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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hello again. The one main thing you need to do now, is to learn to accept it, because it can't be changed. It's history.
You can't change history, but you can change your attitude towards it.
Even though you still have issues with it, if you ... (read in full...)
I'm cutting him out of my life because I don't want to be used!
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me and then I dumped him because he was calling me controlling when It was him who was too possessive over me and then he tells me he still loves me so i took him back and i started fighting with his sister and he didnt ...
A. 25 January 2011: Hi. It sounds like you are doing the right thing.
To be in a relationship where the other person is controlling (him), it would make you very unhappy and like you were continually stepping on eggshells.
In that case, you probably are bet... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 20 January 2011: Hi. After this next phone call in March, then you will have a pretty good idea of where you both stand.
Finding out where you stand is really what you want to know.
Once you know that, then you can move forward with your life in some directio... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? What do you think?
Q. I seem to worry about everything that would make my boyfriend angry, you could say im walking on egg shells. Tonight we finished , i made the decision, im not sure whether it was the right thing but soo after id text my ex just to literally see how ...
A. 20 January 2011: Hi. I think you have hit the nail right on the head yourself, right here.
You said you are so confused about it.
It's possible that you are not sure who it is you really want.
This is the decision you have to make. And it's going to take s... (read in full...)
We were tipsy when we met the first time; will the first official date be OK?
Q. So I'm a female that's just beginning to explore my bicurious side. I'm very excited about it because I've always loved women! A couple of weeks ago I met a lovely girl at a bar and we ended up making out for the night, I had such a blast. We ...
A. 20 January 2011: Hi. You are very welcome. It's hard to know whether an age gap will be an issue.
Just take it slowly, and see how it goes when you see her again.
Keep it light and friendly and just have fun.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Also, d... (read in full...)
Shaving questions
Q. Hi im 13 years old and need to know 3 questions 1.) If i should shave my pubic hair? 2.) If i do will my penis feel better when I masterbate? 3.) How long it take for pubic hair to grow back ? Thanks for anwsering my que...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi there. That's up to you whether you shave your pubic hair or not.
Your penis won't feel any different if you do shave.
Under the pubic hair is probably some nerve endings, so the pubic area itself, might feel a little more sensitive - if y... (read in full...)
Dwelling on a tiff with a needy friend
Q. I love my friends- they're great and all, but they freak out if I don't respond to their calls or texts right away. My one friend, "Kayla", got upset at me because I was visiting an old flatmate this weekend. Now mind you Kayla has her own friends ...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi there. Unfortunately, with the age of technology, frustration over not getting an answer to a text or phone message straight away, is just a sign of the times.
With texting, it's not always possible that you are looking at your mobile or are a... (read in full...)
We were tipsy when we met the first time; will the first official date be OK?
Q. So I'm a female that's just beginning to explore my bicurious side. I'm very excited about it because I've always loved women! A couple of weeks ago I met a lovely girl at a bar and we ended up making out for the night, I had such a blast. We ...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi there. Just wear whatever you want to wear - according to what you are doing and where you are going.
Don't overdress if you are going somewhere you would normally dress casual for. That would be false. She would see through that. It would... (read in full...)
Sex is getting to be a pain in the rear!
Q. Ok I am so confused. I have had a total of 3 long term relationships in my 20 years of dating. 2 of my Xs are still dear friends and each has moved on. I have been in my current relationship with a much younger man for about 6 months now. It has ...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi there. If you are too dry and it's uncomfortable, tell him! Don't just tolerate it, that's silly.
Have you reached menopause? If so, that would definitely cause a thinning of the genital tissues and also a level of dryness.
Do you often ... (read in full...)
Confusion between my heart and my head...
Q. I am 24 years old, and have been dating a 44 y.o man for a year and two months. We have been in a long distance relationship since we met, with a four hour distance between us but we still managed to see each other nearly every week due to our work ...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi. When you said you talked to him, who rang who? Did you ring him?
Yes, you would have definitely remembered being asked on a trip to Jamaica.
That's also not true about him telling you that the office girls were going, because you only... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi. Like someone else said recently, you really can't control who you end up falling in love with.
I don't think you are a freak feeling this way, but what I do think, is that you have put all your focus on your cousin and no-one else. Conseque... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi. It probably feels so alone for you, to keep all this to yourself.
When you say other girls "get in my head", what did you mean by that?
Did you mean that they just don't compare to her?
If not, in what way?... (read in full...)
My family tell me this crazy. The trouble starts when we're apart. What can I do?
Q. I love being around him. When i'm with him its perfect. But as soon as he leaves i'm depressed. So depressed that my family starts yelling at me, telling me this is crazy. Is there any like way to fix this problem?...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. The problem you have is you have started to make him the centre of your universe.
Whatever you did before he came along - your friends, interests, hobbies etc., have probably gone by the wayside.
Because you like him so much, he has ... (read in full...)
My lies are compounding her trust issues
Q. Hey, I'm having problems with my girlfriend and due to these problems I've had to turn to you and no one else. So thank you in advance for offering the service. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and it's kind of serious, but I l...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. If I didn't see the age at the top of this article, I would have naturally assumed you were much older than you are. I would have thought you were at least in your 30's. Consider that a compliment. All I am saying, is that you seem ... (read in full...)
Can somebody tell ... if it's love?
Q. I have been trying to make this lady have a data with me and after 5 months of trying she agrees. I kept calling and texting her but I eventually felt am pushing a door that can't open in December 2010, I called her told her I like her and I started ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. You can't know straight away if it's love or not. That takes time - several weeks, months maybe.
If she's not careful it will be over before it begins.
It sounds like you and her are not on the same page. She want's more than... (read in full...)
I'm concerned for my grandchild!
Q. My daughter is 25, has a child 4 years old. She met a new boyfriend 2 month ago. She always lived with us until she met this person, my concern is that it is not stable for her child to live 3 days at our house and the rest of the week at his house, ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. As long as her new boyfriend is not mistreating her or her child, there should be no problem.
If he treats her and her child well and with respect and consideration, and she does seem genuinely happy, well then it would seem fairly p... (read in full...)
I'm cutting him out of my life because I don't want to be used!
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me and then I dumped him because he was calling me controlling when It was him who was too possessive over me and then he tells me he still loves me so i took him back and i started fighting with his sister and he didnt ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. What did you do that he considers to be controlling?
Perhaps you wanted more from him than he was ready to give. By that, I mean you might have wanted to get more serious but he wasn't ready for that at the time.
In relationships so... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi. You do have to distract yourself from these thoughts of your cousin all the time.
There is absolutely nothing you can do at the moment, simply because of distance. It's a situation which is completely out of your control.
Are you still... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? What do you think?
Q. I seem to worry about everything that would make my boyfriend angry, you could say im walking on egg shells. Tonight we finished , i made the decision, im not sure whether it was the right thing but soo after id text my ex just to literally see how ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. Perhaps you worry about what the future holds, things like that.
A lot of women do, wondering where the relationship is going. If it has a future (long term).
The problem with that is, when you are asking guys things about any... (read in full...)
Once we graduate will our relationship survive in the real world?
Q. Hello guys, My brother told me that guys will change once they step into the society to work. Is it really true that there is a high chance that my boyfriend, who is graduating this year together with me. My brother shared with me some stor...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. He wouldn't have any more choices than he does already. There are girls everywhere!
There would be just as many girls at a workplace, as there would be in school. No difference at all really.
Just nurture your relationship, ke... (read in full...)
We have a 6 month old child but I keep looking at other men. Am I a bad girlfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we have a 6 month old son. And recently i've found myself looking at other men and really really wanting them? i've told my boyfriend and he said hes hurt by it but wont talk about it. He works nights and ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. The reason you are looking at other man, is loneliness.
Your boyfriend leaves you alone a lot, doesn't he?
It's not really a wonder, is it? You need some companionship, plus some hands-on parenting by him.
You do need to sit do... (read in full...)
Confusion between my heart and my head...
Q. I am 24 years old, and have been dating a 44 y.o man for a year and two months. We have been in a long distance relationship since we met, with a four hour distance between us but we still managed to see each other nearly every week due to our work ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there. He might have lied by omission, but it makes you wonder if he was really hiding something.
It's not exactly an unimportant detail, is it? The fact that he was taking the office girls with him and the other doctors.
But because y... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 17 January 2011: Hi. You're very welcome.
Yes, the short break from each other will give you both time to think about everything.
Just make sure you keep looking after yourself, like I was saying before. Cry whenever you feel the need - you will feel better... (read in full...)
At times he changes into a completely different person!
Q. well heres the problem, ive been dating this guy for two months, and everything is great but at times he changes into a complete different person. Like today for example i asked him who some of the girls in his facebook were and he said well most ...
A. 17 January 2011: Hi there. Perhaps don't check on facebook quite so often. The more you look at his facebook, the more likely you are to find things you don't want to see.
All it does is upset you. It's really not worth the upset it's causing you.
Try not... (read in full...)
I didn't know what I had in her till she left
Q. I used to think Karma was an old wise tale until it made it's way to me. I lost count of how many heart's I broke after over 30. I guess you could say it never bothered me or made me feel remorse or guilt since I hadn't experienced it. I never quite ...
A. 17 January 2011: Hi there. It really depends on whether you know where she lives.
You said she moved in with this other man, so maybe it's too late.
Perhaps she has a bar job in that town, you could visit it sometime and see how you get along.
Someti... (read in full...)
Friends leaving me out...
Q. Hello everyone, I have this circle of friends who recently have been leaving me out. They always organize outings and parties and I never get invited; Except once when its a class outing. I think that one of them in this circle does not ...
A. 17 January 2011: Hi. Ok, so I wonder what has changed then, for this to suddenly start happening?
It does sound like some kind of jealousy by the ringleader towards you, or she is feeling insecure about something.
Have you and her recently had a big argument o... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 17 January 2011: Hi. I know it's not going to be easy for you, but you will have to take your mind off this situation as much as you can, by living your life - see your friends, having some fun of your own. Just doing fun stuff!!
At the very least, all you can ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 16 January 2011: Hi. That sounds good to me.
Time can change lots of things in life. This break in contact, will really help both of you, I believe.
It might be difficult emotionally, but I do believe it's necessary.
You will both get to find out whether ... (read in full...)
She's carrying my child, says she loves me, but dumped me?
Q. Ive got a big problem my ex is seven months pregnat and she dumped me but i swear to you i love this girl more then anyhting what do i do and and she says she loves me im confused i want her back ...
A. 15 January 2011: Hi there. Did you have an argument? Couples usually break up over something.
There has to be a reason. I don't think you said what happened - just that she broke it off with you, that's all.
You will have to have a talk with her about this. ... (read in full...)
Friends leaving me out...
Q. Hello everyone, I have this circle of friends who recently have been leaving me out. They always organize outings and parties and I never get invited; Except once when its a class outing. I think that one of them in this circle does not ...
A. 15 January 2011: Hi there. There seems to be a ringleader here, so I believe your best course of action, would be to get in contact with the other girls in the group, by calling each of them at home and talking to them.
I am assuming that you know who that rin... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 15 January 2011: Hello again. You don't really have anything to apologise to her for. You have done nothing wrong.
So for now concentrate on your studies, because your education is important. It will ultimately mean your future.
I know you don't want to th... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is horrible at showing affection!
Q. My girlfriend (26) and I (24) have been going out for 4 months. The affection is horrible!!! I am frustrated and very openly venting to all of you as I really wouldn’t otherwise and I am really looking for some help if my perception of this is ...
A. 15 January 2011: Hello again. I just had an interesting thought.
I am wondering whether her personal and religious beliefs are, that in a relationship, she wants to do things the old fashioned way, and not have sex until she is legally married.
It does make ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 January 2011: Hello there SomewhatDamaged. So your girlfriend lost (or said she did), her virginity to you before you were officially dating.
No real problem there as I see it.
You started dating about six months after that, but about 3 months or so aft... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 14 January 2011: Hi. It sounds like you are handling it pretty well and have made up your mind about how you'll go about it all. That's great.
Yes, stay positive. When you stay positive, you attract positive things into your life. It's called the Law of Attra... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 12 January 2011: Hi. That sounds like a good idea, spending the summer with her, which is about 12 weeks or so.
This will be a really good period of time to see over many weeks, how well you do get along.
Just stay positive and keep a completely open ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 11 January 2011: Hi. If you are thinking of moving over to Canada to be closer to her, it might first be wiser to just see how your holiday goes, that you say you are planning soon.
If you can take a 4 weeks break, and she can also take some time off then you... (read in full...)
Truth about Loving Two Men
Q. There is nothing more painful than finding yourself stuck smack in the middle of two wonderful men in your life that you love very much. Society first off would like me to believe that I can not "LOVE" two men at one time. I wish Society were ...
A. 10 January 2011: Hi there. Your biggest problem is the time your husband spends at the office. It's really more the problem, than being able to choose who you want to be with.
Some men do close up emotionally in hard times, because they don't know how to expre... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is acting distant when we're already far apart!
Q. I am 15 years old almost 16 and I had a boyfriend who just turned 17 and we live in different states and we dating for a while then we broke up near my birthday and got back to together on my birthday then awhile later we broke up again because he ...
A. 10 January 2011: Hi there. Long distance relationships are a very big challenge.
The challenge being that it's just not possible to see each other at all, or very rarely anyway.
When the only contact is by text messaging, after a while you run out of things to... (read in full...)
Can I fall back in love with him after he cheated on me?
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend cheated on me 7 months ago. I was extremely hurt by it but i took him back because i still loved him. We've been doing really well and i completely trust him again. The problem is that I just realized that when i heard he ...
A. 10 January 2011: Hi there. Relationships do go through different phases as time goes by. At first there's the butterflies in your stomach you speak of, which lasts for anything up to about 2 years. This is in the very initial stages of a new relationship.
Even ... (read in full...)
I want to be thoughtful but, I'm broke!
Q. I want to do something nice for my Sug but i dont have any funds. I know she knows i love her but i want to do something sweet for her to show i think about her non-stop..what should i do?...
A. 10 January 2011: Hi there. You could buy a nice greeting card - a blank one inside - then write in it, telling her how you think about her and feel about her. In your own words.
Perhaps you could go for a long walk together along a nice beach at sunset, that's p... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 10 January 2011: Hello again. It sounds like a fairly distant cousin, from what you say.
It sounds like about a third cousin.
In any case, only you and her can decide how you would like things to work out over time.
When and if you do decide to go and see ... (read in full...)
Sex is ok.
Q. I am 17 years old and lost my virginity to my boyfriend 9 months ago. We've been together for a little over a year now. It's never really felt that great when we've had sex. I've always thought I had a problem but I don't know if it's me or him or ...
A. 9 January 2011: Hi there. It depends on what you mean by if either of you has a problem, that it's not very enjoyable.
I am guessing that you are not having an orgasm.
You would know if you did, because you would have a tingly feeling starting in the ... (read in full...)
I am very sad that my friend is dating someone else and neglecting me
Q. I been loving this guy friend like two years and we were studying in the same university. Unfortunately I and him have thing more than friends, but he did have feeling on me, because only friend, he will not crying with me when he saw me hurt and ...
A. 9 January 2011: Hi there. Unfortunately, you were in a FWB (Friends With Benefits) relationship. The benefits of course, was the sex.
You kept saying "Yes" to him seeing you, so he kept on calling you whenever he felt like sex.
This is often called a "Booty ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin, what should we do?
Q. Okkay this is my story. I'm sorry if its long but I just need adives on how to handle all this I were 11 years at the time when for the first time I got to know my cousin, in the first few hours I were super shy because she was beautiful for be...
A. 9 January 2011: Hi there. You are cousins, and depending on how closely related you are, if you were ever to make it a serious relationship (marriage, kids), genetically there could be some serious problems with having children.
If one of your parents and one ... (read in full...)
Why is sex so easy and emotionless for some guys??
Q. I started to fall for my fwb, and when I told him, he said ok we should stop. I cried a bit and he said sorry but he just doesn't see us as anything more than friends. I have begrudgingly accepted this...it is very hard to get over him, because we ...
A. 7 January 2011: Hi there. In hindsight, it's a shame you went and spoiled your friendship by having sex. But never mind, that's history now, so can't be undone.
Unfortunately, often men can have straight out sex, but with no emotional ties. Because you were... (read in full...)
I don't know why I cant stop thinking about him.
Q. Have you ever felt a sharp pain in your chest like you couldn't breath ..laying in bed tears form and then slowly hit the pillow . every night you wake up wanting to scream and burst out crying hoping it is all a bad dream but you look beside you ...
A. 5 January 2011: Hi there. After 3 years, it's naturally a big part of your life. Plus each being the first for the other, is a big thing also.
First time romances are always hard to forget, so it's going to take a little while.
Trying to find someone els... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is horrible at showing affection!
Q. My girlfriend (26) and I (24) have been going out for 4 months. The affection is horrible!!! I am frustrated and very openly venting to all of you as I really wouldn’t otherwise and I am really looking for some help if my perception of this is ...
A. 22 October 2010: Hi there. You have been together for 4 months now, you say.
Apart from the physical side of things, how do you both get along together? Do you feel you have a pretty good rapport with her? Do you have similar interests, opinions, life values? ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 11 August 2010: When you meet a new partner, once you get to know whether you like each other and get along, with things in common, it's really of no consequence, the previous sexual experience each has had.
That's ancient history and has no relevance in the gran... (read in full...)
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