Ian , doesn't know I like him. He starts a conversation over text .we will have a few sentences and then he ends it by not replying. He calls me all kinds of names like sweetie and Hun. He won't tell me if he likes me , but I already ...
A. 21 August 2010: Hi there. You say you text each other fairly often. But do you ever see each other and go out at all? There is nothing quite like face to face contact. Texting is so limited and people abbreviate so as not to waste time. Because of that, it is ... (read in full...)
I have been married for less than 2 months and we are talking about divorce. Can you advise?
Q. I have been married for only a 1 1/2 and we are already talking about divorce. We argue all the time, lately he complains about the way I kiss him while having sex. At times I feel that he does not wants to kiss me or touch me. I have the feeling ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. You say you have 3 children living with you, so by that you are saying they are yours from a previous marriage.
This would certainly put some stress on your relationship to have a ready made family from day 1. Have you discusse... (read in full...)
Why do men do the "I love you but...." thing?
Q. I have been seeing a an amazing guy for about 10 months. He is a widower with kids. I am totally in love with him and he has told me so many times that he loves me. The relationship began as friendship and grew to something far more. There wasn't a...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. It's difficult trying to sustain a relationship where there are kids from a previous relationship.
His kids are probably still quite young as well. That doesn't help. They would always be trying to compare you to their mother, ... (read in full...)
Should I suggest we spend some time apart?
Q. My fiancee tells me repeatedly that she loves me and can't wait to marry me, in both spoken and written word, yet her actions indicate she may be drifting away. Perhaps she is getting too comfortable in the relationship or she is getting bored with ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. You don't say if she has been married before or you either.
Are you both sure you really want to get married?
Perhaps she is wary of tying the knot and maybe losing her freedom. If you are already living together, she might be afr... (read in full...)
Was this the right thing to do?
Q. we both really like each other, been something between us for over 2 years. he's moving away for school though. i just ended a long distance relationship a few months ago and wouldn't do LD again. I told him to not put his life on hold for me and ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. Yes, I believe you have done the right thing.
If he's moving away for school, and he's about the same age as you (18-21 years), he's probably moving away with his parents, is he? If not, he may well come back for the holidays to visit... (read in full...)
Is she planning on taking a vacation without me?
Q. i saw on my gf's computer last night that she was looking at vacationing in st. thomas. the date she was looking at is sept 22-27. now, she hasn't mentioned it to me, so am i to assume she's thinking of taking someone else, or could it be a su...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. It's hard to say what she has planned.
I think if it was me, I would just come right out and ask her. Just say that you happened to see that she was planning a holiday in September, and talk about it.
It's much better to be ope... (read in full...)
I hurt for my ex, is it wise to fight for his love again?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 4 days ago. We were together for 2 years, and we broke up once about a year ago. We got back together after about a month and were fine ever since. Ya, we bicker, and I guess sometimes it got to be too much but I know ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. You feel that you want him back. But why did you break up in the first place?
You seem to go along well for a while, then you both go your separate ways.
You don't say that either of you has met someone else, so that's not the r... (read in full...)
I've taken 7 pregnancy tests and all were positive, but did I take them too early?
Q. i had sex like 3 to 5 weeks ago with no protection and im realy scared because 4 days ago i took only one pregnancy test and it came out positive so the next day like at 9 or 10 in the morning i took 6 more and they all came out positive but someone ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. Usually, to test for pregnancy, you would do the test at about 2 weeks overdue with your period.
You say 3-5 weeks ago you had unprotected sex, but you don't say when your last period was due, to know how overdue your period is.
I... (read in full...)
Will my parents know I'm on the pill?
Q. I'm 17,and yes sexually active. Not too long ago I entered a program at a hospital that my friend mentioned to me that would help. It's basically for teens and you get regualar check ups for those who are sexually active. Since then I've been using ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. There is a code of privacy between the doctor and his patient, which excludes any patient ever asking about another patient without their authority.
Your mother will not find out about your taking the contraceptive pill unless you happ... (read in full...)
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