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*mandanash
writes:we both really like each other, been something between us for over 2 years. he's moving away for school though. i just ended a long distance relationship a few months ago and wouldn't do LD again. I told him to not put his life on hold for me and that it's not fair for me to have to put my life on hold for him until he gets back. was it the right thing to do?
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reader, amandanash +, writes (19 August 2010):
amandanash is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your kind and encouraging words. makes me feel better. thank you
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 This sounds like a very sensible thing to do. It wouldn't be fair for you to say you can do long distance with him, making promises you can't keep won't do either of you any good in the long run. You've done what's right for him, and although it won't feel too good when he's away, you know you've done what best for him.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 August 2010):
Hi there. Yes, I believe you have done the right thing.
If he's moving away for school, and he's about the same age as you (18-21 years), he's probably moving away with his parents, is he? If not, he may well come back for the holidays to visit. In which case, you will probably see him during that time.
It is very hard to keep a long distance relationship going, as it's existence depends entirely on text messaging and phone calls and maybe emails or even letter writing. Yes some people do write letters these days. Usually, it's too expensive to visit each other and impractical and inconvenient.
So in the meantime, when he's away with his new school, just get on with your own life, and be happy and see your friends and go out.
If you are both meant to be together, you will be. With maturity and time lapsing, you might find that you have even more in common. The next time around when he comes to visit his family and friends, then it might become a serious relationship. Only time will tell.
Take Care and best wishes.
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