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writes:It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying.However, in staying happy it's important to:-(1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week. Not the whole day or whole night, a couple of hours max.(2) Don't allow these interests/hobbies to encroach too much on the time you spend together. If you are not living together this won't be an issue.(3) Don't spend too much time apart from each other (especially when you are living together), as that in itself could cause a rift.(4) Do have some of your own individual friends - as well as the friends you share as a couple. It helps both partners have some level of independence.(5) Don't depend entirely upon each other for your happiness. We are each responsible for our own happiness, no-one else. It takes the pressure off the other partner if we make ourselves happy.(6) Don't let upsets become grudges. Get them out in the open as soon as they happen. Otherwise, they become resentments which could spell the beginning of the end.(7) When you speak to each other, always speak with love, respect and consideration for the other's feelings. Always do this, and especially if there is an issue you want to bring to light with the other. Remember it's not what you say, but how you say it that counts.(8) Don't criticise each other.(9) Always think about the possible consequences to your actions. It will change how you make decisions.(10) Don't forget to have fun, laugh and really enjoy each other. Life is too short. It's an exciting journey. Reply to this Article
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (14 May 2011):
Dorothy Dix is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I'm happy it was useful for you. Take care.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (14 May 2011):
 hi Dorothy Dix,
yes, I read the extra comment, and it is all very good sound advice.
Regards,
Abella
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (14 May 2011):
Dorothy Dix is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. Thank you Abella. You're very welcome.
I hope that you also read my other latest comment on the right hand side (dated 13 August 2010 - headed Being Happy in a Relationship cont'd), which was an extension of the original article.
I hope that I have helped in some way.
If you ever want to ask me anything, please don't hesitate.
You can even write to my private mail box if you like, I am happy for you to do that.
Best wishes and take care.
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reader, Abella +, writes (13 May 2011):
this is such a great article that I am going to put it in the list of articles to recommend to others. Very well thought out thanks
Abella
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (13 August 2010):
Dorothy Dix is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBeing Happy In a Relationship (Cont'd)
Hello there again. I thought of something else after I wrote this last column.
That is:-
It's really important to not lose yourself inside the relationship, once it really gets going.
So often, this does happen - especially on the part of the woman, and she is often trying very hard to please her new man and in doing so, forgets about herself in the process. There's often a sense of loss of identity.
Hence the need for the separate friends and your own interests and hobbies plus some time away from each other to gain the balance.
Also, don't compromise your true beliefs too often. When stressing a point it's not what you say but how you say it that really counts.
Always consider your own needs and don't allow others to be more important than you. There needs to be some boundaries.
Learn how to say "No" sometimes, to allow your own needs to be fulfilled. You are just as important as they are. Your time is just as precious.
It's really important to nourish the soul on a regular basis to be truly happy.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (12 August 2010):
Dorothy Dix is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. I'm glad you enjoyed. Take Care.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (12 August 2010):
Dorothy Dix is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your feedback. Hope it was useful. Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Beautiful. You not only write well, your breadth of understanding is refreshing. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Oh man! i wish I had read this a couple months ago. But I believe I did all of these things, except one. SIGH...thank you so much for this nice article!!
-Karmen
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