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I don't have any degrees other than to say that I love to help people to make the best of themselves and make their lives the best they can be. I really enjoy helping people to find answers to their problems.

I draw this information from my own personal life experience and the lessons I have learned throughout my life.

I also believe that every problem has a solution. No matter how challenging it might seem to find that solution, it's simply a case of having faith in yourself and never giving up.

I live in Sydney, Australia. I am married with no children.

I am very much a people person and like to make a difference in whatever way I can.

I'm pretty ordinary in my life as far as interests go. I like to read, knit, draw and paint whenever I get a chance. The books I read are mainly motivational books, which have helped me over the years in my own life's journey.

I am also presently studying Life Coaching (by correspondence), which I really enjoy. Although I am still studying, most of what I study I am already putting into action in my daily life. The course itself is really only the official side of becoming a Life Coach. For the most part of it, my gifts of good communication and being able to understand why things in life happen the way they do, has been gained through firsthand experience by me.

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Being Happy In a Relationship

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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...

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I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

Q. I am a man, I was in a long term relationship that ended and left me hurt. I tried to get back in the dating game but I found meeting available women very hard. Long story short, I was lonely and I answered an ad on CL one evening for a women who ...

A. 16 October 2010: Hi. Yes, if you ever get a chance to watch Dr Pil when you are not working, do it - it's really worth it, he's very good at what he does. He truly is fantastic, a very gifted man and he sees life in such a wonderfully clear way. In Australi... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 12 October 2010: Hi. Within a week she will probably be fine again, just as long as she looks after herself, with plenty of fluids, and bed rest if needed. With regards to what you said in one of your earlier postings, although you said you normally wouldn't... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 12 October 2010: Hi again. To send questions to my private mailbox, you simply click on my name. Then - send Dorothy Dix a private message. (Top of my Page). Keep that in mind as well. Best wishes.... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 12 October 2010: Hi. That's a great approach, you are taking. Over time it will probably just all fall into place. In the meantime just get to know each other more and see what happens. Please keep me updated and I'll help in whatever way I can. You can ... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 11 October 2010: Hi. I'm just thinking this is an anonymous site, so although that might be good, just for security, maybe it would be better not to send a photo, as I would be revealing my real name to you and I feel that's probably not the right thing to do. ... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 10 October 2010: Hi. Ok then, well you are going to have to play the waiting game with her, I do get where you are coming from now. Maybe she thinks you are judging her in some way. Even though that's not what you say you feel. Just the same, in her mind she... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 9 October 2010: Hello again. You will have to proceed with care. Probably what you did before about telling her to be careful, she might have seen as being controlling. Even though you said it because you care, perhaps she took it the wrong way. Sometime... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 9 October 2010: Hi. That's great you have a very balanced outlook and a realistic view of everything. It's definitely possible you could have a future together, that might well last forever. If you haven't yet discussed the relationship, you do need to do th... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 8 October 2010: Hello again. Yes it is a challenging situation to deal with. I guess all that you can do, is enjoy all your times together and make it as much fun as possible. As long as you try to not base your relationship just on sex (even though that's ho... (read in full...)

Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?

Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...

A. 8 October 2010: Hi. That's great you had a talk with him about it. This was what I was talking about earlier, about communicating well with each other. A lot of problems can be resolved by simply talking about it - with respect and love. Nothing ever ... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 7 October 2010: Hello again. That's a great sign that she responds to you and is tuned in fully when you make love to each other. I realize it would not sit very comfortably with you, her having sex with other men - even if it is completely imperson... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 6 October 2010: Hello again. Even though for her it's just a job, do you ever have any issues with the fact she is having sex with other men? A lot of men would feel insecure with that and perhaps be comparing themselves with the clients. There is also... (read in full...)

Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?

A. 6 October 2010: Hello again. You say that he won't touch your pussy with his hands. Was your sex life with him always like this? The question I am really asking is, if he was a lousy lover when you met him, why did you stay with him or even marry him? Elev... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's wise to pursue her... advice needed!

A. 5 October 2010: Hi there. You said that in 2006 she was an escort. Is she still doing that now? I think what is happening here is, because she is (or was) an escort, the lines between working and just going out with someone on a social basis are being blurred.... (read in full...)

The relationship changed after we slept together

Q. Hello all, I used to be the greatest girl ever. The one who was cute, sweet, sexy, smart and funny. He was contacting me on a daily basis and every time we went out together it was clear that we liked each other very much. I am not the kind of ...

A. 4 October 2010: Hi there. Don't make yourself available for the booty call thing. Don't downgrade yourself like that. You deserve better. Start believing in your own worthiness. If he calls you for sex, just tell him you can't and just say you are going ou... (read in full...)

He doesn't know I have kids... Help!!!

Q. Hi I am married with 2 kids, but the guy i love i have known him past 10 years. Well in between we lost contact. Then now we are back in contact. He doesnt know I am married with kids and that i am still with my husband(verge of sepeara...

A. 4 October 2010: Hi there. You are still with your husband. Even though you have said you are about to separate - are you sure of that, of is it just because this guy has come back on the scene again? It's a bit of fun for you, some newness into a life that has... (read in full...)

Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?

A. 4 October 2010: Hi there. You really do have to discuss this with him. There's nothing else for it really. You haven't said if he used to do this, and now doesn't want to. I really suggest that you don't have the discussion in the bedroom when you are abo... (read in full...)

Baby and baby daddy and sex blues!

Q. First question: hey evryone.im going to be brief asking this.im caught between three guys.one is my babydaddy but im dumping him.im done with him hurtn me.he askd me not to give up on us but ive held on too long.this ex's just came back in my life...

A. 4 October 2010: Hi there. Don't be in any hurry to get into a relationship just yet. There's plenty of time really. You will know when you feel like going back into circulation again. Your baby is only 7 weeks old, so you are probably still in the process ... (read in full...)

Should I tell her about my past? I'm afraid of what she might think!

Q. I am 39 years old. I was raised in a house filled with deceit. Which is why I am writing today. I met a wonderful woman and have been together for 4 months. I believe in complete openness between lovers to help ensure the best compatibility. I have ...

A. 4 October 2010: Hi there. The deceipt you talk about is just the fact that you have had a lot of girlfriends in your life history - prior to meeting your present girlfriend. You say it as if it's something to be ashamed of. Most people by the time they have r... (read in full...)

I'm seriously in love with her and want to know how to prove it, as she doesn't have much time to hang out with me!

Q. i met this girl freshan year at first it started as a crush and well it started to grow we did things as if we were a couple but i never officially asked her to be my gf,,,time passed by and i was juss an idiot and still never did,,,sophmore year ...

A. 4 October 2010: Hi there. Often the only approach is to be straightforward - upfront and honest. Right from the outset. She can surely see that you really like her, although she might not know how much. Perhaps you could walk up to her at some time during... (read in full...)

Does my daughter feel the need to be promiscuous?why?

Q. my daughter just had a baby boy. she is 18. she was told by the father of her child to leave when they were living together before the birth. Except he didn't know she was pregnant, and doesn't want to tell him about the baby. she often leaves the ...

A. 3 October 2010: Hi there. As she is only 18, she is at an age where most girls her age would be going out socializing and simply having fun. It's probably that she feels that she is missing out on fun because she is a mother now and feels the need to break ou... (read in full...)

First time sex went wrong

Q. My boyfriend and i attempted sex for the first time last night. we were both confident about it and it felt right, but we couldn't manage to get him inside of me. it didnt hurt but we couldn't get him in the vagina. am i too small? or is it normal? ...

A. 3 October 2010: Hi there. You haven't mentioned it, but are you a virgin? If you are, well then the hymen might be hard to penetrate at the moment. It might take a couple of attempts. If your boyfriend didn't have a full erection, that would make it impos... (read in full...)

Do I leave my wack job wife and take the kids with me?

Q. cant stand the wife but love my 2 kids, 12 an 7. we fight a lot an i know this is not healthy for the kids. when i leave she says lie's to the children to try to win them over. my 12 yr. old tells me the things that she says. cant stand it any ...

A. 2 October 2010: Hi there. Your wife is probably going through menopause now. It can certainly cause women to go through many different mood swings and sometimes do some strange things. Has she only started acting this way? Has it been in the last few years? ... (read in full...)

Thoughts on technology and long distance relationships

Q. It never fails to amaze me how many questions I see on here about long distance relationships (LDR's). I will admit, I understand the temptation. I've been there. I've tried it. I've concluded that they don't work. Still, what is it about these ...

A. 2 October 2010: Hi there. Yes what you say is so true. People do hope that long distance won't pose any problems. The fact is it does. The biggest one would have to be loneliness. People need people. We all need the physical contact - to be face to face,... (read in full...)

A snapshot of my lonesomeness

Q. Not a relationship question but i wrote this recently, after getting out of a long relationship...Its kind of a snapshot of my lonesomeness, wondering what the next chapter in my life will be(even though i am more than happy its over i still felt ...

A. 2 October 2010: Hi there. Yes you pretty much sum it up. You are a good poet. As you are happy to be out of this last relationship, because it went for a long time, there will be a bit of an adjustment. Because a long-term relationship, can become like a p... (read in full...)

Falling for my guy friend..but having sex with him will really hurt my bf! Help!

Q. I've been in a relationship for the past 6 years! The first 3 years of our relationship i was fitting for our relationship he treated me like crap but now things are really good, I'm young but i do love my boyfriend he is living a couple thousand ...

A. 2 October 2010: Hi there. Your boyfriend of 6 years now lives a couple of thousand miles away. It's been for about 2 years now. No matter how much you say you love your boyfriend, the distance is getting in the way. Do you ever see him now? It's not real... (read in full...)

I've reeled her back in but how do I talk to her again?

Q. me and my ex recently broke up on good terms. i saw online that when u stop communicating with her u cud draw her back in...i tried and its working...but now wat? i want us to start back talking regularly but i dont know how to initiate ...

A. 2 October 2010: Hi there. Because you broke up before, what you both really need to do now, is remember why you broke up. Don't discuss this at all - just be mindful of it, it's important. Say nothing about it or even hint at it. Don't let that reason deter yo... (read in full...)

Does he like me? how do I find out if he does?

Q. Well I like this lad. We talk all the time, call text msn, and even go on cam, i really like him but i don't know how to tell if he likes me or how to make him think hmmmmm yeah i like her too :/...

A. 2 October 2010: Hi there. It really depends on how long you have been talking to each other. You are not going to know this for a little while yet. Have you actually met each other? I mean do you go to school together, or have you met him only on the inte... (read in full...)

Is there a cure for my indecisiveness?

Q. Ok I have known two wonderful guy "A" business man and "B"a doctor which i just knew...this two relationship is a long distance relationship. "A" i have knew him like around for a month and we so madly in loved with each other but he is always so ...

A. 30 September 2010: Hi there. At the moment, it's not necessary to choose between them is it? There's no real hurry. These things you can't rush, and to do so would be totally wrong. It really is a case of everything in good time. What is to be can't be forced to ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to pull away from the person you think loves you to test them?

Q. I never thought I would consider “testing” my boyfriend, but here I am dealing with some doubts that are driving me to seek action. My first boyfriend of over 1.5 years is by all initial impressions a great guy. We share the same values, respect ...

A. 30 September 2010: Hi there. Perhaps your insecurity about these other female friends of your boyfriend is causing you to act in a needy way. This will come out in your behaviour as being anxious and wondering if you are good enough or if you are as good as these ... (read in full...)

Is there a cure for my indecisiveness?

A. 29 September 2010: Hi there. Do they know about each other? Have you told each of them that you are seeing someone else? In the end you will have to be honest with both of them, as they will mistakingly believe they are the only one. Then you will have a problem ... (read in full...)

What can I do to be better in this relationship?

Q. This is probably going to be very long, but I need to explain the whole scenario for you to see where I am coming from. I have been in loving and slightly dramatic relationship with my bf for a year and a half. by dramatic I mean everythi...

A. 29 September 2010: Hi there. The problem might be that you try too hard to please him, and forgetting your own needs along the way. Don't put his needs above yours in importance. You are just as important as him. You might be doing too much for him and almost b... (read in full...)

I know I need treatment but I'm terrified of needles!

Q. Hey all, i have a problem, but im too scared to sort it out. I think i have IBS, actually im about 100% sure i have IBS. Ive read numerous amounts of articles on it and symptoms about it. I have almost like contractions or spasms of really intens...

A. 29 September 2010: Hi there. I don't know a lot about IBS, but there are some pretty good vitamin preparations at any good health food stores, that would help I'm sure. I would check that out. But even more importantly, it would be very wise to first of all hav... (read in full...)

Why am I always dumped for someone else? What am I doing wrong?

Q. Right now my self esteem is a little low. I've been in a few long term relationships and every time I have ended up the one being dumped, and always for another girl. It's really getting me down. I feel as though everything is going fine, I totally ...

A. 29 September 2010: Hi there. It's possible that while you are getting to know each new boyfriend, (in the very early stages) and even over time, that you are really trying hard to do lots of things for them and in the process losing yourself along the way. By lo... (read in full...)

How can I break it to a grown man that he needs to stop shoving his tongue down my throat?!

Q. Yes, yes. I'm sure this has been asked many times. I tried searching previous posts, but only found little girls asking questions and, frankly, found nothing entirely relevant to my problem. Sorry if this is seemingly redundant! So, now for my...

A. 29 September 2010: Hi there. As awkward as it seems to bring up the subject of how he kisses you, you are really going to have to be completely honest with him. There's no other alternative. The next time he does the same thing (which is probably every time), j... (read in full...)

Is she planning on taking a vacation without me?

Q. i saw on my gf's computer last night that she was looking at vacationing in st. thomas. the date she was looking at is sept 22-27. now, she hasn't mentioned it to me, so am i to assume she's thinking of taking someone else, or could it be a su...

A. 29 September 2010: Hello again. Sometimes it is best to trust a person and take their word for being true. Yes, you could say - "well is what she told me true?" But the thing is, you could go on forever doubting and doubting everything that she says, and what i... (read in full...)

Jealous, insecure or do I need help?

Q. Hello, I'm a 22 year old female. I have been with my husband for almost 6 years now. We have two little girls 4 and 2 and a half. We love them and eachother very much, words can explain it. But i often find myself jealous. For example i don't ...

A. 27 September 2010: Hi there. I believe your main problem is that you don't believe in yourself. You live your life comparing yourself to others almost constantly. True beauty comes from within. This beauty comes from having confidence in yourself. We are all ... (read in full...)

I wish he could be more jealous

Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I really wish my bf was more possessive. Not in the creepy "he needs help"-sort of way, but a balanced way. I don't think he's ever jealous although when my friends text me a lot when with him, he jokes that it's my man on the ...

A. 27 September 2010: Hi there. I can understand that you interpret not getting jealous as meaning a "don't care" attutude. What we really have here, is more likely to be a very confident young man, who feels completely secure in himself as a person and accepts ... (read in full...)

Bennefits of Porn

Q. Hi: I have read a lot of negative things at forums about the dangers and evil of PORN (OMG) and wish to offer my perspective on Porn. When I got caught up in Porn, it was not because something was missing in my current marriage. I just liked ...

A. 27 September 2010: Hi there. Yes it certainly could be a learning tool, if you wanted to take that path. It would be a good way to learn some of the finer points for anyone willing to visit a porn site. It's great that it has opened up some new avenues for you ... (read in full...)

Healthy self worth/esteem

Q. It seems to me that almost all of the problems and unhappiness posted here are about unhealthy self esteem/worth and the solution is so very easy, simple and available. I did a lot of self esteem work and have found that it repairs almost e...

A. 26 September 2010: Hi there. Yes, I agree with all that you've said. It's so important to feel good about yourself always. If you don't, it affects everything you do. And of course it reduces your level of happiness. The one really important thing for us all... (read in full...)

I don't know if he wants to sort things out or just wants me to shut up?

Q. hey im stuck and dont understand guys behaviour. I have previously wrote up if any of you remember that my friend was barely speaking to me, he would never make any effort with me to make converstaion but he was fine with everyone else. It got ...

A. 26 September 2010: Hi there. I partly remember your last question. Some things in life we just have to accept. It seems like yes, he likes you as a friend. However, beyond friendship, he doesn't seem ready to move on to something more committed. He p... (read in full...)

Why can't I orgasm with him?

Q. hi im 17. How come when my boyfriend fingers me and eats me out it feels sooo good, but i can never orgasm? When i masturbate i can always make myself orgasm, but with him i cant. We havent tried sex yet by the way. Why cant i orgasm ?...

A. 26 September 2010: Hi there. It's probably because you feel pressured to orgasm when your boyfriend stimulates you - either digitally or orally. Perhaps he says things like - "How does it feel?" Or "Are you nearly there?" Even if he doesn't use this second ... (read in full...)

Is she planning on taking a vacation without me?

A. 24 September 2010: Hello again. Perhaps she is going with her cousin to the beach house. It is hard to know for sure. Sometimes when a person is vague about answering questions about something, it could mean they have something to hide. Do you live together? ... (read in full...)

My friend might think I'm self centered, help!!

Q. So my friend really likes this guy and never stops talking about him! Like it's always about him, and it's kinda annoying. When I mentioned something to her about her being all obsessed I guess you would call it, she got mad. She told me that I did ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. It probably does seem a bit like obsession, but probably it does become a bit boring after a while. If you otherwise get along quite well, then your friendship with her is probably worth keeping. It's a case of trying a differen... (read in full...)

Want out but I'm weak

Q. hey ppl.i really have to let my bf go but i cant.how do i move on?he doesnt call me or anything yet i just had his baby last month.he hasnt seen her at all but when i cal he acts like he wna b with us til death.i luv him but i want out.but how?...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. You don't say how long you have been together. Has it been for a few years? Or, did you meet shortly before you became pregnant to him? By what you have said, you don't live together. How was your relationship up till your baby d... (read in full...)

Is it just my hormones that are making me feel this way?

Q. hi im 15, well basically ive been sort of anxious and annoyed, about my sexuality because ive always liked girls from a young age and always want a girlfriend, but i noticed by accident(lol honestly) i managed to get on gay porn when i was looking ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. It's really hard to say what your sexuality is unless you experiment. You are probably aroused because of the sexual side of it, not specifically by the homosexual side of it. The fact you got more aroused by the homosexual porn,... (read in full...)

Is it possible to move past this and have a happy marriage?

Q. Does marriage get better with age and has anyone sucessfully survived a cheating spouse? I am 24 years old and have been married since I was 21. My husband and I have a child that is 2. My husband was a Marine and he had an affair while he was out ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hello again. I have another idea which might also help. There is a good book about relationships that might also be useful to you. That book is called - "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You" (Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship), by An... (read in full...)

Should I trust that he won't cheat if I'm lying in his bed?

Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. 5 of those years have been long distance (seeing each other 5 times a year for a week at a time). recently I found out that he has been cheating for 3 years mainly with one girl, he says he doesnt/didnt ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. I'm a bit confused, are you long distance at the moment, or are you in the same town? It's really hard to say whether he will cheat or not. I guess it really depends if all his needs in the relationship with you, are being... (read in full...)

How on earth can I find out if he really does care about me?

Q. This may sound odd and might not make sense but im gonna give it my best shot. Basically is there anyway of truly finding out how a guy cares about you? I mean as a friend. I know they are strange creatures who deal with things differently but i've ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. Well at least he likes you as a friend, and that's a great start. What you are really asking, is does he like you more than just a friend - like a girlfriend, for instance. At the moment, that's going to be hard to find out. You can... (read in full...)

I want more than comfortable and friendship in my marriage!

Q. I've been married for 17 years. The last few years have seemed more a friendship than relationship. Nothing has changed except me, I want more. He is still the same a great friend, great dad, and a comfortable relationship. Sex is the same, but I ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. In a long term relationship, it can become a bit more like friends than lovers. Even though you might still be having a fairly regular sex life, and it might still be good, it's not really about the sex. You can both settle into ... (read in full...)

Do you think I am his rebound girl or do you think he may really be interested in me?

Q. I need some advice PLEASE ! I met this guy Paul about 6 months ago at a party, we were both in a weddign together, him the best man be the maid of honor. Over the next few months we became friends, mainly just chatting and organizing things for the ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. It's hard to say what it is really. Certainly on the surface there is some sort of attraction. At such an early stage, it couldn't possibly be true love. He's just happened to meet you when he was having tough times with his wife. ... (read in full...)

Sex with another guy...

Q. My girlfriend and I recently broke up, and it's killing me. I just want to know how do people usually deal with the fact that she won't be sleeping with me anymore and will probably have sex with another guy in the future? any techniques or just ...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. There's no tricks as to how to get over it. There's no magic wand to make it all disappear. You will naturally feel a bit upset and down for a while. One very good thing NOT to do, is don't go and try to get into another relation... (read in full...)

I never thought I would be the other woman!

Q. Ok. Im lost. I need help here. I have tried to get around this on my own and just seem to be shooting myself in the foot every time I try. I never thought I would be the other woman. And I never once thought I would be attached enough to someon...

A. 21 September 2010: Hi there. Although you say you get along great with each other, and have plenty of things in common, what you really have is a "friends with benefits" relationship. He does have a girlfriend after all. Thirteen years older than him isn't th... (read in full...)

Is it possible to move past this and have a happy marriage?

A. 15 September 2010: Hi there. It's pretty hard to trust someone if they are unfaithful. He had a weak moment (or moments), when he was away. Although this was a shock to you, it is good that since it happened, that you found out about it. So it was no longer a ... (read in full...)

Is she planning on taking a vacation without me?

A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. It's hard to say what she has planned. I think if it was me, I would just come right out and ask her. Just say that you happened to see that she was planning a holiday in September, and talk about it. It's much better to be ope... (read in full...)