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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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How do I achieve my EMO look?
Q. My boyfriend is amazing and he is one of my best friends. He always looks amazing and he always says I look amazing too but I don't feel confident in the clothes I wear! I dont like to wear skirts I love shorts and jeans and I love a quirky style ...
A. 2 March 2011: Hi there. Are you sure you are really being yourselves, or are you just trying to impress each other and other people?
If you are just trying to impress each other, well then you are not being authentic. You are pretending.
You need to b... (read in full...)
Ex ignores me after initially crying to be friends
Q. Ex broke up with me a month ago...went into no contact right after. She cried about being friends and I said no since I still had feelings. We dated for 5 years and were each others first...in everything. i knew I was going to see her at the c...
A. 2 March 2011: Hi there. Perhaps it really is over - for her.
As you have broken up with her, just start living your own life now and having fun with your own friends.
As she seems to have moved on a bit, it's probably wise for you to do the same.
Apart f... (read in full...)
She doesn't want us to split up, but she does want a break and to see other people which I cannot tolerate! What should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a girl for 4 years. It was my first real relationship, even she had relations befor with both girls and boys. Actually first with boys and then girls in which she decided that she is a lesbian. Before, we h...
A. 2 March 2011: Hi there. When people think they might be gay, it could come as somewhat of a shock to them.
There could be an identity crisis looming, wondering where your sexuality really lies and who you really are. It could be a challenge, I'm sure.
... (read in full...)
Why do I like them some days, then the next day I don't!?
Q. Why do I keep thinking about this guy all the time? I never used to be able to think of him as more than a friend until recently, what's going on? Also what confuses me is I know I like him, but then some days I wont like him as much as I did be...
A. 2 March 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you are just not sure what it is that you want at the moment. Don't try to decide whether you like someone or not, or how much you like them. What's wrong with just being friends for the time being? Most relationships begin ... (read in full...)
Facebook Ruined My Life
Q. Is it just me or is Facebook a total head-wreck? Personally, I see it as one big popularity contest. I mean it is so pointless. Why not go out and meet your friends for real, instead of giving yourself a headache trying to think of the 'coolest' ...
A. 24 February 2011: Hi there. It can become addictive for many people, and usually in the absence of more fun things to do.
You are doing the right thing, in getting out and about enjoying your life again.
Surfing the net and spending time on Facebook, can ce... (read in full...)
Is she just stressed out or is something more serious wrong?
Q. I am in a long-distance relationship for 3 years. For the past 6 months we have been living long-distance. Two weeks ago I told her that we hadn't been talking or visiting enough. Then, I visit her (we live about 150 miles away) and she is crying. ...
A. 24 February 2011: Hi there. It's a very lonely place, to be in a long distance relationship. It's also very challenging.
Because she says things are different now, and crying when she said it, there might be someone she is thinking of dating.
Even though s... (read in full...)
His porn watching is upsetting me.
Q. Im 19 years old and away at university, my boyfriend is 25 and is at home working, we have constantly disagreed on subjects but this one has effected me the most, he likes to use porn as a masturbation aid, downloading around 50 porn video's I have ...
A. 18 February 2011: Hi there. You say he works from home. Because it seems that he does his work on the computer, hence in a bored or frustrating moment, he masturbates while watching a porn video.
He'd get more answers to his problems at work, by going for a ni... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's libido!
Q. Ok, so when my gf and I get intense she loves it. She definitely gets satisfied each time, I literally make sure of it and give it my best effort. Over time I've learned how to get her off and I can do it most every time for her now. She tells me ...
A. 18 February 2011: Hello again. Yes, privacy is a big factor. It certainly would cause some anxiety in both of you really.
If you can find some way around that, then you're home and hosed.
65 percent is pretty good. The other 35 percent would be a mixture of ... (read in full...)
Dating for 4 months and no idea what to get my guy for V-Day
Q. Hi everyone, Valentines day is just 2 days away, and I have absolutely have NO idea what to get my boyfriend. We are both 15, and we have been dating for 4 months. The thing is, he doesn't really like anything in particular. He isn't into video...
A. 18 February 2011: Hello again. The card/note is fine, if you don't get too mushy. Just let him know you appreciate him and everything about him.
The skittles (they're lollies aren't they?), will be a great little treat for him as well.
Sounds good all round. ... (read in full...)
Am I just holding her back from accomplishing what she wants out of life because I'm selfish?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 10 months. She is 28 and I'm 23. We moved in together about 3 months ago and we do everything together now. She has all these plans for her future about marriage and kids and all that stuff and I ...
A. 18 February 2011: Hello again. That's a great idea.
You will definitely find that the more variety you add to your life - both individually, as well as your shared life - you will find that the ideas just flow.
After all, variety is the spice of life.
The ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's libido!
Q. Ok, so when my gf and I get intense she loves it. She definitely gets satisfied each time, I literally make sure of it and give it my best effort. Over time I've learned how to get her off and I can do it most every time for her now. She tells me ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. Just because you have great satisfying sex every time, doesn't mean that your appetites are exactly the same.
There will always be times when one feels like it, and the other one doesn't. This is common. No problem really.
The bes... (read in full...)
Split up because of his drinking problem... help!
Q. Help! I've just split with my boyfriend after 3 and a half years. We have had some great times and are really compatible together. However, he has a drink problem - not during the week, but every 6 weeks or so he has a major drink binge. He doesn't ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. He definitely has a bit of a drinking problem, or at least a reason in his life for wanting to escape to getting drunk.
Getting drunk, like taking recreational drugs, and gambling, are all methods of escape to avoid having to work on ... (read in full...)
I told her that I had fallen in love with her, but she said she doesn't feel the same way... what should I do now??
Q. Ok, so there is this girl in college, and we have been friends for a long time. Recently I started to fall in love with her and started doing things out of the way for her. Then when I was sure that it was love and not just an attraction, I told h...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. Did she ever give you any encouragement?
It seems like she stayed in the friendship stage, but you moved onto something more.
It does seem like it's a bit one-sided. You have fallen in love with her, but she hasn't.
Becau... (read in full...)
My boyfriends dad has just passed away, and my parents won't allow me to visit and be there for him... Is this mean of my parents?
Q. I'm in a relationship with the guy i really love. We're both 17 and he's my first bf ever. We've been together for almost 9 months now. Yesterday, my bf's dad passed away because of heart attck. The last time my bf got to see his dad was last year ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. It probably feels like they are being mean, but I don't know that they are being mean.
Perhaps they feel that a funeral is personal, and that it's inappropriate that you be there, when you are not family. It's hard to know for sure.
... (read in full...)
Dating for 4 months and no idea what to get my guy for V-Day
Q. Hi everyone, Valentines day is just 2 days away, and I have absolutely have NO idea what to get my boyfriend. We are both 15, and we have been dating for 4 months. The thing is, he doesn't really like anything in particular. He isn't into video...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. Well, I'm not a guy, but I am going to be honest with you about what I think, anyway.
You really can't go wrong by buying him a nice Valentine's card that has the right words - appropriate to how you feel.
Cards say so much, that no... (read in full...)
I am so sick of my boyfriend of five years not stepping up and marrying me!
Q. I don't know what to do. I am so sick of my boyfriend of five years not stepping up and marrying me, (we've been engaged), and him saying that he spent thousands on my engagement ring when he didn't, he only spent 2K, i saw the receipt! So, because ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. Good question. Six months not seeing each other is a long time. I believe he is confused.
You might be more ready to marry than he is.
In actual fact, $2,000 is a lot of money for an engagement ring. Even 1K would be a lot of mone... (read in full...)
We lied about how we met to our parents!
Q. i'll be meeting my boyfriends parents in April. and my mom wants to get to know his parents before letting me go. but the problem is that we lied about how we met to our parents. what do i do to make this work? thanks ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. Is it really that important about how you met?
What's the big deal?
In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter at all.
You are together, and just so long as you are happy together, surely that's more important th... (read in full...)
I will NOT be a doormat!
Q. Ladies do not sell yourself short, love yourself more. Do not hand over your life to anyone, surround yourself with positive people. Once a woman or man tell you to stay at home with them or start checking your mobile or go through your things. ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. There are some signs to look out for when meeting new partners.
Some of them are:-
(1) Someone who wants to get serious much too early in a new relationship.
(2) Jealousy over who you are friends with, and what you do and where yo... (read in full...)
Do you see any hope?
Q. Hey guys.. I read through a few topics and realized its not only me who was going through the stress of breaking up with someone u love more than ur life.. I basically come from India and i was in a relationship with this guy (indian as well)...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. As much as you like each other, it's a long distance relationship.
You aren't seeing each other, just contact by Facebook or some other such thing. Is that right?
You are 6 hours apart in distance, so it's very difficult to see... (read in full...)
Am I just holding her back from accomplishing what she wants out of life because I'm selfish?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 10 months. She is 28 and I'm 23. We moved in together about 3 months ago and we do everything together now. She has all these plans for her future about marriage and kids and all that stuff and I ...
A. 13 February 2011: Hi there. Perhaps at 28 years old, she might be ready to settle down. You being ony 23 years old, you aren't quite ready for that just yet.
You really need to be honest with her about this.
Just encourage her to follow her dreams, and don'... (read in full...)
There's always a reason not to have sex with my wife!
Q. So I am having trouble approaching the lack of sex that my wife and I have been experiencing. I am in the mood almost every night (except if I masturbated 1-2 days before, in those cases I could take it or leave it. Or if she is wearing her big ...
A. 12 February 2011: Hi there. No matter what, you do need to talk to her about why she never wants to have sex.
Apart from her hip problem, perhaps she is just tired all the time. You say you have children, so if she is chasing them around the house all day, eve... (read in full...)
I know he's busy but doesn't he even have time for a brief message?
Q. Hello, Let me try to summarize the whole story really quickly. (for more detail on how things started, read "I want to show him I care without scaring him off". This is a followup.) I met a wonderful man who lives in another country not far...
A. 12 February 2011: Hi there. Long distance relationships are really challenging. Not to mention very, very lonely.
Meeting someone while they are either on holiday or on business, in your country, does have a kind of magic about it. But unfortunately, it's not... (read in full...)
No erection for the first time ever! What does she think of me now, and will this affect our relationship?
Q. I just want to start by giving you a little background on myself before I ask the main question. I am a 31 year old very sexual person. I am almost constantly horny and when I don't have a girlfriend, I usually end up having sex 2-3 times a week ...
A. 10 February 2011: Hi there. It probably is a bit of anxiety over not performing. It's affected your self-esteem.
Now you are probably assuming that it will happen every single time.
On the night it happened, you had drunk a lot of alcohol, which probably d... (read in full...)
Where does one draw the line between romantic super boyfriend and needy co-dependant?
Q. How can I be there for my girlfriend without being smothering? I'm having trouble, I want to be supportive, Loving, caring, sensitive, and kind to my girlfriend. I Love her very much and I also like doting on her. I like giving her attention an...
A. 10 February 2011: Hi there. That's great that you have your own friends, hobbies, etc. That's important.
Keep them as a high priority - it's essential to your happiness and wellbeing.
Because you say "co-dependent", I'm guessing that you do live together, w... (read in full...)
10 Things Guys really want in a woman...
Q. I received a message from a friend on my Facebook fan page and she had an idea for a post for my blog. She inquired if I could write about what men want in a woman. I thought that this might be interesting as well, so I responded to her message and ...
A. 10 February 2011: Hi there. This is great stuff, and so so true.
Another point I thought of, is:-
A woman who makes a man feel good about himself, and who makes him feel completely comfortable when he is with her.
The feeling that he can do and say things, w... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to date her?
Q. theres this girl i work with. o feel quite compelled to date her. i turn 18 soonish, and shes only 16, is it wrong to date her even without sex, or is it reasonable with the age of consent being 16?...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi there. Why don't you just go for coffee at the local cafe to where you work? At least you keep it light and friendly, and you'll see if you have anything in common.
Then go from there.
It doesn't cost too much money for a cup of coffee an... (read in full...)
Should I wait to see if ex will come back, and if so, how long?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up a few days ago. It is the final in a series of dragged out "breaks" and "space periods", all initiated by him. Almost every time he does it [routinely every 6 months or so, but more frequently lately], he says ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi there. It's possible that you made him your whole life.
It's really important in relationships, that both partners have their own lives and own interests. It makes your relationship so much more interesting.
Also in doing this, it's impor... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I did the right thing going back to my ex
Q. I find myself in a very difficult situation. A few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend because we had a lot of issues and he did not treat me right. We've been together for 10 years and it was a hard decidion. I went to leave with my parents. A ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi there. The new guy sounds like the one you ought to be with, not the ex.
He makes you laugh, satisfies you in bed, and lots of other good stuff as well.
It really depends on how much of a difference in cultures there is with the new guy... (read in full...)
It hurts when we make plans and then he blows me off
Q. ok sooo recently i've been sleeping over my bfs house a lot and he loves it. problem is he lives with his friends family. usually during the day he goes to work and we hang out later that night. lately in the morning he keeps telling me he wants to ...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you are both spending too much time together.
In a relationship, it is important that you both have your own lives and own interests and friends.
If as you say, you are spending many nights sleeping over at his place, he mi... (read in full...)
We haven't been talking! Are we at the boring stage?
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't really been talking to each other at school, on the phone or anywhere actually. Should I be worried that our relationship is at it's boring stage?...
A. 6 February 2011: Hi there. It's probably a case of familiarity breeds contempt.
In a manner of speaking of course.
What I mean by this, is you see each other practically every hour or so throughout your day, so beyond the "hello" stage at the beginning of the... (read in full...)
We promised we'd still be friends if we broke up
Q. I had a crush on my friend, which I have known since 2nd grade. We made a deal that if or when we broke up we would still be great friends. It's been a month sine we have broken up and so far I have been keeping up to the deal but he hasn't. I have ...
A. 5 February 2011: Hi there. Why is it that you still want to be friends, when the relationship you had, ended?
It's like you are keeping him there as a standby, in case this one doesn't work. Is he a backup for you?
When you say "keeping up with the deal", ... (read in full...)
My mom is getting too close to my boyfriend for my liking!
Q. Ok I met this guy new years and have been seeing him since, well I live with my mom cause I can't afford my own place as a full time student. well every since I have started seeing him, my mom invites him over most of the time, she asks him to go ...
A. 4 February 2011: Hi. You probably made the right choice and would have thought about it carefully before deciding.
As hard as it was to do, and you may be a little upset for a few weeks, it was probably the right choice.
At the very least, it is certainly a l... (read in full...)
I only have $50 to spend for Valentine's Day!
Q. So I'm broke for valentines day I just lost my job and I don't know what to do we don't live together so we can't do anything like breakfast in bed or a romantic bath help please! I only have like 50 bucks thanks in advance !...
A. 4 February 2011: Hi there. Since I don't know how long you have been going out, I am going to assume that it's a fairly new relationship.
In any case whether it was one month or 1 year, you really can't go wrong by choosing a very nice Valentines' Day card.
... (read in full...)
I've never given a gift to a guy before and I'm confused!
Q. Hi everybody...i been with my boyfriend for a month an things are good an as we all know valentines day is around the corner....an I need all of you alls help...whats a good gift to get for a guy?...HELP ME...ive never gave any guy a gift for for ...
A. 4 February 2011: Hi there. One month is not very long, so you don't want to go spending big money on him just yet, as it could well send the wrong message to him.
To spend a lot of money ($50-$100), could say to a man in a new relationship, that you want to get s... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mother and father about my much older friend?
Q. i have sexual connection three time per week with 36 old person who one of my friend's brother but i'am still 16 only. both of us love each other due to that we not like stop this connection. but i need to this to my mom and dad, but i fear. what i ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. You say 3 times a week you meet and have sex, so it's possible you are FWB's (Friends With Benefits).
Yes, it is a very big age difference, and it puts you both at completely different life stages. If he is single, he is at the age ... (read in full...)
Italian infatuation?
Q. I My ex and I were going out for 5 years we hv 2 kids one 2 other is 9, from another guy. My Ex is 25 she went to las Vegas in november with her mom aunts and cousins, the last night she was there she met a person from Italy. They exchanged numbers, ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. I'm confused. You called her your ex.
So is it on or is it off? That's the bit I'm not clear on.
Now you are talking about getting engaged.
Are you trying to keep it together because of the kids? If that's the only reason, ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my husband?
Q. My husband and I have been going thru a rough patch the last year, he accused me of cheating on him ended it with me. We desided to work things out after that I found he was chatting with girls on match.com and even tried to meet with them. We went ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. He might be going through a midlife crisis.
This is a time in a man's life where he starts to question his self-worth and wonder if he is still attractive or not.
It can also happen if a man feels that his life is not the way he w... (read in full...)
We differ in opinion and he calls it a day nearly every few weeks now!
Q. I have been seeing a guy who lives 50 miles away and we only meet at week-ends due to work commitments. We have both had problems adapting as we have both lived alone for years. When we used to argue I would get up and leave and go home. I ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. Sometimes when we try to convince someone of our point of view, we try and force it upon them, even though we meet with some resistance.
The more they resist, the more we try to force the issue.
Eventually, it often leads to argumen... (read in full...)
The pros and cons of staying with a temperamental girl?
Q. Ive been dating this girl for about 7 months now, and she always makes me pissed off. She's unconsciously selfish about herself as in she think's her ideas are the best and thinks my advice is bs when i'm older and more experienced. We've been ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. Perhaps she thinks you don't listen to her or maybe she doesn't listen to you.
It's a common complaint.
What I mean by "not listen", is perhaps one or both of you listen to the other for so long, then before one has finished speakin... (read in full...)
What is the Push/Pull theory?
Q. Hi everyone. Can anyone tell me what the Push/Pull theory of dating is? Does a man use this when he is trying to sleep with a woman only? Or is it when he is attracted to her and wants to date her? Do single men do it or do married men do it? What ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. I have never actually heard of the push/pull theory.
So with that in mind, I can only assume that it's about being emotionally available to the person you are dating.
The "push" could be when the guy is being open with himself and... (read in full...)
I can't believe these boys are in their 30s and I'm in my 20s and I feel like I'm sorting out a playground fight!
Q. Ok, so I'm 23, my boyfriend is 31 and my brother is 33.. MY brother and boyfriend had a huge fight at the weekend and now everything has kicked off at home. My. Brother and boyfriend have only met a handful of times and never really gotten to know ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. A really good idea is -
(1) Don't bring your boyfriend home to your place. Just go outside and get into his car, then go. The same thing when you come home from going out.
(2) Don't go out with your brother anymore, as he h... (read in full...)
My mom is getting too close to my boyfriend for my liking!
Q. Ok I met this guy new years and have been seeing him since, well I live with my mom cause I can't afford my own place as a full time student. well every since I have started seeing him, my mom invites him over most of the time, she asks him to go ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hello again. Yes, it is strange behaviour on both their parts, but you can't deny there is some reason to have doubts.
So like I was saying before, I really think that you should quietly observe them both in your home, and see how they act when... (read in full...)
My mom is getting too close to my boyfriend for my liking!
Q. Ok I met this guy new years and have been seeing him since, well I live with my mom cause I can't afford my own place as a full time student. well every since I have started seeing him, my mom invites him over most of the time, she asks him to go ...
A. 3 February 2011: Hi there. It sounds like your mum is missing her husband, and it does sound suspiciously like she has her eyes on your boyfriend.
Why would your boyfriend ask your mum for dinner?
The fact that they ask about each other all the time, sounds... (read in full...)
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