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writes:hey im having trouble i want a date but every hates me how do i get a least one (please aprove this) Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (1 September 2010):
Hi there. When you first meet people, are you being yourself and totally honest with them?
It is always better being honest and not pretending to be something you are not, just for the sake of pleasing people.
Perhaps you have been trying too hard and trying to impress everyone you meet by exaggerating everything you talk about, in some way. Sometimes when people are a little low in confidence, they do this. But unfortunately, it never goes over very well. People always see through this shallow behaviour and take everything with a grain of salt, as they can instinctively see that the person isn't being genuine.
Don't worry about trying to impress everyone you meet. It's a waste of time and usually goes nowhere.
Try instead, believing in yourself and knowing that you are already a worthy human being. Like everyone else, you have as much right to hope for and expect to have a good relationship with an equally worthy young lady.
But this will not begin to even look like happening anytime soon, until you start being real. When you meet a nice girl, become friends first and find some common ground - music, likes and dislikes, hobbies and interests, etc. and really get to know them well. Also, treat everyone you meet the way you yourself would like to be treated. Be open and honest, and treat all people with love and respect always.
You will find that as soon as you start to become genuine, your life will very quickly change for the better, I promise.
Please think very carefully about all this information. It's very well worthwhile.
You don't have to pretend anymore. You are perfect just as you are. You have to believe this for yourself.
Take care, and best wishes for a very happy future.
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reader, _Katy_Did_ +, writes (1 September 2010):
 I highly doubt they hate you, unless you've done something to make them hate you(I doubt you have). Like Jmtmj said, tell us a bit about yourself so we can help you sort his one out:)
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (1 September 2010):
 Maybe tell us a little about yourself, what you do, what you've tried, etc?
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