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writes:i have sexual connection three time per week with 36 old person who one of my friend's brother but i'am still 16 only. both of us love each other due to that we not like stop this connection. but i need to this to my mom and dad, but i fear. what i can do for that ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): If youre thinking about marriage is quite an age gap but if its for fun and not marriage so what enjoy yourselv life is for living-assuming of course he is not married!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 February 2011):
Hi there. You say 3 times a week you meet and have sex, so it's possible you are FWB's (Friends With Benefits).
Yes, it is a very big age difference, and it puts you both at completely different life stages. If he is single, he is at the age where he would be thinking in terms of marriage. At 16, you are way too young to even contemplate it. Not for at least another 4 or 5 years.
Your music tastes would be different as well.
You feel that you love him, but it's probably more because you are having sex with him and it's clouding your judgement.
It also sounds new, so it's in the early stages of a relationship, if "relationship" is what you call it.
I guess you could just invite him around one night to have dinner with your family and introduce him then. You will however, need to first ask your parents' permission to invite someone over. You could say - "Mum, can I invite a friend over for dinner tonight?" And go from there.
Don't tell them how old he is, they will see that for themselves when he comes to the door.
They will be shocked, there's no doubt about that.
The other alternative, is to just keep seeing him behind their backs. This is probably not a good idea, as somehow the truth will come out. Your friend might spill the beans.
It's really up to you - it's your life.
The real question you have to ask yourself is,
- Are you really happy?
- Is this relationship the way you would like it to be?
- Is there anything missing?
- Does this man treat you with respect?
Only you can answer these questions.
There is also your future and education to consider. At 16, you have many more years of study left before entering the workforce.
Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Oh wow, that's a BIG age gap there.
You may argue that age is just a number, it is, but only when you get to a certain age to understand what love really is, why the legal age of consent is set so high, and when you're well past the legal age yourself. I question what does a 36 year old man want with a 16 year old teen. Just because you have a sexual connection with him, doesn't mean you're in love. Sex doesn't necessarily equal love.
Tell your mother and father over dinner one night, but prepare for them to be upset or to banish you from seeing this man.
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