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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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I don't know why I cant stop thinking about him.
Q. Have you ever felt a sharp pain in your chest like you couldn't breath ..laying in bed tears form and then slowly hit the pillow . every night you wake up wanting to scream and burst out crying hoping it is all a bad dream but you look beside you ...
A. 5 January 2011: Hi there. After 3 years, it's naturally a big part of your life. Plus each being the first for the other, is a big thing also.
First time romances are always hard to forget, so it's going to take a little while.
Trying to find someone els... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 5 January 2011: Hi. I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you, but the positive thing to come out of all this, is that you found out before it was too late.
Good for you hacking into the "fake" person's account, it has saved you a lot more heartache - not to m... (read in full...)
Threesome gone terribly wrong...my husband is in love with her, my life is a mess and I'm pregnant with our 4th child!
Q. I feel like I'm at my wits end. I am so conflicted about what I should do that I am in a constant state of depression where it's almost debilitating. It all started about a year and a half ago. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we ...
A. 4 January 2011: Hi there. This is a very difficult position to be in, that's for sure.
At the very least, you must be having big regrets about the threesome thing. It's probably the worst thing you both could ever have done.
The problem with threesomes is, t... (read in full...)
I thought I married a man, not a little boy!
Q. I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...
A. 1 January 2011: Hello again. Further to my last message. If there is a way that you can still do what you do, but in some way find it possible to not have to go away quite as often, or for quite so long.
Like instead of 19 weeks - which is the best part of ... (read in full...)
I thought I married a man, not a little boy!
Q. I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...
A. 1 January 2011: Hi. What type of work do you do? I don't think you said.
Another key point I just picked up on, is you said he was fine until about 2 years ago - so it was fairly sudden that his loss of passion happened. Is that about right?
If this is th... (read in full...)
My wife wants another man on the side and still be with me as well.
Q. me and my wife have been married for about 6 months and she tells me that she wants a little something on the side .so i asked her what she wants on the side .she told me that she wanted another man and still be with me as well. what should i do?...
A. 31 December 2010: Hi there. You both got married really young, didn't you?
I'm actually rather surprised by this. Many young people your age, are still just going out socializing with their friends, travelling, spending money on themselves, and just simply d... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my ex and he's happy in a new relationship and going to get married! HELP!!
Q. I feel worse every day. my boyfriend dump me five months ago for another girl. We worked at the same place and i cant avoid bumping in to him daily. he looks happy in his new relationship and am going crazy getting jealous any time i see him talking ...
A. 31 December 2010: Hi there. You are just missing what you had, when times were good between you before.
It's going to take time to get over him.
You need to start building your own self confidence again, and believing in yourself. You also need to gain som... (read in full...)
I thought I married a man, not a little boy!
Q. I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...
A. 31 December 2010: Hi there. From what you are saying about your husband, I am wondering if you do still love him.
I can quite see why you may be having doubts.
Even if your son and your husband do get along well, it doesn't seem to be improving your relationshi... (read in full...)
Fight or flight - is it even worth it
Q. So I've been dating this guy for four months, passionate, loving, attentive and productive relationship. The problem, I was the "other women" - wait, let me explain. He isnt married to her, never has been, they have a baby together, a son (now 7 ...
A. 31 December 2010: Hi there. If he says he's not in love with his son's mother, then maybe like you said, he is just sticking around only, to see his son.
He probably fears the mother of his son, might deny him all access if he goes off with someone else (you). ... (read in full...)
My ex is asking to meet with me over Christmas break?
Q. I just got home from college for Christmas break and my ex-girlfriend had sent me an email saying she wants to meet while we're both home. We were friends for a long time before getting in a serious relationship and it ended because of the d...
A. 24 December 2010: Hi. It is going to be hard for you to see her, especially the very first time now, but at the same time, I believe it's absolutely essential that you do this.
When you agree upon a day and time to meet her, try before you leave home, to put all ... (read in full...)
My ex is asking to meet with me over Christmas break?
Q. I just got home from college for Christmas break and my ex-girlfriend had sent me an email saying she wants to meet while we're both home. We were friends for a long time before getting in a serious relationship and it ended because of the d...
A. 21 December 2010: Hi. I really don't think that the door is closed for her, because what would be the point in asking to see you? It would serve no real purpose.
You said on the night of the breakup, how she said that she felt you and her were meant to be toget... (read in full...)
I break out when I make out!
Q. So, when i make out with a guy i break out in hives on my chest. This has happened twice. I thought at first it was the cologne but now i beginning to think that maybe its nerves. I'm not sure. Has this append to you? or what do you think. Oh a...
A. 20 December 2010: Hi. It's still worth talking to your family doctor about, because maybe there's other things going on inside you.
Perhaps it might even be a hormonal thing.
However, unless you DO speak to your doctor, you are just going to go on worrying abou... (read in full...)
I break out when I make out!
Q. So, when i make out with a guy i break out in hives on my chest. This has happened twice. I thought at first it was the cologne but now i beginning to think that maybe its nerves. I'm not sure. Has this append to you? or what do you think. Oh a...
A. 19 December 2010: Hi there. Maybe it could be just nerves.
Perhaps you could visit your family doctor, and see what he/she has to say about it.
Doctors often have some very helpful suggestions about lots of things.
If I were you, I would see your doctor an... (read in full...)
I lost all contacts in my phone! Should I wait for him to text me?
Q. So I like this guy, he has a ton of friends, so it's hard to ever get him alone. He's SUPER sweet and nice, and always smiles at me and says my name when he says hi. There have been times where we'll text each other for hours. I lost all the ...
A. 19 December 2010: Hi there. He must at least like you a bit, as he smiles and says hi and your name. If he didn't like you, he probably wouldn't even say hello. So that's a positive.
It's wise to wait for him to text you. If you contact him first, it could ma... (read in full...)
My wife to be broke up with me and I've turned to drinking and fighting to cope
Q. hi erm i new too this but i need help. my wife to be broke up with me and it still hurts. ive started drinking alot an fighting aswell i havent spoke to my mates or my dad for months! i just feel soo small and worthless ive not seen another girl for ...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. The main thing to consider, is the reason your wife broke up with you in the first place.
Is it something that can be fixed?
Was there a third person involved, or did she just think that she got married too young and simply wanted ch... (read in full...)
How can I adjust to living with my long lost father and new family?
Q. Okay so, long story short, my mother didn't tell my father that she was pregnant with me before he left. She died when I was six and then a decade later of being moved around from foster home to foster home, my lovely social worker-person who has ...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. It is going to be a bit strange for a little while, but you are in the best place. It's got to be better than going from foster home to foster home all the time.
You now have a real chance at a true family situation.
Your new sibl... (read in full...)
An unrequited love actually loved you.
Q. My story is like many others on here... A girl I was friends with in college fell in love with me. But for me, I wasn't interested. She was too fat. As time progressed we became good friends. At one point I fell for her best friend. Hard. But ...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. Maybe you need to be dating both of them.
Don't commit to either of them though. Just be a free agent.
The only way you are ever going to know who you want, is to get to know them both properly, so that you can compare the qual... (read in full...)
How do I wean myself off him?
Q. How can I fall out of love with this man. He is on my mind constantly, so much so that I cannot concentrate on what people are saying to me, think I see him around everywhere I go, even think I hear his name in a sentence when I do deign to listen ...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. You don't really need to tell him how you feel. In fact if you did, you might lose him altogether.
Once women start telling the men they like how they feel, it can sometimes push men away, making them scared and feeling pushed into som... (read in full...)
My ex is asking to meet with me over Christmas break?
Q. I just got home from college for Christmas break and my ex-girlfriend had sent me an email saying she wants to meet while we're both home. We were friends for a long time before getting in a serious relationship and it ended because of the d...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. It's understandable that she broke it off because of distance. She probably thought it wasn't fair to ask you to wait for her.
When you see her, just keep conversation light and friendly and don't try to act like you never broke up... (read in full...)
My parents have killed my social life!
Q. Im 18 years old with absolutely no social life! guess who i blame???? My Parents!!!! Yes i knw if you look at it why blame your parents???..they love u..look out for you..protect you..blah blah but there is a limit! Well let me tell you why........
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. Your parents need to learn to trust you, the same way they do with your sister.
You have to tell them this.
In fact, if they don't learn to trust you, they might well lose you - sooner rather than later.
What they are doing i... (read in full...)
Why isn't he taking my problem into consideration?
Q. Hi! I am currently in a one year relationship with my boyfriend. We always fight about drinking alcohol,because I have done stuff in the past that is not right,I never cheated on him but Ive said mean things. So, we recently just got into a huge ...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. If you think you have a drinking problem, it is up to you do do something about it - not him.
Are you trying to do something about it?
Is it that you drink excessively?
Or, is it the behaviour while you are drinking, that is th... (read in full...)
Should I reveal to my straight friend that I am interested in a possible sexual relationship with her?
Q. Dear Cupid, my female friend and I share the same interests, beliefs, opinions and understand each other without saying. I consider her as my very soulmate. Lately, I felt something that goes beyond friendship. I desire to be with her, start so...
A. 18 December 2010: Hi there. Perhaps it's just close friendship and you might want to be like her.
You might be confusing envy with love and sexual feelings.
If she's not interested in you in the same way, you can't force her. She either feels that way or she ... (read in full...)
Are my wife's actions cause for concern?
Q. My wife works in a small office - there used to be seven women in one room with the other room occupied by her, the boss and another woman. After recent redundancies there are three women left in one room with just the boss and my wife in the other. ...
A. 16 December 2010: Hi. Even though it's boring and uncomfortable to hear your wife talk about her boss, it's a whole lot better than her not saying anything - and being all sneaky instead, and going out constantly and coming home in the wee hours of the morning.
... (read in full...)
I like bigger women and am having trouble dealing with it.
Q. I have a thing for bigger women and i dont know how to deal with it. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and not into the feeding thing, i definitely have an appreciation for plus-sized women, and am unsure if my ...
A. 14 December 2010: Hello again. It really doesn't matter what other people think. It's irrelevant. It's what you think that counts.
It doesn't matter what the girl thinks either. Quite often opposites attract. Each brings out the best in the other.
We all ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to ask him how he feels?
Q. So i like him a lot, but the problem is that he just broke up with his girlfriend. I know that he doesnt really care that they broke up so its not like he is hesitant about having another relationship. We have been really close and talk every day, i ...
A. 11 December 2010: Hi there. You can't ask him how he feels about you. If you do, it would probably chase him away and would make him think that you are getting heavy with him - marriage, kids, mortagage, the works!
If you ever ask a man how he feels about yo... (read in full...)
How can I contain my bad attitude?
Q. Me and My boyfriend have been together for almost a year i have a bad Attitude problem because when i lived with my parents thats how people would commucate to one another when they are up set they will yell my boyfriend wants me to change the ...
A. 11 December 2010: Hi there. Usually when people yell at each other, it's because they feel they are not being listened to. Especially, when people interrupt them all the time and don't let them finish.
To say the very least, it's incredibly frustrat... (read in full...)
Are my wife's actions cause for concern?
Q. My wife works in a small office - there used to be seven women in one room with the other room occupied by her, the boss and another woman. After recent redundancies there are three women left in one room with just the boss and my wife in the other. ...
A. 10 December 2010: Hi. Yes, as tempting as it is to want to follow her or check her mobile phone, it can also be mentally tormenting for you as well.
After even a little while, it kind of consumes you and all of your thoughts, which is no good at all.
I reall... (read in full...)
Are my wife's actions cause for concern?
Q. My wife works in a small office - there used to be seven women in one room with the other room occupied by her, the boss and another woman. After recent redundancies there are three women left in one room with just the boss and my wife in the other. ...
A. 9 December 2010: Hi. This is a tricky situation, for sure.
If you are game to do this - and I really think that you should - perhaps you could simply be out when she comes home from work - say once a week, not every night of course. Organise a baby sitter (... (read in full...)
Are my wife's actions cause for concern?
Q. My wife works in a small office - there used to be seven women in one room with the other room occupied by her, the boss and another woman. After recent redundancies there are three women left in one room with just the boss and my wife in the other. ...
A. 8 December 2010: Hi there. Leaning on someone, like the boss is leaning on your wife for moral support, can sometimes lead to something more than just friendship.
Your wife needs to be wary that it doesn't move in that direction anytime soon.
The text mess... (read in full...)
How do I take the time to ask him what he wants and to express how I feel?
Q. Iv'e known this guy for almost 10 years now we have had on and off flings this entire time but nothing ever official and the boundaries have never been very clear. Well the past 6 months or so we have been hooking up...I've always wanted more with ...
A. 8 December 2010: Hi there. Perhaps one day soon, send him a text message asking if you can see him, because there's something you need to talk about privately, before he leaves for the military.
Don't say too much on the text message, and just keep it light an... (read in full...)
I cant get my head around why we couldnt make it work!
Q. My ex and I broke up, (he broke up with me) because he said he didnt love me and he was too busy. which is fair enough, I appreciated his honesty on the matter. We decided to stay friends. I saw him last week and we were speaking about things and he ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. Why can't you both see each other very much?
Is it because of work?
In a relationship, you only need to be able to see each other once or twice a week - not every single day.
It really depends on how much - to him - is enough. D... (read in full...)
I feel like this relationship is a waste of time when all he does is play Warcraft!
Q. hey. ive been with my boyfriend a while now. and just recently he has been playin Warcraft a lot.. it doesnt bother me that he plays it.. but i only see him on weekends and just recently, he been just been playing this game for like 6 hours at a ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. It looks like he's addicted, I think. There's nothing you can do to stop him really, when you are there.
The other thing you can do is, don't go there.
Instead, next time he calls you to see you, ask him to come to your place inste... (read in full...)
Tampons are hurting me, why is this?
Q. I just recently started using Tampons and there the good kind (tampax pearl)but they hurt, i know Tampons are suppose to be comfortable and your not even supposed to feel them in you but there hurting me when i walk and sit..Why could this be??...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. One possibility is, that you have not inserted the tampon high enough.
The tampon needs to be inserted as far as it will go, which is right up to the cervix.
It can't go any further than that.
In fact, I'm quite sure that it's the... (read in full...)
Why wasn't I enough for him?
Q. I am alone and he is with the girl he cheated on me with. Why did he do this? What did I do wrong? I made dinner for him every night or went and got it? Would try and do nice things for him once a day, dressed up in sultry lingerie every night? Went ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. Believe it or not, women can sometimes do too much for their men.
You might have given him so much, that it didn't leave anything for him to give you.
Men do like to do things for their women as well, to show how much they love t... (read in full...)
He called me a prostitute! I'm his mistress!
Q. I'm having an affair with a married man. Well today his wife caught us in a hotel and called me a prostitute? Then she started fighting my man and in the midst he told her I didn't mean nothhing to him but a prostitute! Wtf?! I'm a mistress! Will ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. He said that to his wife, because he was put on the spot - and nothing more. It's just to cover his movements.
He probably doesn't really think of you as a prostitute, but as a girlfriend. It's natural you would feel insulted though. ... (read in full...)
Sex has become painful!
Q. Hey all, I need help! I'm stumped. I've been married 2 years to a great guy... lately we've been having some problems. Well, not really problems - life is just HARD! (I realize this is one of those revelations that few people receive :P ) An...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. Apart from the problems with sex, is everything else ok in your relationship, generally speaking?
Do you agree on most things (non sexual), and can talk about lots of different things and not argue?
The reason I ask, is often problem... (read in full...)
How much do you love me? How do you answer that?
Q. ok, so i have this boyfriend that lives in a different state so we dont get to see eachother much..but i really love him and a couple of times hes asked me how much i love him..i just get lost for words! How can i explain it?...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi there. It's hard to tell someone "how much" you love them in so many words.
Perhaps you could simply describe how you feel about him, saying how you feel when you think about him. Feelings you have -
(1) Happiness.
(2) Butterflie... (read in full...)
Would you consider this to be fate?
Q. I was asked by a guy I like (who I met on the last night of my visit in Veags) if I believe in fate. I said yes. And then he asked me if I think we met because of it, and I said yes and that I believe everything happens for a reason. Then I asked ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi. Thank you.
How do I find your other question you mentioned?
I need two things before I can do that.
(1) The exact heading of that question.
(2) The date it was posted.... (read in full...)
Is it possible people are shying away from me because of my stress and anxiety?
Q. I am 29 year old single guy. I have been suffering from depression for last 8 years. I feel extremely anxious at workplace and cannot concentrate on work. I generally avoid contact with people and i want to stay way from them. Same thing happens ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. Another person can't actually physically feel your stress or you make them feel stressed either.
When you feel stressed, you are not relaxed and you might have a closed look about you in your posture -
- Slouched at the shoulders.
... (read in full...)
Advice for an ugly duckling?
Q. im 14 yrs old i 've been made fun since i was very little. I was always the ugliest one the one who had a hard time making friend the one who everyone felt bad for. And the one who everyone picked on the one, who everone thought was gay. The one ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. Small boobs doesn't mean ugly. At the young age you are now, you still have at least another 7 years before you have reached your adult body size and shape. In fact by about age 25 years, you will be what you are going to be for most of ... (read in full...)
I hope my ex doesn't see those harsh texts I sent him!
Q. This is a very fresh prob, it literally happened today. Basically I broke up with my ex about a month ago and we agreed to stay friends although we hardly talk. It ended kinda abruptly and I think there are still feelings on both sides but we are ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. If you are broken up, why do you still wish to stay in contact?
And for that matter, if you still want to stay friends, why not get back together?
Surely it's either on or it's off - no halfway measures.
Are you hoping to get... (read in full...)
Would you consider this to be fate?
Q. I was asked by a guy I like (who I met on the last night of my visit in Veags) if I believe in fate. I said yes. And then he asked me if I think we met because of it, and I said yes and that I believe everything happens for a reason. Then I asked ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. We meet many people in our lives, for many different reasons.
They won't always be for a romance, they could come in different forms.
In your case, perhaps it is for romance. You'll just have to see.
Each person we meet has somet... (read in full...)
I like bigger women and am having trouble dealing with it.
Q. I have a thing for bigger women and i dont know how to deal with it. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and not into the feeding thing, i definitely have an appreciation for plus-sized women, and am unsure if my ...
A. 30 November 2010: Hi there. It could be that it's like a fantasy to you, more than an actual attraction.
Because you have said that you will go out with bigger women, but are sometimes repulsed by their bigness when it comes to going physically further with the... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 25 November 2010: Hi. You are very welcome.
Please let me know how it goes.
You are definitely doing the right thing, then you at least have some direction from that point on. You will no longer be doing any guesswork, which can be incredibly frustrating.
... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 25 November 2010: Hi. I get where you're at with all these mixed feelings, and that's ok.
In saying this, I also feel that you are more likely to regret NOT at least meeting her face to face, than to actually meet her.
Most people never regret what they DO, bu... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 24 November 2010: Hello again. Perhaps what you worry about the most about you and this young lady, is not so much that you might not get along once you meet, but more that you are worried about what other people might think.
My advice to that is, DON'T worry ab... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 23 November 2010: Hi there. The only way you are ever going to find out how you really feel is to actually meet each other. I would suggest you do this soon.
A relationship on the internet is nothing like a relationship where you see each other on a regular ... (read in full...)
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