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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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He's controlling and when I question him in the same way, he gets really mad. What to do?
Q. i've been with my husband for 3 years every time my phone rings he wants to know who it is and what they say so i started doing the same thing to him and he began to get mad he has had a very bad temper lately he throws items at the walls or punches ...
A. 3 May 2011: Hi there. You need to ask him what's going on in his life.
Ask him what is making him so unhappy.
(a) Pressure at work for instance?
(b) Does he have any money worries?
When you do talk to him about it, be kind and respectful and show him ... (read in full...)
How do I change a habit that has become ingrained? my daughter in law has complained about it.
Q. My son has asked me to stop repeating myself when I speak to his wife. He says she doesn't want to speak to me any more because I repeat myself so often. My son says he is used to me doing this and thinks nothing of it, he says I have so many good ...
A. 2 May 2011: Hello again. Yes, your daughter in law does sound like a bit of a control freak. In life, it's about total acceptance of how each of us is. We are all a certain way in the world. Just so long as we don't hurt anyone else in any way, we all d... (read in full...)
I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt?
Q. I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt? And then I guess, come on this site to gain more knowledge/experience? Does anyone know how one would go about gaining paid employment as an agony aunt/advisor? I really love doing this ...
A. 2 May 2011: Hello again. That what "Aunty Susie" said, about writing to your local newspaper - or you could even call them - to ask about starting up an agony aunt column, does sound good. I never thought of that. Perhaps even going online to some of the m... (read in full...)
I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt?
Q. I was wondering, does anyone on here work as a paid agony aunt? And then I guess, come on this site to gain more knowledge/experience? Does anyone know how one would go about gaining paid employment as an agony aunt/advisor? I really love doing this ...
A. 30 April 2011: Hi there. Well on this site, it is all on a volunteer basis.
I think what you said is probably right, by starting up your own business is about the only way to do it and make a living out of it.
What you could do, is begin by working with fri... (read in full...)
I really like him, he seems to really like me, but he does not seem to want to make our dating status "official". Why??
Q. I would REALLY appreciate a little dating advice here! It would make the world of a difference. So, to start this off I began talking to a guy who is just a little over a year older then me. He has an apartment, two jobs bar tending, and his own ...
A. 30 April 2011: Hi there. He does live a busy life with 2 jobs bartending and his own apartment and a car.
Depending on how many nights a week he spends at these bartending jobs, it might not leave much free time for a relationship.
He obviously likes ... (read in full...)
What does my dream mean?
Q. I had the weirdest dream last night!!! It was about a friend who I really have not thought about in anyway as a potential "partner". Actually, that same night I had hung out with a guy who I am trying to find out whether I like or not. But here is ...
A. 30 April 2011: Hi there. It seems like it's thoughts you are having about one or the other of these 2 guys.
The one you saw the other night and are trying to figure out if you like him or not.
Or, the one - in the dream - you haven't thought about for a whil... (read in full...)
How can I make him learn to like me?
Q. OK, Im 14 but i really like a 19 year old.... I just need advice on to how to make him to learn to like me? Help?...
A. 30 April 2011: Hi there. He can't "learn to like" you. Life doesn't really work that way.
Does this guy even know you exist? What I mean by this, is do you actually say "Hi" to each other now, or talk to each other?
You being 14 and him 19 is a 5 year diff... (read in full...)
I like this boy. How can I find out if he likes me back, without making it too obvious??
Q. i really like this guy that's in my band class and art club, we talk sometimes and stuff and i really wanna get to know him better and maybe see if he likes me back without being too obvious. i need help!!!!!!!!!!11...
A. 30 April 2011: Hi there. You will just have to get to know him better by talking to him more whenever you see him.
When you have your breaks during band practise, and you happen to walk towards each other - smile and say "Hi".
At other times when you happen ... (read in full...)
It started as something casual, now it's awfully complicated
Q. Backstory, Gay man, 21... studying at Uni. Decided before I started that I would NOT be getting into a relationship while at uni (previous experience of stress + exams = not good!). So I meet this guy 7 months back... was meant to be casual fun, a...
A. 29 April 2011: Hello again. I really think that your friend/boyfriend, has a real fear of change.
What's probably going through his mind is along the lines of:-
"What if I leave my present partner - who I live with - to be with this other man, and then I ... (read in full...)
How do I change a habit that has become ingrained? my daughter in law has complained about it.
Q. My son has asked me to stop repeating myself when I speak to his wife. He says she doesn't want to speak to me any more because I repeat myself so often. My son says he is used to me doing this and thinks nothing of it, he says I have so many good ...
A. 27 April 2011: Hi there. Everyone repeats themselves at some time or other. There's nothing unusual about that at all.
Quite often in our daily lives, we talk to so many different people that inevitably we tell many of them the same story.
Eventually, a... (read in full...)
Help! I'm confused about my sexuality...
Q. Hi All, First thank you for your time, I greally appreciate it. I am 22 male. I have been facing one issue for which I am seeking assitance herewith. It was okay all till the age 20 and then suddenly I am having different thoughts, likes...
A. 27 April 2011: Hi there. I think that you are having a bit of an identity crisis.
Sometimes you like girls and sometimes boys.
Yet other times, you would like to be a girl.
I say this especially because you do not live your whole life believing you are g... (read in full...)
How do I make her feel the way she used to feel about wanting to date?
Q. I am 18, and so is my ex girlfriend. We dated for a year, having been friends first for a few months, and split mutually two months ago. The reason we split was because the relationship had become 'complicated'. This was mainly because she went to a ...
A. 27 April 2011: Hi there. It seems that her thinking about life now has changed since the breakup.
You were probably her first boyfriend, and you were together for a whole year. That's quite a while.
Since she has had a taste of freedom, she likes it. That'... (read in full...)
My ex has a new guy and it makes me feel inferior. Why do I feel like a failure?
Q. My ex girlfriend has a new guy. We split up a couple of months ago because she's moving away from university next month and now she has already found someone in her hometown. I don't mind, because she's moving on and that's what I've been trying to ...
A. 27 April 2011: Hi there. You are not a failure! Don't ever compare yourself to someone else. No-one is any better than anyone else. We are all equal.
Just remind yourself of the reason you broke up. It was ONLY because she was moving away for universi... (read in full...)
It started as something casual, now it's awfully complicated
Q. Backstory, Gay man, 21... studying at Uni. Decided before I started that I would NOT be getting into a relationship while at uni (previous experience of stress + exams = not good!). So I meet this guy 7 months back... was meant to be casual fun, a...
A. 26 April 2011: Hi there. Unfortunately in any relationship, once sex is involved, well then the emotions are inevitably involved also.
The more so as time goes by.
Unfortunately - or is it unfortunately? - you are now emotionally involved, so your heart is... (read in full...)
I cannot have an orgasm with boyfriend, should I break up with him?
Q. Hi All, I hope I can get some advise on this. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. The relationship is fine but I have never once had an orgasm with him, I can by myself but not with him. The sex is just awful and always leaves me...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again. It's clear that you can't continue on in this way any longer. You have tolerated it for 5 years now! Whenever there is an unsatisfying sex life, it ultimately affects your whole relationship. To make love, is the physical way y... (read in full...)
I am married but have no sex life because of my wife!
Q. I am married in long distance relationship, my wife come last year on my country to us get married .I know that she loves me, I don't have any doubt about it. her family in USA doesn't know that we got married here in my country Colombia. The pr...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again. I don't suggest either of you making a permanent move to the other one's country, just in case it doesn't work out.
What would be wiser first, is for maybe her to visit you for 2 weeks - soon, and stay with you in Colombia and just... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again (Part 2). (Read the other bit first.) Quite often people are frightened to make any major changes in their lives for fear of failure.
I think too, that often they feel that if they make too many changes - even small ones - that one... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again. Yes, his parents are very different aren't they? It definitely does seem that he has a great fear of change. Perhaps he takes solace in his work, because it is the only thing that remains constant in his life at the moment and ha... (read in full...)
How can I distance myself from her, enough, but not too much?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend is out of town for a few days, but the whole time we have been dating, she has not really shown me that she wants to be with me, she only says she does. Examples: she does not like sharing feelings i tell her i am going ...
A. 26 April 2011: Hello again. Just be mindful of how she treats you, and don't accept any crap from her.
Don't let her know you are thinking of her, and DON'T ask her things like how she feels about you or if she likes something you did.
Just kind of cool off... (read in full...)
After awhile during sex I just want it to be over with!
Q. hi, well im 21 and im having a little trouble being able to 'cum' i've had a few sexual partners but i've never been able to come during sex no matter how long and after a while i get fed up and just want it to be over because im that frustrated....
A. 21 April 2011: Hi there. Well as you have already worked out for yourself, the whole problem is that you don't stick around for long enough. Well not during masturbation anyway.
Perhaps you even think about "not coming" during sex, and focus on that instead ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my ex if he wants me back?
Q. So me and my ex broke up in October 2010 as things wasnt the same. We didnt speak after we broke up as we thought it was the best thing, however he's got my number again and started texting me, this i hate as i still have feelings for him. He, on ...
A. 21 April 2011: Hi there. It really depends on why you both broke up the first time.
If it was something serious that you couldn't work out, well there is every likelihood the same thing could happen again.
If he is texting you again, well then it seems he... (read in full...)
How can I distance myself from her, enough, but not too much?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend is out of town for a few days, but the whole time we have been dating, she has not really shown me that she wants to be with me, she only says she does. Examples: she does not like sharing feelings i tell her i am going ...
A. 21 April 2011: Hello again. You're very welcome. Please let me know how you go or if you need any more help.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I really like him but I find him too 'touchy'
Q. Okay so im new to the whole dating thing (late bloomer) i'm 17 and im dating a 20-something year old,so i haven't told anyone about him we havent gone out on a proper date yet because i always avoid making time, but we tend to just spend time ...
A. 20 April 2011: Hi there. If you like him, just get to know him and find out more about him - his interests, hobbies, music, movies, books etc.
Do this first before you decide to jump into bed with him.
By "touchy", I guess you mean that he is a type who to... (read in full...)
How can I distance myself from her, enough, but not too much?
Q. Hello, My girlfriend is out of town for a few days, but the whole time we have been dating, she has not really shown me that she wants to be with me, she only says she does. Examples: she does not like sharing feelings i tell her i am going ...
A. 20 April 2011: Hi there. She seems to be playing hard to get.
She wants you when SHE wants you, then when you try to share your feelings with her, she kind of dismisses it, doesn't she?
Don't text her or try to find her at school during your day. Just don't... (read in full...)
Is it ok for us to still be bf and gf even though we don't live together anymore?
Q. Hello.. I need unbiased advice.. My boyfriend and I are both 21 years old. We have been together for a little over 2 years now. After a year of dating we decided to move in together. At first we had a lot of problems but eventually we start...
A. 20 April 2011: Hi there. He's an overseas student in the US on a visa.
You also say that you are not legally in the US either. Are you also an overseas student on a visa?
Because he's there on a student visa, well then that visa is eventually going... (read in full...)
I cannot have an orgasm with boyfriend, should I break up with him?
Q. Hi All, I hope I can get some advise on this. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. The relationship is fine but I have never once had an orgasm with him, I can by myself but not with him. The sex is just awful and always leaves me...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. There might not be enough foreplay leading up to the actual sex.
Maybe you could encourage him to spend more time on the foreplay, so you will feel more aroused for sex and with more chance of an orgasm.
Just tell him to slow down... (read in full...)
He's single again! Should I go for it?
Q. ok ..so the guy that i really like is single again...i dont know if he has feeling for me or what..but i still really like him...should i try to get with him or should i let him ask me first?...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. Were you ever with him before, or did you just like him from a distance?
If you think he has some interest towards you also, it's worth a try. But just try to become friends first by getting to know him well.
You could start by w... (read in full...)
How can I get him back and seduce him without using sex?
Q. We work together. At first he was more into me than vise versa, but I fell in live with him. After hanging out sporadically for a few months, we began to date intensely and steadily, which lasted 5 weeks. I can be jealous, insecure and a little ...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. Half the problem is you both work together. It's never a good idea to have a relationship with someone you work with.
The minute things go bad, and they inevitably do, it becomes very awkward and uncomfortable to be around each oth... (read in full...)
No interest in sex!
Q. I am a woman 62 years old;I've had 4 children;for 3 years I have no interest in sex and the little that we do it it hurts real bad;it's as if there's no room inside for him and it hurts lots after too. Things are not too good with us but it's not ...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. What you are referring to is vaginal dryness and some loss of elasticity.
This usually happens after menopause.
What you can do, is to see your family doctor and have yourself medically checked out to see there are no other problem... (read in full...)
Why do women lose their power when they fall in love?
Q. Why woman always becoming so powerful,when she gets dumped,or living alone,but when they fall in love ,they lose their power? Also usually man ,even married, are very attracted to this free and powerful energy,so many times ,they live their ...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. It all comes down to attitude and how you feel about yourself.
Women when they are single and not in a relationship, have their own friends, hobbies and interests. They are free and independent. That's a great thing.
What often ha... (read in full...)
Does my psychic's reading mean that there is no chance of a reconciliation with my ex?
Q. I went to a psychic/medium today as ive always been interested in that kind of thing. Well anyways my boyfriend broke up with me last week due to his state of mind and when it came to the womans cards she pulled out the one which symbolised him a...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. Tarot cards are only symbolic.
Sometimes what the cards reveal might come true, other times not at all.
In any case, we can change our own destiny, purely on the decisions we make. We are the masters of our own destiny.
You ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is booking a holiday with ‘the lads’ to Ibiza this summer, and I'm NOT happy about it!!
Q. Urgh. I’ve been with my boyfriend a year and a half, and am having huge issues with him booking a holiday with ‘the lads’ to Ibiza this summer. I can sense your eyes rolling, and I’m sorry :( I’m 24 and he’s 32, so far our relationships be...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. Trust is a big thing in all relationships. If it is not there, well then it's very hard to gain it.
All I can say is, trust him completely unless he gives you any reason not to.
It does seem that he has done nothing to cause you to ... (read in full...)
Whom do men really have on their minds the next time they have sex after watching porn? Their partner or the hot chick from the last porn they watched ?
Q. My husband used to watch porn quite a lot, wich I found out by accident. I was shocked and confronted him later after I couln't keep those tremendous hurt feelings to myselfe anymore. After a while he was able to cut his visits to the pornsites ...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. Don't take it personally. He is probably trying to spice up your love life, that's all.
It serves no further purpose than as a fantasy, that's all.
It probably just gets him in the mood for lovemaking, nothing more than that.
Do... (read in full...)
I am married but have no sex life because of my wife!
Q. I am married in long distance relationship, my wife come last year on my country to us get married .I know that she loves me, I don't have any doubt about it. her family in USA doesn't know that we got married here in my country Colombia. The pr...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi there. Forget about the long distance relationship, you have to actually see each other!
You can't expect any relationship to last if you don't see each other. It's virtually impossible!
You and her have to get together to be together and ... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 19 April 2011: Hi. Yes, he is a timid lover - but why? That's exactly what needs to be discovered.
Perhaps his parents were not affectionate people as he was growing up. It usually starts from something in a person's past.
It also doesn't seem like he was... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hello again. I just thought of another possibility with your husband.
Do you think that he might be cheating?
Any suspicious behaviour by him?
Any change from how he is normally?
I don't want to get you worried, I'm just thinking of ot... (read in full...)
I want no more part of this "love triangle", but I know it will be a problem because we work together....
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a 29 year old male and last July I got involved with a woman that I work with who is 35 years old with 3 children. She initially approached me and asked me for my number after she started working there for a month or so. S...
A. 18 April 2011: Hello again. You are doing the right thing, believe me.
As you said about the possibility of leaving the job you are in at the beginning of May, I really think that's a good thing. Then you won't be seeing her anymore. Positive all round.
... (read in full...)
He's giving me excuses for not calling. Why is my boyfriend being so distant with me?
Q. Dear Marvellous People, My boyfriend of 2 years has completely changed towards me these days. The least thing that i say or do provokes him very much, to the extent of him not calling me for days, because we are in a long distant relation...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. It's not really the denial of sex by you, it's the distance and the loneliness that's the problem.
Long distance relationships are very challenging to keep going. There's a lot of loneliness.
If you are always texting him or c... (read in full...)
Was she just using me?
Q. Hi All, i really would love someones commenst or opinion on this matter, see what people think, just over a year ago i met a girl online, well she saw my ad on a site and contacted me, and we exchanged e mails and letters and such until we met on ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. I don't think she really knows what she wants.
She falls in love with complete strangers who she has never even met and thinks she loves them.
To really know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, can take several... (read in full...)
I have a bit of skin that hangs off my vagina...is this normal?
Q. i have a string-like bit of skin that hangs off of my vagina. it is between my urethra and vagina openings. right behind my urethra. it's not my labia. it's just over 1cm long and about 1.55mm diameter. what is this? is it normal? thanks. x...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. If you say it is not your labia, well then you would know by if that same piece of skin continues all the way back to your clitoris.
If it's a piece of skin not part of the long flap of skin, which is on both sides, well it could be... (read in full...)
He left the country and is out of contact. Why is he being so cruel?
Q. I am desperate. He left to other country for 2 weeks to his ex, cause they have child together. I dont understand the way he told me, it caused me pain. He just sent sms before as a reply to msg that he goes for holidays and that no regrets. Now ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. How long were you going out together?
As the child's biological father, he does have rights to see his child.
You are going to have to see what he says when he comes back. You said he's only gone for 2 weeks.
Give him some s... (read in full...)
I want no more part of this "love triangle", but I know it will be a problem because we work together....
Q. Well here goes.... I'm a 29 year old male and last July I got involved with a woman that I work with who is 35 years old with 3 children. She initially approached me and asked me for my number after she started working there for a month or so. S...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi there. You already said the answer - to end it. Believe me, it's the right answer.
The longer it goes on for, the more hurt you will be. Plus wondering - as you are already doing now - where it's all going.
There is a good chance that... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 18 April 2011: Hi. It sounds like you are handling the situation quite well really.
That's a positive thing.
The thing is, your husband doesn't seem to be the affectionate type does he? When you said you went to touch him - to give him a kiss - he pulled... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 15 April 2011: Hi. When you say you used to go into hospital every 3 months or so, are you suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome? The reason I say this, is because you say about not having much energy most of the time, and then being exhausted by the... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi again. It is a fairly difficult choice to make, but not impossible, nevertheless. The longer you allow things to continue as they are, the more restless and resentful towards him you will become. There's no doubt about that. I believe you ar... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 7 April 2011: Hello again. It does sound like you are very seriously mismatched now. Even though at first you were intellectually well suited. The fact he works in another city for 3-4 days in a row on a regular basis, doesn't help matters much either. ... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 3 April 2011: Hello again. Somewhere in your last answer, I think you said your husband buries his head in his work (or something like that anyway).
So by that, are you saying that you and him have become alienated because of this?
Hence the need for oth... (read in full...)
Does chemistry ever go away?
Q. I recently saw an ex-lover again and was overwhelmed by the wave of sheer animal desire that hit me just talking to him over lunch. We had decided not to see each other because it was torture controlling that, and being in a relationship together ...
A. 31 March 2011: Hi there. If you did go back with him again, because of the attraction you still feel, it could easily become a Friends With Benefits affair.
In other words, meeting for sex only and nothing more. No going out to nice places and him spending... (read in full...)
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