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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again (Part 2). (Read the other bit first.) Quite often people are frightened to make any major changes in their lives for fear of failure.
I think too, that often they feel that if they make too many changes - even small ones - that one... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again. Yes, his parents are very different aren't they? It definitely does seem that he has a great fear of change. Perhaps he takes solace in his work, because it is the only thing that remains constant in his life at the moment and ha... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi. Yes, he is a timid lover - but why? That's exactly what needs to be discovered.
Perhaps his parents were not affectionate people as he was growing up. It usually starts from something in a person's past.
It also doesn't seem like he was... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hello again. I just thought of another possibility with your husband.
Do you think that he might be cheating?
Any suspicious behaviour by him?
Any change from how he is normally?
I don't want to get you worried, I'm just thinking of ot... (read in full...)
I want no more part of this "love triangle", but I know it will be a problem because we work together....
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a 29 year old male and last July I got involved with a woman that I work with who is 35 years old with 3 children. She initially approached me and asked me for my number after she started working there for a month or so. S...
A. 18 April 2011: Hello again. You are doing the right thing, believe me.
As you said about the possibility of leaving the job you are in at the beginning of May, I really think that's a good thing. Then you won't be seeing her anymore. Positive all round.
... (read in full...)
He left the country and is out of contact. Why is he being so cruel?
Q. I am desperate. He left to other country for 2 weeks to his ex, cause they have child together. I dont understand the way he told me, it caused me pain. He just sent sms before as a reply to msg that he goes for holidays and that no regrets. Now ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. How long were you going out together?
As the child's biological father, he does have rights to see his child.
You are going to have to see what he says when he comes back. You said he's only gone for 2 weeks.
Give him some s... (read in full...)
I want no more part of this "love triangle", but I know it will be a problem because we work together....
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a 29 year old male and last July I got involved with a woman that I work with who is 35 years old with 3 children. She initially approached me and asked me for my number after she started working there for a month or so. S...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. You already said the answer - to end it. Believe me, it's the right answer.
The longer it goes on for, the more hurt you will be. Plus wondering - as you are already doing now - where it's all going.
There is a good chance that... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi. It sounds like you are handling the situation quite well really.
That's a positive thing.
The thing is, your husband doesn't seem to be the affectionate type does he? When you said you went to touch him - to give him a kiss - he pulled... (read in full...)
Why would he suddenly stop wanting sex?
Q. Why would a man , stop wanting sex suddenly with his wife? Is this true, when he says,he has no idea? What are the causes to this,and how common is that? I know man, who cant think of anything else,but sex Why is this happening? I feel humil...
A. 16 April 2011: Hi there. The only way to find out for sure, is to talk to him about it.
We can only guess, without knowing the circumstances of your relationship.
Perhaps he is under some kind of stress - at work or some kind of financial stress. It's ha... (read in full...)
Friend invited herself to join me on a trip and I can't stand to spend that much time with her!
Q. Frendship question: we ve been friends for a few years now. We ve met when we were adults with husbands and kids. We are the same age, but complitely different personalities. Frankly i never met anyone like my girlfriend: loud, extremely bubbly, ...
A. 16 April 2011: Hi there. Well obviously, you can't tell her she is too loud, because you don't want to offend her. Even if it is the truth.
However, what you can say is you are both very different from each other.
(1) She likes to dance all night long. ... (read in full...)
How do we deal with Grandma's drinking?
Q. Hey :) i could really use some advice ? well i live in a house with my mum and my grandma unforutnely due to some confusion with the bank, me and my mum lost our old house and had no choice but to move in with my grandma. At first everythi...
A. 16 April 2011: Hi there. It seems like your grandmother is very depressed over the loss of her brother. Quite often when people are depressed, they cope by drinking alcohol - believing it will numb the negative feelings. It does numb the bad feelings for a ... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 15 April 2011: Hi. When you say you used to go into hospital every 3 months or so, are you suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome? The reason I say this, is because you say about not having much energy most of the time, and then being exhausted by the... (read in full...)
I get more pleasure out of dry humping then sex!
Q. Is this strange? I would rather keep my clothes on and dry hump, then have sex. I feel nothing with sex, but dry humping really gets me in the mood and safe to say, turns me on Is this strange?...
A. 11 April 2011: Hi there. You are probably finding dry humping puts you in the mood, because your clitoris is being stimulated very well.
Why you don't seem to enjoy the actual sex act so much, is your clitoris is probably not being stimulated enough.
In that... (read in full...)
Am I the only female out there who feels a million decades older than I actually am due to a partner's inattention?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of years now, and throughout that time I've always made an effort to keep myself looking good, groomed and special just for him. He's never been a style horse but he used to at least shave, put on a nice shi...
A. 11 April 2011: Hi there. When you say you left a job you hated, did you get another job, or are you at home all the time now?
It sounds like you need to add fun back into your lives.
Perhaps you could try something different. Why not get a picnic hamper, a... (read in full...)
My girlfriend ignores me!
Q. okay well i have never done any thing like this be for so if some one can help it would be really nice and help full. well this is my problem my girl friend says she will do any thing to be with and spend time with me but when ever i try to be with ...
A. 11 April 2011: Good luck with it. Let me know how you go.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
What choice is best? I have mixed emotions. My gf or a girl I want?
Q. my problem there is this girl i have really really really liked since 6th grade and we are in 10th grade now. it seems like every time i try and be with her she has a bf/gf or just broke up with him/her. When that happens and she is emotionally dist...
A. 11 April 2011: Hi. My suggestion is go for it!
You have nothing to lose.
But make absolutely sure that she does not want to play games with you or any of that kind of nonsense.
Just be wary.... (read in full...)
I'm having loads of trouble finding an attractive, intelligent girlfriend!
Q. I need some advice on how to find a decent girlfriend. I'm a really good looking, athletic guy. I'm a combat veteran, university graduate, and have a well paying corporate job for someone my age (23.) I will be a homeowner in less than 2 year...
A. 11 April 2011: Hi. There's nothing wrong with talking to a nice young lady anywhere at all - gym, bus stop, railway station, shopping checkout. The opportunities are limitless!
Most times if you do start talking, it's a natural thing where one of you makes a ... (read in full...)
What should I make of this conversation between my boyfriend and his ex?
Q. What should I make of this conversation between my bf and his ex who I feel he still has feelings for. BOYFRIEND - god i fucken add u for 2 minutes and she went off at me fucken sick of it and i am pissed of at u for not showing up u doit to muc...
A. 11 April 2011: Hi. Sometimes, trying to find something suspicious (such as checking his mobile for text messages), is the worst thing you could possibly do, because it keeps you thinking along those lines and it can end up ruining the relationship altogether.
... (read in full...)
Am I a booty call, or just FWB? Why does he never initiate our get togethers?
Q. Alright, how do I word this? Lets see.. I have a friends with benefits, but my friends say he's a "booty call". We don't talk for a couple of days, or even a week, and then i'll text him and we either hook up that day or the next and then go back...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. "Booty Call" and "Friends With Benefits" are the same thing.
It's a friendship based only on sex and very little else. It basically has no substance to it at all.
Why don't you just try NOT texting him for a change. Even if it's a ... (read in full...)
I'm having loads of trouble finding an attractive, intelligent girlfriend!
Q. I need some advice on how to find a decent girlfriend. I'm a really good looking, athletic guy. I'm a combat veteran, university graduate, and have a well paying corporate job for someone my age (23.) I will be a homeowner in less than 2 year...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. You can meet girls absolutely anywhere at all.
You could meet waiting in a queue at the supermarket checkout, a bank, shop counter, post office, waiting on a railway station, at a bus stop - anywhere at all.
Although the look of some... (read in full...)
What choice is best? I have mixed emotions. My gf or a girl I want?
Q. my problem there is this girl i have really really really liked since 6th grade and we are in 10th grade now. it seems like every time i try and be with her she has a bf/gf or just broke up with him/her. When that happens and she is emotionally dist...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. The first girl you have liked for many years, seems to use you. She also wants what she can't have. By that, I mean it's a challenge to see if she can get you for herself - when you have someone - but if you were available, it would ... (read in full...)
What should I make of this conversation between my boyfriend and his ex?
Q. What should I make of this conversation between my bf and his ex who I feel he still has feelings for. BOYFRIEND - god i fucken add u for 2 minutes and she went off at me fucken sick of it and i am pissed of at u for not showing up u doit to muc...
A. 10 April 2011: Hello again. I can't remember if you said this, but are you living together or living separately?
Because if you are living together, it might be wise to consider whether you want to put yourself through all this emotional upset, and especial... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend is depressed and yelled at me, how can I help?
Q. Id really appreciate if you could all read this and help me...im sorry for the length of it but please help me! Im desperate!!! I really dont know what to do anymore...Im in a LDR, have been now for 2 and a half years and my bf is amazing. Unfort...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. Your depression is not really being successfully controlled, is it? You have said this yourself.
So with that being the case, you are certainly not in a position to help anyone else at all.
To fly there to see him serves no purpos... (read in full...)
My girlfriend ignores me!
Q. okay well i have never done any thing like this be for so if some one can help it would be really nice and help full. well this is my problem my girl friend says she will do any thing to be with and spend time with me but when ever i try to be with ...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. Perhaps she is playing hard to get.
It might be wise to take a step back from talking to her so much and instead, let her approach you.
She might feel smothered by you. You might be crowding her.
So just give her some space and ... (read in full...)
What should I make of this conversation between my boyfriend and his ex?
Q. What should I make of this conversation between my bf and his ex who I feel he still has feelings for. BOYFRIEND - god i fucken add u for 2 minutes and she went off at me fucken sick of it and i am pissed of at u for not showing up u doit to muc...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. It seems like the breakup of your boyfriend's previous relationship was recent. Is that right? If so, perhaps he got into a new relationship too soon. Why is he in touch with his ex girlfriend? You probably need to sit down a... (read in full...)
I stay married for my children, but am in a relationship with a divorcee.
Q. I stay married for the children's sake but but romance with my husband died after he cheated on me and am not sleeping with each other. I have just started a relationship with a divorcee who is much younger than me and who said he doesnt mind me ...
A. 10 April 2011: Hi there. You only see this man once a fortnight, because you can't commit to him. So you can be almost certain that between the fortnightly get togethers, that he probably dates other women. It's inevitable. He probably wants more than once a... (read in full...)
Should I get together with him, and should I tell him about me and his brother?
Q. I share a flat with Four guys one of which is my cousin. So I'm interested in two of them and my cousin has told me they both really like me. Last month me and guy A were alone and it got really intense really quick an we ended up having sex. Just ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi there. The guy whose brother you had sex with, could find that information out anyway. His brother might just accidently say something that tells him everything.
It's hard to keep things like that secret for very long.
Just supposin... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me? Why can't I find someone?
Q. I feel so alone in my life right now. It's mainly because I'm 30 and I still haven't met the right person for me who actually really does want to be with me. I've been out with a few girls but something always seems to happen or go wrong, like I get ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi there. When you feel as you do, that you think women just aren't interested in you, you actually start to believe that after a while.
I think therefore I am.
In other words, what I'm trying to say is, what you think about most, eventually... (read in full...)
I can't talk to girls because I'm shy and intimidated
Q. Hey there! I am a 16 year old guy, and I have loads to tell you guys. Ok, so this is about girls! From preschool up until about grade 6, I have never been afraid of girls..As soon as I entered grade 7 up until grade 10...disaster. I have never had a ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi there. You are feeling probably the same way as most young men your age.
It's just shyness, that's all.
It usually happens at about puberty or just after, and it's perfectly normal.
To relax yourself, you need to take some long, slow dee... (read in full...)
Need help making an employment decision...its putting a strain on my partner.
Q. Hi everyone, I have been on the fence regarding this decision for a month now. I've never been so indecisive in my life, its driving me nutty and despite my fiance's best attempts, I can't seem to make a decision at all. I'm just stuck right in t...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi there. I think you're right about wanting to keep the flexibility with your current job. Plus the holidays too. Flexibility is really important, as it allows you good work and life balance.
The main reason for being interested in the seco... (read in full...)
What do I do about my lesbian crush?
Q. okay, im 15 and recently came out to myself as being a lesbian, ive also came out to a few close friends and one family member, because shes gay too. My dilema is, a couple of months ago, i started talking to this girl at school, she a year above me ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi there. You have only told her in a round about way, not being very specific, haven't you?
Perhaps when she said she liked you more than a friend, she might have been meaning, like a sister.
Even though she has a boyfriend, if you really wa... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can get through to my ex that my behavior was related to the deaths of my family members?
Q. Hi everyone. So I have a quick question about my recent break up. My ex and I dated for 16 months and had a great relationship but had the occasional big argument. The arguments would get pretty out of control but were mostly caused by my ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi there. It really seems that the problem started long before your family members passed away.
When you put some pressure on him before, because you thought he didn't show enough of his feelings and emotions, that could feel like you were try... (read in full...)
My parents don't approve of our relationship and no longer trust me
Q. Hey, I'm kinda in rut now and i need advice pronto! I dated this guy for about 2 years, even though my parents did not approve of the relationship. Ever since then, my parents stopped trusting me. It was hell for me. When i'm out with friends, my ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hello again. What I suggest you do is, bring him around to your parents' house - unannounced - one night and introduce him to them. Let them get to know him and what he does for a living, what makes him tick. It will also give your parents... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi again. It is a fairly difficult choice to make, but not impossible, nevertheless. The longer you allow things to continue as they are, the more restless and resentful towards him you will become. There's no doubt about that. I believe you ar... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 7 April 2011: Hello again. It does sound like you are very seriously mismatched now. Even though at first you were intellectually well suited. The fact he works in another city for 3-4 days in a row on a regular basis, doesn't help matters much either. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused if we are even together anymore!
Q. My bf/ex and I dated for three months broke up then 5 days later he was telling me that he made a mistake, calling me baby and baby girl again, kissing me, saying he wants to marry me and i did nothing to stop it and i feel bad that i let it go on ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hi there. He seems a bit confused at the moment, doesn't he? This doesn't help you any.
The thing he needs the most now, is space. So just give it to him.
Don't even bother going onto his Facebook page. You'll only torment yourself - seein... (read in full...)
I'm only 25 and I feel like I'm having a mid-life crisis. Any suggestions?
Q. Hi, i have a bit of a dilemma. About a week ago i fell out with a family member a really close one and it knocked me that they could be so vindictive towards me i perhaps did not help the situation but did not deserve what i got. so i went to apo...
A. 3 April 2011: Hi there. Instead of apologising to your family, it would be better to get the matter cleared up with them, what the falling out was really over. It's probably best to get in touch with the particular family member involved, and meet them for co... (read in full...)
How do I come out if I am gay?
Q. Hello.I am 13 years old and I know im gay, but how do I come out? I have a boyfriend but we don't show our love at school because we are scared of being teased by other students. My parents don't know either. The only time we hold hands or kiss is ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hi there. Are you ready to reveal your sexuality to people yet?
It's a big step for anyone to take, so before you decide how to do it, you both need to be really sure about who you think you are.
Are you at all interested in girls?
If you... (read in full...)
I'm trying to move on from my ex, but he owes me money...Should I bother getting it back?
Q. i broke up with my ex boyfriend due to mental abuse he owes me 600 dollars i asked for it back and he said he would give it to me the next day he didn't of course i really want my money but i know he keeping it to have some weird control over me ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hi there. No-one should have control over your life but you. Not your ex, nobody.
$600 isn't a lot of money really. It's not like $6000 for instance. It's enough.
If you really don't want to go back with him, just write it off as a bad deb... (read in full...)
My supervisor flirted with me, but when I asked him out...
Q. I am an intern at this office. I am there until May. My supervisor is ten years older then me which I really like. I started developing a crush on him in the fall. I was in his office with him going over a mid semester evaluation this fall and as I ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hi there. Just play it by ear. Go with the flow but don't try to push it.
It's probably not a good idea to ask him out, so enjoy the friendship and keep it light.
He at least thinks of you as a friend.
Because of his work schedule, it wo... (read in full...)
My parents don't approve of our relationship and no longer trust me
Q. Hey, I'm kinda in rut now and i need advice pronto! I dated this guy for about 2 years, even though my parents did not approve of the relationship. Ever since then, my parents stopped trusting me. It was hell for me. When i'm out with friends, my ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hi there. The only way is to just come right out and tell your parents.
If you are completely honest with them and tell them everything, then they will begin to trust you.
They don't have to like who you choose to go out with, but the most lik... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hello again. Somewhere in your last answer, I think you said your husband buries his head in his work (or something like that anyway).
So by that, are you saying that you and him have become alienated because of this?
Hence the need for oth... (read in full...)
He always says "don't trip" and I don't understand...
Q. I just started dating this guy and we have been hitting it off well. He seems to know when to be serious and knows when enough is enough. But at times he seems to act weird. Whenever I disagree with something or let him know that I won't be arou...
A. 1 April 2011: Hi there. When he says that, it's like auto-suggestion. Reverse psychology.
It's like when someone says that, it kind of means the exact opposite.
It could cause some people to actually trip over.
Even though the word "Don't" is before t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend scares me when he drinks
Q. I have been with my bf for almost 2 years, and everything is wonderful. We are both very social and every weekend we used to clubbing and drink with his friend etc. However, in the past 2-3 months when we went out he would drink the same amount and ...
A. 1 April 2011: Hi there. Drinking heavily and becoming agressive can be a big problem in any relationship, as you are already seeing.
He makes promises which he clearly can't keep - well not for very long anyway. One month is not bad.
But the real problem... (read in full...)
I'm scared to leave her, what should I do?
Q. I have been dating my gf for about 2 years now. In those 2 years alot has happened to her, both of her grandmothers died, 2 friends of her friends died, her brother became an alchoholic. What I didnt realize before I started dating her and got ...
A. 31 March 2011: Hi there. It's a difficult place to be in, that's for sure.
You are not responsible for her life - she is. She has complete control over everything that happens to her, not you.
Really, there's very little you can do. Nothing at all. ... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 31 March 2011: Hi there. If you did go back with him again, because of the attraction you still feel, it could easily become a Friends With Benefits affair.
In other words, meeting for sex only and nothing more. No going out to nice places and him spending... (read in full...)
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