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*ekahbelle
writes:well my boyfriend and i have now been going out for two months and the other night i trusted him to go to a party while i was at a dance class, he tells me two days later that he cheated on me and now i don't know what to do, so i guess my question is should i stay with him or break up with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I'm so happy for you. I think you've done the right thing. You deserve better.
Good luck :D
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reader, bekahbelle +, writes (26 August 2010):
bekahbelle is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you everyone! i broke up with him today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): wow sweetie.. he is an ass.. thats horrible. DUMP his punk ass.. ASAP.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 2 months he should still be in the honeymoon phase of obsession and super strong chemicals. If he can't make it that long without cheating, when things cool off a little he certainly won't be able to. I'd leave.
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reader, Alittlebroken  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Hi,
Having been hurt over and over again in previous relationships, I would advise you to break up with this guy. And yes, there really are so many nice guys out there who would never do that to you, especially not after 2 months! Please have enough self respect to get rid of him, otherwise you will end up resenting him, and feeling worthless. If you stay with him this will only affect your future relationships; so that when a nice guy finally comes along you won't trust him. Get rid, and start looking for that knight in shining armour, they are out there!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 August 2010):
 He couldn't even keep it in his pant for 2 months? Wow, I'd dump him asap. He's going to do it again and again and again.....
Don't let any guy treat you like a doormat.
Just do yourself a favor and don't mistrust the next guy you meet.
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reader, Ms. Love Doctor +, writes (25 August 2010):
Look and pay close attention you have to look in the mirror and see yourself as a beautiful young lady just like you got him you can get someone 10 times better than him and make him see what he is missing move on. And don't let him see you sweat.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Dump his cheating arse. You deserve better
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 August 2010):
If he's already cheated two months into your relationship, then there is no point in continuing. He'll just do it again. At such an early stage in your relationship, this shouldn't be an issue at all. To be fair, it should never be an issue anyway. But he's failed you before you've even really got started. Please find a better guy.
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reader, Angel93  +, writes (25 August 2010):
U should leave n move on, he is a flirt....
So better for u is to move away that's what i can advice you n good for u....
Cant trust this person....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): I wouldn't stay with a cheater.
It's only been a short relationship and already he has broken your trust.
I think you should move on and find someone who would never cheat on you. There are plenty of nice guys out there.
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reader, Jesc +, writes (25 August 2010):
 2 months and he cheated.
As much as it might hurt you I say break up with him.
You need someone you can 100% trust. If he does this at the beginning of your relationship how can you trust him later on in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): 2 months? If he cant commit for 2 months, he wont commit for longer. Cut your losses and leave. It would never be the same if you stayed. It's unlikely a relationship will survive when its early stages are so clouded. The beginnings of a relationship are supposed to be filled with joyous memories that you reflect on fondly later in life. You've lost that now. It will forever be a cloud hanging over you...even if it never happened again. Walk away with dignity intact and find someone who can respect you enough.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Break up with him. You gave him your trust and he abused it, he betrayed you. This all happened only after two months! This would never work. You need someone you CAN trust.
I hope that helps.
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reader, LiloCoke +, writes (25 August 2010):
2 months is crucial for any relationship, because it is very short to get fully attached to the partner and yet it is the perfect time to show all the love the couple has. Usually, people dating for 2 months are still in some sort of romantic cloud, giving presents to each other, spending time together almost 24/7..your relationship looks like it has started for you but not for him, the realization of being exclusive in a committed relationship wasn't taken seriously. If he cheated in 2 months, then I am sorry, but if you just let it be, its gonna get worse. He does not appreciate you or your trust and the good thing is that you still didn't go that far in the relationship to attach yourself with any strings. Break up is an ultimate option, because when you let him be without you and trusted, he strayed. It is not your fault but completely his, and of his personality. Be genuine, loving YOURSELF, first of all, and rational. This guy definitely doesn't deserve you.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (25 August 2010):
Hi there. You need to sit down and talk about it and be honest with each other.
Also, you both need to be on the same page about what you both expect and want from this relationship. Make sure sure you both want the same thing. Don't hold anything back, just be clear and don't beat about the bush.
Quite often couples don't talk about this kind of stuff and just make an assumption instead. Don't assume - just talk and ask questions. Only then, can you weigh it all up and make a decision about whether to stay or leave.
Hope it helps you. Best wishes.
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