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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?
Q. Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...
A. 20 June 2011: Hi. I believe you have done the right thing. It was actually physical abuse.
Don't let that happen with anyone else ever again. At the very least, you know what to look out for if anyone acts like this or starts to act like this, with you in f... (read in full...)
What is the best way to talk to my boyfriend about problems in a our relationship
Q. hi everyone,i am having a problem of not knowing my boyfriend and we've been together for 6months .i want to talk to him about him not being open and about not knowing each other since we dont spend time together,how do i talk to him about thisin ...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi. You're very welcome indeed. Good luck and Best wishes. Take care.... (read in full...)
What is the best way to talk to my boyfriend about problems in a our relationship
Q. hi everyone,i am having a problem of not knowing my boyfriend and we've been together for 6months .i want to talk to him about him not being open and about not knowing each other since we dont spend time together,how do i talk to him about thisin ...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi there. When you say you are not spending time together, are you saying that you are in an LDR (Long Distance Relationship)?
If you are, well then it's going to take quite some time to really get to know each other properly. Six months i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants my approval to be friends with another woman??
Q. I would just like some perspective. I am aware I sometimes make mountains out of mole hills but I think on this problem, Im justified in being upset. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years. Back in October he decided to look up and b...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi there. Why does he need to be friends with this woman if he works with her? That seems rather ridiculous, don't you think?
It seems like behind him asking you this, that there might be more to it than just being "friends" as he calls it.
I... (read in full...)
I really cant figure out if he likes me or not!!
Q. so there is this guy I've been crushing on for the past year. we went to a concert last nov. where we got into a water fight and kept pouring water over each others heads and he kept looking back at me throughout the concert and smiling. I asked hi...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi there. It mainly sounds like a lack of self confidence that he has.
Do you feel like there is any chemistry there between you?
Do you feel that you get along pretty well and can talk about almost anything?
The whole experience between... (read in full...)
Have I completely misread the situation?
Q. I've been friends with a guy for a couple of years, he's been flirting, making all the right signals and chatting each day online. we see each other quite often, and recently met up on our own. all seemed fine, but then he started talking about ...
A. 29 May 2011: Hi there. It is entirely possible that he is trying to get an idea of how you feel about him.
Obviously you are not going to come right out and say it right from the beginning, but later on in a roundabout way, yes maybe. It's too soon yet thou... (read in full...)
It sounds like he's making up a lie
Q. Hello everyone, I have a slight issue with this boy who I like and apparently he likes me too. You see he was talking to me on the internet and I don't know if he thinks I am thick but he sent me a message which was apparently from this girl w...
A. 29 May 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he was trying to big note himself and to impress you.
Just ignore it. It's rather childish and serves no real purpose.
Just ignore his comments like that, and change the subject completely - as if he never said it in the f... (read in full...)
My bf breaks up with twice a month--and I am always the one crawling back to him to come back! How should I handle this??
Q. Does my boyfriend not love me or does he just like having control of the relationship? Ok so my boyfriend breaks up with me once a month sometimes twice . His reason are that I don't listen to him over little things that I don't think matter. ...
A. 29 May 2011: Hello again. I believe that you can do better than him.
His reasons for breaking up with you are fairly lame.
The next time he breaks up with you - yet again - don't beg him to come back, just leave it.
No contact with him at all - no tex... (read in full...)
My bf breaks up with twice a month--and I am always the one crawling back to him to come back! How should I handle this??
Q. Does my boyfriend not love me or does he just like having control of the relationship? Ok so my boyfriend breaks up with me once a month sometimes twice . His reason are that I don't listen to him over little things that I don't think matter. ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hello again. He can't really stop you from seeing your friends. That's not his business.
Perhaps, if you sincerely do like these friends of yours, still see them, but just don't tell him. He doesn't need to know about it.
If he wants to smok... (read in full...)
My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?
Q. Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. Maybe he has lived with some kind of violence in his family home. It's hard to say.
Perhaps he is just amusing himself.
In any case, if you don't like the way things are going with him in the bedroom, for goodness sake, say someth... (read in full...)
Would you ever steal someone else's boyfriend?
Q. I wanna make it clear right now--i DO NOT want to steal someones boyfriend. There's just been a lot of things happening recently and i was curious. So, would you or wouldn't you? Why or why not? And have you ever stolen someone else's boyfriend or ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. When people do this, it's more about wanting something they can't have.
The people who do this, might somehow see it as a challenge, and nothing more really.
Then when (and if) they actually succeed, they are no longer intereste... (read in full...)
Needy and controlling girlfriend makes me feel guilty about everything I do!!
Q. I have a very needy and controlling girlfriend who makes me feel guilty about everything I do. The thing is she does it with her voice, tone, and physical body language in the way she reacts to things I do. She then gets silent if I just ignore her ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. Your girlfriend is feeling fairly insecure, and it's probably not very surprising, by what you have told us here from her family upbringing.
What she is wanting is something she can count on in her life, that she currently doesn't ... (read in full...)
My bf breaks up with twice a month--and I am always the one crawling back to him to come back! How should I handle this??
Q. Does my boyfriend not love me or does he just like having control of the relationship? Ok so my boyfriend breaks up with me once a month sometimes twice . His reason are that I don't listen to him over little things that I don't think matter. ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. It's really important in any relationship, to know that you are being heard, and that what you say matters.
If something is important to him, well then you have to respect that and listen to him.
If you want him to listen to you - ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend punched me in testicles, so I punched her in the hip. Now for some reason, she won't talk to me. What do I do?
Q. I need your help. I'm 15 and my girlfriend's 14. We're in the same year and basically the other day we were in my house after school just chilling, we were having one of our fun little arguments but then we started toy fighting and I floored her and ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. Maybe play fighting is not such a good idea in future. It's inevitable that someone will get hurt.
Find some other way to amuse yourselves - go for a walk, go see a movie.
It's not really anyone's fault individually. Y... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is not paying any attention to me!
Q. i m in committed ldr relation since 2 years. lately i have realised that the things have changed. my bf has stopped paying attention.he doesn't wish me gm, neither he texts me. At the night he calls only if i will msg him something. he...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi. As upsetting as it probably is for you I'm sure, maybe this really is for the highest good of all concerned.
Remember that everything in life happens for a reason. It's not a coincidence or a mistake, at all. What happens, is meant to happe... (read in full...)
What would you do if you found out that your bf/ husband is into transexuality...
Q. Okay I need help/advice.. My mind has been going crazy trying to figure out what to do. Okay here is my story. Today, I used my husband's laptop to check my email and it just happens that his email account was open and out of curiosity i open...
A. 24 May 2011: Hello again. Perhaps you could start paying him more attention.
It is difficult with a new baby, but try and give him some time each day when he comes home from work.
So that you have some energy at the end of your busy day, try to have some... (read in full...)
What would you do if you found out that your bf/ husband is into transexuality...
Q. Okay I need help/advice.. My mind has been going crazy trying to figure out what to do. Okay here is my story. Today, I used my husband's laptop to check my email and it just happens that his email account was open and out of curiosity i open...
A. 24 May 2011: Hi there. It could be fantasy or something more, you just never know.
It could also be a curiosity thing. Most likely this.
In any case, if it was my husband, I would respectfully bring it up - but without accusing him or getting angry.
... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is not paying any attention to me!
Q. i m in committed ldr relation since 2 years. lately i have realised that the things have changed. my bf has stopped paying attention.he doesn't wish me gm, neither he texts me. At the night he calls only if i will msg him something. he...
A. 23 May 2011: Hello again. That's a really good idea that you are going to see each other soon. You will then see what you've both been missing!
All the best.... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is not paying any attention to me!
Q. i m in committed ldr relation since 2 years. lately i have realised that the things have changed. my bf has stopped paying attention.he doesn't wish me gm, neither he texts me. At the night he calls only if i will msg him something. he...
A. 20 May 2011: Hello again. As "adamantine" has mentioned, and is herself in an LDR also, I believe it would be a good idea to visit that website she mentioned.
lovingfromadistance.com
It's certainly worth considering.
Visit it anyway, and just see wha... (read in full...)
My mum split us up, but I still love him one year later! Should I go to see him?
Q. I fell in love with this guy that changed my entire life! he made me believe my dreams were going to come true he made me the happiest girl in the world hes something god brought me!(tears) he loved me too I felt it deep in my heart !we lasted 8 ...
A. 17 May 2011: Hi there. Perhaps with a teenager in the house, your mother's husband couldn't handle it, and it ended of it's own accord.
You can't do anything about that.
Now regards your boyfriend, it's not advisable to go behind your mother's back an... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend change?
Q. Is it possible to change somebody in some respect, i mean to say my boyfriend had many girlfriends in past but he did not settle and I don't want to fool myself with the hope that he will settle this time. But I want to know if there is a chance ...
A. 17 May 2011: Hi there. Maturity only comes with time and life experiences, and learning about yourself, people and life, over time.
It's not really possible to actually change a person's character, that can only come from them. It's a conscious decision... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is not paying any attention to me!
Q. i m in committed ldr relation since 2 years. lately i have realised that the things have changed. my bf has stopped paying attention.he doesn't wish me gm, neither he texts me. At the night he calls only if i will msg him something. he...
A. 17 May 2011: Hi there. Well it really depends on how long a distance your relationship is.
(1) Are you in the same country?
(2) Different states?
How long does it take to go to see the other - is it a few hours drive, or a long jet flight?
Although ... (read in full...)
He used to be confident around me but now he's really shy?
Q. So there's this guy i know likes me. We've kissed (i was drunk at the time but knew what i was doing) and since then he's been very shy around me. Beforehand he was confident to me and seemed a bit of a player, but after that night he's gone shy. He ...
A. 17 May 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he's a little embarassed about the kiss the other time, and feels awkward.
He might also feel that things on that occasion were out of control.
Don't try and kiss him again, and don't bring it up in conversation eit... (read in full...)
Why won't my wife wear makeup?
Q. Hello there, Can you please advise me on what to do with my wife who doesn't like make up at all. We have been married and everything is great except that I would love my wife to put on a bit of make up. She tried it one time and she looked g...
A. 16 May 2011: Hello again. Although you would probably like to see a bit of colour on your wife's face, it's also important that you don't make it into a big issue.
As someone else has said here, if you do make a big thing out of it, she might take it the wron... (read in full...)
Why won't my wife wear makeup?
Q. Hello there, Can you please advise me on what to do with my wife who doesn't like make up at all. We have been married and everything is great except that I would love my wife to put on a bit of make up. She tried it one time and she looked g...
A. 16 May 2011: Hi there. When you first met her, did she wear makeup then?
Or, has she never worn makeup?
Perhaps a good starting point would be to ask her what she thinks about wearing makeup.
Maybe, she doesn't know what colours - eyeshadows - suit her ... (read in full...)
Car company wants us to continue paying for a car we bought a while ago even though we don't owe them anything! What's going on?
Q. We bought a car from 'yes car credit' then we traded it for an mg. So the money we owed on the first car was added to the new one and we are still paying for the new one but now we are getting letters from a company to pay them for the first car. so ...
A. 16 May 2011: Hi there. It seems like maybe when you traded up for another car, you still owed on the first car. So that loan is incomplete.
So if you then got further credit on the latest vehicle, it is combined with the loan from the first car.
That's ... (read in full...)
My credit report is poor.... how can I improve it?
Q. i got a copy of my credit report the other day and i was shocked to learn that my score is very poor. i know that i owe £35k on my mortgage, £9k on my car and £3k on my credit cards (my limit is £15k, given to me by the card companies....i never use ...
A. 15 May 2011: Hi there. Just as long as you don't default on any of your loans, are not late, and pay extra on them - not just the minimum amount, these things all help.
Credit ratings, are really all about how well you pay back all your loans.
If for ... (read in full...)
How would shared ownership work?
Q. My ex boyfriend is a couple of years older than me. He bought a house on his own. I always thought that i would move in with him one day. He split with me a month ago. I am now worried about my future. There is no way i can afford on my own. Is ...
A. 15 May 2011: Hi there. Your ex bought the house on his own, which seems to mean that he paid the mortgage repayments on his own also. So there's no legal entitlement for you there.
It's his name on the deeds.
As you are no longer together, and th... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how strongly I orgasm when I masterbate? I don't want to unsettle my boyfriend.
Q. My boyfriend suggested I masturbate since I never had, so I could find out for my self what I like so when it comes to sex, I can tell him what I like. So I decided to give it a try. And I DEFINITELY found out what I like. The problem is now I do...
A. 14 May 2011: Hi there. Just be honest with him - it's the only way. Honest I mean, about what pleases you and what hurts you, or does nothing for you.
There is no need to tell him about your masturbating, it's not his business. Just don't talk about it... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 14 May 2011: Thank you. I'm happy it was useful for you. Take care.... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 14 May 2011: Hi. Thank you Abella. You're very welcome.
I hope that you also read my other latest comment on the right hand side (dated 13 August 2010 - headed Being Happy in a Relationship cont'd), which was an extension of the original article.
I hope ... (read in full...)
I still have sex with my wife even though she is having an affair. Is this letting go?
Q. Is this what letting go means? My 42 year old wife is about a month into an affair with a man 25 years older than her. I have seen their email correspondence and the level of emotional attachment is unbelievable. This whole thing hit me out of th...
A. 13 May 2011: Hello again. No matter what happens, you and her are going to have to sit down and have a serious talk about where you go from here.
It seems very much up in the air at the moment, so there's a lot of uncertainty for you.
Also, your da... (read in full...)
I wronged her two years ago, now we're together and I feel empty. Is something wrong with me?
Q. I figured once I left my ex (the girl I dated for 9 months) whom I had no love too, my world would get better. And for a short period it did. I got great friends, I started new hobbies and I got the chance to fall in love again. As if the universe ...
A. 11 May 2011: Hi there. So are you saying that you are with the girlfriend you were first with, broke up with, then back with her again. Is that right?
It sounds like you might have some physical feelings for her, but not beyond physical attraction. I say th... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was diagnosed with depression and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells
Q. Hey. So after a really, really bad "episode," my boyfriend was recently diagnosed with depression. He and his parents and his doctor decided the best way to handle it is through psychotherapy only without the use of antidepressants. Most of time h...
A. 7 May 2011: Hi there. If your boyfriend won't talk about his demons, I am wondering if there is something going on in his life he feels he can't talk about to anyone.
For instance, could it be that he is being sexually abused - or been sexually abused a... (read in full...)
Married man cares about me or does he only want some action?
Q. Hey all. Me and this married man have become friends. We are both married and we both know we are sexually attracted to each other. He seems to want to talk to me and be around me all the time and we have connected emotionally. We are both ...
A. 7 May 2011: Hi there. Like someone else said here, he probably is just a bit bored. Something's missing in his life.
A sense of no purpose or passion seems to be what he is feeling.
Even if he says that he's bored with his marriage, you can be sure that... (read in full...)
He as done a terrible thing to me so why can't I just hate him?
Q. My husband had an affair with my best friend and is now in a relationship with her. I am absolutely devastated not only for myself but for my baby boy who as only been seeing his daddy for an hour or so a week. He say's he wasn't happy and he ...
A. 7 May 2011: Hi there. Perhaps he can't handle the responsibility and restrictions to his life that being a parent brings with it.
It does sound like that, a bit.
He wants to be free and easy but with no hassles, like having to stay at home every night... (read in full...)
I still have sex with my wife even though she is having an affair. Is this letting go?
Q. Is this what letting go means? My 42 year old wife is about a month into an affair with a man 25 years older than her. I have seen their email correspondence and the level of emotional attachment is unbelievable. This whole thing hit me out of th...
A. 7 May 2011: Hi there. Good communication is very important in any relationship, otherwise you aren't both on the same page.
Communication is the way problems are dealt with and sorted out once and for all.
Perhaps you have not been the type of person w... (read in full...)
Can the right person come along when you are already married?
Q. I have one simple question: Can the right person come along when you are already married?...
A. 7 May 2011: Hi there. No-one really knows who is right for them until they live with them and see how that other person is to live with and how they wake up in the morning, etc.
There's so much to really knowing someone well. It's not a short process ... (read in full...)
Haven't had sex with my husband in 13 years but want to have sex with another man.
Q. Hello Cupids. This is one crazy situation you are about to hear and I could really use your help. I have been married to my husband for 13 years and in that time we have never had sexual intercourse. We have had oral sex and have done just abou...
A. 7 May 2011: Hello there. Why on Earth did your husband not have his impotence problem seen to years ago?
There are so many very good programs around now for this problem, that there is no reason to let it continue. And especially when it comes to relation... (read in full...)
How can I help him understand that if we both work on communicating better, the relationship will be better?
Q. My boyfriend and I are recently having a problem communicating, and I'm wondering what I can do. Here's the background: We've been dating seriously for almost four years and plan to move in together this summer. We're both adults with stable live...
A. 6 May 2011: Hi there. As much as you love each other, because you haven't actually said here what exact things it is that you disagree upon, it's a bit difficult to give an opinion.
It also depends on what kinds of things you differ on or argue about on... (read in full...)
Promiscuous wife had 40 partners, I have only been with her!
Q. hi there, i dnt knw where to start but il try my best. My wife was promiscuous in her college days 40men to be exact. After i found out abt her past i asked her abt and told me she had low self esteem, i didnt believe her shes drop dead gorgous what ...
A. 5 May 2011: Hi there. What she did then really has no impact on who she is now in your marriage.
It certainly is no reason to not trust her, if this is what you are feeling.
It's inevitable that prior to most relationships, that there will be at least... (read in full...)
He's controlling and when I question him in the same way, he gets really mad. What to do?
Q. i've been with my husband for 3 years every time my phone rings he wants to know who it is and what they say so i started doing the same thing to him and he began to get mad he has had a very bad temper lately he throws items at the walls or punches ...
A. 3 May 2011: Hi there. You need to ask him what's going on in his life.
Ask him what is making him so unhappy.
(a) Pressure at work for instance?
(b) Does he have any money worries?
When you do talk to him about it, be kind and respectful and show him ... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 13 August 2010: Being Happy In a Relationship (Cont'd)
Hello there again. I thought of something else after I wrote this last column.
That is:-
It's really important to not lose yourself inside the relationship, once it really gets going.
So often, this... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 12 August 2010: Thanks guys. I'm glad you enjoyed. Take Care.... (read in full...)
Being Happy In a Relationship
Q. It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
A. 12 August 2010: Thanks guys for your feedback. Hope it was useful. Take Care.... (read in full...)
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