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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?
Q. Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...
A. 20 June 2011: Hi. I believe you have done the right thing. It was actually physical abuse.
Don't let that happen with anyone else ever again. At the very least, you know what to look out for if anyone acts like this or starts to act like this, with you in f... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed that I am into women, not men
Q. Help! i'm feeling really ashamed about my bi sexuality and liking more women, than men. I would love to be out,but i know that will never be the case when i think about being the way that i am. I feel sick, horrible. Sick to my stomach kind, like ...
A. 16 June 2011: Hi there. Although you seem to have feelings towards women more than towards men, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are gay. Merely that you are at least curious.
As you do not say this, I am assuming that you haven't actually had a sexual r... (read in full...)
Torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool
Q. So, here's the whole thing. I have been with my boyfriend for about 1 year and 3 months now, I have had thoughts about dumping him and I don't know whether I love him or not. Lately I've been dreading his calls, texts and visits because he's just so ...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. If this other guy has a girlfriend, he's taboo anyway. He's taken.
The attraction towards him, might be the forbidden fruit thing. Wanting something you can't have.
You might have to appreciate him only from afar. Don't try and st... (read in full...)
Getting mad that he keeps mentioning his ex!
Q. why is it when my boyfriend and me are having a wonderful conversation -he somehow uses his ex as an example or part of our conversation.she stays in contact with him once a month.he said he never contacts her.i feel strange and dont like it at ...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. Is his last relationship breakup with this ex, very recent?
It does sound like he is not properly over her yet.
Just by the very fact that he mentions her in conversation with you. It's inappropriate, because he's with you now - n... (read in full...)
Did it too early?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We had sex after only 2 months... but we're still together. Months and months ago we would always fight- but it's gotten better. We still have a few issues between us though. And I'm thinking that if ...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. Having sex does bring you a bit closer.
Perhaps you used to argue before, because you were moving in the direction towards having sex. So there was some sexual tension there.
You are more relaxed now because you are having sex.
T... (read in full...)
I lost my friend/lover over a year ago when I was caught in a lie. Is there still a way to get that person back?
Q. I made a mistake and hurt someone I love by lying to them. I'm not a bad person but I did make a bad choice and lied because of my insecurities. Because of the result of my actions I had to pay a huge cost-the end of a relationship with someone I ...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. The thing that made him angry was the lie yes, but probably more that he now feels he can't trust you anymore.
Perhaps you could try writing him a letter explaining to him why you said what you did - the lie - and write from the hear... (read in full...)
15 yrs. sudden ED?
Q. hello all, i am 15, 5'11", 170 lbs. and can't seem to get a boner recently... It started a few weeks ago I guess. I have a UTI where it hurts to pee, it's gotten A LOT better now but it still hurts when i just finish emptying my bladder. The ...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. If you haven't seen a doctor about your UTI yet, you need to do that straight away.
UTI's if untreated, can go further up into the kidneys, which can be much more serious.
So don't delay seeing your family doctor for any longer. It'... (read in full...)
Everything I say can be taken the wrong way, can this be fixed?
Q. I've recently run into problems with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. We have been arguing non-stop for the past few weeks about everything. Basically, I've narrowed the problem to this: we take each others comments too personally/the w...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. It almost sounds like you have made him the centre of your universe.
By that I mean, that you depend on him for your happiness.
If he does what you hope or expect that he will do, then everything is fine. If not, you are very dis... (read in full...)
Why does the end of a relationship bother me so little?
Q. Hi! I like to think that I am a very loving, caring person and I form close relationships with people, especially men. However, when a relationship ends, it seems I just get cold inside and just want to replace the person, like changing clothes. ...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps it really depends on who ended the relationship. You might not be upset if you ended it.
But generally speaking, it actually could just be you trying to protect yourself. It's normal to protect yourself in some way.
If this... (read in full...)
Are we friends or a potential couple?
Q. So basically, I have a guy friend that I'm really close to, but I'm trying to figure out whether we're friends or a 'potential couple'. I feel like I'm getting somewhat mixed signals. On the one hand, we could almost be a couple already: we are ...
A. 10 June 2011: Hi there. It sounds like he is interested in you as a possible girlfriend in the near future.
All the things you have said here, seem to point to or hint at that, in one way or another.
He is probably biding his time at the moment, to see h... (read in full...)
Can anyone advise me on how to deal with my godmother, who is constantly bombarding me with emails, calls and facebook messages?!
Q. Can anyone advise me on how to deal with a family member who is constantly bombarding me with emails, calls and facebook messages?! My godmother is in her 40's and since she signed up to facebook she has been more of a nuisance than ever. Sh...
A. 8 June 2011: Hi there. As she is your godmother, she would have been made a godparent by your parents.
A nice way to go about it would be to tell your parents and ask them to politely tell her to ease off on the electronic messages to you. When you tell you... (read in full...)
Should I risk losing this guy to find a 'better' one just because I'm bored?
Q. I have been in a great relationship for over 2 years, but I am getting so incredibly bored. This is by far the longest relationship I've been in, but usually I drop the guy for a new and exciting one after only a month or so. I now find myself ...
A. 8 June 2011: Hi there. It's possible you feel this way because you have made each guy you date the centre of your universe.
It's not so much that you have got to know them thoroughly and there is nothing more to find out, but you might also have given up... (read in full...)
Did this person come into my life for a reason, or is it just a coincidence?
Q. This is kind of a relationship question but I’m not 100% sure what I’m trying to work out so here goes; To set the scene we are both male I started a new job a couple of years ago and on my first week I walked into an office and saw this guy ...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. We all meet people in our lives who we just click with right from the start.
It's probably no coincidence that this happens. All things happen in life for a reason.
You might have just met this man, and will be life time friends fro... (read in full...)
I think he should be more caring, what do you think??
Q. I can't tell if my boyfriend really likes me or if I'm just being too demanding. We've been together for about six months now. We spend almost every day together but we do not live together. We also speak on the phone every day, even if it'...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you do do much more for him (in your eyes), than he does for you and maybe he feels a certain expectation that he should reciprocate in return.
Even if you don't say it to him in so many words, he probably senses it anyway. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him or just move on??
Q. Heyy guys i have been having a tough time as of late and i've had so many opinions on this i'm feeling a bit stuck so i'm hoping i can come to some conclusions on here. I broke up with my boyfriend of five months about a month and a half ago because ...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. Maybe you could write him a letter telling him how you have come to realize how you took him for granted and treated him badly.
It would be nice for him to know.
Just say all that you said here about it, and that you believe he deser... (read in full...)
Is it normal to lose feelings for someone this way??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for only 3 months, but we've known each other for a few years. We would hang out because I was friends with his sister and cousin. He always liked me and I liked him too, but we stopped hanging out and nothing ...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. It does seem like as you said, you are spending too much time together.
Perhaps also, when you are hanging out together, you're not doing anything that's fun. Maybe you just sit around and watch tv.
Why not try to cut back on how ... (read in full...)
I've been focusing on her friend but do you think it's possible she likes me, even though she has a boyfriend?
Q. ive got this friend whos a girl and she is really pretty. i have really liked her in the past. she went out with this guy who was a rubbish bf cause they went a full 5 days not even speaking or seeing and he has got a new gf after about a week after ...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. Although she does have a boyfriend, it's clear that she probably does like you as well.
At the moment though, she is off-limits because of the new boyfriend, so don't stir up trouble there.
Go to the party and say "Hi" and smile t... (read in full...)
Please give me some advice, help me understand why he broke it off!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a lebanese guy for over 2 yrs. we met on a dating site for age gap relationships. hes now 25 and im 43. after only a few weeks we knew it was going somewhere and we have been inseparable. hes christian lebanese and ...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. There can often be problems with people from two very different cultures pairing up.
I am assuming that you are anglo-saxon, is that right?
As much as you love him, it does seem like this isn't going to just work itself out over ... (read in full...)
I think I might be gay, but how can I be sure?
Q. I have 2 children and left my partner after he ran off with someone else and since i have left him i have been wondering if im gay. I have a few gay freinds and i really fancy one of them, i also went out on a night out with a freind of a freind and ...
A. 7 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps it is only curiosity and nothing more.
I guess you could go to gay bars where there are gay females there, and just get chatting to them and see how you feel in that environment.
The truth is, you are never really going to ... (read in full...)
Why is it difficult to become a hotter man?
Q. How women out there, It's a bit of a mystery to me how to become a sexier guy. Do guys have to accept that it's a fact that, unless you're good looking and famous, you will only ever be hot in a niche kind of way (can't be hot to the majority)? ...
A. 6 June 2011: Hi there. We can't be all things to all people, it's just not possible.
We are all so different.
You can please a lot of people some of the time, but you can't please everyone all of the time.
If you try to do this, (to please everyone all ... (read in full...)
How can I be like the pretty girls? Do I have to fix something to be like them?
Q. I always get discriminated because people think I'm ugly. People think I'm of mixed ethinicity because of how I look like. I'm naturally tanned and people think I don't look like the ethnicity I'm supposed to be. People my ethnicity are 'racist' ...
A. 6 June 2011: Hi there. Don't worry about what other people think, it's unimportant.
You are perfect just the way you are.
If you would like to improve the appearance of your acne scars, there are various lazer treatments now available that are very success... (read in full...)
How can you be too clingy in a relationship?
Q. Dear all, I was recently dumped for reasons that included in me being "too clingy". I don't know how this is possible as when your in a relationship your meant to be there for each other. Its left many questions in my mind those of which won't b...
A. 6 June 2011: Hi there. Clingy would commonly be described as wanting to be together all the time - at every spare moment. Wanting to see her every single night.
The truth is, although you really like someone and would like to be together all the time, it... (read in full...)
My mom's choosing her lover over me!
Q. My mom's choosing her lover over me? I can't reason out why she's doing this. She'll only come to realise that she's wrong for doing that because love is blind. One day, when it wears out, she'll probably start thinking of me. How could she blame me ...
A. 6 June 2011: Hi there. It's a very difficult position for you to be in.
Has your mother ever had your father living with you both, even in the early days when you were a child?
If she has always been a single mother, it sounds like she's now had a chance... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I don't want to have sex with him! Help!
Q. my boyfriend loves me but he wants to have sex with me and i don't want to, what should i do with my boyfriend? although we can't break up because I LOVE HIM...
A. 6 June 2011: Hi there. Just be honest with him.
If you aren't ready to go that extra step, tell him so right up front. It's your right. He can't force you.
Even though you say you love him, if he isn't happy to wait for you to be ready, well then that's... (read in full...)
I want once a week sex but he has a low sex drive
Q. I have just returned from a week-end away with my boyfriend of 2 years. We are very loving and cuddly towards each other and get on really well except for the sex side of things. I make a real effort to look my best, going to the gym, keeping ...
A. 6 June 2011: Hi there. It's often the other way around - the guy usually wants sex more than the girl.
It doesn't seem like he is going to change any time soon. Especially as he has said he's always been this way.
It might not be wise to move in with him... (read in full...)
Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 6 June 2011: Hello again. You both need to find some kind of compromise with this.
You both need to sit down and have a talk about it - during the week. Don't leave it till Friday night.
As he does help you around the house and with the parenting, he ha... (read in full...)
I kissed his best friend and now he doesn't acknowledge me! What did I do wrong!?
Q. Last week i was caught in the moment and kissed this guy that i really liked. But what i didn't know was his best friend who is my friend, liked me!? And now he (not the one i kissed) is being off and doesn't talk to me or even look at me!? In f...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. It seems like he is a bit jealous and feels a bit hurt.
He hoped that he had a chance with you, even though at the time you were just friends.
Now he feels like he has NO chance at all. It probably hadn't got the point with him w... (read in full...)
All my b/f wants to do is take naps and have sex!
Q. I feel like my boyfriend takes me for granted and has gotten way too comfortable in the relationship. All he mostly wants to do nowadays is to take naps with me or have sex (nap and sex usually go hand in hand). I've tried many times to suggest ...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. Has he always been this way from the start of your relationship, or has it gradually happened over time?
He likes to nap - because he doesn't get enough sleep.
Why doesn't he sleep well at night?
Is he a night shift worker?
I... (read in full...)
Can he want me for more than sex?
Q. Is it possible that a guy can originally want you purely for sex and then for some reason want more? or am i just being completely stupid?...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. Yes, it is possible.
I am assuming that you are talking about an FWB - Friends With Benefits - type friendship.
If that's the way your relationship started, it often stays FWB and doesn't go any further, because of the nature of it... (read in full...)
I've been financially abused, but I especially want to keep the cat. Can I do this?
Q. My partner did a runner upped and left while I was at work, leaving me in serious financial difficulty. He has only had a job during the last 2 months he had a job. Prior to that I supported him, for over a year, when he didn't have work. My son ...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. You need to cut your losses, keep the cat, cut any ties to him.
The main thing is to learn from the experience, that would be the wisest thing you could possibly do now.
Some other important things to do are:-
(1) Change the ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I"m having the right reaction to what this guy said?
Q. If a man says he feels like your his family and starts claiming your bedroom at your house is his and your cat is his too I would think this is a good thing but I am not sure i am having the right reaction too it. When he said these things I reacted ...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. Does he have any family himself? If so, is he close to all of them?
The reason I ask this, is if he had no family, it would be a natural feeling to have something he never did have before as he was growing up.
If on the other hand h... (read in full...)
Why is it always the best friend?
Q. why is it that the guys i like ....always go for my bestfriends?...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. Do you show them any genuine interest, or do you say nothing to these guys you like?
If you give no indication to them that you do like them, well then they have no clue about it. They probably think that you aren't interested at all. ... (read in full...)
Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you could say to him the next time he says he is going out with the boys to the pub, say to him that he will have to make his own arrangements about getting home as you are not going to be waking up especially to pick him up at ... (read in full...)
Could you tell me why you think this question was asked??
Q. I know this is not your usual type of question on here but I would very much like your opinions on this please. Last year I had a good friend killed in a car accident. A few days after the accident the police called to my friends home and asked ...
A. 5 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps the nature of the car accident might be cause for questioning why it occurred at all.
For instance:-
(1) The visibility ahead was clear - the road was flat and not approaching a blind hill.
(2) If it was on a lonely count... (read in full...)
Every time we speak to one another I feel like the past two years have been wasted. Can our relationship be saved? Or should I end it, before it gets even worse?
Q. Alright. I've never really been one to make my personal problems public (even on the 'Net), but I'm really at the end of my rope, here. Maybe it'll be better, asking it with this Internet sort of animosity, but I really feel like I need another's ...
A. 4 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you both need a break from each other for a while.
Things are definitely not going too smoothly, are they?
You are both in college, so you are pretty full-on with study and projects to complete.
It all seems like bad timin... (read in full...)
I hate myself for letting someone get close to me after doing fine being single for ages... Grrrr!!!
Q. I hate my ex (not because we split) but the way he was with me before we split. The last two weeks he avoided me (apart from texts) I eventually invited him round one night (to have it out with him),said I wanted a chat with him, he came (but said ...
A. 4 June 2011: Hi there. Don't let him mistreat you and take you for granted like this, just take control.
Don't allow it to continue at all.
If texts you, don't text an answer back. Delete it. If he calls you, answer the call - out of politeness only ... (read in full...)
How can I gently let him down and make him stop, when he hasn't even said he's interested, but it is VERY obvious that he is?
Q. this is kind of a variation on the how to let him down easy question. he's a guy i work with (which makes it even more awkward), but the problem i have is that it's really obvious that he likes me (texts regularly, buys me coffee, always suggestin...
A. 3 June 2011: Hi there. Perhaps what you could do is whenever he walks close to you, you could step away in the opposite direction.
But really, try avoidance. If you see him walking towards the kitchen to make himself a cup of coffee, well don't go to the kitc... (read in full...)
Why should I go to the cinema with my ex when he has a girlfriend?
Q. Why is my ex boyfriend doing this? should I text him this? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought we were in love but he dumped me saying he felt out love and that he doesn't want a relationship. I was really hurt so I told him we can't be ...
A. 3 June 2011: Hi there. I believe that what you want to say to your ex about not wanting to go out with someone when he has a girlfriend, is the right decision.
It would be absolutely the wrong thing to do.
Would you like that done to you? Of course you wo... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend has changed!
Q. i m 17 in committed ldr relation since 2 years.my bf is 18. lately i have realised that the things have changed. my bf has stopped paying attention.he doesn't wish me gm, neither he texts me.at night he hardly calls. what to do so that my ...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi there. Have you ever met, or has all your communication been only by internet chat sites?
LDR's are very challenging to keep going, because of the loneliness and absenteeism that's always there.
Two people who like each other, really ne... (read in full...)
Why does he text me if he isn't going to reply back?
Q. I don't understand this, why would a guy go out of his way to text you and then you when you reply back, he doesn't text back!? What was the point in him texting in the first place if he wasn't going to bother replying???...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi there. As long as you sent an answer back, well that's all you can do for now.
It's not advisable to send any more texts to him now.
You have done all that you can do.
Unless he sends you any more text messages, don't you send him any m... (read in full...)
What is the best way to talk to my boyfriend about problems in a our relationship
Q. hi everyone,i am having a problem of not knowing my boyfriend and we've been together for 6months .i want to talk to him about him not being open and about not knowing each other since we dont spend time together,how do i talk to him about thisin ...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi. You're very welcome indeed. Good luck and Best wishes. Take care.... (read in full...)
What is the best way to talk to my boyfriend about problems in a our relationship
Q. hi everyone,i am having a problem of not knowing my boyfriend and we've been together for 6months .i want to talk to him about him not being open and about not knowing each other since we dont spend time together,how do i talk to him about thisin ...
A. 30 May 2011: Hi there. When you say you are not spending time together, are you saying that you are in an LDR (Long Distance Relationship)?
If you are, well then it's going to take quite some time to really get to know each other properly. Six months i... (read in full...)
My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?
Q. Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. Maybe he has lived with some kind of violence in his family home. It's hard to say.
Perhaps he is just amusing himself.
In any case, if you don't like the way things are going with him in the bedroom, for goodness sake, say someth... (read in full...)
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