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| Latest articles: Being Happy In a Relationship
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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Dreaming of a past love....
Q. She gazed into my eyes with that look I've come to associate with her,those twin beauties all over me as if the life of their beholder depended on the moment. Never did we seem close to caring about the rain-filled clouds above our heads,for we only ...
A. 14 October 2010: Hi. Thanks for your nice comments. I really believe you will enjoy that book. It's very interesting and completely relevant.
I felt happiness once I started reading it, within just a few short pages.
Take care.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to move past this and have a happy marriage?
Q. Does marriage get better with age and has anyone sucessfully survived a cheating spouse? I am 24 years old and have been married since I was 21. My husband and I have a child that is 2. My husband was a Marine and he had an affair while he was out ...
A. 21 September 2010: Hello again. I have another idea which might also help. There is a good book about relationships that might also be useful to you. That book is called - "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You" (Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship), by An... (read in full...)
I never thought I would be the other woman!
Q. Ok. Im lost. I need help here. I have tried to get around this on my own and just seem to be shooting myself in the foot every time I try. I never thought I would be the other woman. And I never once thought I would be attached enough to someon...
A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. Although you say you get along great with each other, and have plenty of things in common, what you really have is a "friends with benefits" relationship.
He does have a girlfriend after all. Thirteen years older than him isn't th... (read in full...)
Sharing my wife... playing with fire?
Q. I want to know if anyone has ever played around with this – I am a 41 year old man… recently married a beautiful 27 year old woman. We are very much in love…trying to have a child together. We have a great sex life…but we are both on the adven...
A. 20 September 2010: Hi there. It's great that you have a pretty good relationship - now - and that you have a good sex life also.
As exciting as taking part in a threesome sounds, it would definitely present problems down the track. It's ok and fairly safe whilst e... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pushing me away and taking the alone time out of the relationship
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year now and have known each other for 3 yrs, my question is that he doesn`t want me sleeping at his place more then maybe 1 or 2 nights a month if that, this has been happening for a couple of ...
A. 20 September 2010: Hello again. Maybe his biggest problem is that he's afraid that if you do fall pregnant, that financially it would be very difficult for you both.
There's no doubt it does affect the money situation, but if otherwise you both get along pretty w... (read in full...)
He won't stop texting other girls and is addicted to porn!
Q. Ok here it goes. I've been with my boyfriend for a 1 1/2 years now. I just moved in with him two months ago. He has been texting other girls. I know I looked on his phone. I don't feel good about it but I did. What I found was, pics of porn, ...
A. 20 September 2010: Hello again. It sounds like you are going to give up on him.
It really might be wise first, to go into the website your last advisor mentioned - npsupport.net - it does sound like a very good idea.
Before you decide which direction to tak... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pushing me away and taking the alone time out of the relationship
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year now and have known each other for 3 yrs, my question is that he doesn`t want me sleeping at his place more then maybe 1 or 2 nights a month if that, this has been happening for a couple of ...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi there. Maybe, don't sleep at his place at all. Just go out, but don't sleep over. You can still have a relationship without sleeping over all the time. Just take it slowly, and don't push things otherwise it would be another fight. It's... (read in full...)
My wife wants to turn gay!
Q. why does my wife want to turn in a gay lover and do not want any part of me .We have one child she some time talk to me nice and thentalk to me like a pig .We been with each other for 15 years and now she do not love me . can anyone tell me why ? i ...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi there. It's hard to say. Perhaps she has come to a point in her life where she is looking for something that is missing. It sounds like boredom, plain and simple. When people feel bored, they'll do just about anything to make life more ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon for a guy to give his number?
Q. How soon is too soon for a guy to give his number? If hes interested in you should he give it to you in the first few days after you met (were in the same class together)? Thanks for any answers!...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi there. Usually, a guy asks for a girl's phone number. It seems a bit arrogant I think. Why I say this, is if he gives you his number he is effectively saying, "I want you to call me, because I won't call you". If he is to do that, he's being... (read in full...)
He won't stop texting other girls and is addicted to porn!
Q. Ok here it goes. I've been with my boyfriend for a 1 1/2 years now. I just moved in with him two months ago. He has been texting other girls. I know I looked on his phone. I don't feel good about it but I did. What I found was, pics of porn, ...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi there. It sounds like he is bored with his life in some way. Boredom makes people go exploring, whether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, pornography or having casual sex with different partners - many, many things. It serves as nothing more... (read in full...)
Broke up with his gf, we started dating, he wanted space, will he be back??
Q. Ok, I met this guy about a year ago and he was really really into me. I didn't feel the same so we just became friends. He's had girlfriends since but I know he's always really liked me. A couple weeks ago I started to have feelings for him...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi there. This guy really doesn't know what he wants - or who!
Although you like him, because of this uncertainty with him still having feelings for his ex, you and him are not really going to have a chance to really blossom into somethin... (read in full...)
I'm awkward with conversations, so how do I talk to this guy?
Q. Ok, so I have absolutely no dating knowledge, even though I'm 18. I'm a shy and timid thing, and to be honest, I'm not the best looking thing (and I'm not trying to be humble or modest, I'm just telling the truth). There's this guy who works various ...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi there. "Hi", is a good start. You could then say after that - "How's your day been so far?" Things like that, are always a good way to start up a short chat with someone you don't know. Especially in a situation like this, when you are lining ... (read in full...)
After the baby was born things went down hill for us!
Q. I have being with my bf 4 over 3 years i have a 19month old girl with him. For the 1st year and a half of our relationship things was amazing in everyway once our daughter was born it slowly but surely went down hill in everyway. Ive noticed myself ...
A. 17 September 2010: Hi there. Life can get pretty tough when a baby comes along.
For a start, there are the sleepless nights. So as a consequence of that, you walk around all day feeling exhausted. When you feel exhausted, you don't feel particularly cheerful... (read in full...)
My fiance has terrible mood swings, what should I do?
Q. Ok.. so me and my fiancee have been together around 15 months, engaged since march.. i have a 21 month old child from a previous relationship, who sees my other half completely as her father, the biological one has no involvment at all. I am also 22 ...
A. 17 September 2010: Hello again. Ok, so you are not living together but he stays at your house when he's back from being away with the Army. Presumably, he lives with his parents otherwise. It's quite challenging him being away for so much of the year on a regula... (read in full...)
Should I confront her on calling me a loser?
Q. Today was not a good day. First of all, I horribly failed a test in my best subject. Now, my friend is telling me that a girl that I am mutual friends with calls me a loser. I have never called her a mean name in my life. She is a social drifter ...
A. 17 September 2010: Hi there. First of all, don't every worry about what other people say. What someone else thinks doesn't matter at all.
It's far more important to believe in yourself and that you are already a worthy human being.
Never let the opinion of a... (read in full...)
Finally asking the question after 7 years of silence
Q. Hi there, I am 26 and have been married for 7 years, I have a great husband and recently i had been reading a lot about masturbating, I had never really wanted to try it because i do like sex but i had never had an orgasm. Well, about 3 months...
A. 16 September 2010: Hi there. Yes, what you describe is an orgasm. It is a lot of tingly feelings exactly what you describe.
Orgasms can vary from mild to very intense, depending on the mood you're in at the time. Also the time of the month (for instance around o... (read in full...)
Wise Relationship Advice
Q. There are several varieties of relationships available. You can choose between open or closed, serious or not serious or the ‘friends with benefits’ arrangement that is currently popular. Which ever you choose, he must agree with it or the ...
A. 16 September 2010: Hi there. Yes, I agree with all that you've said.
Making it clear about what each wants from the relationship is pretty important as well. It can't be talked about on the first date obviously, but you didn't say that - it's understood. In any c... (read in full...)
My fiance has terrible mood swings, what should I do?
Q. Ok.. so me and my fiancee have been together around 15 months, engaged since march.. i have a 21 month old child from a previous relationship, who sees my other half completely as her father, the biological one has no involvment at all. I am also 22 ...
A. 16 September 2010: Hi there. I don't think that you have mentioned it, but are you living together? I ask because, it seems like there is a fair bit of stress there now.
Your fiance has a ready-made family - a 21 month old, who is probably quite active now (run... (read in full...)
I got cold feet and said some really horrible things
Q. So I was seeing a wonderful kind loving man from a far away country.We met while he was here on work and it felt like it was meant to be. We maintained this beautiful realationship for awhile and after about 5 months he was talking marriage and all ...
A. 16 September 2010: Hello again.
That's great you have decided to give him some space, as he has requested. That breathing space for him, will allow him time to really get his thoughts together about what he wants in his life.
Another thing standing in the ... (read in full...)
Dreaming of a past love....
Q. She gazed into my eyes with that look I've come to associate with her,those twin beauties all over me as if the life of their beholder depended on the moment. Never did we seem close to caring about the rain-filled clouds above our heads,for we only ...
A. 16 September 2010: Hello again. Thank you I'm glad it helped you.
Yes I did enjoy reading your article. It is not ordinary reading, it's quite emotional and very much like literature. Perhaps you should write romantic literature, if you don't already.
It is d... (read in full...)
Is it possible to move past this and have a happy marriage?
Q. Does marriage get better with age and has anyone sucessfully survived a cheating spouse? I am 24 years old and have been married since I was 21. My husband and I have a child that is 2. My husband was a Marine and he had an affair while he was out ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. It's pretty hard to trust someone if they are unfaithful. He had a weak moment (or moments), when he was away. Although this was a shock to you, it is good that since it happened, that you found out about it. So it was no longer a ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance of salvaging this relationship?
Q. In May 2004 my partner of 8 years passed away from brain tumours. After a few months I met a woman who has since become my wife. I met her way too early and she was initially patient and then pushy for me to move on, and over time this bred...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. It seems like you met this new woman before you had even begun grieving for your deceased partner.
Unfortunately, it's a rebound thing. You were probably happy to have some company, and then things moved along a bit too quickly.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend only want sex?
Q. My bf and I hangout out more now, bt the problem iss thatt he will only take me to his house, to have sex, and thats all. I know he is busy with school and stuff, bt come on,, only sex. Am i right or no???...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. He's at the age where young men have a very high testosterone (hormones) level, and perhaps as a result, sex is on his mind a lot now.
Another reason for wanting sex more, is that sex is a good stress reliever. Perhaps he is wanting ... (read in full...)
How do I control my anger about breaking my heart?
Q. how do i control my anger and stop thinking my boyfriend is going to break my heart ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. Try to learn to trust him, unless he gives you reason not to.
The anger you feel is probably due to frustration, that maybe things are not progressing as quickly as you would like them to. Perhaps you are the one who is doing all the ... (read in full...)
I got cold feet and said some really horrible things
Q. So I was seeing a wonderful kind loving man from a far away country.We met while he was here on work and it felt like it was meant to be. We maintained this beautiful realationship for awhile and after about 5 months he was talking marriage and all ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. It's difficult since you both live on other sides of the world. You can't just go there for the weekend.
Is your contact mainly by phone? It's really hard to say what you really mean on the phone. It's so impersonal.
Perhaps you c... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so bad after a bar hookup?
Q. Why do i feel so bad after a bar hook up? And why does seeing the one guy i really liked from a bar hook up a year ago, hurt so much? ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. Perhaps you wanted more than he did.
You talk as if you aren't going out. Did you ever go out on dates? Did you go to nice places together and get to know each other?
Or, did you meet him one night when you were out with your gi... (read in full...)
So confused about my ex
Q. What does it mean when an ex acts angry over nothing someone says it means he might still care but is feeling bad that we no longer speak and just isn't man enough to say it. I know I did nothing but be kind to this person so I know I don't deserve ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hello again. I think you still do need to give him some space.
If he sends you emails - don't answer them. Also, don't send him any either.
Yes, it is possible that he still has feelings for you. But it seems like he's a bit mixed up. Perha... (read in full...)
Why was this man staring at me?
Q. When out to eat the other day with my daughter. We were at aa table in a sandwich shop. This guy sits there and stares at me the whole time never takes his eyes off me. Then he leaves before I do. Then when he gets ready to leave he walks by my ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. Perhaps he fancies you. Maybe he's tongue-tied (shy), would like to get to talk to you, but doesn't know where to start.
If he was staring at you for some specific purpose, surely he would have found some way to actually say somethin... (read in full...)
My wife is driving me crazy! advice please!
Q. My wife is driving me crazy. I love her so much but she is the most stubborn woman on earth. We met, fell in love, got married. Everything was perfect. Now, with the stress of my job, her starting nursing school again, oh and us getting pregnant. ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. Pregnancy will often make women feel rather tired because of all the changes taking place in her body continuously. That would account for a lot of moodiness.
She's also taken on a lot being 7 months pregnant - working then going to... (read in full...)
So confused about my ex
Q. What does it mean when an ex acts angry over nothing someone says it means he might still care but is feeling bad that we no longer speak and just isn't man enough to say it. I know I did nothing but be kind to this person so I know I don't deserve ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. If he is your ex, why are you still in contact with each other?
Also, who emails who? Who makes the first contact - do you email him or does he email you?
Another thing I need to know is, who broke off the relationship?
... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. As she is so far away and it's not possible to see her you really need to get on with your life.
You are carrying a torch for her because you liked her so much before she left town. It's a safe place to be at the moment, only because ... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. As she is so far away and it's not possible to see her you really need to get on with your life.
I guess you are carrying a torch for her because you liked her so much before she left town.
You still haven't said if she has left for... (read in full...)
How to make a good relationship
Q. Hi: I'm offering this tip because an article would take up way to much space, whereas, what I want to offer is all over the place, free and quite simple to use, in my opinion. My tip is: google relationship tips or relationship skills or g...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. Yes, I agree there is a lot of good books and websites about relationship tips. Some very helpful stuff out there.
* One of the very important things I have discovered over the years, is to maintain your own friends and hobbies ... (read in full...)
I hated him now I love him!
Q. Has anyone ever fallen for someone they hated at first? It feels so strange and confusing. I feel like I must be crazy!...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. I believe it's possible for this to happen. Yes it probably seems strange to you at first, but don't let that throw you off balance.
Sometimes when we meet someone, we form an opinion of them because of something they said or how they... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to keep the stress and the guy or try and shed both!
Q. I think I treat my boyfriend bad, and my mood changes are hard for anyone to keep up with. He's not that happy either but says I treat him well. A part of me wants to break up with him, and get rid of some of the stress for both of us. I know it ...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. You don't say what the stress in your life is about.
The wisest move would be to remove any stress you have in your life. The stress in your life seems to be at the very core of all your problems.
Looking at the age you say you are ... (read in full...)
Best friends... with no strings attached!!!
Q. Hi Everyone I am hoping some of you out there can answer this for me. Can you be best friends with someone and also have a sexual relationship with them but neither of you are in love with each other and no comittments. Neither of us have any...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. Apparently, this is often called - Friends With Benefits (FWB). It is exactly what you describe, you are best mates (friends), but also have sex with each other as well. It's convenient, to say the least.
The thing is, if ever eit... (read in full...)
Heartbroken by a jealous husband
Q. I have been a good woman. I never cheated on him. He was my first love, my first (and only) sex, my first everything. I have loved him for eight years. And I did not deserve this. The culmination of these years, is one year of calm and seven ...
A. 14 September 2010: Hi there. Jealousy is a big problem inside a relationship. It can definitely drive a wedge between you, as I'm sure is probably already happening.
The reason why he seems to mistrust you, is probably a case of low self-esteem (on his part). ... (read in full...)
I met a pillar of society with a hidden cocaine, alcohol, and cross-dressing habit.
Q. I met a man who posed as a great guy, deacon in his church, father of 5, honorable discharge from the marines with a steady decent paying job. What he neglected to tell me is that he had a 10 yr coke habit, kids that wouldn't talk to him due to his ...
A. 14 September 2010: Hello again. Sometimes people really do know the truth, but they don't want to acknowledge it.
There are none so blind as those who will not see. This is so true. You know but you don't want to know.
Some truths are very hard to accept. ... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 14 September 2010: Hello again. How long is she going to be away?
You say you would like to get back with her again. What sort of relationship did you have with her before she left? Was there any talk between you, of getting serious?
It does seem like you ar... (read in full...)
The more he tries to pull away, the more I push
Q. All the answers to my previous question make sense given the info I provided but I'm not convinced it is the full story. To recap, I met a guy 8 weeks ago and we became intimate and intense very quickly. When we are together he is very loving and I ...
A. 11 September 2010: Hi there. Your boyfriend seems to still be pining for this woman he was with on and off for 15 years. Wow! That is a long time and then it's off. I'm not surprised he's so wary of relationships now really.
He needs to start believing in himse... (read in full...)
Dreaming of a past love....
Q. She gazed into my eyes with that look I've come to associate with her,those twin beauties all over me as if the life of their beholder depended on the moment. Never did we seem close to caring about the rain-filled clouds above our heads,for we only ...
A. 11 September 2010: Hi there. I'm not sure I follow. Was this an actual dream, or did you see this girl 3 years ago (at school), but didn't like her then, till now - when she's more grown up.
Well, I suggest that you do get to know her now. But make friends ... (read in full...)
I met a pillar of society with a hidden cocaine, alcohol, and cross-dressing habit.
Q. I met a man who posed as a great guy, deacon in his church, father of 5, honorable discharge from the marines with a steady decent paying job. What he neglected to tell me is that he had a 10 yr coke habit, kids that wouldn't talk to him due to his ...
A. 11 September 2010: Hi there. It sounds like he is a bit confused about his own sexuality. It also sounds like he can't accept that part of himself, otherwise there wouldn't be the frustration and physical abuse or the substance abuse either, that is often associated ... (read in full...)
Untitled and Undefined: The Way it Should Be
Q. Dear Cupid, My name is Rebecca. I am a 20-year old aspiring journalist. Oh god, what a dreadful introduction. Is that supposed to summarize who I am? How god-awful is that! More so, how god-awful is it that that's how I would naturally begin ...
A. 11 September 2010: Hi there. It's more important that you believe in yourself and who you are, and with total acceptance - unconditionally.
There will always be closed-minded people who like to pidgeon hole others, but don't worry about them - that's their problem,... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 7 September 2010: Hi again. I guess it depends on who broke up with who and for what reason.
If she broke up with you because she was moving away to further her study, then she must still like you and you like her as well.
If you broke up because you didn... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 6 September 2010: Hello again. Another thing I just thought of that I feel I must share with you.
From reading your posting, it seems that originally you were living in the same town and were in a relationship together and were quite happy.
Then over tim... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 6 September 2010: Hello again. Every time you answer her text messages, you play right into her hands.
It's sort of cat and mouse. The main thing is there is no point to keeping contact with each other. Now that you are not together anymore.
Any type of e... (read in full...)
I'm done with my ex
Q. Im done trying to get her to write me back I have got rid of every thing that I use to have on the internet facebook,just.in,youtube,msn etc.. Im just done she emailed me today like in the moring IN was saying how we need to keep in tuch well yeah! ...
A. 5 September 2010: Hi there. I am a bit confused. You call her your ex and yet she apparently wants to keep contact with you still.
Why does she want to do that if you aren't together anymore?
I notice you say this is or was a long distance relationship, ha... (read in full...)
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