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writes:I had a crush on my friend, which I have known since 2nd grade. We made a deal that if or when we broke up we would still be great friends. It's been a month sine we have broken up and so far I have been keeping up to the deal but he hasn't. I have started seeing somebody else but he hasn't. Does he still like me?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 February 2011):
Hi there. Why is it that you still want to be friends, when the relationship you had, ended?
It's like you are keeping him there as a standby, in case this one doesn't work. Is he a backup for you?
When you say "keeping up with the deal", do you mean being in contact with him? So does that mean that you have contacted him, but he doesn't take the initiative and contact you? Can you clarify that?
As you say he hasn't found someone else, it's possible that he also knows that you have. So that's a reason for him not to interfere in your relationship, don't you think? Because that's probably how he looks at it.
If he had found someone else, but you hadn't, wouldn't you want to leave them alone to live their own lives?
What he is doing, is showing you the respect by steering clear from you a bit, and giving you the freedom to enjoy your new boyfriend - in peace. That seems perfectly fair.
You are not likely to find out if your ex still likes you, because you have a new boyfriend. Your ex would naturally keep his distance while he knows you have someone else.
You obviously ended the relationship with him for a reason, so remind yourself of the reason - and then move on.
Only time will tell whether you and your ex are meant to be together in the end. If you are really meant to be together, then in time you will be. But you can't force it to happen.
Even if you were to go back with your ex, whatever happened to cause you to end it, would probably still be there and you would inevitably end it again. History would repeat itself. That would be a waste of time.
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reader, Misscarolinelou  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 If he hasnt spoke to you at all it probably means he has moved on , try to talk to him once in a while or. i think its best to concentrate on your new relationship.
good luck
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