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writes:I know on this site we're suppose to seek help,and complain about our problems but today I felt like I just lifted a big weight off my shoulders. The thing is I just feel like things are just too good to be true for now. I have a boyfriend now, and we just started dating. Its only been a little over a week. No sex,we talk everyday,I tell him everything (well almost everything) and so does he. I haven't known him that long which is why I'm taking this relationship step by step. I really do like him. Today I spoke to my ex, and although I still love him today he made me realize that although we love each other,we can't force each other to be together. We're both very indecisive people, we may want something today but quickly lose interest tomorrow. I must admit I am that way, but we both stuck around for each other. We still have a little history. After that convo I think I finally let go of him. I'll always love him but I'm done trying to get into a relationship with him. Now I haven't told my boyfriend about my ex yet. I kinda don't think its a big deal and its way too early to make him worried of loosing me. And then one of my guys friends told me that he really likes me. I just had to turn him down because I feel like the person I am with now will show me the right way to love. I just feel that way. So should I be feeling this way? I love my ex, but I let him go today. I think its best if we were just friends, its hard but I think its right. And my friend that likes me I think he's just like the others guys who had a thing for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): You said you love your ex......then you say But.....Then...question your decision....equals you don't know what you want....Soooooo what do you really want? You should ask yourself that question before persuing any other relationship......its all up to you.....Make honest choices for yourself is my advice!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (25 August 2010):
Hi there. As your age is 18-21, you don't say it, but it's possible that your ex was your first love. And if that is the case, well then it would naturally be a special thing for you. Most people never really forget their first romance.
It's also possible that you have outgrown each other and your interests are different now from when you first went out. The first relationship with your ex has probably just run it's course.
Everything happens for a reason.
The doubts you are having might just be a yearning for the familiar, your comfort zone.
Don't worry that you have done the wrong thing. If it feels right to you and you can't see a reason why you should be with the first guy, just leave it as it is. The time for the break was probably spot on accurate.
You are doing the right thing by taking it slowly with the new guy and getting to know each other. That's wise. Waiting to bring sex into it is also smart, as this new man will respect you for waiting until your are sure. It also shows him that you want to be treated properly and with respect.
You will know when it feels right to give that part of yourself to him. It will be special.
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): What are you asking? Well, you are clearly not over your ex. You are making do with this other person. Have you got a fear of not having a man in your life? Are you in love with being in love? How would you feel if someone was with you for the same reason? You need to be more stable mentaly before you do anything. If you do get with this guy,it may kill any chance of getting back with the man you love. You cannot force yourself to love someone. If you do love someone so fast then your concept of love is not true love.
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