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This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 6 November 2010: Hi. He does not deserve you at all.
Good riddence to bad rubbish.
You are better off without him.... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 4 November 2010: Hi. Hope your test results found some answers for you.
Best wishes in the future.... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 3 November 2010: Hi. I'm really pleased you have been to the doctor's. That's the first step.
I'm also glad she ran some tests on you, which is the only way to find a true diagnosis.
No doubt if the test she has run on you this time comes back negative, s... (read in full...)
Wanted: Unattached Male
Q. I stumbled onto a news article online that has got me thinking. It was so much like a question here on "Dear Cupid". The author had just been through a breakup and was Writing advice based on her experience. She entitled the article something ...
A. 3 November 2010: Hello again. I am inclined to agree with you, about people with a lot of baggage being less tolerant of other people's baggage.
People with leftover baggage from their past relationships, have enough to content with, without someone else's p... (read in full...)
I'm terrible at small-talk so how do I approach her?
Q. I am a college student who has come from the UK to America, and I just don't know what to do romantically. I am rather anhedonic, so I have difficulty just relaxing and having fun with women. I'm not good at all at social banter or small talk. ...
A. 2 November 2010: Hi there. Just relax and be yourself.
Most relationships start out as friends, then over time and you find some common ground and interests, it develops from there.
Perhaps you could ask her to see a show or a movie that you both like.
Th... (read in full...)
How can I improve my communication?
Q. I'm a 25 years old male, one of my problems is that i do not talk to people alot and i want to know how can i improve my communication?, i hardly talk to to people i don't know why. i've always been very quiet and that is who im. sometimes i like ...
A. 2 November 2010: Hi there. It depends on what you want to do.
Does it make you unhappy, or is it not very important to you?
Most people like their solitude at different times, and it's perfectly healthy to like your own company. Nothing wrong with it at all. ... (read in full...)
It's all good except the arguments
Q. I recently got married although we had previously lived together, so not alot has changed. For the most part things have been good between us except I've noticed how much my husband is starting to argue with me, over every little thing. He'll ask me ...
A. 1 November 2010: Hi there. As you haven't said, is it possible that he works in a stressful job?
Perhaps you are both starting to take each other for granted.
It's also possible, that it's nothing you've done at all, but more like he doesn't have balance in ... (read in full...)
Missing someone in a LDR
Q. Hello there. I have a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I are in a LDR, and it's a lovely relationship. But we've started missing one another. Which is normal in a LDR, but we get into fights over it. I hate it, and I'm not sure what we should do? ...
A. 1 November 2010: Hi there. When you say a Long Distance Relationship, did you meet over the internet, or have you met and went out for a while, then one of you moved away?
This is one of the biggest problems regarding LDR's - the loneliness. Unfortun... (read in full...)
I want my feelings for wife's sister to go away!
Q. To make a long story short here recently (very recently) Im having feeling about my sister in law.I dont know were these feeling have come from. Am I wierd? I really dont know what to do. I have been married for 7 years and have a 5 year old son. My ...
A. 1 November 2010: Hi there. Perhaps you have what is sometimes referred to as the 7 Year Itch.
It's a type of restlessness that sometimes happens in a relationship over a few years, once the newness has gone.
The honeymoon stage is usually up to 18 months to ... (read in full...)
He decided I'm not worth the effort of fixing this marriage!
Q. I do not understand how someone, man or woman, can simply walk out on their family. My husband and I have had our share of problems. Our marriage hasnt ever been a cake walk, but I have supported him in every decision he has ever made during our 3 ...
A. 1 November 2010: Hi there. He sounds a bit overwhelmed with it all. Your own child (yours and his), plus you both have children from previous relationships.
He was supporting you and your child (his), plus his past partner's children. It's a lot.
He prob... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 31 October 2010: Hi. That's really wise.
All that you have said is true, and it's good you are keeping in mind what he did to you. Don't let yourself forget.
You're on the right track.
I really believe that you are now ready to move on.
Good luck in... (read in full...)
We're going to have to break up because her parents don't approve of interracial relationships
Q. Hey guys im in a interracial realtionship and ive been going with my girlfriend for happily 2 1/2 years. only thing is that her parents dont approve because im black and she is white. she said that she have to break up with me because of her parents ...
A. 31 October 2010: Hi. Your girlfriend is making an assumption that her parents will be unhappy with her. But the only way to find out for sure, is to do it.
This really is unfinished business.
She could call them on the phone first, and ask if she can bring yo... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 30 October 2010: Hi. Ok then, letters do take a lot of time - possibly hours to get down on paper all that you are thinking. So forgetting about doing that, probably is a wise move.
Choosing instead to improve your life generally, is a very positive step.
... (read in full...)
How short is too short to date?
Q. hi is it true that girls wont even notice a guy shorter than 6" ? i heard that they always say "at least taller than me" but they are actually looking for tall ones right? can girls tell how short is too short to notice? and how short is too ...
A. 30 October 2010: Hi there. Height is not at all important.
5 foot 10 is a pretty good height for a man, it's about average.
The most attractive thing about a man is his personality, sense of humour and his smile.
Also, how you both get along with each othe... (read in full...)
Cherry popped?
Q. how do you know when a guy has 'popped your cherry'??...
A. 30 October 2010: Hello again. The tissue at the opening of the vagina that ruptures, is called the hymen.... (read in full...)
Cherry popped?
Q. how do you know when a guy has 'popped your cherry'??...
A. 30 October 2010: Hi there. "Popped your cherry" is simply a term for losing your virginity.
It's the tissue at the very opening to the vagina, which ruptures on the first encounter of having sex, and possibly the second encounter as well. This of course, ... (read in full...)
I like the new guy but he's got a g/f, wonder if I should get back with my ex, or what?
Q. I've liked this guy for around half a year. He was single but i was in a relationship. Two months ago i broke up with my bf (not because of the guy i like). he tried to kiss me only about two weeks after the break up but i backed away, because it ...
A. 29 October 2010: Hi there. As far as going back with your ex, that depends on why you broke it off in the first place. You said it wasn't because of the new guy.
If he did something to hurt you, then work out if it was really that bad after all. Or did you just... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife's relationship with Matt bother me?
Q. Should I let this bother me? My wife is in nursing school. The past two days she's mentioned having lunch with the same guy. Matt. When she first mentioned him back when school started I casually asked about him. She said he's married but havi...
A. 28 October 2010: Hi there. I think you should definitely tell her how you feel. She needs to know that you have concerns. But stay calm and be respectful when you do talk about it. Don't become sarcastic or criticize her either. Be positive.
Was your relation... (read in full...)
I cannot have an orgasm unless I dirty talk to my boyfriend about him with other women.
Q. This question is quite embarrassing for me to admit. I have been with my boyfriend for close to a year. I am having a problem more and more lately with not being able to get an orgasm unless I give him dirty talk involving a made up scenerio with ...
A. 28 October 2010: Hi there. It's not uncommon to have some fantasies during lovemaking. It's quite normal.
The problem seems to be that saying it all out loud, is kind of getting in the way of real pleasure. Even though you say it doesn't work for you just kee... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 28 October 2010: Hi. It sounds like a good idea, the letter.
The only thing is, you won't be there when he reads it to get his reaction.
But you could still do it, just the same. I guess he probably would read it.
But certainly anyway, do my previous s... (read in full...)
FWB, then we are exclusive, then back to FWB. Now I'm pregnant.
Q. My bf and i have been together for a little over a year. our relationship is quite complicated. we met and both of us had been hurt and decided we didnt want a relationship or to be in love. well. HA we broke our own rules fell in love and became ...
A. 28 October 2010: Hello again. WOW!! I'm really impressed.
Even though you wrote to Dear Cupid with this question, I believe you were sure at some level as to what you would probably do anyway. And that's really positive.
I am very proud of you.
You are ... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 27 October 2010: Hi. Great idea.
Perhaps you are more likely to run into his friends than to run into him. It's the next best thing.
It will have the same affect, I'm quite sure.
Don't lose your nerve. Do it for sure.
The news will definitely get ... (read in full...)
When is it the end?
Q. how do you honestly know when your relationship is at a end point...
A. 27 October 2010: Hi there. You have to ask yourself (and be completely honest when you do this) - "Am I really happy?"
It's necessary to have a think about all the things you do and don't like about your relationship now.
Once a relationship gets past the ne... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend present ideas?
Q. I'm in a LDR. It's great! I want to send him something for his birthday that's coming up soon. Does anyone have any ideas? i need as many ideas as i can get. Lots of ideas please! thank you!...
A. 27 October 2010: Hi there. It's important to find out what his interests are.
Also, how long have you been seeing each other?
How close are you, is it serious do you think?
Unless you really know him well, perhaps you might try:-
- music CD's
- movie... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 27 October 2010: Hi. I have another question for you.
Why is it that your sister controls everything that you do?
Your health is your responsibility, not hers. Regardless of your age. Seeing doctors and specialists is also your responsibility. ... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 27 October 2010: Hi. Ok then, I know what you mean. I kind of thought you might have meant that, but I wasn't sure.
Well if you know the areas he hangs out at in his free time, you could happen to walk towards him in the street, and say - "Hi! How's things?"... (read in full...)
FWB, then we are exclusive, then back to FWB. Now I'm pregnant.
Q. My bf and i have been together for a little over a year. our relationship is quite complicated. we met and both of us had been hurt and decided we didnt want a relationship or to be in love. well. HA we broke our own rules fell in love and became ...
A. 27 October 2010: Hello again. I'm really pleased that you are an independent woman the way you are. That's a great way to live, never feeling you need someone else to help you. Knowing that you can always take life in your stride, without any great concern.
... (read in full...)
Is he just messing with my head? Why is he saying this stuff?
Q. I'd like people's opinions on this as i'm a bit confused. My friend, who used to be a fbw/buddy a while back has been acting a bit strangley towards me. He recently was chatting online and said he thought i was amazing and he always has but he lives ...
A. 26 October 2010: Hi there. Although he says that you are amazing and other such things, plus have you got a boyfriend, the fact that he now has a girlfriend and still contacts you via the internet, seems like he is feeling bored with his life at the moment.
It ca... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 26 October 2010: Hi there. It's certainly persistent the discharge that you have.
Why hasn't your family doctor given you some anti-biotics to take and conducted some basic urine tests himself?
Most general practitioners, usually do as much as they can first b... (read in full...)
Still single after a year and wondering what could be wrong with me?
Q. I am at the point where I really don't understand what's wrong with me. I am too young to be so depressed and too old to be desperate over such childish things. Being gay isn't easy but this is just ridiculous. I am going crazy over the fact tha...
A. 26 October 2010: Hi there. It's clear you are doing everything right generally speaking, and helping others and the environment, with respect for all creatures on Earth.
The one thing you may not be doing, is although you say you have made some changes on the o... (read in full...)
FWB, then we are exclusive, then back to FWB. Now I'm pregnant.
Q. My bf and i have been together for a little over a year. our relationship is quite complicated. we met and both of us had been hurt and decided we didnt want a relationship or to be in love. well. HA we broke our own rules fell in love and became ...
A. 26 October 2010: Hi there. First of all, why are you going to move 3 hours away after the birth?
Why are you waiting till after the birth to do that?
Are you going to be moving in with some other family members - Grandparents for instance?
You said he has... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 25 October 2010: Hi. I understand how you must feel, and most women would feel that very same way.
However, revenge is taking the low road.
For one reason, even if you lowered his tyres and removed the air valves - which would make him angry, the situation wo... (read in full...)
Wanted: Unattached Male
Q. I stumbled onto a news article online that has got me thinking. It was so much like a question here on "Dear Cupid". The author had just been through a breakup and was Writing advice based on her experience. She entitled the article something ...
A. 25 October 2010: Hello again. Yes, I agree that lady in the article you spoke of is rather closed minded about getting involved with a divorced man with children.
She seems to want her man to be her whole world, and practically devote his entire life to her (in ... (read in full...)
After a first date, don't stress out if he doesn't call!
Q. I am a type A personality, prone to general anxiety. I'm all-around awkward. Every time I have a first date, I worry about whether the guy is going to call me or not. I look up articles, I ask questions, I read other people's questions about ...
A. 25 October 2010: Hi there. Sometimes it's ok to call a guy.
But perhaps not too early in a very new relationship. If you do, it makes a girl look needy and desperate, two things a guy doesn't like. It can also come across as slightly pushy - another no-no.
... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 25 October 2010: Hello again. It's hard to say, it might not be that he cheated on you at all.
Up until the breakup, were you both genuinely happy?
Did you ever fight?
Did you have some time apart to pursue your own interests during the week?
Or were you... (read in full...)
Does anyone have a boyfriend with a super-hot or successful ex-girlfriend?
Q. Hi, ladies! I've been reading this site forever, and it's inspired me to write a story for a women's media outlet that I hope will help a lot of girls and women. I'm looking for women who have a boyfriend with an amazing, successful, super-hot ...
A. 24 October 2010: Hi there. I haven't been in this situation, but I see what you're asking.
It's a case of a low self-esteem of the new girlfriend, who is probably comparing her looks to the "Hot" ex you are referring to.
Comparing yourself to anyone is never ... (read in full...)
We always fight! How can I tell him I love and care for him?
Q. me and myboyfriend have fight every day or after one or two days. i know he loves me and i also love him but there is something... like if we get to talk about any thing we end up fighting and i dont know what to do... plz help me and tell me what ...
A. 24 October 2010: Hi there. You probably both want to be right, and aren't willing to see the other's point of view with an open mind.
This is usually the reason most couples fight, because neither wants to see the other person's side of things. Both feel the... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 24 October 2010: Hi again. Perhaps you could send him that message telepathically.
It's hard to explain it to someone who doesn't know.
It's like you are talking to him telling him what you think about what he did to you.
When you do this, you do it when ... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 24 October 2010: Hello again. You are right, it won't be easy to get over it. But get over it you must do, to move on.
You are going to go through a kind of grieving process, as well as anger, and there will be times when you feel like crying. When you do feel ... (read in full...)
Dumped by text with no reason given, I am STILL MAD!
Q. I was seeing my boy for almost a year. Then he dumped me out of the blue, for no reason. He knew I was in love with him. He dumped me by text and insulted me. I would never cheat and I was a great girlfriend. Its been 4 months since the breakup and ...
A. 23 October 2010: Hi there. That's not uncommon for some guys to text a goodbye to their girlfriends. It's a lousy and gutless way to breakup that's for sure.
Why would he do that? You said things were good between you before that.
He must be very restless in... (read in full...)
Wanted: Unattached Male
Q. I stumbled onto a news article online that has got me thinking. It was so much like a question here on "Dear Cupid". The author had just been through a breakup and was Writing advice based on her experience. She entitled the article something ...
A. 23 October 2010: Hi there. It's all about finding a balance. Not just with relationships but with everything in life really.
Happiness is a choice. We are each responsible for our own happiness - no-one else. It is entirely up to us.
In all relationships th... (read in full...)
I know of somebody who is being unfaithful
Q. i know of someone who has been unfaithful to their parner.they live together and have a kid. i dont want to be stuck in the middle of all this but i also dont want to snitch because its i dont want to be involved in all this. so the unfaithf...
A. 23 October 2010: Hi there. Why does she rave on about the affair to others? It's no-one else's business.
What is it she hopes to achieve? There seems no point really to shooting her mouth off to anyone who will listen, about an illicit affair she is having. ... (read in full...)
He has changed, could he be cheating?
Q. My boyfriend is acting very different and i keep getting this feeling that he's cheating on me, how do i know for sure? And then what do i do if he is ?...
A. 23 October 2010: Hi there. A clue is whether you ever see him chatting to other girls either by texting or talking to them.
How he acts doesn't necessarily mean he is automatically cheating.
Over here in Australia, our Higher School Certificate exam... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong or has he gone off me?
Q. hi my self and my boyfriend used to have a fantastic love life now he dont seem to be inerested and just lies there for me to get him arosed he dont touch me anymore and instead of kissing me i get the odd peck when we have sex its 2 pumps an a ...
A. 23 October 2010: Hi there. If you haven't had any major arguments about anything, then like he says - there must be something on his mind.
You are going to have to talk to him about it.
(1) Is he having any problems at work?
(2) Does he have any physica... (read in full...)
We're going to have to break up because her parents don't approve of interracial relationships
Q. Hey guys im in a interracial realtionship and ive been going with my girlfriend for happily 2 1/2 years. only thing is that her parents dont approve because im black and she is white. she said that she have to break up with me because of her parents ...
A. 12 October 2010: Hello again. I think that's really wise what you said to her about having faith and trying to convince her parents.
Even though she has broken it off with you at the moment, with time it is possible that she will regret her decision.
Perhaps... (read in full...)
We're going to have to break up because her parents don't approve of interracial relationships
Q. Hey guys im in a interracial realtionship and ive been going with my girlfriend for happily 2 1/2 years. only thing is that her parents dont approve because im black and she is white. she said that she have to break up with me because of her parents ...
A. 10 October 2010: Hi there. Well 2 and a half years is a long time to be going together. Why has this problem only just arisen now?
Haven't her parents met you before now?
Have you met them, or has your girlfriend only told them that she is dating a black m... (read in full...)
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