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writes:Ok, so there is this girl in college, and we have been friends for a long time. Recently I started to fall in love with her and started doing things out of the way for her. Then when I was sure that it was love and not just an attraction, I told her my feelings.She just rejected me out instantly saying she has no feelings at all and never will.Is there anything I can do? or should I just move on? The thing is I really really love her alot.
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reader, virman +, writes (13 February 2011):
virman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have many girls as friends, but she was different. She use to get more free with me, and sometimes even show that she had more right on me than others ... it was because of all that behavior I fell for her .. Anyway, you guys are right, I should just accept the fact and move on ..
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (13 February 2011):
i am sorry for you my friend
but you cant make some one love you if he/she doesnt
love you and the more you try to make her love you the more she well avoid you and it would be very very devistating for you,
try to avoid her and get your self buisy with another group of friends or try to travel abroad
you are still young and life is full of good choices for you
Good Luck
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (13 February 2011):
Unfortunately there is nothing that you can do if she doesn't feel the same. We can't force people to love us.
I guess you will have to continue loving her from afar and just remain friends if you can. However, one day you will meet someone who will love you back in the same way and you will and see your friend as just purely that... a friend!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (13 February 2011):
Hi there. Did she ever give you any encouragement?
It seems like she stayed in the friendship stage, but you moved onto something more.
It does seem like it's a bit one-sided. You have fallen in love with her, but she hasn't.
Because she has stated that she isn't in love with you, and seemed to make a point of it, it's probably pointless for you to pursue it any further.
If you have had a long friendship, why don't you keep her friendship, but leave it at that. Don't try to push for anything more. You can still be friends, although because you told her how you feel, it will be a little different now.
If you would still like to be friends with her, just apologise to her about that event, and ask if it's ok with her, can you still be friends. Then go from there.
At the same time as saying this, date girls who will be interested in being more than just friends.
The problem with friendships of the opposite sex, is when you have been friends for a long time, and then one of you develops more deeper feelings, it's very difficult to make the transition from friendship to boyfriend/girlfriend status. This could be part of the problem, but maybe not also. Perhaps she just doesn't see you in that way.
I really believe that you might have to be content to be good friends only, but no more.
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): That happened to me. It hurt like hell but I am so happy it happened. I have fallen in love like never before and getting married in 5 months.
Don't be upset. This is happening to you, because there's a girl out there for you who's going to rock your world like it's never been rocked before!!!!!!
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