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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hello again. The one main thing you need to do now, is to learn to accept it, because it can't be changed. It's history.
You can't change history, but you can change your attitude towards it.
Even though you still have issues with it, if you ... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 14 May 2011: Thank you. I'm happy it was useful for you. Take care.... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 14 May 2011: Hi. Thank you Abella. You're very welcome.
I hope that you also read my other latest comment on the right hand side (dated 13 August 2010 - headed Being Happy in a Relationship cont'd), which was an extension of the original article.
I hope ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 January 2011: Hello there SomewhatDamaged. So your girlfriend lost (or said she did), her virginity to you before you were officially dating.
No real problem there as I see it.
You started dating about six months after that, but about 3 months or so aft... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 5 September 2010: Hello again. You're very welcome. I'm glad it helped.
You have also just given me another clue.
He wants to skip on ahead to sex without the foreplay. But without the foreplay the erection won't happen anyway. Because the foreplay is the ... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 4 September 2010: Hello again. Yes, molestation of a male is psychologically damaging.
As much he might believe that the core of the problem is the sexual attack, it probably isn't the whole or the major part of the problem. It might play only a minor part. B... (read in full...)
Will my parents know I'm on the pill?
Q. I'm 17,and yes sexually active. Not too long ago I entered a program at a hospital that my friend mentioned to me that would help. It's basically for teens and you get regualar check ups for those who are sexually active. Since then I've been using ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi there. There is a code of privacy between the doctor and his patient, which excludes any patient ever asking about another patient without their authority.
Your mother will not find out about your taking the contraceptive pill unless you happ... (read in full...)
Does this make us a couple?
Q. Anyway I met this guy, we have great chemistry and I like him a lot. Honestly I'm not sure if we're dating but I think we are. Tuesday morning we we're talking and I'm not sure how this came about, but I had asked him if we were offical, he said do ...
A. 19 August 2010: I'm not sure if you are a couple or not. It all seems to be centred entirely around him asking you to send him a picture of your privates. Then he gets disappointed because you said no, and you don't hear from him.
He might even say you can both... (read in full...)
What can I do when my boyfriends penis is too small and cant feel him inside me?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title: hi everyone. i am a 20 year old female and i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now. i am starting to get very close to him and i love our conversation, i love all our time together, and i feel that we can go a long...
A. 19 August 2010: Perhaps the stimulation for him before sex, was insufficient to sustain an erection, as you would feel him inside you if he was fully erect. Also, perhaps you were not aroused enough either. When the woman is fully aroused, the walls of the vag... (read in full...)
I don't want to play with fire...
Q. It all started when my collegue asked me to join him to play billiards.He taught me how to play.After that incidence,I would always caught him staring at me,and to my surprise,I found myself acting nervous/excited when he's around. Then, he started ...
A. 18 August 2010: Hi there. I don't know what "he took MC" means. I hadn't heard of it before, sorry. Could you tell me please? I am assuming it is resignation from the company or at least leave of some sort, by the fact you have asked - "Should I sms him and ... (read in full...)
Masturbation is a chore!!!
Q. hii, i have a big problem, All i think about is sex, this isnt an exuse but its like im addicted. Im hooked. i have a girlfriend who ive been with for 17 months now i love her more than anything we have sex once or twice a week! but twice a week ...
A. 17 August 2010: Sounds like a huge case of boredom.
As long as the sex you and your girlfriend have together is enjoyable, that can't be the problem.
Also, I've noticed you are a male 18-21 years of age. Men are at their sexual peak at about age 18 years. S... (read in full...)
Tired of playing the field...
Q. I'm tired of playing the field now. I want to be with one person and actually have a good long lasting, loving relationship. I talked to a friend told her about this guy I've been talking to and everything has been good. Me and him somehow have been ...
A. 17 August 2010: So are you actually having sex with each other at the moment, or just talking about your own sex lives?
I tend to feel that if someone is into multiple sex partners at one time, how could they ever settle for one only?
It would even feel as if ... (read in full...)
Is it a one night stand or rape?
Q. I've been wondering for a long time whether what I experienced was just a one night stand or rape. A while ago I went to visit a friend of mine at school. We went out, and I drank way too much. I remember I was flirting with this friend of hers most ...
A. 17 August 2010: It doesn't seem like rape, as you weren't being physically forced to do it. So it must have been by consent.
Your memory of it is probably vague because you were very intoxicated at the time. Alcohol will often fog your memory.
So I would pu... (read in full...)
How to keep your man interested!
Q. After the initial dating period, when we have got to know each other..every couple can get a little bored! Not with each other but routine.... some people actually like routine because it makes them feel secure! Others Don't.... but WE ALL feel it ...
A. 16 August 2010: Like you say, men do like to feel needed. If their woman does too much, it feels like she's his mother. Sometimes it might also feel (to him), like she thinks he's incompetent.
I agree, giving praise in front of your man to friends of yours, d... (read in full...)
I don't want to play with fire...
Q. It all started when my collegue asked me to join him to play billiards.He taught me how to play.After that incidence,I would always caught him staring at me,and to my surprise,I found myself acting nervous/excited when he's around. Then, he started ...
A. 16 August 2010: It does sound like you are both a bit bored with life and need some excitement.
You have said his wife is overseas at the moment, so he's a bit lonely for her as well. If your husband was overseas, you would miss him also.
It's probably... (read in full...)
I caught him cheating for the 3rd time! He says he won't do it again?
Q. i had a relationship for 3years with a guy.i love him very much and had changed myself so i would get along with him.but he never seem to be pleased no matter wat i do for him. he says he loves me too but the problem is that he keeps on cheating. i ...
A. 16 August 2010: Once all our basic needs are met - food, shelter, work, love and relationships; then after a while we all start to look for more. If we don't seek this "more" out, then a lot of unrest and unhappiness will result.
Once a relationship is past the... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to other men's wives.....
Q. I am addicted to other men's wives. I love sex, but honestly, only when it is with a married woman. There is just something so taboo about it. I have no boundaries, I've slept with co-worker's wives, , the neighbor's wife, two of my three brot...
A. 14 August 2010: Firstly, you don't seem to mention whether you are actually married or in a relationship. I somehow assume you are not.
You like it because although it's forbidden fruit, you also don't have the responsibility of being in a relationship either. ... (read in full...)
Is my boss just flirting, or is he interested?
Q. I have been at my job for about 8 months now. The first 6 months it was just work between my boss and I. But the past 2 months something has changed. He calls me Blondie and no other co-worker has a nickname of any kind. He has been touchy feely. ...
A. 14 August 2010: Hello there. He might be interested in you or he finds you attractive at the very least - that seems obvious.
But the 15 years is a large age difference. That's something to keep in mind. He might just be married. You need to somehow find out... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 13 August 2010: Being Happy In a Relationship (Cont'd)
Hello there again. I thought of something else after I wrote this last column.
That is:-
It's really important to not lose yourself inside the relationship, once it really gets going.
So often, this... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 12 August 2010: Thanks guys. I'm glad you enjoyed. Take Care.... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 12 August 2010: Thanks guys for your feedback. Hope it was useful. Take Care.... (read in full...)
I caught him cheating for the 3rd time! He says he won't do it again?
Q. i had a relationship for 3years with a guy.i love him very much and had changed myself so i would get along with him.but he never seem to be pleased no matter wat i do for him. he says he loves me too but the problem is that he keeps on cheating. i ...
A. 12 August 2010: Maybe you do too much for him. Sometimes the more you do for a person, the less they appreciate it. Less is more.
Take a step back a bit and allow him to do things for you instead.
Also, make a life for yourself so you don't depend on him en... (read in full...)
Found out things about my wife's past and need to learn how to love her all over again.
Q. Hi, I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids ages 6 and 8.Two years ago I stumbled upon some old correspondence from my wife's ex boyfriend. When confronted with it she made light of the issue. I did some digging and found out that she has ...
A. 12 August 2010: I can understand that this might upset you. However, it was before she met you and is now history.
That person back then is not who she is now. It's probably best if you just learn to accept it and move on. As she has not done anything to cause... (read in full...)
Confused about which one to date!
Q. Ok um 21 n I lasted with my ex which now is 26 let's call him "joe" almost 3 yrs n we broke up like a month ago.. Couple of days later I meet this guy he's 22 let's call him "danny" ok so now were dating n I felt kinda guilty 4 moving on so fast ...
A. 12 August 2010: Hi there. The first guy you went with for almost 3 years, hurt you and acted immature. That's probably why you left him, I'm guessing. If you considered going back with him, just because he texts you, he would do it all over again. People don't ... (read in full...)
How often should I mention 'our future' or should I leave it up to him to bring it up each time?
Q. Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is almost 32. We have been together for just over a year and discussed marriage from early on. I have acted totally crazy at times by being mistrusting and possessive but seem to be much improved on this front now. ...
A. 12 August 2010: Hello there. It's great that you have both actually talked about buying a house together, which shows some sort of future together prospect.
It would probably be better for you, to not focus so much on the future, but to enjoy the "Now" with him... (read in full...)
He's too young to have ED!!!
Q. Okay so, I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a couple months. Things started off a little rocky, but we came through it and we're very much in love. We've had fights, but we were able to work through them. The only issue I'm really h...
A. 12 August 2010: Hello there. As you say you are first timers to sex and the first time was with each other.
Taking that into account, both of you are still learning all about what works and what doesn't.
You are probably trying to rush things, feeling ... (read in full...)
3 out of 4 weeks every month I'm a pain in the ass!
Q. Thanks in advance. I really hope to get a response to this because I'm totally lost with whats going on here. Well, I'm completely screwing up my relationship because of my extremely unstable, uncontrollable emotions. I started to notice a pattern ...
A. 12 August 2010: Hello there. It must be hell going through this for a year now. And I bet that 4th week goes really fast. Well you are too young for menopause. That's usually late 40's to 50 approx. You are not even 30.
One possibility is a hormonal imbalanc... (read in full...)
Diary of a desperate wife
Q. Diary of a desperate wife This journal is commencing, right now, 7pm on 21st july 2010-07-21 Today, i’m pissed off and feeling sorry for myself yet again. Cant even work out how to change the spacing on this page. Today i should have had my tooth...
A. 11 August 2010: Hello there. Menopause is probably not helping your general mood. It is a bit like constant "Pre menstrual tension" sometimes. Mood swings then depression, lack of energy and lack of drive.
You say you have children so it's not just you and your... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 11 August 2010: When you meet a new partner, once you get to know whether you like each other and get along, with things in common, it's really of no consequence, the previous sexual experience each has had.
That's ancient history and has no relevance in the gran... (read in full...)
The New Tough Love
Q. He was charming, sexy, funny, and all about me. From living in his brother's basement with his dog, I allowed him into my house with my three children. One by one the true colors were mind blowing. Each layer peeled back to show his verbal viole...
A. 11 August 2010: As soon as you said about cocaine and alcohol abuse. There's an alarm bell for a start. Those two can change people's moods making them more aggressive.
Also abusing your credit card; loud music etc.
It's good that you decided to NOT t... (read in full...)
Divorce, from the child's perspective
Q. I dont really trust my family. Its not that I dont love them, because I do. I have two older sisters [17 and 22, im 13]. My mother is in her mid forties, my father is in his early fifties. When I was about six my mother called a family meeting, ...
A. 11 August 2010: Hi there. I'm sorry it seems so lonely for you.
Your older sisters are at different life stages than you, which might explain why they appear not to understand what you are feeling about everything.
Divorces are very disruptive in fa... (read in full...)
Celebrity Love
Q. Celebrity love. In todays world can we really call it love when two celebrities get hitched? Whenever a celebrity gets married the magazines and entertainment shows are all over it. To what wedding dress is the bride going to wear? Whos going to be ...
A. 10 August 2010: Yes, I do think that often celebrities are so used to being in the public eye so often that they can make it their whole life. They may not always have enough free time to pursue a quality life outside of their work, so acting, singing, sport etc. ... (read in full...)
Do u think that I should continue talking to my ex even though its obvious my boyfriend is my choice?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend have been talking and friends. He called me one time a couple weeks ago. Every time I try and talk like friends he always says he misses me. I really don’t believe he does miss me because he would try to win me back. He really ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hello there. It sounds like your ex hasn't moved on yet. Clearly he hasn't met anyone else, or why would he be calling. Because of this, he's reverting back to familiar ground - which was when he was with you, because it feels safe. Well at ... (read in full...)
To worry or not to worry???
Q. I have a situation with my boyfriend that is really bothering me. This may sound strange and/or stupid at first but read on.... We’ve been together for 1-1/2 years. He seems to have this strange habit of texting a couple of his female friends ...
A. 8 August 2010: Because you actually do live together and therefore do see each other every day, it would be a waste of time to text or talk on Facebook when you can say it face to face. Just leave him to his texting and Facebook and don't bother to contact him ... (read in full...)
I was too controlling and she left me. Now what can I do?
Q. Well I can't really ask what to do without first explaining my situation. My ex-girlfriend was with me for almost 2 years. One month in our relationship she left me for my best friend. A week after THAT, he broke up with her and she begged to ha...
A. 6 August 2010: Hi there. Inside a relationship or even a friendship, there needs to be a certain amount of freedom to be yourself, without any expectations - meaning, to have your own friends and own hobbies and interests. That way you are each responsible for ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to not sound insecure?
Q. [OP original title] I'm in a long-distance "relationship" where my friend doesn't always like sharing her personal feelings with anyone, it makes her uncomfortable sometimes (which I understand, I'm kinda the same). I last saw her in early june when...
A. 5 August 2010: If you get along well generally, it's likely to be a case of life getting in the way (for her at least). You said she is raising two kids on her own. So between running a business and raising a family, it probably doesn't leave her with much spare ... (read in full...)
Confusion lead me to look at her phone while she was sleeping.....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few years. About a year ago we started fighting a lot. Since then we have had sex only six times and we havn't had sex at all in months. She doesn't even want to kiss me or cuddle with me when we ...
A. 5 August 2010: Sounds like she's a bit unsure of what she wants at the moment.
Perhaps you both need a break from each other for a while and see how things pan out.
The fact that you haven't had any sex for months, would seem to point to the possibility that... (read in full...)
Will I have to pay back child support?
Q. my ex has stopped me seeing my daughter, im not on the birth certicate if i go to court and get put on the birth certificate and get access will i have to pay backdated child support even though i have been paying it but have no proof?...
A. 5 August 2010: Maybe there is no real proof of you paying the child support, but that depends on how you have been paying it.
Is it an automatic debit from your bank account, or have you been paying by cheque? Or has it just been an agreement and you have giv... (read in full...)
I'm not able to sustain an Hard on,
Q. Mod Note:, could not use your chosen title, so i've taken liberty to rename it... Hi i am 18 years of age and my girlfriend is 20 we were thinking about having sex for the past week when the time came I was hard but not hard to enter her so sh...
A. 5 August 2010: Hi there. I don't think you need to worry that masturbation would cause a lack of erection being sustained. Masturbation is a perfectly normal thing in finding what brings you physical pleasure.
In fact, it helps you to get to know your own body... (read in full...)
Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 5 August 2010: A relationship will not be happy unless all the needs of both parties are met.
Which comes down to each having a certain amount of personal space - some separate hobbies or interests to keep some fun in both your individual lives. Not every da... (read in full...)
Curiosity about men's sexual organs
Q. Hello! I have a few questions about men [physically]. I know men have erections when they see a pretty woman. But I have a few questions that I want clarified and confirmed. 1.] What is the longest penis size ever documented? 2.] Men usually talk...
A. 5 August 2010: Hello there! My suggestion if it was me asking those questions, would be to google it.
I suggest as a search try:-
information on male genitals
This will probably bring up many web pages, among which you will certainly find a lot of ... (read in full...)
Wife wants an open relationship so that I will stray and she can walk away
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 5 August 2010: You don't mention how long you have been married. Although this doesn't really matter, it does seem that she is somewhat unsettled.
And why does she want you to stray? She can't even make up her own mind whether to stay or leave! Which indicate... (read in full...)
Slowly going crazy with guilt!!!
Q. *OP Title* This is a bit of a mess. I recently married my boyfriend (now husband) of 8 years. We are so happy and I love him so much and I know he loves me too. Ever since we got engaged I have been thinking about a mistake I made in the first 3 w...
A. 4 August 2010: It serves no purpose whatsoever, to even mention it after all this time. It would be a total waste and might well destroy the great relationship you both have.
The question is, you need to be able to trust in your own life choices. If you can ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex contact me and say he wants to be friends but then hurts me?
Q. my bf dumped me 9 months ego.i tried to convince him a lot.but failed.After that I went for no contact period.At that time I got to know he was in new relationship.But I did not break NC.Then after one month he started messaging me.I did not ...
A. 2 August 2010: There seems to be some spark there between you, as your ex is contacting you fairly regularly, even if he behaves somewhat strangely.
Perhaps he is deciding what he really wants from you as a partner and is playing the field with the other la... (read in full...)
Girlfriend flirts online -can I still trust her?
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up for 10 days then got back together. A few months later, I found messages from a sexual conversation she was having with a guy online. When I confronted her, she said she was just talking trash and that it happened while ...
A. 31 July 2010: On the surface, it seems like she can't be trusted. Especially since it has happened again some months later.
However, when you go beyond the actual behaviour, it's often more a case of boredom and nothing to do with being unfaithful or even con... (read in full...)
Our marriage has become boring. What can I do to get the spark back?
Q. my wife of 7 years last night told me she was unhappy with the marrage and felt like that for a year. she says that she feels like she is living with a brother rather than a husband and she doesn't know why she feels like this. we get on great lik...
A. 31 July 2010: I am in a similar situation myself. I've been married for almost 25 years and I have to say, I sometimes feel a bit like brother and sister and actually for quite some time. I do love my husband, but there seems to be not much spark.
As the year... (read in full...)
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