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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up 4 days ago. We were together for 2 years, and we broke up once about a year ago. We got back together after about a month and were fine ever since. Ya, we bicker, and I guess sometimes it got to be too much but I know that we can fix it! I want him back, I know that if we get back together that we can make this so much better than it was last time. He said that we hopes we can get some lunch before summer is over. And i dont know why he said that right after we broke upWe havent talked since we broke up, but I truly love him and will fight for him back.I already know not to mope, to go hang out with friends, focus on myself, try to forget about him, talk to other guys to get ur mind off of him, meet new people, there are other guys out there for you blah blah blahhh. I dont need to hear any of that anymore because I am already doing that. I just want him back. I want to know what my chances are for getting him back and what I can do to get him back?! Is this time without me calling, texting, emailing, good time for him to really miss me and think about what he did and coming back? Should I talk to him? I dont want to sit around and regret trying to get us back! I want to try!!!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 August 2010):
Hi there. You feel that you want him back. But why did you break up in the first place?
You seem to go along well for a while, then you both go your separate ways.
You don't say that either of you has met someone else, so that's not the reason for breaking up.
I see also, that you are 18-21 years of age, so assumably he is around that age as well. You are both finding yourselves at that age, and still working out what you like and don't like. It's probably also a first relationship for your both. A first relationship is pretty special, which would explain not wanting to let go of it too quickly.
Perhaps you are both outgrowing each other in some way. That can happen, interests can change or your needs inside the relationship might not match up with each other.
Within any relationship, for it to work well, the needs of both parties needs to be fulfilled. Does the relationship still fill your needs?
If you have decided to have a break, just have that break and see what happens over time. If you are both meant to be together you will be, but unfortunately you can't force that to happen.
During this break, don't try and text him or call him, just give him some space. That's important, you don't want to smother him. You need space as well.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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