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writes:I want to be the kind of girl that guys chase after but they cant have. Supposedly im pretty enough for it but when a cute guy likes me i chase them then they lose the attraction. How do/can i not do that? I also want my boobsand butt to be bigger. How do i do that? My boobs right now are 40 C but i really want them bigger...im 13 so nothing illegal. And hair tips also plz. Im african american and i hate using grease. Its yucky. I also i want to get skinner. If u can help with any of these plz answer.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (2 September 2010):
Hello again. Wow! These other people have given some fantastic advice.Another thing I just thought of is, you talk about wanting to be better than you already are, believing that outside beauty is all that there is. Not so.Physical beauty is really only skin deep. Yes a pretty face, and nice body, are positive things but they are only the bait for someone to feel attracted to you initially.Beyond the first glance from across a crowded room, once a guy comes across the room to chat to you then beyond the initial "Hello", there needs to be a whole lot more than the physical looks. This is where your personality and sense of humour comes into play.These things are what really attracts a man - who you really are as a person. When you feel good about yourself and believe in yourself, it shows. However, it has to be genuine - don't pretend. Really make the effort to make your life interesting and exciting.Also what I didn't mention in my first posting, is it's okay to be a bit of a challenge to men to keep your attention, but don't be so hard to get that men will feel that you are unreachable. Which means don't always "No" when a guy asks you out. If you want to go out with a young man, say yes but also let them know that you do have other things in your life, and that dating is not your whole life. That way, it takes the pressure off them from always having to be there to make you happy.When you are living a busy life and don't so eagerly jump into going out with a guy, it also shows that you have a very high standard for yourself and refuse to take crap from anyone. This is really important for everyone to know. Men will respect you more.Also, don't be in any hurry to have sex with any guy you meet just to please them, or so they will stay with you. Good relationships are so much more than just sex. Becoming good friends first getting to know each other well, and building a level of mutual respect - then see if those feelings develop over time. Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. If you feel a physical attraction with a new guy from the start, even more so, wait and see how you both get along before even considering going to bed with them. Too soon, and it could spoil everything. You will know when it feels right to take that extra step.At 13, this is too early in your life to be considering it anyway. But in a few years.Always accept only the best for yourself and don't allow anyone to take you for granted or treat you badly. You will also gain self-confidence if you live this way. Also, realize that we are all equal. No one person is any better than anyone else.Remember that you are already perfect, and as other people have said in these postings, you still have at least another 5 years of growing to do. Probably up to the age of about 25 years of age, before you get to what you will be as an adult. You haven't stopped yet, not by a long shot. You are changing even as we speak.Good luck in the future. Best wishes.
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reader, Jesc +, writes (27 August 2010):
 You really want to have guys come after you. Just flirt, Do NOT chase. Play the game of "Hard to get" But be careful cause sometimes they really do think you are to hard to get. Show a lot of confidence in front of everyone and yourself. I'm not saying do the Pairs Hilton "I'm hot" act -yuck- Just know that you are beautiful, Be proud of it. :)With your body- I checked out the link provided by one of the Aunts. I really do suggest that. I read threw it. It seems like it would really work. (Which I will so try out) Now it is true that with exercises you will lose breast fat. But that's easy.For your breast to get bigger it all falls under your genetics for starters. But a way to make them appear bigger and more plump (No not a push up bra) But a workout method that works for me. I just had a child so I have to do something about my breast. :)(Please note this is what I do and it helps me alot. I started with Bs now I am at Cs)First every time you go to the restroom, for whatever business. Do a standing push up. I'm sure that you know the right measurements just in cause arms with shoulders. Now choose a number to start off with. -5,10,15,20- which ever.Do that each time. Trust might seem stupid but it's really worth it.Now another thing I use is weights. 5lbs ons. Or if you do not have any (2)2 liter bottles. Fill them up with water. Use those as weights. (works like weights truly)Now as weird as it already seems. Lay down on your back on a flat surface. While laying down spread your arms on either side of you like your about to make a snow angel.Make sure that your wrists(arms do not touch the ground which makes some tense pressure on your arms(which also helps with building muscles) Have your weights in each hand and bring them straight up together to meet above your chestOnce again choose the same number you do for your push ups(5,10,20,30,etc) and do it that many times. Make sure you each time you bring your arms down that they DO NOT touch the floor hold it above the floor at five inches hold there for 5 secs. Then do it again.What this does is builds muscles in your chest. Which helps the breast grow and show perkiness. See with something for your breast to work off of it will help to grow. Do this for as long as you can while working out or even after. It will help.With hair- My friend hates grease!!! I never understood how her hair looked amazing. She told me that she uses leave in conditioner something that tennisstar88 already stated. Which I am still shocked about. She straightens her hair after that in very small amounts at a time. She uses infusion leave in. I started using it and love it.I hope the best for you good Luck
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reader, _Katy_Did_ +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Ok, first of all, why do you need all of these things so badly? You're 13. You've got a lot of time to grow into your body. You don't need to have guys chasing you around all the time. And why do you want to be the girl no body can have? I know you're young, but you've got some self esteem issues to work on. Focus on you. Focus on your health. Focus on happiness that doesn't revolve around pleasing others. This is a hard thing to get through a 13 year old girl's head, but don't worry about everyone else. Maybe you'll find you won't need all of these things you're looking for.
And seriously, like I said before, you've got plenty of time to grow. Don't rush it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 August 2010):
First up, you're only 13, so your body naturally will grow more. You don't need to do anything about your body at all. That will take care of itself.
As for making guys chase you, just do a bit of flirting, but don't chase. If they like you that much and they're confident enough, they'll come. Just sit back a bit when you find out a guy likes you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Your supposed to let the guy chase you..all you need to do is flirt. For 13-15 C boobs are pretty big. I know girls who have DD that hate them so bigger boobs aren't all what they're cracked up to be. For the bigger booty check out this link..Plus it will help with the weight loss
http://hubpages.com/hub/bootylicious
In addition to the exercise you're going to need to start eating healthy. For your meal always have a side of veggies, whether they're grilled, baked, or steamed.
Replace a meal with a full salad with chopped egg, cubes of ham, and fat free or light ranch dressing. Dessert opt for a fruit salad, frozen yogurt, granola bar, or a cup of trail mix. Your hair, my black friend doesn't use grease but a leave in conditioner, a serum for when she straightens her hair, and she'll go a couple of weeks without washing her hair. She's got beautiful long black hair. Now do note when you start exercising you're going to lose a little weight from your boobs..
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (27 August 2010):
Hi there. You will be much more attractive to guys if you are a confident, independent woman with your own life and interests of your own.If you have a full life, you won't appear needy which really can turn men off. Learn to make yourself happy by making your life interesting with lots going on. Go out with your friends, and just have fun.The rest will follow. Just be friends with any young men you meet, don't try and get too heavily involved from the beginning. Things all happen when they're meant to - they can't be rushed.If you want to get thinner, there's no better or inexpensive way than to walk regularly - for about 30 minutes every day. It's very good for you, tones your legs and butt, and you'll feel fantastic as well. Also when you walk, thoughts come and go about life, and you will find it a very therapeutic activity. Being out in the fresh air as well is also good for your skin and eyes.Don't consider getting a boob job. It can be very expensive and there are often things that can go wrong. Just try toning your bustline with bust exercises, it will be much better to get toned than to look false with breast implants. You might live to regret that decision.Good luck. Best wishes.
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